I am so fucking dine with them. Whenever I show my true self, they shit on me.even after moving out, I thought things would get better if I only saw them ince a month. I was wrong. Yesterday we had this huge argument and I was the only one who remained calm. They called me retarded and stupid and even told me I could get hit by a car and die anytime. Like, wtf? I left out a lot of context, but thing is that I just don't see the point of this connection anymore. All of it is just pointless. They live in their own shitty worlds and try to impose their beliefs onti me, treating them as facts. I know yesterday I was calm but now I'm almost fucking crine man. I feel so hopeless again, all because of my interaction with them. This is ridiculous. I'm not going to let them ruin my life like that, just to play victim together with them.Unfortunately, I'm still financially dependent on my cunt of a father, who yesterday said someone shat in my brain, for another 10 months. And then I have to repay all of my debt to them. Which will take another fucking year. It's incredible how on too of the world I usually feel and then how miserable they can make me just by talking to them. And my mom keeos manufacturing reasons to attend their dinners too, like oh this stupid aunt is visiting and you haven't seen her in 10 years, or oh this event is coming up. My father is my first hater and my mother my first "fan", it's so fucked up.
Well, obviously the first major step is making sure you have a way to get out clean. Documents that are important to surviving on your own and such.Next ideally, is getting your own income so you do not have to be dependent on your father and have a way to move about as needed, be it public transport or ideally a car of your own that you keep on top of money wise (insurance, car note, etc. etc. etc; everything in your name)Third, if you can getting a place to stay is ideal, but living out of a car for a few months does suck but when push comes to shove it's better than the alternatives y'know? Pop-up camper also ideal if your car can tow.Also gym membership if for nothing else working out can do a lot of good for every body and if you are living out of your car, that's free shower in a safe place.
>>34975922>first major step is making sure you have a way to get out clean. Documents that are important to surviving on your own and such.What do you mean, like my ID and such?>Next ideally, is getting your own incomeYeah that will happen in 10 months after my internship is finished>Third, if you can getting a place to stay is idealI already live in my own apartment>Also gym membershipI have that too but never go because I don't know what I'm doing. I wanna get a personal trainer firstThanks. I think it's better to just not be subject to them at all in the first place aka I'll just avoid them. No more birthday parties with them, no more Christmas with them either, no more mother's day, etc.All I wanted was to help them by challenging their negative beliefs and this is how I get treated.
>>34975933>ID and such.Yes, Birth Cert, other governmental data as per your government. I happen to be US, so that would be Birth Cert, ID, and SSN card; but that might be different in your neck of the woods either way you want yours under your control and if not you need to get official copies.>after 10 months, incomeGood, that's excellent news, as for dealing with them I recommend the "Grey Rock" method or even the "Yellow Rock" as I've heard a version called where you just are... so agreeable to everything that doesn't matter.>has apartment.Oh good, so then that makes life a lot easier to cut them off when you have the ability to finally let them go and let them stay gone.>GymAhh, also fair, but even youtube gym techniques about various machines can help there is a ton of info if those who seek it.Sadily, challenging them isn't going to move them or make them understand not when you've done your best already and they've done nothing to show real actual improvement and not just temporary. Ideally you can say "Oh sorry, I have work" or "I'm already booked that day." cause you don't have to tell them why you're busy just that you are.
>>34975948Yeah I have all the documents with me and if not the government can just give it to me for a feeI don't know why I keeo trying to ooen their eyes, it's fucking useless with them. My mother asked me stuff, I answered her, she doesn't get it, then my sister intervenes by saying just stop talking to (me) and then they all just ignore me. Even my bitch of a grandma played along and said to not question one's parents and I asked why and she had no answer for that. All because she doesn't want any "conflict" and because it's my father's house so he thinks he's the king or some shit and so they respect him for some reason. This is so dumbAnyway, thanks for the advice :)I'll just see them even less
>>34975960That's probably for the best, to keep it as low contact or no-contact as you can manage and when you do have to deal with them. Let them have their beautiful delusions and don't give them anything of import. Not anything more than you're willing to never see again at least.If that means your the black sheep of the family, then that's how it goes sometimes y'know? It blows to be different and not be a part of the in-crowd of the crowd you grew up with, but that's how it goes sometimes.But hey, it's gonna be OK, keep your head up, find your people, find your family. They won't be blood but they'll be beside you through the rough times and the good times.
>>34975969Yeah dude :) they'll all see in the end
>>34976199No wait, they'll never get it anyway. Nevermind haha
>>34975904>I have to repay all of my debt to themDid you enter this loan before or after you were an adult?
