What does a relationship look like? How much time do you spend with your partner?I'm a 30 years old wizard. I want more than anything to get married and have kids but I'm a major loser with no friends or family. All I do is go to work and groceries. Can I be redeemed? I don't know what to do.
>>34976001You sound like a 3rdie, so no.
>>34976001>Can I be redeemed?Probably not. It's not absolutely impossible for someone to get their first girlfriend past the age of 30, but it's certainly rare enough that it makes sense to assume it won't happen and start looking for other ways to make your life fulfilling. The fact that you don't have friends makes it even less likely: friendships are much easier than relationships.
>>34976001>What does a relationship look like? How much time do you spend with your partner?As for this, it varies a lot from couple to couple. But typically, in the early stages, you are spending most of your time apart and just seeing each other for "dates". As you get closer, you spend steadily more time together, and eventually move in together. From that point on you tend to do most of your socialising as a couple, and going out to do things as a couple. But each person may well have their own hobbies, and sometimes see friends without their partner.
>>34976067> The fact that you don't have friends makes it even less likely: friendships are much easier than relationships.They’d what I think as well, unfortunately I’ve never been big in the friends department. I’ve had 1or 2 friends but we weren’t close and lost touch over time. I’ve effectively been friendless post-university, never been invited to a sort or nothing. My entire life is barren.I don’t know what to do to change if it’s even still possible. I’ve gotten used to the solidarity but I do feel lonely at times. I’d like to have a second half to do things with but I know this isn’t exactly appealing to most women. >>34976078How often do you see each other in dates? What about texting?
>>34976090>How often do you see each other in dates? What about texting?There aren't any firm rules about that. At the very start, maybe once a week or so might be typical; once you get closer, steadily more often until you're spending the majority of your free time together. But again, each couple is different. As for texting, I don't think there really is anything "typical" there. Some people enjoy texting a lot, others don't. My gf and I often spend a couple of hours texting in any given day, but that's partly because I'm partially deaf so phone or video calls are a problem for me.
>>34976001>What does a relationship look like? How much time do you spend with your partner?differs from person to person. I've had some long distance things where i saw her like, less than once a month, and one in person one where we lived together. a few nice messages every so often was enough, as long as i wasn't left in limbo.>Can I be redeemed? I don't know what to do.this sounds stupidly simple, but it really is; find your passion and follow it. find what you like, and do it. become like an expert at it and you'll be pulling 20y/o girls at 40. i am 37 and the last two girls who were interested in me this year were 19 and 23. I just do what i love, women love a man's work, conceptual things, like the idea of what you are and what that means. like "oh he's a lumberjack, it means he's so tough" or "he's an investment banker, that means he's so rich and powerful!"so become something. and never give it up for a woman. they may say they want that but they will hate you if you do that.Perfect example, a catholic friend of mine was dating an orthodox girl, and he converted to orthodox for her, you'd think she wants this right? wrong, she dumped him three days later for vague reasons the first time they had a tiny problem, because even women don't know what's going on in their own heads. he lost frame, he submitted to her, she said she wanted that- but deep down she didn't and she didn't even know it herself.That's the biggest insight. keep frame, look into hoe_math and things like charisma on command, sorry for shilling them all the time, but they're good and get these concepts accross. bobby rio is good too, i think his book is AI but it actually has all the info you need in it.I'm namefagging because this is my username and people named this after me, snufkin's wager, but i just learned it from other people. I'm just clarifying and passing it on.
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>>34976242I’ll look into the concepts you dropped.But basically find out who I ann and have a backbone/sense of self? I get what you mean but the only hard part will be feeling that I’m wasting time getting to where I want to be instead of just thinking how I should be there already, if that makes sense.>>34976262Cute.
>>34976367thankyou for listening and not giving me some bullshit troll reply.>But basically find out who I am and have a backbone/sense of self?pretty much. it seems so simple but that's all there is to it, it gets difficult when you have to do that in person and change habits you probably aren't yet aware you have.>I get what you mean but the only hard part will be feeling that I’m wasting time getting to where I want to be instead of just thinking how I should be there already, if that makes sense.100%. it will feel like that because, i regret to inform you, you have wasted time. and i still grimmace at the thought of how much time i wasted too. but the best time to be doing anything in your life is right now, imagine if you were 60 and in this boat? what you'd give to come back to 30, with all these chances.I'm never giving up. see pic rel. I will keep trying, even now, at 37. I don't give a fuck if she's 18 and there's a massive age gap, girls love that, a confident guy who has the attitude of "yes, i should be here and you'd be lucky to be dating me" even if it's taboo.I say dating but I'm going for marriage, the same rules apply though. read the invisible game by bobby rio, but keep in mind he uses his own dating strats on men seeking his advice, kind of like hinting and reeling them in and not giving them everything and leaving them wanting. HOWEVER 99% of the core info is in his book and it is essential stuff mostly missing from society now days, i read it and i'm like "oh yeah, i feel like men who were born in 1920 knew this stuff about women, but it never got passed on for some reason" also keep in mind he is going for more of a hook-up, not necessarily dating or marriage, however, i will repeat this a lot, most of the same rules apply. women's minds run one program. men change it up circumstantially. but women are like, on the same software regardless. they respond to the same things in both situations.
>>34976001i mean its possible - i popped my cherry at age 30 as a Wizard myself - i just conducted some magic and met a girl on a discord VRchat server and then flew to NYC and rented a hotel on Wall Street to fuck her in - maybe cost like 2k total but you know worth it - she wasn't even a bad looking girl either petite with nice tits and Guatemalan but horribly inexperienced and I grew tired of her but still scored the bag and fucked her doggy style and in the shower. So its definitely possible you just gotta think outside the box how to meet them and then fake emotional intelligence and shit to get in them panties. Now the issue is at 32 if I can find a girl I actually like and want a long term relationship with and thats why I'm going back to college again. Lmao America.>Profit
>>34976476>>34976367and I will add: women love dark triad traits, this is something so many men who fail in relationships miss.You have to temper them but just be a little more narcissistic, a little more stoic, and little more conniving. but don't be an asshole to her. the sword points outward at dangers in the world, not towards your woman.something which i'd do is just be a little vain, if she says i'm handsome be like "yeah, you're damn right i am, you're lucky to be with such a handsome guy" it can be humorous too. just don't thank her for a compliment. That made the last girl i was talking to wild over me. you don't even need all dark triad traits just show you're not a soft little simp, in more than strength and ability, in attitude. They want someone who is like a strong pillar to rely on and protect them.If you remember only one thing from everything I've said remember this: women want the warrior with a golden heart, the chivalrous knight, the tough guy who protects them.It's hard to show you're that supportive safe place for them sometimes, but sometimes it is as simple as being emotionally unreactive, but then supportive or nice in some way, it seems like nothing but to women it satisfies what they want: stoic warrior who is strong but nice to them. they want to feel safe around a strong guy, i feel like a stuck record now, but I hope you get it. just try, git gud and try. then at least you won't have any regrets.
>>34976531women don't want a guy who shows any kind of weakness period for general attraction - but for deceiving them into a relationship long enough to bang all you gotta do is make them think you have a competent long term plan and you were just hoping for them to come along to set it further in motion and then bam. go in raw dog and then bail.
>>34976551unethical but accurate.
>>34976001These posts y’all make are so hilarious bro because if I could just step in your body and be you for one day I could go get a girl right now. TONIGHT. And I don’t mean paying for one or harming one either.
