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I feel like I've been led into every decision I've ever made. I was raised in a small town and there was always a clear 'right' and 'wrong' decision in any matter and the wrong normally felt like what I wanted to do and the right felt like what I was supposed to do.

I've always felt like a bad person because of that, but living where every decision is a deferral to a moral authority is like a prison. I started dating a guy from my church not because I liked him, but because it felt like he was the only person the towns people I grew up around approved of me being with.

I married him because he convinced me to drink and be a little bad, and we slept together and the marriage was supposed to "make it right" after the fact when we were both guilty about it.

We have a shared bedroom because a married couple is supposed to share a bed but otherwise we keep to ourselves now. He has his gaming room and I have a reading room and we mostly leave each other alone.

This isn't the kind of relationship I dreamt of for my marriage. Is it worth trying to salvage things at all here or am I better off just packing a bag and leaving one night and then getting an annulment?
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You should just take the easy life you have now instead of squandering it chasing some imaginary dream of what kind of life you could have.
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>>34976701
Do you geniunely hate the situation you are in or does it just not "feel right." If you had everything you ever wanted would you throw it all away because someone else said it wasn't right.
The only person who should be able to decide what is right for you in your life is yourself. Whatever decision that leads you to make is your own. Just don't regret it.
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>>34976701
>Is it worth trying to salvage things at all here
No.
>or am I better off just packing a bag and leaving one night and then getting an annulment?
If you can, yes. This assumes you don't have children, of course.
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>>34976701
I've known women with lives far worse than yours. They can't even fathom having the peace you have. What you think you're longing for is a faggot psyop sold to you by the media and Hollywood. Don't piss away a good life because the electric jew in your living room made you feel warm and fuzzy about some retarded sitcom relationship.
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>>34977372
You gonna pay all her bills and take care of her kids when she nukes her entire life, dumbfuck?
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>>34976701
Have you tried discussing this with your husband?

Seems you've grown apart but was it always so? Did you only marry him because it was the "moral" thing or did you actually love who he was?

If you have kids, they need stability and love from both parents, so don't do anything rash. If not, you have more options.

But first, write down what you would like in your relationship that you find lacking, and things you could work towards. Talk to your husband. His reaction will tell you a lot.



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