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> Meet girl through mutual friend who thought I looked cute
> We exchange numbers and arrange a date
> She stands me up
> Later messages me to ask if I'm ok and explains that she has anxiety
> Ghost her and shrug it off
> She later messages me again to ask how I am
> For some reason decide to give her a second chance
> We message and call constantly every day for the next week, her friend even mentions how much she likes me
> Later randomly confesses she was on dating sites while I was ghosting her and was still speaking to guys on there but she has deleted it now
> Debate blocking her but still decide to keep going
> We keep talking back and forth for a few more weeks and I start getting attached to her
> She randomly starts replying more slowly and ghosting me mid sentence for hours
> Randomly messages me telling me how much I mean to her

I want to cut her off but I can't stop thinking about her
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>>34977549
Just stop taking to her. Wtf is wrong with you?
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Maybe just go on another date with her? If she ghosts again, anxiety or no, then forget her. But your catching feelings and she's letting you know she likes you, it's time to make a move and see where it's going.
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>>34977549
I'm not sure why you would blame her for trying to find someone else after you ghosted her?
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>>34977561
Idk I feel really attached to her
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>>34977549
It sounds like she has avoidment attachment personality disorder or is fucking with you.
I guess you will find out which it is if you keep interacting with her.
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>>34977562
I'm pretty sure she's still talking to someone else though
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>>34977570
Of course you do. You do because you think you can stick it in her.
But she told you she is actively looking for other dudes while talking to you. You are just a choice. You are part of a roster. There's a chance she was getting smashed by a dude while you were wondering what she's up to. You are a number, not a priority. You are entertainment. You are an emotional tampon. Just drop it and move on.
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>>34977573
Pretty sure? She told you so. Why is there any doubt? You're coping.
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>>34977567
I mean it was her who stood me up, and she continued talking to people on dating sites until it didn't work out for her, only then did she tell me about it. If her dating site relationship worked out I'm pretty sure she wouldn't have told me and would have kept messaging us both
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>>34977573
You just going to back down? Because you think she might be?

Instead of sitting and thinking this and that, go find out. Ask her out, see what happens and then go on with your life. At least you'll know where you stand and won't have to waste your time pondering.
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>>34977580
It's the principle more than anything else. I don't know if I can trust her enough to build a relationship with her
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>>34977577
Some people in adv are the most spiteful incels you will ever meet that will do nothing but try and get you to doubt and ghost the women in your life because they want everyone to be as lonely as they are.
>she told you she is actively looking for other dudes while talking to you. You are just a choice.
>Just stop taking to her. Wtf is wrong with you?
Omg she is the devil because she looked for other people when you ghosted her. Even though you weren't even talking she should have waited patiently until you decided to text her back.
Brain dead faggoted incels galore.
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>>34977591
She only told me about the dating site well after we started talking again, and probably only because it didn't work out for her
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>>34977590
She told you she was talking to people. That's being upfront and honest. Also told you her anxiety and that she likes you.

It's time for you to be honest with yourself. Do you like her? If yes, then ask her out.

If not, then move on.
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>>34977590
You're correct. You can't. Move on.
>>34977591
You're a gynocentric loser. She's flakey and full of anxiety who is still looking for other dudes. Sounds like a great catch.

Put it on a pedestal or have some dignity and move on.
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>>34977604
I like the person I thought she was but chances are she's still speaking to other men and I'm just plan B
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>>34977602
Were you boyfriend and girlfriend by the time she told you? Did you expect her to be fully commited to you when nothing is even official yet?
>It didn't work out for her
if that was the case she wouldn't have had any other guys to be talking to. Obviously she gave them up for you.
It seems like you are looking for reasons to get rid of your affection for her, why is that?
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>>34977606
>You're a gynocentric loser.
Says the incel trying to end every romantic relationship before it even begins. You literally intend to spend your life making sure everyone else ends up alone and you call me a fucking loser are you retarded?
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>>34977620
I don't expect her to be seeing multiple people, no

And when I say it didn't work out for her I mean it REALLY didn't work out for her, the person she was speaking to was insulting her and she seemed upset
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>>34977628
>romantic
>stood up and ghosted each other while both are looking for other options
You are a moron. Why are you giving advice when you are retarded? Go away.
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>>34977642
>seeing multiple people.
Texting someone is not that serious. You act like she had sex with other people during your marriage and you guys havent even gone on a date yet. Why don't you just give her another chance and wait until she does something actually significant before ghosting her.
Anyways, I'm not going to sit here and convince you all day. If you really don't like her for this or whatever then just end it. At the end of the day, what do you really want?
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>>34977658
"And wait until she does something actually significant before ghosting her"
I think I'd actually go into psychosis
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>>34977650
>ghosted each other
Stupid fuck can't even get his facts straight. Not replying to someone for a couple hours is not ghosting them.
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>>34977662
Ok then just ghost her and end it off here. If you really hate it that much then there isn't any point in discussing this further.
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>>34977667
I don't hate her, I like her so much that if she cheated on me with another man I'd probably never recover
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>>34977666
>op admits to ghosting her
>op admits to being ghosted
>omg that doesn't count incel because... because I say so!!!
Genuine low iq, knuckle dragging retard.
This "relationship" is already shitty. Stop giving people false hope so you can get a "thank you so much anon!!" from op. Stupid retarded retard. Kys
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>>34977672
I am just laughing now, what the hell do you want me to say? The slightest suspicion she might be cheating drives you mad but you will continue for your love of her.
If its this serious then all I can say would be to get with her before she starts liking anyone else.
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>>34977677
Omg sorry anon I ghosts your post for 7 minutes I hope you can forgive me.
>Stupid retarded retard. Kys
Bro is actually getting mad, kekekek. I must have hit the mark.
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>>34977695
>op's girlie's behavior changes so much that he considers it ghosting
>just ignore it op she's great go for it
Idiot.
>ur mad
Cope. I mock retards like you. You're entertainment, like a clown. Nothing more. I can throw tomatoes and not be upset. It brings me joy. Now kys lol
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>>34977704
I consider myself to be a superior being, and you to be a pathetic worthless insect. But just because I consider things to be that way, doesn't mean that they are unfortunately. Though you are pathetic and worthless, just not an insect.
What about my behavior is entertaining to you? Do you enjoy being insulted? Its not like you are getting a rise out of me so I don't really understand where this is coming from aside from it being an obvious cope.
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>>34977717
>doesn't address the actual topic at hand
I accept your concession. Next time, try to stay on topic. I recommend learning a little about relationship psychology. There are many sources you can tap into. Have a nice day.
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>>34977725
You said op considered it to being ghosting, I said that considering something to be true doesn't make it true. And then you accuse me of not addressing your argument. Are you retarded, can you read?
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>>34977753
>feelings don't matter in a relationship
Just admit you're retarded.
Or don't. Idc anymore. I got my laughs. Take care.
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>>34977768
>>feelings don't matter in a relationship
MF is just making shit up now.
>I'm a complete fucking retard sorry for spazzing out.
Its okay anon, happens to the worst of us.



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