Going through a lot right now and I don’t know where to turn. My GF broke up with me saying that I don’t deserve love and I blocked and went no contact with her. Lost my job at a high end tech company globally shortly after and my dad now has prostate cancer while my mother now has a lump in her breast. Emotionally, I am all over the place because nothing like this has happened before and I am approaching the point of critical failure in my life. Before this the worst thing that has happened to me was my ex GF(different one in this context) posted revenge porn of me and sent it to my family and friends and I started to work extremely hard at a company so that I could move past that very terrible thing and not engage with it emotionally. However, now I don’t have an as strong ambition to work as all of that burnt me out extremely. A coworker there threw me under the bus and he became manager after I was in talks of becoming a manager. I ended up leaving that place only to then again get thrown under the bus because I was stupid and trusting that someone wouldnt guide me into fucking up royally on my first couple of days.Regardless, I am no longer happy. No longer holding a spark of joy and I’m becoming heartbroken that I am losing parts of me that made me so great and allowed me to rise to the point where I was becoming manager of a team. Where I was popular with friends and where my most recent GF loved me as well as their family. And worst of all, I am becoming so emotional from it all that it is very easy to fuck up and ruin my life if I don’t lock the fuck in. I can handle one thing at a time maybe but I am at a system overload. I already hit the gym and literally any kind of mental work makes me tweak the fuck out to where I cant do things; its haunting.
>>34977927Any kind of genuine copes would help. Old person wisdom would help as well. I remember coming onto this board as a 17 year old and I would get advice to lock the fuck in. They were much simpler times but now, the world looks like its going to hell; 26 male now
>>34977927Take a break. Start again in a week.
>>34977927You have to let yourself grieve my brother.Don't "lock in".If you don't let your emotions out and accept them. Then they will rule you and drive you to depression. Ask me how I know.Your world is falling apart. Now would be the time to realize you can't hold it together and you need help. I know men aren't taught to ask but you have to overcome that. This post was a good first start but now you need friends who can sit in misery with you. I'm not saying stay there forever but you do need to spend some time there.
>>34977927Do you live near your parents? You get through this by being stable for them. If your dad is really dying (and your mom is losing her husband), then it will be comforting to know that their son will be fine in this world after they pass.Just judging from how you described everything here, you are very focused on how things affect you. For your own happiness, I suggest you try to focus on how you affect others. And stop getting in relationships with volatile (borderline?) girls.
>>34978015if anything I live with them. Theres so much negativity that its suffocating and makes it extremely difficult to interact with anyone outside the family>>34977937its hard, i dont have friends since they genuinely accused me of being a pedothank you all for this; ill sit on it for a while to see how i'll get out of this one
>>34977927Quit alcohol, it has no positive effects.
>>34978055>it's hardI know bro I know.I'm sorry to hear you don't have many friends.I believe in you anon, you will make it through.Also why did they accuse you of being a pedo?Did I miss that in the OP?
>>34978070no just didnt think it was needed to be mentioned, its a lonely world and I do what I can to be there for my family. After all that I realized that family is the most important thing and what many problems people have are silly to have. Theyre still problems yes but there are ones that are much more serious compared to quality of lifebut no clue why they did that. there was one idiot in that group that actually did speak with middle school kids to get with their of age sisters. absolutely insane. I cant prove it was something he did so theres nothing that can I can do for now>>34978065yeah youre right, it doesnt and the pain that it relieves comes back even stronger at a later point. I remember thinking I was better for not succumbing to it but its definitely not abused, just was two white claws tonight
>>34977927Wait, wait, wait… Who sent your parents revenge porn??????? I Wanna See this Individual. Post her on here
>>34977927Whoever said you don’t deserve love, [doesn’t deserve love]. And you’re kinda whack for not knowing that and continuously messing with trash people. You’re gonna have to accept that it’s better to just be alone sometimes than be around someone who doesn’t really appreciate you. And that’s the problem with most of you. You couldn’t sit in a room for one whole day all by yourself if your life depended on it. The lesson here is to be very careful about the people you surround yourself with. You don’t know your worth, so to everyone else, you are worthless. When you see your worth and find it, everyone else will see it and act accordingly. You’re gonna be ok. Life moves in waves, cycles and patterns. You’re not always gonna be Up and you’re not always gonna be Down. It goes back and forth.
