Earlier this year my teenage daughter told my wife and her therapist that she dreamed that I raped her. I didn't made a post about it the first time because I thought it was some embarrassing thing that I don't wanted to be read by strangers but at this point I need to get it off my chest.Ever since that first dream, she looks at me with distrust and locks her door. I can't tell if it's hatred in her eyes, but it's not the way she used to look at me. My wife stood by me at first she tried to help our daughter see that none of it was real. But last night my daughter had a second dream about the same thing and my wife has completely shifted attitude after the stupid feminist therapist is calling it a possible "repressed memory," and even suggested a medical examination.My daughter knows these were just dreams. And she can tell the difference between a dream and reality. She has openly told my wife I never hurt her in real life. And that she is a virgin with an intact hymen, the only problem here is the psicological after effects of the nightmares.Let me be blunt. I have never touched my daughter in any sexual way, ever. I don't know why is she had these dreams but It feels like when my first girlfriend dumped me because she dreamed I cheated on her. What can I do about this? Need advice.
Support your daughter best you can. It will pass if you did nothing and continue to do nothing, or it will require treatment.
>>35004731It might not be distrust but that she knows it's awkward. Teenagers struggle with awkward social situations.Don't know what to say about your wife. How did she react when your daughter confirmed that you never hurt her?
Also, repressed memories are not in line with the current science. You need a new therapist.False memories can be implanted, and something being "repressed but uncovered" can be scientifically indistinguishable from being remembered or synthesized.She should not be handling this issue.
>>35004739treatment from who? I don't trust her therapist >>35004750I can't tell, she made a face, an expression I can't translate to words. Bit I guess she's conflicted. I'm going to take a nap. I will reply later. I'm overwhelmed right now.
>>35004753My wife trust her more than she trust me, removing her would be difficult. But I will take to my in laws to help me out with this issue. She may listen to them.
>>35004753I think the notion! terrorized me a little, inserted memories? I need a nap, I'm not right to think straight right now, not like this, no.
>>35004754From a new therapist or different method of treatment. I am so serious, repressed memories haven't been current science for over thirty years. This therapist is damaging your relationship with your daughter and will risk implanting a false memory that could affect you, her, and your family for the rest of your lives.
>>35004762cont. For something as serious as this, your wife would be extremely remiss not to get a "second opinion." No therapist is flawless, and a bad therapist can be extremely damaging as you are experiencing.
>>35004757>My wife trust her more than she trust meThat's an enormous problem that needs to be solved. Who is this therapist? Why does your daughter have a therapist to begin with? A therapist is in a position to do enormous damage to a vulnerable person, especially a child. I wouldn't be surprised if the therapist indirectly induced anxieties in your daughter that led to these nightmares.>>35004760>inserted memoriesMemories can't be inserted like that but they can be confabulated by the person themselves. And an outside person can guide a person into confabulation. It's not hypnotism or voodoo, but when you remember something, you're actually remembering remembering, and that same process can create new, false memories from scratch.Other anons are right, get a new therapist. Frame it as someone with more expertise: a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist, one with a doctorate. A real doctorate from a real school. You should be involved in the selection of this therapist and veto any that seem to have a a particular ideological bent.Also, you need to have a candid discussion with your wife about why she trusts some random therapist over you. And possibly get marriage counseling.As for your daughter looking at you differently and locking her door, it's definitely precipitated by the nightmares/therapist, but locking the door is also a normalish (not ideal) thing teenagers start to do.
>>35004971>That's an enormous problem that needs to be solvedI was going to say most women will side with their kids over their husband but then I remembered the clancey trial
>>35004731First, if the therapist did that it is highly unethical. You are not supposed to ask leading questions or steer your clients towards a narrative.Unfortunately, there is not much you can do. Keep in mind that you must defend yourself clearly by stating repeatedly it didn't happen, no matter what, but you cannot show anger about it, or it will be turned against youI'd advise to get your own therapist, because even if you never touched your daughter there is probably something in the air that led her to have those nightmares. Moreover a good therapist will help you understand what is happening with your daughter and help you managing best you can.
>>35004731I remember once I had a dream when while working part time as a kid handing out leaflets and other spam to people’s mailboxes I was convinced I strangled some old dude with my bare hands but somehow was able to get away with it due to lack of witnesses
>>35004731Hymens don't work like that.
>>35004731Small children sometimes have repressed memories (though MANY reports prove untrue) because their undeveloped brains can't compute with what happened. But not teenagers. So any reputable psychologist will tell your wife the girl just had a dream.Which is not to say the dream is meaningless. Dreams translate real world emotions and worries into symbolism the mind can deal with. It is likely that your daughter feels threatened or worried about SOMETHING, not necessarily sexual, and the extremity of the dream inagery suggests the extremity (though not the subject) of the real world emotion.
>>35004739>>35004750Lurk more retards, he posts this every few weeks.
>>35005240That is why we have you.
>>35005016>even if you never touched your daughter there is probably something in the air that led her to have those nightmares
>>35005554You are retarded. I am simply stating the obvious: it is very unlikely the daughter is having those nightmares for no reason at all. It doesn't mean it's OP's fault. In his post there is absolutely no attempt to try to understand why she is having those nightmares, which to me is indicative at the very least of someone who is very emotionally stunted. If my daughter was having those nightmares i'd be racking my brain to understand what could have happened to her, what inspired this, both because i'd immediately feel responsible I let that happen but also because this is where the key to solve this situation lies. OP probably knows much more than he lets appear in this post, because he lives with his daughter, hence my advice to see a therapist.Finally, framing this situation as OP being the victim of his daughter is just ridiculous. Teenage girls don't just wake up and start accusing their dads of rape. If the accusations are false then there is obviously still 2 victims here, OP and his daughter.
>>35005802>>35004762>>35005016I don't respect any "therapist" at this point, let alone a young woman or anyone linked to left wing ideologies. >>35004775I think at this point, I will just settle this with my wife, if she insist in distrusting me, we won't divorce but I may need my space away from her, and maybe I will have to move out of the house for a couple of weeks.
>>35005240>>35005244Really? show me threads or posts in the 4chan archives or 4plebs, this is the first time I ever post about this very personal issue
I think OP did it, or wants to do it. Who tf would post this on 4chan if it wasn't their kink. Come on nigga
>>35005802>racking my brain to understand what could have happened to her, what inspired this, both because i'd immediately feel responsible I let that happen but also because this is where the key to solve this situation lies. She had a bad dream, that's it. As previously mentioned when I was young my first girlfriend broke up with me because dreamed that I had cheated on her, that's it. Even through she know I never did, she still broke up with me, dreams are not that deep. >OP probably knows much more than he lets appear in this postI told everything regarding to the fact that she had a bad dream and it's affecting our lives, it's not complicated at all>because he lives with his daughter, hence my advice to see a therapist.Sure, like the woman that told my daughter she had "repressed memories" right? >teenage girls don't just wake up and start accusing their dads of rapeshe never absolutely never accused me of touching her in real life
>>35006857There are exceptionally shitty therapists and there are good ones. You have an exceptionally shitty one here. I don't want to stray you away from getting this treated entirely because it is still bothering your daughter, but yeah, this is a really fucking bad therapist and I totally get it shaking your trust in the whole fuckin system
>>35004731Teenage girls are learning to wield their powers. They can imagine a scenario or dream and it is enough for them to act on it, be upset by fantasy. The worst part is when they recruit other women with agendas, the types who see you as a stepping stone to validating themselves (protective mother, concerned and thorough therapist). There are enough women out there that will take another seriously despite being full of shit. You’re married so you should already be aware of manipulation tactics and reputation attacks. My advice would be to not indulge it and let it pass. Her subconscious mind probably is telling her to protect her pussy, and you’re just a large overpowering male her mind chose as some sort of aminus figure. The real lesson here is that women are full of shit and will routinely find other women to support their bullshit. Whether this has any consequences rests on the fact of your wife having some sort of resentment or seeing some advantage to making it worse for you. Why does she have a therapist and how do you know she has an intact hymen?
everyone here is so stupid.1 obvious bait2 how tf would you know her hymen was intact? most girls in the modern world lose it from nonsexual childhood activities like playing on a playground and taking a tumble. doctors don't look for it unless you are in a weird 3rd world country.
>>35004731It’s total fucking bullshit is what it is“I had a dream my trusted male family member raped me and now I can’t even look at them” is unironically a new tiktok/instagram social media trend. Lmao @ every single one of you for taking it seriously.You’re a fuckup of a dad for letting her be on social media so much and letting your wife validate the dumb shit she does and says.
>>35007153This except I wouldn’t call OP a fuckup, dickhead. It’s easy to get blindsided by the stupid ass feminism psyopsBut yes OP this is a trend and you’re kinda fucked for already acknowledging it as legitimate
>>35006857>She had a bad dream, that's it. That's where I think you're wrong and it is closing your main way out of this. Again, I'm not saying you touched your daughter. I'm saying, 2 nightmares about your father raping you are not "just bad dreams". There is something bad that has happened or that is still happening.>my first girlfriend broke up with me because dreamed that I had cheated on her Yeah but dude this is not a random gf we're talking about here, this is your daughter. You cannot just dismiss it.Also, there is a huge difference between dreaming once your bf cheats on you and dreaming twice your father rapes you.>like the woman that told my daughter she had "repressed memories" right? No, a good one. Not all therapist are insane. But you have to realize that it's exactly here that you're backing yourself into a corner by trying to dismiss the whole situation as "just a dream" while you have your wife, your daughter, and a therapist (albeit a bad one) against you. You will never get out of this by saying it's just a dream. You havz to investigate and understand the situation.>she never absolutely never accused me of touching her in real life Not directly. Not yet. But her therapist is saying this is repressed memories, your wife is believing her, and its is in the conversation. If you don't take your head out of your ass soon and realize there is something very wrong happening to your daughter that you have to fix right now, this narrative will take over.
>>35004731Send her to a male therapist and see if anything changes. Women are retarded and they'll act like dreams are real.>I had a dream you fucked somebody else last night, who was she?Ive heard that sentence more than one and from more than one woman
>>35007153>>35007271Holy shit OP got MEMED
>>35007271Ah it’s election year so “hate your dad and male family members” propaganda is cranked to 11. Which is pretty crazy because our liberals could easily win without stooping to things like that.
>suddenly everyone taking this seriously is gonekek hope OP is okay
