I get uncomfortable around dirty talk so my therapist wants me to expose myself to a woman talking dirty, and the only think I can think of is finding something like an ASMR audio channel. does anyone know where I can start with this?
Look man, why did you post such an ugly picture of an ugly chick tho
>>35006873happy now?
>>35006868Just sit in a fast food joint on or near a college campus and eavesdrop. The majority in that age group - male or female - can't get through a single sentence on any subject that does not have some version of the word fuck/fucked/fucking in it.
>>35006868Just go to a subreddit like gonewildaudio or similar
>>35007388fuck as a swear doesnt bother me though
>>35007875what bothers you then
>>35006868Are you a man?
>>35007863worth a shot thanks>>35007883graphic sexual talk.I've always been quiet during sex,prefering actions over talking out loud.even when i watch porn if the woman is talking dirty it makes me uncomfortable>>35008013yeah i am, im severly avoidant and the only way for me to get over these issues is through exposure.my past gfs have never done dirty talk with me, but occasionally when it would happen I would get anxious and lose any sexual desire i had. Now that I'm single again I've been talking to a woman one and one night she got graphic while talking to me and it just made me uncomfortable
Why do you feel the need to get over that uncomfortableness? You can live your life without being intentionally exposed to any of that if you so choose, it's not some sort of requirement.
>>35008049Its part of a big list of issues I have around sex. the tldr is that i get so anxious that I go soft before putting my dick in which makes the women unhappy and perpetuates the anxiety to be even worse for me next time. the fact that I maybe have the chance for sex 1-2 times a year is even greater pressure on me.My brain treats everything as a mechanical process and I get overstimulated from it and shut down.Foreplay is fun, cuddling is fun, but sometimes the build up to it makes me uncomfortable and you cant fake being turned on like a woman can. when a woman says something like "i want you to bend me over and fill my hole with your big cock and fuck me until i cum" instead of getting more turned on i get turned off. I want to be able to push through that.body fluids make me uncomfortable, cum dripping out, facials, etc so I disassociate before sex happens with also causes me to go soft, I've never once been able to cum from sex or from a HJ or BJ because the sensory overload in my brain is too much.I once tried taking a weed gummy to see if that would force my brain to stop thinking so much, I think it helped but the girl i was with at the time stopped seeing me shortly after and I've been single since so I havent been able to test that theory again
>>35008072You sure you just don't have severe performance anxiety? The example of dirty talk you posted is directly linked to expectations and performance.
>>35006868I think your therapist is retarded and that your lack of comfort towards dirty talk is natural.You're trying to overcome an inherently natural reaction within yourself so of course it's weird, nothing good waits for you if you succeed in this task
>>35008087I absolutely do, and its connected to all these other issues. I cant flirt with women so I dont try, almost every girlfriend I've had is because the woman makes it clear to me she likes me and leads most of the way initially. Sex is usually initiated by them because of my performance anxiety. What happens during foreplay is dictated by them because I dont have enough confidence in myself to do my own thing, and ultimately the entire act of sex is something I've done to make the woman happy, while in my head im uncomfortable and want it to be over.It sounds like I've been molested or raped but I havent, I just was a late bloomer who didnt have sex for the first time until I was 24, then went through several years of dry spells and then I got to an age where it feels like women are expecting men to know how to do it all and if you cant do it right then its YOUR fault.>>35008099The reason this topic came up was because I was talking with this girl and out of the blue she texted me some real dirty stuff, and then it got awkward and I felt unhappy about it. I'm sure most guys coul roll with it and turn it into something hot. I just want this path to be easier and flow better so I dont get stuck in my head at every turn
>>35008115I know exactly what you mean. Do you like the idea of sex at all? Or certain aspects of it, like the kissing and groping leading up to it?
Having sex with random people isn't good anyway
>>35008122I think the idea of it is nice, but doing the act of it overwhelms me.I think foreplay is easier for me because I've just done it more often, and usually its routine of touching the tits, neck, earlobes, grabbing their ass etc. It always gets me hard, and that hardness can stay for a while, but once the clothes come fully off, and actual intercourse is expected thats when the anxiety kicks in. It would be nice to be fuck like a normal person instead of thinking so much about it. I've had sex with every girlfriend I've been with, sometimes by using cialis because at least that keeps me hard when Im anxious, but I cannot get myself to cum because it just feels way too vunerable and unnatural for me.masturbating is easier for me because theres no external pressure to finish in a certain way or perform. I can just get off when I feel its right to.
>>35006868Can't you just get some text-to-speech software to speak in a female voice and read out you typing dirty words?
