Ok this has gotta be my 3rd thread whining but I got no one else to ask, this will be the last time.Since my last one I have taken DRASTIC steps to get a date to no avail.-----Night clubbing-Went out night clubbing twice for 12 hours total and just complemented girls all night long while not overstaying my welcome, cas if they were into me they would do something about it, Probably gave 50 complements along the lines of, "Hey, not hitting on you but you look fantastic tonight, have a good one" and then walking off, no luck there but good practice and none of them showed that they hated it so that was good, but I spent like $800 and almost broke my hand.----Cold approaching- I cold approached maybe 11 women, 6 were taken (you may think its cope but Id be honest I believed all of them, some were engaged, some had kids ect)The remaining 5 were actually quite hostile and hated that I was even talking to them so that knocked me down a tad.----TinderI revamped my profile a little but alas still no luck I was a little more picky this time but I still swipe on people id never see a future withI broke up with my gf and honestly I really want her back and am working towards that potentially but the fact I cant even get a new girl is really fucking with my confidence... like REALLY bad. Im not sure if she will ever take me back but regardless I cant believe how much im falling on my face and Im ashamed she stayed with me for so long.What are my failing points is it all in the mid face? Is there anything at all I can improve whatsoever? Lots of my really good traits only show when people get to know me like $$$, personality and cawk size. Im at my witts end but it might be to late for me since im old.When it comes to improving my facial features I look at myself and know I must be mid but I have no idea what needs to change
>>35008036You are a tryhard. You aren't relaxed. Also I get the feeling you aren't in your home country. Women don't like Albanian immigrants. Or wherever your from
>>35008130Im like 10% to 25% black mostly English.Fair I do understand how people hate brown people thats the most common reply I have gotten. So im struggling cas I look brown most likely? Srs question since its unchangeable. What do brown people do then to succeed?>You are a tryhard. You aren't relaxedTy Ill do this less.
>>35008182You don't even look black you look like a Bulgarian or Albanian. Maybe it's the haircut.
>>35008036>I broke up with my gf and honestly I really want her backwhy did you break up then
>>35008201You seem confused. Bulgarians and albanians ARE negroids.
>>35008036>good traits only show when people get to know me like $$$, personality and cawk sizeThe problem isn't your looks, it's your personality. You think it isn't but it is. Just from this post it is glaringly obvious. You do all of this vein shit for yourself, not for anyone else and it's easy to see. You're a handsome guy yet you keep saying no it's not me, it must be how I look!, no dude it is you as a person that is the problem.
>>35008036Some of these photos are ok (3,7) but overall this is not great. The great news is that your face is actually good and you are clearly in shape. There's a guy on Tik Tok named Michael Asibuo who is like a full time Tinder profile coach. I could generally explain why your photos aren't working but you'd be better off making a Tik Tok account and watching every single one of this guy's videos. There's a whole vibe you need to convey (successful, affluent, sophisticated) that you aren't really conveying now. I know this all sounds really annoying and fake but it is what it is. Dating apps in 2026 are a psychological torture chamber if you aren't willing to play the game.
>>35008036I agree with this anon >>35008130 in that you're trying too hard. Women can sense when a man is trying to get laid for validation, and it's the most repulsive thing in the world to them. Just trying to use them for busting a nut would get you more success. I've been in your shoes before, wanting to prove to yourself that you're still attractive after a bad breakup with a long term partner (let me guess, she left you for another guy right away?) Really dude, I'd just drop it and try to find validation in something else. Competence breeds confidence. Stop focusing on trying to get laid and focus on whatever you care about -hobbies, careers, etc. Notice I did not say this will get you laid, because in all likelihood it won't but you will feel better about yourself and who knows you might just attract a woman. >>35008340You say shit like this but the most vain (that's how it's spelled by the way, ESL) and egotistical, insufferable personality motherfuckers I know can get laid with ease, His problem is 100% being desperate for validation.
>>35008410Sorry English is my 4th language. >You say shit like this but the most vain (that's how it's spelled by the way, ESL) and egotistical, insufferable personality motherfuckers I know can get laid with easeYes but they're not coming off as a desperate creep obsessed with picking up women. It's so easy for someone to read that via what you say and or body language even if it's subconsciously.
>>35008036How did you spend EIGHT HUNDRED DOLLARS in one night?????
>>35008422>went twiceprobably over the two nights tbf but deffo just buying women drinks in a veiled attempt to pick them up lol.
>>35008036>keep only the last face pic, it makes you look like you have less beard which suits you>ab pics from men are feminine/attention seeking behavior, delet them unless you're looking for other gay men>have 1 pic that includes you and shows personality, these are all selfies/ab pics/a party pic. like idk you holding something you've made but make it look relaxed, or you engaging in a hobbyt. Fnever used dating apps in my life but here's my advice anyway.
>>35008422In nightclubs a bottle of vodka can cost you thousands
>>35008036Why would you expect to hit on a woman successfully by telling her that you're not hitting on her and then walking away? How, in your mind, is that a good strategy?
>>35008557he's a raging autist.
>>35008036You have psycho mutt eyes
>>35008036Firstly, make sure you take lots of pictures with other girls, as this can attract attention from girls online, and social status is worth something. Secondly, go to a blackout party if you want sex not the club. If you don't know any location of any blackout parties then sorry, if club is your only option then try to get a girl drunk to make a move on her. Buy drinks, while talking and don't ask her if she wants just buy for yourself while giving her a glass too, when she's drunk, then make your move.
>>35008036you already workout but->weak thumbs/forearms, maybe shouldersbitches love that shit
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Leading off by complimenting them is extremely gay and will get you absolutely nowhere. Isn't that common knowledge? You would do a lot better by being more of an asshole or chud. If you really have to compliment them say "nice tits", get slapped, and then you actually have an opening because it's audacious and ballsy. You're being an anxious pussy
>>35008036I hope this is a larp guy. the shirtless pics and selfie pictures where you're holding the phone yourself are cringe. The bottle dancing one is crazy. Put pics with you with friends. hell, use AI to make it look like someone else took them. Do not compliment women on cold approach. Ask their name, how they're doing, then ask to buy a drink. Compliment at end of convo. good luck
Also shave your fucking face. You'd look better clean shaven.
>>35008036>Hey, not hitting on you butWhy? You are hitting on them, that's the point.
>>35008340I dont get it... Vein shit like what? I only do everything to make the other person happy with me not so they worship me. Not a single one of these people I interacted with even got a glimpse of my personality unless U can work someone out within 10 seconds of seeing them. What about my personality is trash? This is an ANON so I talk a bit extra and spill everything. Im not arguing that my personality is good but I cant SHOW anyone it so i dont know if its good or bad.>>35008410I dont wana get laid? I just want to date. Id be happy to go on dates and not get laid for ages.>>35008422No I would never buy a chick a drink since I dont want them to think im getting them drunk thats pathetic. I drank all 800 of it myself.Id buy a drink for a girl if they wanted on or hinted that but never otherwise.>>35008557That was more for practice and because of the reactions I got cold approaching I was not expecting any of them to turn around and be like oh ur so nice, I was just throwing my hat in the ring and making them feel good about themself.
>>35008616How do i get pics with girls when Im not around them ya know?>>35009770All my pics with people I didnt take and I dont have access to anymore, Most are with my X>>35009780I mean aint saying really nice things to them hitting on them? Mostely all of them looked really happy but they go back to doing there own thing that screams thanks not interested, im not socially retarded let them have there night of fun, if the showed even a smidgen of interested id presue but they dont hence most likely theres something i gotta fix with my face.I WISH U GUYS WOULD JUST ADRESS WHAT I ASKED LIKE THIS GUY>>35009773But i look like shit when I shave my face desu, even from adv I get the advice when I shave to grow it and when i grow it to shave...Why this so difficult are u guys sure im not just chopped? Its ok if so. I think im sitting at around a 3-4/10 by the reactions I get
>>35008036Something guys never realize is that women are almost never attracted to a man just by what they see at first meeting. They need SOME entry to the person behind the face or facade, some sense that the guy inside has something of interest in him.That's why - and I know you won't believe this - the best route to a woman's heart is the friendzone. Let her get to know you in settings free of any romantic implications FIRST, and she will be more receptive to shifting gears to the romantic
>>35010333This. I've gotten crushes on guys I initially didn't really notice later on based on how they treated me (someone not coming across like that initially but actually being a gentlemanly person for example) and learning more about them like learning they have attractive personality traits or interests etc. that they weren't making visible/obvious at first.
>>35010333Im OP I agree friendzone is not even a bad thing my dad gave same advice, its just difficult for me atm cas the breakup was catastrophic and my whole life was tied to her. Im 6'3 btw so like the height pill is fake. I make friends easy I just not in the position to do it.But more over I do wana prove my worth in the real world cold approaching and On the apps.Ill be honest with u guys I dont even really want to date anyone. I saw my X if I play my cards and un fuck my life right MIGHT (low chance) take me back but im so fucking ashamed of myself for not being able to pull chicks as that gives me value in a relationship.
>>35010375AND WHEN I SAY THAT I MY BODY IS FIRE BUT MY FACE IS MUNTED so besides shaving what do i maybe need a nose job? Is it really down to my skin colour?Every time I ask for advice im left more confused then last time.Im not ugly but in the face am I a permanent 3-4-5/10? Or can I do something about it is the CRUX of me whining
