Hey anons, as the title says my wife is post partum and I need help, she was getting help at the start just after giving birth she was seeing a therapist but she had an arguement and stopped the visits and didn't feel like it helped. Now our son is 14 months old and she seems to be getting worse, she can't deal with his crying at all, not one bit, she feels no sympathy towards him and she feels like she has no connection with him, I am a stay at home dad and I tried to make it easier for her as I could, I do all the feeds, all the diapers, all the baths, all the putting to sleep, I'm up in the night and first up in the morning but me doing so much has just made her feel more separated yet she does nothing to try fix this as the moment he cries she gets so angry and either screams at him or leaves the room for the day. She constantly says how much she hates him, how she says it has been the biggest mistake of her life, she hates her life etc. it hurts to hear these things but she doesn't care. I have tried to make it easy for her but nothing has helped, she gets baths to herself whenever she wants, she gets extra hours in bed and naps, she gets whole days to herself, I don't even get to shit without him being there, I am burnt out and have no help. I am asking what should I do,will she eventually beat this and be a good mother or should I end it for the sake of my son?
>>35008395You're fucked, her social conditioning ruined her from ever becoming a decent mother and now it's becoming evident. Women being told all their lives that kids suck, it's selfish to have kids, why do that when you can be a girlboss etc sets them up to not be conditioned for motherhood, especially in such a gynocentric society where women are used to doing what they want without any accountability or responsibility.You should probably give her an ultimatum that you'll leave with your son because she's not being a functional adult or a responsible parent, and your son comes first, not you and not her, however much she may hate to hear it.
>>35008395She can potentially beat this, but needs to.go back to therapy. Find someone who specifically does post-partum and, if thay does work, get a different one. Sounds like you're doing all you can as a husband OP
>>35008395>will she eventually beat this and be a good motherProbably not. You won't like hearing this, but I think you need to realise that there isn't actually anything wrong with her. The reason why she says having a child was the biggest mistake of her life is BECAUSE IT WAS. This isn't post partum depression, it is a completely reasonable, rational reaction to having a kid in the house that cries constantly, is a massive drain on your resources energy, and gives absolutely nothing back. Many, many people are far better off not having children, don't really want them, and bitterly regret having them. There is enormous social pressure not to admit to it, but it's far more common than most people realise. So no, she's not going to get better, because there isn't anything wrong.
>>35008395People rarely change for the better. A woman who cannot love her own child is mentally ill. You absolutely must leave this toxic relationship as soon as possible and take the child with you, unless you wish to be miserable along with your son. Enjoy your life and leave her.
>>35008395>there isn't anything wrongThis is the pathetic product of brute, solipsistic materialism. Whether or not you're baiting, there are people who say this, and the majority will suffer in lonely misery with no clue of what they did to deserve such misfortune from the world.>>35008395>end it for the sake of my sonUltimately your duty here is to your son. Growing up with a mother who despises him will damage him and is already doing so. Growing up without a mother, however, will be its own travail. If she's saying aloud that she hates him, you've already crossed several bridges.Ideally, of course, she does recover. But nobody can force her to do so. Not a therapist and not you. Your son already understands his mother's feelings towards him and is going to understand them more and more with every month and year. I wouldn't give her more than a month to figure this out before you leave with him.Do make sure you get these issues documented with a medical professional. Especially the parts where she says she hates him and where she doesn't care for him at all. Go to some sort of joint therapy where she says this herself. If she tries to moderate the claimed severity of her words and actions, then you yourself should bring up the explicit and verbatim items.
>>35008395NAC immediately. Was she induced by being given Pitocin? This would be why if so.
