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How much do political beliefs matter in a relationship?
I do not agree with my gf on basically anything that involves politics.
I personally don't mind having a gf with opposing views, but I yet have to find a person not retarded enough to bring up politics every single time while knowing that I do not agree.
I believe this relationship won't work in the future. Should I just breakup with her?
As a future reminder, where should I draw the line? How much different can beliefs before causing problems?

Picture is from today's protests in Florence.
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>>35013100
you're such a fucking retard I sincerely hope you'll never find anyone to love again what a moronic thing to destroy a relationship over
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>>35013100
It can be problematic. But I think it's become a bigger issue for emerging couples in the last 15-ish years. Politics used to be a very dry, boring subject, and most people were either not interested or didn't care save for the scandal that happened here and there.

Trump being his usual self hasn't helped, and social media has been one of the greatest destabilizing tools in the west. Yuri Bezmenov Speaks about this in his book Love Letter to America, how Russia has been working to destabilize the USA by trickery and propaganda and politics. So yeah, you have to deal with that. Women tend to be more liberal and left leaning because left politics are something they agree with, doubly so if they live in a city and doubly so if they interact with the lower class or minorities or the disadvantaged. It is fashionable for a woman to be liberal, many do it just for that, to "virtue signal" and earn social points and status.

That said, I know many older couples that married and lived full lives and had long, healthy, fruitful marriages but the husband and wife had completely opposite beliefs. They simply agreed to disagree and were mature enough to love each other for other facets of the person, such as their caring qualities and such. I do not know if the average woman under 40 today is capable of that, maybe some are, but some are more vocal than others.

If she is quiet about her beliefs and you are respectful with eachother, it might work. If she is vocal and aggressive, she wants you to change and it will not last.
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>>35013138
"Agreeing to disagree" works when it's about something trivial. Politics are morals, they are not trivial. You cannot be in a relationship with a Nazi or a bleeding-heart unless you're one too.
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>>35013100
If you are strong she will chameleon.
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>>35013100
It matters quite a lot

If you enjoy being proselytized retarded bullshit on a good day and stonewalled on the next, stay

If you want the freedom to treat them like the pieces of shit they are without a drop of pity of remorse then the sky is the limit

If they are talking to you at all it is because they think they will convert you
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>>35013100
It's all nonsense every decision has been made. They want you arguing so you feel like you have a choice but really it's all a sham.
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>retarded enough to bring up politics every single time
Does she have a hobby? Job? Cat to feed and plants to water?
>I yet have to find a person
Its because you're the type of person who likes yappers
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>>35013187
>Politics are morals, they are not trivial.
Wrong. Completely wrong.
Politics are no more serious or deep than your own personal fantasy about how the world should work in your fictional version of it.
But the real world isn't fantasy, and your opinions about it don't actually change anything, unless you yourself are going to build up enough influence and wealth to directly change it.

Are you a billionaire, or someone that has leverage over politicians? No, you're just a delusional voter who thinks their opinions are "important" or "foundational" to who you are.

That's complete bullshit and narcissism.
Your opinions aren't profound or insightful. Everyone has opinions, and displaying them vainly in public as if anyone should applaud you for it is no more graceful then just showing everyone your butthole.
The problem with politics in the current timeframe isn't because of any one politician, but because everyone has the INTERNET to delude themselves into feeling like they're right, correct, morally-superior, or whatever hogwash just because they have Opinion A instead of Opinion B.

You not agreeing with your partner on who to vote for isn't something substantive, nor does it matter for your daily lives so long as you both can set ground rules for not trying to convert the other person over to your "team" and not being judgmental towards them either for preferring something you don't prefer. Set shared boundaries and respect them. Especially if neither of you are mature enough to discuss anything relevant without reserving judgement, or without getting too emotional about it.
>If she is quiet about her beliefs and you are respectful with each other, it might work. If she is vocal and aggressive, she wants you to change and it will not last.
Correct, and the only thing that matters.
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>>35014120
>Politics are no more serious or deep than your own personal fantasy about how the world should work in your fictional version of it.
This
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>>35014130
Professional psyops to make individuals believe that one person has no power to change anything. It was one guy who called someone a chud on 4chan and look what happened.
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>>35013100
Couples are often drawn to one another due to shared characteristics—such as IQ, religious beliefs, and long-term life plans—and political convictions are no exception. Many women will size you up right from the start to see if you share their ideological views; if they realize that your political opinions differ from their own (as happened to me), they may, in some cases, decide to rule you out. I don’t dismiss the possibility that relationships can survive despite having different political beliefs, provided both remain calm and respect one another. But if you don’t measure up to the woman’s absurdly high standards—even when it comes to politics—you can be sure that nothing will come of it. If she’s being really annoying and argumentative, I’d recommend you have a chat with her about it. If things aren’t going anywhere, end the relationship.
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The bitch is supposed to copy all of your political opinions. If she doesn't, she's not your bitch and she will cheat expeditiously
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>>35013100
This isn't a generalized question and you shouldn't present it as one. This is a question about suicidal empathy Muslim sympathizers and normal nationalistic people who built this country and want to keep it for themselves as they should.
Any girl who buys into the Palestine shit, is a girl who's ready to suck Arab cock and to drink black men's cum. These girls are scared and they're doing a quasi Stockholm syndrome mass roleplay.
When they're eventually tied up and beaten in a basement, not allowed to use their phone, get violently raped every day and assaulted according to her male monkey's whims, have to Cook and clean, and have to acknowledge him as the bigger man (because they have such fragile ego they NEED these women in their lives to make themselves big and strong so they use their women as both an emotional and physical punching bag), that's when they'll realize it's too late.
These people aren't dateable
I have type 1 diabetes, deteriorating eyesight, feel terrible every day. I live alone and taking care of myself and my house and my school is already 3 full time jobs. Do you think i care about fucking palestine? I don't have enough space in my head to give my thoughts or empathy to anyone else but me and the people closest to me and that's how it's been for most of humanity and that's how it's still going for me, before phones this was the norm. Fuck Palestine and anyone who cares about made up distant causes for riot. You want a gf that adds happiness into your life and preserves its peace and quiet, not one who's at the whims of a magical pocket device that can magically make her mood worse and cause her to go into a frenzy.
If i wake up and there's sunlight - it's a good day. If there's air to breathe and people to look at and smile and say good morning, it's a good day. That's most days.
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>>35014120
>not agreeing with your partner on who to vote for isn't something substantive
your only
Not for the past decade or two
Your only showing your age with that lol



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