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hello, i am applying ED and EA to a lot of top schools. my parents want me to go to the ghetto university 15 min away from here. i have big dreams and theyve been hitting me and screaming at me over it and my mother has been throwing things at me and just psychologically torturing me and gaslighting me. CPS isn't an option as ive called them when i was 12 and they don't do shit, i also dont trust any of the adult authority figures in my life as theyve generally not believed me and dealing w them has been super traumatizing. my dad screams whenever i wanna fill out FAFSA and my dreams are quite literally slipping away. i have a 4.0 gpa and a lot of literature based ec's (i TA for ap lit teacher, write on substack, among other things) and ive gotten 4s and 5s on all my aps but the constant anxiety has caused me to score low on the SAT. genuinely dk what to do.
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Move out.
You're smart enough right? Helps if you've been hiding money and plans from them
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I'm applying Early Decision (ED) to one school and Early Action (EA) to a lot of top schools. However, my parents want me to enroll in the ghetto university 15 min away from here.

I have big dreams but my father has been hitting me and screaming at me over it. My mother has been throwing things at me and psychologically torturing and gaslighting me. Child Protective Services aren't an option as I had called them when I was 12 years old and they don't do shit. I also don't trust any of the adult authority figures in my life as they've generally not believed me and dealing with them has been super traumatizing.

My dad screams whenever I want to fill out a Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) form and my dreams are quite literally slipping away. I have a 4.0 gpa and a lot of literature based electives: I'm a teaching assistant for advanced placement literature, write on substack, and more. I've gotten 4's and 5's for AP scores but the constant anxiety has caused me to score low on the SAT. I genuinely don't know what to do.
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>>35014135
Nice
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i live in a super high cost of living city so moving out isn't an option and theyve forbade me from getting a job for the last few years. ive basically been their puppet. im 16 rn and turning 17 in a month but i rly need to get out.
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>>35014145
Youre old enough to stop being a pussy. Reach out to your schools admissions and ask about financial aid help, what do they offer? Be realistic about your options and ability to get scholarships. Fill out your fafsa and stop making excuses.

Get a job anyways to get out of the house and make extra cash. Moving out is definitely an option, theres always roommates, dont make up excuses. How badly do you want out? Good luck
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>>35014135
>>35014145
Now I can read it without getting a migraine, lets identify your main problems. Keep in mind that I'm not American.
1. You are being abused by your parents and don't know how to resolve it.
2. You want to go to college but don't know how to finance it.
3. You are underage and posting on 4chan.

My recommendations are.
1. Document the abuse and report them to the police. Then go live with family until you turn 18 or can get emancipated. The latter will require getting a job and a place to stay.
2. I googled FAFSA and it says you can get it without your parents permission, but only in exceptional circumstances, like being abused by your parents. I assume this would require documenting the abuse and going to the police or even a conviction, but I'm not an expert on this. Are there other grants you could apply to? It may be better to get a job first so you can get as far away from your parents as possible. The added benefit would be that you can move to a place with a lower cost of living. You can still pivot to college after that. Talk to people at your school, let them help you.
3. Don't mention your age, or wait till you're 18 to post here.

My questions for now are:
Can you get a job without your parents permission where you live?
Are you willing to reconsider asking adults for help? Bad experiences in the past are not a reason to give up on all of humanity.
Do you have family that could take you in when you get taken away from your parents?
Can you survive until you're 18 without getting murdered by them?
Are you willing to become a man that does not give a fuck about what his abusive parents say, even if that means living in a shithole and eating rice and beans for a couple years?
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im a girl, no family here, i dont rly wanna ask any adults ever again cuz its been rly bad im sorry. this school is my dream and my brother is really young so ill be kept away from him if i leave and he'll be abused but i genuinely cant take any more.
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Get out of the house, idiot.
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>>35014204
>i dont rly wanna ask any adults ever again cuz its been rly bad im sorry
That's the abuse talking. Don't let the abuse define you or your actions. At some point you may need counselling for this, just a heads up. Nothing to be ashamed about it's a typical reaction to parental abuse, and don't apologize kiddo you have nothing to apologize for.

The younger brother complicates things. Do you think things will be better if your parents lose custody over you both? I assume you and your brother would go into foster care if no family is available. I can't speak to how that would be, but I don't imagine it will be good for your lil bro to be around your parents for many years to come. Isn't there family that's not nearby?

Regardless of what you choose to do, record evidence of the abuse regardless of what you intend to do. At least that gives you options. Obviously don't tell your parents you have evidence. I really recommend speaking to a school counsellor or trustee, the police, CPS, family that's far away etc. Build a record It will be better if you have evidence. I understand you hate adults right now but if you're looking for solutions that's where you're going to have to look. If you don't want solutions, I don't know what to tell you. You're not going to fix your parents.
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>>35014204
Then its easier for you to get help. There's women shelters and help specifically for you. Literally just call the cops during an argument and theyll give you a free ride. You could even call now and tell them you don't feel safe. Women will help you. You can get emancipated too but you need to really want it

Even if you don't have family there, reach out to a trusted adult about what is happening. Ideally, they could take your brother out and interfere there and help you out with support instead of 4chan. Don't be retarded
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>>35014246
>Literally just call the cops
All I know is from watching hundreds of bodycams of domenstic violence but I think that's much better than going straight to CPS.
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Think of it like this: if you play it right at some point you could have the school counsellor, the police, CPS, your neighbors, your extended family and the judge on your side. And then you can be at peace for the rest of your life knowing you did everything imaginable to save yourself and your little bro.

I'm going to sleep now, God speed anon.



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