I'm a 22f virgin. I physically cannot have sex. I never used tampons I tried once and found it painful. I bought a dildo and tried using it but it literally couldn't go past the tip. I discovered that I can't insert anything into my vagina. I tried dating again for the first time in years and I'm scared of bringing this up when the time comes. How do I approach this?
>>35014486So did we just forget about hymens or?
>>35014486Did you ever get your coochie checked and saw whether anything can be done in the medical sense? Sounds like vaginismus to me.Nevertheless, the most logical way to approach the issue would be to be upfront about it. Don't wait for them to find out and possibly underwhelm you by quitting. Find someone who is ok with it when you tell it to him, say that you can have sex some other way that doesn't involve penetration
>>35014500It's not the hymen. It would've broke already with the attempts I've made.>>35014507I'm planning on getting it checked out but I'm afraid I'll walk out with an endometriosis diagnosis for some other problems I have. And thank you. I plan on telling him when we become more intimate.
You don't need pp in vagina to enjoy sex. Don't force it
>>35014486Literally the hymen, just take a picture and you will see it
>>35014486Sex is not just penis in vaginaIt can be oralIt can be using handsIt can be analYou can finger him evenBut yeah you should bring it up after some time dating
>>35014625(CONT)I thought people would mention it, you probably have vaginumus which causes your vaginal canal to be extremely tight, check with a doctor just to make sure, many women suffer from that and they have husbands and multiple kids.
>>35014631>Vaginismus*
>>35014515>It would've broke already with the attempts I've made.Not necessarily. It's rare, but there is a condition where the hymen is unusually tough, and it causes pain when you try to insert anything. It requires some very minor and quick surgery to fix; if that's the problem, get it done and you'll be fine in a few days.The other obvious possibility, as other anons have pointed out, is vaginismus, which is where there's a muscle spasm - all the muscles around the vagina tense up involuntarily. This is actually quite difficult to treat, but sometimes using dilators can help. (They're basically medical dildos in a range of sizes; you start with one that's slim enough you can take it comfortably, and then very gradually work up to larger sizes, practising relaxing as you do).Anyway, the first thing you need to do is talk to a gynaecologist and get yourself looked at. Once they've figured out what the issue is, we can go from there.Having said all of that, of course, penis-in-vagina is only one sexual activity among many; there are plenty of other ways you and a potential boyfriend can enjoy yourselves. So don't worry too much. But it's definitely worth having a doctor check what's going on.
>>35014486Get one of those transexual axe-wound dilator kits and you'll be better after a couple months of regular use probably.I mean you're going to have to be able to get a penis in there somehow if you want kids... IVF is like 60k per pop, even more expensive based on attempts and location in some cases.
>>35014990>I mean you're going to have to be able to get a penis in there somehow if you want kids...Turkey basters exist, anon.
>>35014486In a scale of 1 to 10 what are you?
Thank you for the /adv/, anons. I'll be getting a tranny kit. >>350163796 and that's probably being generous.
you have endometriosis. go to a doctor, if that doesn’t work get on bpc-157
>>35017346NO!!!! just go to the doctor dont do anything stupid anon, you could really hurt yourself
>>35017346Go to the doctor first, OP. If it turns out you have an imperforate hymen, that's not something you can treat yourself.
>>35014486date an asexual or indian
>>35017643>>35017672Oh, I see. I didn't even know that was a thing. Thanks! I'll see an OBGYN.
>>35017701>I'll see an OBGYN.Good call.
>>35014573are you a doctor? no? shut your mouth
>>35016335This person thinks they cannt get their fingers in, how do you think they will fit a turkey baster in?A pipette would work better...>>35017346Glad you're taking my advice, I hope this works!
