I have been with an older foid (6 years older but we're roughly at the same stage in our studies for various reasons) for a few months now, in a weird way. Most of this time she has been really unstable because of her ex-boyfriend (long story short we started having sex together while they were on a "break", then she felt bad and went back to him while still flirting with me on and off, I told the guy so that he would break up with her, she blocked me for a week then came back saying she couldn't forget me while she was still with him and promised him she wouldn't talk to me; one month later she left again and told him what we did before I could then completely blocked me for a month before breaking up with him for good and coming back to me, while still being depressed because of the breakup).She told me a couple times I should be more daring and seductive, explicitly say what I want sexually, etc. and today she told me "It's sad that you have that little courage to say what you think, to do what you want and to impose what you want to do, it's just wasted" and then repeatedly said that she was bored, and that "You're suggesting things but you don't suggest anything. You never take any risks actually, hence there is no seduction. It's just boring".I told her that since it's my first relationship, I've never done that kind of thing before. I promised to change that, saying that yes she has put up with it, just like I've put up with her being unstable, and it'd be an actual waste to just leave now. My problem is that I *don't know* in what to actually do this: for the sexual part I know exactly, no problem with it, but she doesn't only talk about this. I don't really know what to change. Should I order her to come to my flat and the like instead of suggesting? Propose to meet to have sex explicitly? Tell her "no" more on things I tolerate because I like her?Please give me advice on this.
>>35018830>I have been with an older foid (6 years older but we're roughly at the same stage in our studies for various reasons)What does study have to do with comparability? Don't answer that it's rhetorical.>Most of this time she has been really unstable because of her ex-boyfriendYou're already a simp and I hate you. You're already parroting her non-accountability kool-aid. "My emotions are his fault">long story short we started having sex together while they were on a "break"And you were in orbit, because you're the orbiter.Blah blah blah and she blocked you for a bit and you waited like a good boy dog and now she's treating you like shit and you want help? Here's the help: Break up with her, dump her, tell her to find a tree and swing on it. Because not only is she a raging BPD-coded bitch, she played you like a dog. She cheated on her ex, and now she is already mentally in the process of justifying why she is going to leave/cheat on you next. She is already calling your masculinity into question, telling you to your face that you aren't man enough, that you don't initiate, you don't follow through on your desires, you don't impose your demands, you don't take her and claim her and fuck her ragged. Which by the way if a girl is framing the sex like this, it means you're the dildo to help her feel better for a while. You will scratch her pussy until she catches feels for some other guy and you're gone.Instead of telling her to fuck off you apologise and promise to do better. Like promising mommy dearest that you won't spill the orange juice again lol Dude grow a fucking spine and kick the two timing BPD slut to the curb
She's basically telling you she's fucking someone else and is giving you the slowburn excuse for why she already did it multiple times
>>35018830She's unstable, impulsive and manipulative, and desu so are you kinda. Either leave and change your ways, or just do what barely cortical people like you two do and vibe it out through pure instinct.
>>35018845Bro you are a gem with this explanation, god damn you’re so funny
>>35018830Google "BDSM for beginners"
>>35018830Oh my gosh. Please break up with her now. Absolutely nothing good can come of this for you.
>>35018830just rape her bro
>>35018830Why do you give a single shit about a (much) older woman? You could have just smashed her a few times but you got emotionally invested like a total retard
