My wife is a simpleton and because of this she is unbothered by thoughts that trouble me frequently and has no tendency to self sabotage .She does consciously decide to be positive and focus on the good in life, but to a large degree the reason she doesn’t worry about things is because she has a limited capacity to think into the future. She focuses on only what’s at hand. In way I envy her. I chose her for her consistently positive demeanor but she often makes mistakes that seem obvious to me and it’s frustrating. I would like to delegate some responsibilities to her other than housework but she doesn’t think things through and messes them up. She does have great principles and is moral, and through these simplified principles she can do well, but she doesn’t understand the reason being them deeply. For example, We don’t buy house because “ my husband says its a bad idea now and i trust him“ . I’m the one who handles all paperwork , all financial decisions, long term planning . This is especially annoying when she gets upset and she feels vindicated because my words made her feel bad. The real reasons are lost and her feelings become a reason unto themselves, and this allows her to continue to feel upset even when she has no grounds for it. Multi-Step cause effect reasoning gets foggy after 3 steps maximum for her. She helps me greatly by applying the daily principles of eating healthy, going to bed early, work hard, and be nice to others. She’s actually just what i need to stay on the path. I love this woman and it’s hard to accept that the reason she’s so great is because she’s just not that smart. I have an IQ of 120 and she’s probably 100, around 1 standard deviation. How fucked the country is and that our savings diminishes in value every year because of inflation and what happens after we die she isn’t the least bit bothered by. Anyone else in a relationship like this?
>>35020167Yes but I am the dumb husband with the smart high IQ wife. She is more prone to be miserable and I am able to shake off misery very easily. I don't think intelligence matters at all. Wisdom is what use useful. Thoughts mean nothing at all unless acted upon, and if all you do is ruminate in thoughts and thinking about thinking, what actually happens in reality? The world around you? Nothing changes, the thoughts do nothing. So if you are so smart why are you stuck doing that non stop? Doesn't seem very intelligent.
>>35020167Dumb Wife>Buff: Resilience. This character does not fatigue easily and is immune tomost psyops>Debuff: Oblivious. This character cannot fully grasp the conditions which lead to unfavorable outcomesJust let her play her character dude. She sounds good enough and if you switched to another party member they’d still have a debuff of some sort you’d have to manage.
intelligence is very complicated. I had an ex who was dumb and it was a nightmare. Because was she was too dumb to even notice the trend that I was almost always right and she was almost always wrong about things. It was the dunning-kruger effect or whatever where her lack of intelligence allowed her to not notice how dumb she was. You cant deal with people like this. So I would say you probably want a woman of average intelligence. 100 IQ and then let her other traits matter more like how loyal, kind, sweet, diligent, etc she is.
>>35020185Does your wife work? If so, does she make more than you? NTA btw
>>35020231Yes to both
OP here, I’ll continue to just let her be herself. Yes every coin has two sides.It just amazes me at how the things she says make sense from the perspective of someone who only truly understands the first few steps and cannot process what comes after.Yes i recognize that getting caught up in my own thoughts is useless, but i can’t help it. Conversely, when i ask her what did she dream about, she simply says ,” nothing, i went to sleep and then I woke up “ We’re married and we’re staying together and most of our time together is quite happy. That should be enough. I’m the one with the problem, i feel bad about it.
>>35020272not dreaming is not an indicator of lack of intelligence wtf? you sound insufferable
>>35020276not him but I feel like it is an indicator. Retards dont have the mental horse power required to recall and recite what happened in a dream.
>>35020272I am dumb husband anon. Good, you have chosen the correct outcome. You are not the one with the problem because there is no problem. You feel there is a problem only because you think that. The reality is it's you and her in a room enjoying silence, or TV, or sex, or whatever it is. That is what reality says, two bodies in proximity and that's it. Whatever is going on in your brain chatter is only that, brain chatter. Just noise. You aren't fucking your thoughts and you aren't married to them either, you're married to your wife so just keep that obvious to yourself
>>35020272>but i can’t help itYou can, with practice. Mind training exercises make it possible to look farther into the future beyond whatever it is you're worried about, which returns you to a state of "it doesn't matter after all", because in the end nothing temporal matters except to the degree to which it changes your relationship with the eternal.
>>35020282Thank you anon, i will do that.
