THIS HAS HAPPENED BEFORE where i had a boyfriend and i met his bestfriend and he seemed like a better fit for me than my current partner attmy solution for now is to goon in silence looking at his pics until all of it fades away and i lose interest (hopefully or until i see him again). My question is the long term: If I stay with my boyfriend i have to get over this crush, the only fantasy there is has to stay in my head and i have to never confess these feelings to no one.Anyone relates? :’Dor any mature advice?
You're a man aren't you
You masturbate to photos of your boyfriend's best friend? Would you stay with or leave your boyfriend if you found him masturbating to photos of your best friend (or closest same gendered friend)? Either way you should tell him not us so he can decide his own fate rather than you holding him hostage
>>35024134no, cis fem
>>35024142Bullshit, no normal or straight person refers to themselves as "cis"
>>35024180its just a detail… that i kindly offered
>>35024102Grass is greenest where you water it, but your options are leaving him and trying for the other guy or staying and working with this guy on your relationship. If you cheat just because you think you have better options, then that is pretty well morally bankrupt. Monkey branching is not fundamentally different from cheating, either. Be single for a few months before trying things out with the new guy and figure out why your eyes wonder so much in the meantime. It very likely isn't because you're poly, and more likely due to an attachment issue.
>>35024142Fake and gay
>>35024229>>35024139ty very much anons, do you think its possible to work this out and forget this or the fact that this happened might just be a pattern that will keep repeating with these same people and theres no way to ignore it completely?
>>35024287It's for sure workable, but a great many people in this kind of a situation rationalize and justify it instead. This has happened to me on multiple occasions. The question is whether or not you want to work on it and ask yourself some questions that might make you feel uncomfortable to answer in some way.
>>35024343i understand what you mean,and thank you for talking here
Break up with your boyfriend and make sure you don't have any contact with his friend afterwards.I don't see the point in trying to get over it and delude yourself that you like your boyfriend but you also you're right in that you can never say anything about the crush. Just get away from all of these people and start fresh.
>>35024495Bad advice. Atrocious even.
>>35024558If she's getting random crushes like that she doesn't like her boyfriend enough to bother keeping him Don't ask me how I know lol
>>35024225No. It's fake newspeak fag terminology
