i got sick just as became a teenager. really sick. dropped out of school, spent years bedridden. my entire career as a teenage girl i spent online in bed. i feel like to become an adult woman i need to hit some benchmark experiences of being a teenager but it's too late and i'm forever going to be this weird atypical mutant maladjusted womanchild carrying unresolved angst everywhere i go. i never got to experience teenage love. i've never held hands. it scares the shit out of me still, but what guy in his twenties is going to want to let a woman his age be awkward about a kiss on the cheek or flirting? fuck, who would even BELIEVE i wasn't just messing with them? even incels are gonna be all in a rush to prove they can crush pussy and be chad instead of being willing to take it so slow its genuinely retarded and embarassing. i don't know how to move on without just larping like i already grew up when i really just skipped straight from twelve to twenty. and i cant just fake it without immense discomfort and making huge mistakes, like, after those experiences i didnt have, who would i become? how would i act with sex and dating and men? i dont know and i cant just make it up! its impossinle.oh wise old dudes online, what the fuck do i do. i would ask my dad but he's a deadbeat. you guys practically raised me. somehow.for what its worth i think you made me funny. at least.
You don't come across as particularly funny, OP
>>35024669well im sad and lost. am i supposed to work in punchlines at the therapist too?
>>35024667You do sound cool and funny and that goes really far. Just being genuine is usually what makes people believable about that stuff.But most importantly yeah getting with a “normal” guy who did every “normal” thing at the “normal” time would probably be awkward relationship wise but you’d also be really different in every other way too. Like, culturally different.It’s not that you won’t be able to find a guy where you can level with each other and have everything be chill, it’s just that this is going to be more difficult for you than others who did the common things. There are also guys who had weird circumstances or were stunted for many other reasons. There WILL be 20 something year old virgin guys who were in every normal place but got iced out at the time because awkward teen or whatever. They’ll be worried about not knowing the same things you don’t know. Neither of those people could even judge you for lack of experience because they have none and therefore no frame of reference either.How to find those people? Shit, I don’t know. Even normies who do normie shit are having that problem presently.
>>35024667Speaking as someone whose a khv and whose 20's were fucked up by circumstance, parental neglected. A lot of the stuff you listed are overrated and a lot of young love doesn't last. For what it's worth, my advice is to chill. You just had something horrible happen to you, you don't need to plan out the next decade right now. As a lot of people have told me irl, life is not a race.
There's a guy who frequently posted about being sick as a teenager and going back to highschool in his 30s to meet teenage girls.Your match
>>35024762nice. They should get together
Teenage love is worthless and stupid. You missed nothing. Live life as an adult.
>>35024667You'd be surprised how many guys and people in general feel like this, myself included.Find someone with equally little experience, you'll both be able to slowly learn it together. Being awkward together might even be a win, that kind of journey will bind you together. And since you are both adults, you can deal with mishaps better than 2 angsty teens.Be open and honest about it tho, from the start (not literally in the first conversation, but you know what i mean.)And dont hate yourself about this. Its a bad reason to do so imo
>>35024667Concentrate on basic social skills. Learn or re-learn how to chat, hang out, make small talk, meet new people, etc. With greater ease in ordinary social contexts you will be better equipped to start moving toward more complex relationships.
>>35024667The age of 12-20 is when people make their most life altering mistakes. Skipping over it isn't even a bad thing. You don't have to make mistakes or suffer in order to learn. If anything having to deal with slightly more mature people that aren't absolute hell-spawn as your peers will if anything help you catch up faster with way less teenage years trauma.If you want my advice as someone that spent way too long in college there's no point in life where you become an adult. A diploma didn't do that for me and neither did getting a job. Having money is much better than not having any but nothing changed besides my ability to do and buy shit I want. People also tend to assume that having sex is some sort of ladder to adulthood but I've read enough people forcing it through with prostitutes or practice girlfriends that realize that nothing changed.A lot of what you're going through is perfectly normal even for people that are almost 10 years older than you. I'm sure you can find someone that's mature enough not to just want to smash pussy and even for those that do I'm sure that you can find someone that's patient enough to at least wait until you're ready. Successful relationships aren't built on sex but intimacy is a part of them, and there are a lot of ways to display intimacy so sex isn't the only one.>what the fuck do i doI would say that you don't need to do anything and that it'll all sort itself out but I've also done enough nothing to know that nothing ever happens when you're passive. Do things at your own pace, but do something. You can fill your inexperience bit by bit, but nothing will ever change if you expect other people to reach out to you. Put yourself out there and have an open mind for new experiences. Get a job, make some friends and maybe go on a date. You'll be fine.
>>35024667The real outside world is full of lonely inexperienced people, you have this warped view due to living on the internet all your life. It will be very easy for you to find someone gentle enough to guide you through your inexperience or someone just as inexperienced as you. Just keep in mind they're not going to be chads, chads have a set of expectations and you only have them for a brief "turn" that becomes shorter with your unwillingness to put out
>>35024676ok sure, maybe, maybe there's guys who match my damage or something close. billions of people, there has to be, but isn't that just saying like, oh, there's plenty of fish in the sea. but what do i DO? how do i even fish? how do i NOT fish for the wrong type? i have no idea what i'm doing!>>35024700if i "just chill" i will lose even more time than i have (seven years!!!!) and it will eat me alive
>>35024887>teenage love is worthlessyeah as if you'd know>>35024903i'm pretty sociable i'm just kind of rude and more edgy than i mean to be thanks to years of desensitizing. i just don't know how to act less like a scared thirteen year old and more like someone in her twenties who actually knows what she's about.>>35024917thats exactly the opposite of what im saying. im still STUPID like a kid so i still need to MAKE mistakes to grow up, but im not a kid anymore so all the mistakes will be worse and nobody is gonna be there to cover for me. my life has been paused for like almost a decade and im losing my mind at the idea that what i have to do now is WAIT. kill me.
>>35026021Any mistakes you could possibly make aren't going to be worse than if you had made them 10 years ago. Other adults are not going to be as bad as kids.Plus I didn't tell you to WAIT I told you to DO SOMETHING. What makes an adult isn't age but circumstances. It won't take you 10 years to catch up to where you feel you should be at.What do you want to do and what can you do?
how much do you weigh?
