tldr 20, broke up w toxic ex in college, she filed title ix complaint in college, withdrew said complaint but damage already done. lost all my friends, she even reached out to people from hs i wasnt on good terms w and cozied them up etc. thoroughly depressed, feel like life ruined. have some amount of proof (recordings of her threatening me?) but largely useless, vague threats+not like im going to go to the cops anyways. pretty sure im going to drop out, not sure how to go about life anymore. its been about half a year since this incident, when she first made the allegations i was too pussy to do anything to fight them so i didnt really present my side of the story, and now its too late. unsure of how to go about the future, have nightmares every day, feel like this will follow me everywhere, because it will. almost every half decent uni in my shithole european country has someone who knows someone, there is a 100% chance this will follow me everywhere. falling into a bad depressive state, have one guy i talk to on a daily-ish basis, no other friends, too depressed to think about my future etc etc. this is the only thing anyone will ever think of me, this will follow me everywhere, she has cozied up like. half the world. etc. what will a future partner think of me, why would anyone want to be w a guy accused of sa. losing it, fairly close to kmsing because feels like an objective fact that my life is ruined.
Someone will believe you.
>>35025136what sucks more is that i couldve fought the allegations lol if i didnt run away like a wuss. trillions of guys have had said allegations, half of them who actually did it and face no social repercussions. and now that ive let this marinate for half a year its too late to fight them. ive completely withdrawn from any hobbies i was into even outside of uni because some of her friends are involved there, and theyll try to ruin me if they see me there. dunno, its over
I wish the best, anon
>>35025140thanks but. i just dont see how, i cant see myself entering any social circle, activity, college, job without this following me. i wanted to do things but feels like my life is over at the age of 20. i mean objectively, if i get with someone, they will probably inevitably hear about this, they have no reason to believe me. i dont know how im supposed to enter any social space without this coming up. this wasnt a situation where she mistakenly believes something that didnt happen, is confused etc. its an active effort to ruin my life (her words, not mine). its not just that she distorted some of the events she literally made up shit that never even happened. ( i forced her to do xyz drug and raped her, when ive never even heard of xyz drug and we've fucked twice. but how are you supposed to prove a negative)and at this stage i've let it go too far anyways, if she has people i knew from HS on her side literally how am i supposed to win, lol
>>35025151Someone will believe you. Whether you believe it or not.
>>35025136You're not at uni to find a social circle OP. You're there to get a degree that makes you good money. Just lay low and dont spazz out. Calmly tell your side of the story if approached by anyone. But above all stay fucking chill and dont become a lolcow. no one will even be talking about this shit in a year. Remember this is the post #metoo era. There has never been LESS credibility given to rape allegations.
>>35025178not sure how to go about life.i go to a new uni, this comes out in the first week, any and all ability to make friends is gone. im largely ostracized for the next 4 years, how is a nigga supposed to network, do shit to get a job etc. even that notwithstanding a nigga needs a social circle to stay sane. dont know man, largely just feel like i wouldnt be able to live a "normal" life anymore (go to college, have fun, find a girl, get a job)
>>35025178but thanks for the hopium, this helped
>>35025136you didn't even get charged? then who gives a fuck? >some people who don't trust me enough to believe me when I say some crazy bitch is lying about me don't like me, oh no!
>>35025185People won't talk about you at all unless you make yourself visible.>muh social circleYou already had that, it's no longer an option. Find one outside of school.
>>35025262i can live with that, but all my future interactions are going to be tainted by this, "new" social circles will have someone who knows someone and they will know of this and. that circle will also get nuked, or it is impossible to enter in the very first place
>>35025136In europe, dont you have a “right to be forgotten”? Use that to change your identity. Then you can start over again.
>>35025178This right here. People have started to by and large disbelieve foids and their lies now. It happened to me recently and nobody believed the old dumb bitch.
>>35025296Most people are starting to not believe foids, just avoid them and change your circle because they are probably a ring of fags/libs
>>35025725kid has some rumours thrown around about him in college>muh change identity, run away to himalaya
ngl i’d trade smashing for an allegation my life is boringidk what id do after but whatever i do would be funny
>>35025296You didn't even get charged quit crying holy shit.You can charge her with slander mayhapsAnd if all your future interactions are tainted by something so obviously faked for an ulterior agenda, it very well was impossible to enter in the very first place because your communication skills were already dogshit
