24yo guyShe just called the cops because I apparently made too much noise going to the grocery to grab some drinks. She turned off the Wifi, told me I shouldn't be awake at 2am because she's working tomorrow and my sister has a training course, then started screaming at me and calling me mentally ill. My sister eventually woke up and when I tried to turn the Wifi back on she called the cops. She also complains about my keyboard noises despite our bedrooms being on opposite sides of the house and she wants to tell the cops about thatThis is pretty much my everyday life. She's bitching about everything like going to the kitchen, using the bathroom, typing on my keyboard, laughing in my room, eating at night or even showering. She hides my stuff when I'm not home and screams at me over wasting ressources like water and toilet paper. I only shower once a month to avoid arguments.I'm autistic and have ADHD, live on disability welfare (€1k/month) and have barely any savings left. She always calls me incompetent, says I'm doing nothing with my life, tells me to get the fuck out of her house and says the professionals helping me are useless if I'm still like this at my ageI also realised how much of her behaviour I unconsciously reproduced in my last relationship with ex gf I became controlling towards someone who was so kind to me and I deeply regret itIdk what to do anymore. I feel trapped also i'm unsure whether I'm actually the problem. I have nobody I can rely on and no idea how to get out of this situation
Man at the end of the day either your character is the problem or the way you're handling your life is the problem. To be a man is to be responsible. Get any job and work on yourself. Also be considerate of your roommates. Don't be loud, and get a quiet keyboard for like 20 euro or whatever. Don't make other people suffer for your inadequacies. Also stop staying up till 2am. Being a responsible adult means being healthy and going to bed by 11.
>>35063513She's releasing her anger. Her coworkers/friends talk about their children and how they're successful with god jobs, houses, kids, etc. But she's stuck with you, and it makes her feel inferior to other mothers.In other words, her ego is being attacked on a daily basis. There is nothing worse for a woman than to be inferior than her peers. This feeling builds up over time so she bursts out for no reason. You're not at fault, and there is nothing you can do.She needs help. She needs to understand that healthy, successful kids are BUILT. You can't be a woman and just smoke/drink and have a kid at 30+ and expect him to magically become a doctor. It's her mistake that you are the way you are, but she's just too retarded (no offense) to know how she's at fault.This mix of unawareness and egocentrism causes the way she behaves. Even if she learns this through therapy, then she may switch to a more depressive state because she'll understand how guilty she is about you. She'll get over the ego thing from earlier, but now she'll be the opposite. Depressed and lost in her thoughts trying to rationalize when things got wrong about you.TLDR>Woman has ego>Ego at stake because other children better than hers>Anger builds up>She releases anger on you
>>35063567You should definitely commit suicide>>35063588This
>>35063588This and odds are this fiction guy was raised and sabotaged into being the loser he is today. There is no mention of a father and I bet 100 bucks she drove him off or undermined until he gave up. Now she’s boohooing over the end results. Also there is no fixing this for her it means taking accountability and admitting she fucked up almost impossible for a woman on top of that it’s too late to make him a man she can be “proud of”. She she’ll just blame him for everything until she is dead and probably even if he did make an effort she’d try and sabatage that because she’s scared of being abandoned and alone. Woman are like that. The guy needs to get away from her by any means section eight roommates whatever.
>>35063513Move
Anon, are you talking about your mom?You shouldn't talk so mean about your mom, if you really don't like it there, leave
> She always calls me incompetent, says I'm doing nothing with my life, tells me to get the fuck out of her house and says the professionals helping me are useless if I'm still like this at my ageAll true, get yourself together man...
>>35063513Just get a job and move out man
I can sympathise, but you need to grow up, don't hurt those you're depending on. Don't complain about your longsuffering mom and sister on the internet. For fuck sakes man, have some shame
>>35071010Kys
>>35071080If you can't receive criticism when you're wrong, you're going to have a hard life
>>35071140Nice projection, faggot
>>35063513ropemaxx
>>35071140I agree with you, dude. Accepting failure is hard but it's part of moving forward. Accountability and reflection are pivotal to growth.
>>35063513God she is pretty
>>35063513>ADHDget yourself on stimulants asap, they'll change your life
>>35063567kys, op is literally disabled and having to deal with toxicity doesn't help either>>35063588this guy gets it, foidsteins act like foids
>>35063513 gotta be real you sound like my deadbeat uncle. Just put yourself out of your misery already
>>35067306>You shouldn't talk so mean about your momHe literally wasn't being mean
>>35063513You write that you’ve already had a girlfriend. Find a new girlfriend, move in with her, find a part-time job, get married to her, and live together. You’ll be happy.
>>35078138>>35071336>>35063567Kill yourselves, ya'll do not realize how disabling autism and adhd (even one of them, particularly autism - is incredibly disabling) can be. The fact that OP is on disability gibs should speak volumes about the problems they have, hell being able to even go and buy your own groceries is something that many autists can't even do on their own>>35063513OP try and get yourself on ADHD meds if you haven't already, get yourself a psychiatrist, try therapy at a psychologist - but also try to work on yourself, I know it will be hard but this is kinda the best advice I can give. Good luck>t.Aspie
>>35078122>>35080032i heard that stimulants slowly lose their effect the longer you use them overtime, what am i supposed to do when that happens? switch them around to see? or is it depending on person to person?
>>35080354Stimulants usually take years to lose their effectiveness overtime as you build up a tolerance, however it generally only happens to some people. However by the time years go by, you should've been able to build up a proper routine and get yourself on track by then.Overall many people take stimulants for 10+ years and don't have such issues.If you are scared of tolerance, you can just take them when you feel you need them
>>35080439there is also a variety of stimulants to try, and non-stimulant options too,>Vyvanse, Concerta, Medikinet>Strattera, Intuniv non-stimulants work kinda like stimulants when it comes to beneficial effects but they take like 6-8 weeks of constant taking for full effect. They are usually used when you have bp and heart problems.Stimulants work within 30-60 minutes (some like Vyvanse 1-2 hours) and generally don't need to be taken dailyStill this shit is poison, like every psychiatric med - its just that junkies love this shit
>>35080470So non stimulants work like prozac, got it. may be fit for me, i try to be as healthy as i can, still got lots of stuff to do in this life
You’re both the problem. She sounds bpd. you have a codependent relationship and you’re being abused/coercively controlled. She won’t suddenly change her mind, to her you’re a worthless parasite and it’ll just get worse - but you can change if you choose to. Stop spending money. Get a part time job doing anything. You need to move out. Eventually she will kick you out. You’ll have some control if you do it. And being up and making food at 2am is annoying as fuck. You have a lot of work to do to undo a bunch of bad habits. I don’t think you realise how much of a disappointment you are. Sperg/adhd kids take 10 times as much parenting as a normie. You need to think about all the shit that triggers them, keep a mental tally of “cup filling” events during the day so you don’t overdo it etc etc. why the same pair of socks that you were fine wearing all day yesterday all of a sudden are making you sperg out and take 2hr to leave the house (if at all). she was probably burnt out by the time you were 5-6yo, I bet you can’t remember all the extra effort. It’s genetic so she probs has it too, making it much harder. Sucks she gave up but you’re an adult now. Own the shit you did to make life hell and grow upThe drugs will help more of you move out. They’ll give you the clarity to form good habits to the point you only need them occasionally - the ppl whinging about them wearing out didn’t use the window of clarity to make themselves better people, just mistakenly thought it was the new normal and they could continue being like they areStart living normal hours. Get a job. Save all your money. Move out. Get adhd meds. Form good habits / healthy hobbies
>>35063513>I'm autistic and have ADHD, live on disability welfare (€1k/month) You are a loser and you are making excuses for you laziness. Autistic and adhd are both bullshit excuses. You think I'm not autistic? You think I don't have adhd? I can't even have a conversation with a stranger but I still make almost 60 dollars an hour which is not even that impressive in this day and age. But I got here by working hard and not making excuses. Living off welfare as 24 year old guy who isn't deaf dumb and blind is pathetic. Of course it's going to stress out the people around you. You need to get a fucking job and take care of yourself for fucks sake.
>>35081108Quick question, are you medicated? If you're able to stand up in your own legs I assume you're into some stimulant or whatever
>>35063513Tell her she's a bad mother, kek. The problem with you kids is you don't even try to press your parents' buttons instead you just feel sorry for yourself. The key is to embarrass them in front of their friends/family/coworkers. When you parents bitch at you it's because you genuinely get under their skin, they aren't just being mean for no reason. So you should appreciate that, i.e. realize you have power over them.Seriously though, stop staying up so late. Be grateful for what you have. You could've been born a jeet or a wetback with 12 siblings and no room or computer to yourself. If you are a NEET anyway go to bed early and wake up early. Your mom will still be a bitch probably but you could be slightly more considerate toward the person who puts a roof over your head. Your post indicates you don't give a single shit that you are genuinely disrupting her sleep. Just go to bed early and spend more time awake while she's gone at work and not there to bitch at you, win-win.
