I have a deep, instinctive "ick" when I witness incompetence from my boyfriend. When we play a video game or do a logic test or anything and he stumbles, fails, does a poor job I feel anger and want to shake him.This is not about emotions, he is very tender and sweet, I don't mind that at all or tears and intimacy. Doesn't turn me off in the slightests. It is just about incompetence when it comes to skill or power.It's a problem because I try to not to feel this way but it is my instinct, it comes from within, must be some monkey brain programming of "ME NEED MOST COMPETENT APE TO BE SAFE". Has anyone ever dealt with this and improved in this area? As fucking stupid it sounds, it's causing problems for me because I often can't relax when we play things because I get butthurt when I see him fail. And he probably can't relax either.
I’m currently engaged to my boyfriend of 3 years, I have never gotten the ick (and that man can be gross) But if you really want to kill your sweet boyfriend’s confidence then tell him how incompetent you think he is. If this is a part of him that you absolutely can’t move past, break up with him. That’s it. Plain and simple. You are never going to find someone who is absolutely perfect, if you already know what triggers you about your boyfriend, avoid those triggers. If he’s as incredible as you say than that 90% of all you want in a guy should be enough to satisfy you and not the 10% he is “missing”.
>>35067952What is he actually fucking up? Is he just failing a deathless run in elden ring or is he dsp levels of dogshit where he cant even chase a guy down in gta without sabotaging himself?
Can't relate I think it's cute when they're dumb. Have you had a chance to observe this incompetence in a real stressful and dangerous situation? He might surprise you when it actually matters.
>>35067952Competence doesn't happen out of thin air. Every man becomes competent through 1,000 failures, it takes a process of trying and failing until mastery is built.
>>35067952So, don't play things together?
>Not a god gamerThat’s an ick>Is a gamer That’s also an ick
>>35067952Next time you get that feeling, imagine how easy it would be for him to overpower you with his greater strength. That would probably do it for me.
>>35067952Oh, you could also think about some things he is better at than other men you know. That might work.
lol
9/10 bait
>I have a deep, instinctive "ick" when I witness incompetence from my boyfriend. When we play a video game or do a logic test or anything and he stumbles, fails, does a poor job I feel anger and want to shake him.Felt the same about my exNot about my husbando. They each played the same game at some point too. They had different goals in the game. Both of them wanted to do well mechanics wise but one of them wanted to maxx everything and the other one had an unorthodox nonmeta playstyle.>it comes from within, must be some monkey brain programming Personality>Has anyone ever dealt with this and improved in this area? What's funny is that nothing needed improving.
>>35067952It's retarded to be so worked up about being bad at bideo bames but it is an actual attractive masculine trait to be competent at things. Is he normally okay at stuff or is he generally a bit shit at everything?
>>35074589He's very smart and capable. This is why on some level it enrages me so much I guess to see him act retarded or fail. >>35073226Very funny. >>35074485It really does need improving on my side because I only want to be with him.
OP has been brought up to be a shameful overachiever and is projecting onto his host (bf).
>>35074695>I only want to be with him.In that case you need a good amount of "it is what it is"
>>35075031>OP has been brought up to be a shameful overachiever Nope. I grew up lazy and doing what I want, not caring about any achievements.>>35075199Yeah. I was just curious about the best approaches to deal with the brains problem.
>>35068975Women don't build men, they stand at the finish line and pick winners.
>>35075370Yeah, "winners"
>>35075400In their head.
Just do him a favor and break up with him already, holy shit.Imagine you're a winner irl and occasionally lose at fucking videogames of all things so your gf is contemplating the entire relationship
>>35075407>Imagine you're a winner irl and occasionally lose at fucking videogames of all things so your gf is contemplating the entire relationshipZero reading comprehension. Never said that I want to break up or contemplate the relationship. Massive ick because it shows you're stupid.
>>35075502Your pussy gives me the ick too
you will never be a woman, be happy a man likes you. if that's man an actual man i mean and not a female using he/him
>>35067952You have the ick because your female ape brain wants a strong and perfect man so you can feel comfortable having babies with and spreading your genes to superior children. If any weakness he presents, you feel dryer than the Sahara desert around him. You need to push your man to be better and make him masculine in order to like him again
>>35079816I didn't even imply it, that's the thing. You guys are literally just that retarded. I said I only want to be with him in this thread and never even mentioned anything remotely hinting towards a break up.The male replies ITT are so neurotic and pathetic they actually make him look like a giga genius, so that's helping. Thanks guys.
>>35079626He is very masculine in the ways that matter to me. Extremely dependable, calm under pressure, rarely afraid, sexually dominant. And I don't mind things that people would describe as "gay" in him, such as deep emotions and crying. This doesn't ick me out at all.I only get enraged when he's incompetent in video games or logic tests. Hahaha. I don't even know. But yeah, you are right for the most part.
>>35079925You are the one being repulsed because he couldn't bing bing wahoo hard enough.
>>35067952You should definitely dump him and resolve yourself to not start dating a new man until you meet the perfect guy of your dreams who literally never fails or makes any mistakes because that's a very realistic expectation of a partner and you DESERVE a man like that because you're a QUEEN.
>>35080476Making stupid decisions in logic tests or video games is a sign of weakness.
>>35075502I mean you pretty much were saying that with the “I’m getting the ick” talk
>>35082386Women get the ick from men they love all the time. It is not a reason to break up. It's also hormonally influenced, some hormone phases allow for an easy ick-getting like post ovulation, it's evolutionary.
Why do grown ass men play video games like a pimply teenager? It gives me the ick watching manboys. Don't get me started on escooters, ebikes and silly ass skateboards. grow up
>>35082525are you baiting or are you actually a woman? who i am kidding you're probably both
>>35082525Wow, judgmental much???? Stop gatekeeping adulthood
>>35075370If we're going to be incels, we're going to do it correctly. This assumes a partnership dimension, not a sexual one, of which both genders would be in the immature short-term error.Let's force a perspective where a woman objectifies a man, i.e., waits at the finish line. Why would a woman do this, be selective at the finish line? Because she needs someone better than her, she needs someone to support and provide because she can't do it herself. So... she wants something good, she wants something tested, good reviews, good advertising, and more pointedly, she wants something that won't fail on her. There are two types of cars: a modern, fresh-off-the-line, state if the art that supposedly won't fail, and the 200,000 mile pick-up with a few new parts and tires whose transmission still works and has 100,000 more miles in it. These are the two types of men women go after. Not winners, not le macho peacocks. Machines, beasts, stubbornly committed. If not handsome, then handy.Men tend to not think this way about women because culture and most women insist in some way women need to be taken care of, i.e., they are not complete, they are not tested, they are not expected to cross the finish line on their own. Of course women can do this. It's a mental exercise for her to ask if she would be okay being the breadwinner if she has a man who enables her, otherwise she wants the patriarchy. So men tend to objectify women for the short-term, while women objectify them for the long-term.Women aren't looking for food, they're looking for farms, not necessarily the crops, they want the dirt, the shed, the equipment, they want something generative. Of course a woman can be short-sighted and parasitize a man's material, but once that well has run out she has to contend with who to leech off of next, a skill that depreciates with age. It's better just to commit to the man who isn't first across the line, but has been in every race and intends to run the next.
>>35083821>Because she needs someone better than her, she needs someone to support and provide because she can't do it herself.Women these days brag on social media about how they can take care of themselves and be single forever without issue. So for them to date anyone, they want to maximize the benefits gained, otherwise there is no point to being in one at all. They pretty much indicate that human touch, cuddling, intimacy, etc are all useless to women unless there's a substantial material benefit beyond that.
Anon, think before settling. This is the average whore in 2026
>>35085612Whore? I have literally never been with another man in my life, only him. No kiss, no date, no sex. All exclusively with him. I've been with him for 8+ years and have never desired or thought about other men in any inappropriate way. Even when I had guys stalk me or romantically pursue me or offer me money.And you call me a whore cause I struggle with OCD and some stupid, instinctive ick-issue that I recognize to be stupid and want to work on. Meanwhile you will (if at all) only stick your dick into women that have been fucked by other men. Enjoy.
>>35074485>>35067952In college I had a female friend almost leave her now-husband because he played video games period. For her, it sucked that this dude even thought about playing video games. I'm guessing it's like my friends who play Madden or baseball video games when I visit, working on the franchises & seasons they built playing the computer. It's one of the most boring things to do with a friend, watch them play vs the computer when you're visiting, bored out of your mind. Try to get them into more adult interests
>>35085986I LOVE video games. I share this hobby with him, we play lots of games together. Single player, CO-OP or MMOs. That is not my issue. My issue that I have some weird, instinctive ick mode when I see him do something stupid or low IQ in a game and I get harsh or angry. I try to work on it and made the thread to find some suggestions.
>>35086043Not as mad as you will be when you kiss some lips that had dicks and balls on them. Seethe and cope.
>>35086040I have a lot of obviously low IQ friends but I encourage them by saying everyone is smart in their own way and at certain thingsOne low IQ friend is excellent with his hands - fixing all the things that break around the houseAnother low IQ friend has an encyclopedic knowledge of pretty much every song that plays on the radio and is an excellent cook around the house: from grocery shopping to prep to the cookingAnother low IQ friend focused on learning the basics of finance and saving and has fashioned herself as an expert on that that helps at local personal finance clubs and hands out books on personal financeAnother low IQ friend has mastered being a chill, easy going person that doesn't get rattled much
>>35086080>calms down about the fact that his gf got fucked and cummed on by other menOh so you're a cuck got it
>>35086161>cuck opinion detected>opinion dismissed
