I fell for this retail assistant who works at a big clothing store. We had a good conversation while I was shopping there, out of the blue she practically asked me out. I'm a virgin of many years so this completely blindsided me. I said some meaningless stuff and left even though she kept pushing me to ask her out. I realize what a huge mistake this was. God gives me a golden opportunity with a pretty woman and I completely ruined it, too many years of being avoidant has warped my view of people. I assumed it was some kind of trap, or not serious.For the past few weeks I've been frequently dropping in at the store to hopefully see her again, but she's not there. This is a massive clothing store, with many part time workers, inside a very busy shopping center with lots of people going and leaving.I know her first name and that's it. I've been thinking what if I speak with a supervisor there and ask them to do me a huge favor and give my number to her? Problem with that is they might think I'm harassing/stalking a worker and they'll never let me in the store again.Do you think if I sincerely explain how desperate I am the supervisor will have pity on me and pass on my message? I don't know what else to do.
Uh are you sure she asked you out though?
>>3506915790% of the time it's a waste of your time and effort to go back. She might not be there the second time. She might have found someone else or forgotten about you and lost attraction. EtcDon't get me wrong, it COULD work. But the longer this goes on, the creepier it's considered.You're already putting her on a pedestal, which is a bad sign.>I know her first name and that's it. I've been thinking what if I speak with a supervisor there and ask them to do me a huge favor and give my number to her? A supervisor isn't going to give you an employee's phone number.
>>35069157It'll never work out with a girl you've rejected already dude. move on.If you actually wanted her, you'd have said yes right away.
I'm not even going to help you on this one bro
>>35069563Initially she was hovering around me, asking me questions she didn't have to while I was at tills. She asked me what I'm doing later, and some part of me I never knew existed said "Nothing much when do you get off work?". I was stunned at myself and my brain kind of froze after that, completely out of the realm of my experience. She was distracted by something and asked what I said, even though she clearly knew. I spent the next 2 minutes completely spilling my spagetti pretending I never said it while she packed my clothes. All the while she was gently nudging me to ask her out. She told me her name and we shook hands, but I still couldn't bring myself to do it, I've never asked any girl out and at one point stopped talking entirely to her for a long period since I didn't know what to say. She was still sweet about it though, it was clear she wanted me to do it.>>35069577That's why I can't keep dropping by at the store on the chance she's working at a specific time there. If I don't see her in the next 2 weeks or so she'll move on with her life.I can't ask other normal workers there since there's so many part-time people there, it's unlikely they know her. Only a supervisor would know her and have her contacts. No supervisor would ever give a stranger an employees number - but I'm hoping there's a 1% chance the supervisor will give my number to her.Literally nothing else I can do, I'm just afraid I'll get banned from the store.
>>35069974>No supervisor would ever give a stranger an employees number - but I'm hoping there's a 1% chance the supervisor will give my number to her.Look, women do not do shit when you give them your number. They don't like making the first move. You can attempt it by all means but the time and effort invested is probably going to be a huge waste. Instead of doing all this, you can invest that time and effort into asking someone else out. But if you have nothing better to do, then go for it.
>>35069974>"what are you up to layer">"Nothing much when do you get off work?"holy fucking stalker rapist lmaoNo wonder she dodged that one. She has no idea what kind of person you are...Your sperg levels probably gave her the ick. It's better off OP. Wasn't meant to be.
>>35069157>I assumed it was some kind of trapWhat if your gut was right?
>>35069157>what if I speak with a supervisor there and ask them to do me a huge favor and give my number to her?Do not do this
>>35069157>I've been thinking what if I speak with a supervisor there and ask them to do me a huge favor and give my number to her?There is no chance at all that they will do that. For all they know, you're an abusive ex who wants to kill her. There's a small chance they might be willing to pass on a message that includes your number, but she's almost certainly forgotten about you by now, so I doubt she would call. I'm afraid you'll just have to move on and try not to make the same mistake again.
Thanks for your advice everyone, it helped clear my mind a lot. A supervisor would likely just take this info to their boss and not risk helping a random stranger.Instead approached a random shop-floor worker who was around roughly the same spot I met her before. I spilled the beans and explained the situation to him, which he found amusing but he surprisingly knew her. He agreed to pass on my number and name.She likely doesn't remember my name, so she'll get handed a number from someone she doesn't recognise. Like many of you have said, she won't bother calling a stranger. If I come to the store again after a week of hearing nothing, that's stalker behaviour.Now is the stage my paranoia kicks in. What if the guy I gave my number to is hungry to advance his career and told my situation to the higher ups? He risks his job by trusting I'm not some abusive ex, so the safest path for him is to report me. The next time I'm at the store will be a trap.
>>35069974>Nothing much when do you get off work?smooth
