Lately, my family has been asking me a lot why I don’t have a girlfriend, baka. Girls compliment me often, and I’ve been told I’m a solid 7/10 (although I’m pretty sure they were just being nice, lol). The problem is that, besides going to the gym, I barely leave my room. I have severe social anxiety, and I’m shy as fuck. Holidays are coming up and family reunions are going to be awful with all the stupid questions, baka. Am I fucked?
>>35073786exposure therapy, go interact with people outside your home
wtf did some words on my post get replaced with "baka"
>>35073793hello newfriend
>>35073798hey?
>>35073791easier said than done. but, to be honest you're 100% right. It's just so hard :/
>>35073812it is, but right now your anxiety is telling you socializing is a threat. it’s doing its job protecting you because socializing can be scary, but it’s not going to kill you (true threat)the only way to show your anxiety socializing is just scary, but not threatening is through repeated exposure to interaction. the longer you avoid doing so the more you’re going to reinforce the anxious “voice” that perceives those interactions as dangerous and threatening
>>35073839That makes so much sense. I'll try to force myself to socialize next time I touch some grass. It's just that after a simple "hey" or "how's the weather?" I completely crumble lol. I'm way too socially inept to get past the greetings stage of a conversation.
>>35073786Just tell them you're gayOr bisexual sorting it outThen they'll get off your back
>>35073885don’t try and force or plan conversations ahead of time if you’re doing that, talk about something you know a lot about, something you could talk with a family member or someone you’re really comfortable with for hours without needing to plan or think about what to say next to “fill the void” there’s nothing inherently bad about silence either, obviously if you say nothing and just stare that can be socially awkward, but if you start with something you’re very knowledgeable about chances are they’ll get inquisitive or share an interest of theirs as wellit’s not easy, so good luck, but with consistency it will get easier
>>35073896I'm straight though :/. And they would probably kill me If I said that lol. They're a little old fashioned.
>>35073898that's really good advice. thanks!
>>35073912you’re welcome, anon
Just say the juice isn't worth the squeeze, or something about modern women in general. It'll piss off the women enough to leave you alone and the men will all get it.
>>35074005that's lowkey genius
>>35074021Honesty works more often than people think
>>35074005The fact that you have to say so at a family reunion.
>>35074005This.Everyone knows there is a problem now between men and women, why should you dance around that like a retarded monkey and pretend it's 1995?
>>35073786>Am I fucked?Seems to me your problem is that you are NOT fucked.
"I'm saving myself for someone I can truly respect and relate to as a fellow human being and child of God with big tits."
>>35074760good one
>>35074789exactly, someone with great personalitits- I mean personality
>>35073786Tell those stupid boomer fucks to set you up with a nice looking girlfriend instead of sitting around nitpicking your life.
>>35074912I'm in my 20s and I'm apparently good looking (I personally think I'm just a little above average but, I've had girls say I'm good looking so idk). So, the boomers probably think I don't need any help :/
>>35073786>The problem is that, besides going to the gym, I barely leave my roomI talked to a random girl at mcdonald’s and gave her my number and she texted me later asking to hangout. Its not hard to get a girl friend or a girlfriend, OP.
>>35073786>The problem is that, besides going to the gym, I barely leave my room. I have severe social anxiety, and I’m shy as fuckNot having a gf isn't your real problem; THESE are your real problems. And you not having a gf is merely the logical conclusion of that.So yes as it is, you are fucked. The good news is you could choose to un-fuck yourself at any time, but will you is the question.
>>35074986>the boomers probably think I don't need any helpThe boomers think you are gay, ask for help they know someone with a daughter
>>35073786I haven’t left my room in a year, wouldn’t be caught dead in a gym. And I’m perfectly fine. Df are you talking about? Be glad you have a family and a room to not leave because your room could be the sidewalk and in that case you wouldn’t have that problem, or have the luxury of feeling socially awkward and anxious. Try being sociology anxious inside a tent in the middle of Hollywood. See how that pans out.
>>35077985OP hereI live in my own apartment lol. I just barely leave it. I work from home so I don't really have that much of a need to go outside besides getting groceries or going to the gym.
