I'm an enby, assigned female at birth (not that it should matter) and my partner is a cis guy who doesn't really follow a lot when it comes to gender identity but he's respectful and makes an effort.The trouble is we were out hiking with friends recently, and he knows I'm dysphoric about how short I am but he picked me up when I was struggling to keep up with everyone on the trail (sneakers are bad for long hikes and I should've worn boots apparently because my feet were hurting bad).I was mortified. I've been quietly concerned our friends just think of me as a woman with a quirky style instead of seeing me as an enby, and getting carried around made me feel less masculine than I like to feel.I'm self conscious around these friends now. I know my bf was trying to help me, but I need to find a way to fix my image in everyone's mind and I'm not sure how to get started.
>>35074464Stop trying to control other people's image of you. It's not possible. The only person's who's opinion you can guarantee effecting is your own.You needed the help, this makes you feel less than. In reality it probably didn't change those people's perception of you at all.
sounds like you're more focused on the aesthetics of being enby. maybe work on unpacking why you think getting picked up + being short = woman
>>35074464Kys
>>35074464Please stop spamming threads like this.
>>35074464>assigned female at birth>I've been quietly concerned our friends just think of me as a woman...What the fuck could anyone possibly say to this to help you? You're suffering from a severe mental illness that is exacerbated by your insecurity and perceived judgements from other people. Uh... I don't know, Einstein, maybe gtfo this board? Also, you will always be a woman. Down to your cells lol.
>>35074464>I'm an enby, assigned female at birth (not that it should matter) and my partner is a cis guy who doesn't really follow a lot when it comes to gender identityThe fact that a human being could type this out seriously is genuinely so mentally ill that it’s not even funny. Fucking imagine holy shit.I am so sorry for your family, OP. You bring shame on them.
>>35074514>>35074491It just reminded eme of my dad picking me up and calling me princess which made me feel less like I'm in the genderless enby vibe that I want to be in
>>35074464First xou get on your knees. Then xou suck my dick !
Why do people keep falling for rage bait like this? Don't feed the troll.
>>35074710based
>>35074464It's nice of your boyfriend to be a mental illness caretaker mad respect
Woman complaining that her boyfriend takes care of her when she's hurt. Next she'll complain that he doesn't take care of her enough
>>35074464>>35074730Experience ego death. You will learn how to embrace yourself more authentically instead of whatever the fuck this shit is.
>>35075271Recommending drugs to the mentally ill is usually a bad idea
There's no such thing as 'non-binary.' You're a woman
>>35074464There is no "fixing the image in other people's minds"What you're talking about is thought control.It doesn't exist.If you identify as masculine, then stop dating men.A way to get identified by others as a woman is to do stupid foid shit like going on a hike in flipflops to the point you have to get carried by your larger boyfriend.This reads like a trooner fanfic.
You ain't enby you just ugly and couldn't take it
>>35074464I do a lot of rock climbing and have a spare for people who cant climb as well. I'd rather carry you out than just leave you there or stay with you and potentially run out of food and water trying to comfort you. It's not that I think "your weak, ow cute" rather "I want to make sure we all make it home alright." If you have a problem with you partner caring for you like that, just actually talk to them. That's what men tend to do, just openly share how they feel. >>35074730>It reminded me ofI had to shoulder throw someone attempting to sexually harass me at one point in time. I repeatedly told them what would happen and not to, they decided otherwise. Even that wouldn't stop me from offering you help. Men ask for help, men help other men. Your not thrown to the wolves if you can't hike. If you want to take a break you should be able to. Just be aware of your food water and daylight and you should be fine.As for all the gender stuff. Just have fun being you. Don't put yourself in the box of having to be "enby" if you don't feel like it best describes you. If you don't like something socially seen as female, know throwing it out doesn't change who you are as a person. It just means you don't like something and that's perfectly normal.
