Can you come back from a life of isolation? the typical advice of “just go out to a bar and talk to people bro” doesn’t really work on freaks like me
>>35075710Yes.
>>35075710make online friends and meet up with them once u are ready
>>35075710once you're in the thick of the bullshit, you'll probably want your isolation back. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-k9sTAYEQ&ra=m
>>35075726I am so desocialized that even online "friends" creep out, block me, and ghost me.
Why do you care about making friends with random strangers? I'm fucking autistic and still find time to make gay jokes and cross the line by telling the old dude at work he needs to retire while the rest of the union fellas heehaw and laugh. Just be friendly with the people you work with and the people you meet on Discord. If you're really so bored and starved for attention just volunteer at a church or non-profit, dude. Just do the generic shit old people do to get out of the house and socialize who fucking cares if you're a disgusting monster why would you want to be friendly towards the townspeople that ran you out of the village anyway? To fit in? Nobody cares anymore, they're in their own bubbles.
>>35077142I work alone and the small amount of time that I have to go into the office those people in there think I’m a freak. I actually tried to make discord friends on /soc/ once and failed miserably everyone just ended up silently blocking me after 30 mins.>why would you want to be friendly towards the townspeople that ran you out of the village anywayBecause I’m fucking lonely and it’s depressing
>>35075710It is a LOT easier to start with people you already know. Just say "Good morning" to your neighbors and co-workers. After a few days of that, someone (you or them) will stop and chat for a few moments,and then you'll have real conversations
>>35077827>everyone just ended up silently blocking me after 30 mins.What did you do?
>>35077846I can do the good morning part but the issue is I can’t do conversations, the longest “conversation” I ever had was with someone who would just talk non stop and all I had to do was nod and say “yeah” every now and then.>>35077862Nothing I’m just boring and uninteresting
>>35075710Only gay people and serial killers go to bars.
>>35075710I had fairly normal childhood until 15. Normal friends bit shy and reserved but nothing bad. 17-21 i was extremely isolated. I dont enjoy talking with people but try to be nice and respectfull. Im happy on my own so even when i dont talk its okay. When im feeling social i talk and thats enjoyable too. No need to force it.
>>35078002So do you have any friends now? Or are you completely alone?
>>35075710Yes, absolutely. You can definitely do it. I have. But it requires effort and changing your self so you probably won't.
>>35078108I got like 10 friends. Some i meet up once every 3 months some i see once a week. When i have opportunity to meet i rather go do activity on my own so i cant complain. Having even 1-2 close friends is all you need. Sometimes i talk with strangers and have good convos but im not interested in a follow up. Just happy for the experience
>>35078159I’m happy to put in effort as for changing myself that’s the thing I don’t know if that’s possible but like I said I will put in the effort, what did you do?>>35078185Right so a complete normie. You’re literally nothing like me at all fucking larper
>>35075710>what's 2+2?>and don't tell me 4, I want the REAL answer!Look OP, if you're isolated and don't want to be isolated, then that means interacting with people. By definition. You don't have to hang out in bars but you have to do something.
>>35078258Clearly you didn’t understand. After years of isolation I can’t interact normally with people, it’s like telling someone who can’t swim to just go and jump in the ocean.
>>35078487>After years of isolation I can’t interact normally with peopleMentally/by choice, not literally physically incapable like someone who can't swim. But ok, you tell me then: how do YOU propose to stop being isolated while also somehow magically not interacting with anyone?>it’s like telling someone who can’t swim to just go and jump in the ocean.Actually not a bad idea, you throw someone one who thinks they can't swim in the ocean and they'll start swimming, because they have to. If they don't, they drown.Either way, their trouble ends.
>>35078225>what did you doI forced myself to engage in social situations and learned how to socialize like learning anything. I didn't passively sit and hope I got better. I studied. I tried. I failed. I embarrassed myself. I looked like an idiot. And I learned and improved. It is a skill. It requires practice and failures.And when I became isolated again I got rusty and needed to polish my skills.
>>35077827>Because I’m fucking lonely and it’s depressingThen like I said just volunteer at a church or non-profit. Plenty of people to meet, people of people with different perspectives than your own. What's really gonna happen though is you're gonna make some gay excuse like how inconvenient it is that people don't just magically appear in your room for you to be friends with them until you get bored again and want them gone. Either be happy being by yourself or find a community with religion and then branch out from there.
>Can you come back from a life of isolation?YesChristopher Thomas Knight aka "The North Pond Hermit" did it. I doubt you've been isolated as long as him so it should be easy.
>>35077827Serious question, are you asexual or something? Having friends won't fix your loneliness. At best it will put you into social situations where you could potentially meet your other half, which is the only thing that really matters. There is a reason why couples lose most of their friends overtime, because friends are disposable "means to an end" type relationships. Maybe if you had childhood friends the situation would be different with them but in your position you will never find true friendship anyway.
