How to get over perfectionism, procrastination,depression,loneliness, self-loathing,fear(of failing, embarrassment and/or commiting any mistake whatsoever) and stop bouncing back and forth between cycles of obsessive self-optimization and destructive self-indulgence?
Too abstract for me, can you give examples?
>>35076238I'm a former "gifted" kid, shut-in, and only child, raised by (divorced) overbearing parents who didn't really contribute anything positive to my personal development while I was growing up.I've always had a hard time socializing or exposing myself to discomfort in general. I've never managed to commit myself to any kind of long-term goals that required virtues like discipline and patience, since I've always seen making mistakes and potentially failing at a given task as direct indicators of my worth as a human being. As a result, I've completely avoided any kind of situation that might put me in those circumstances, just so I wouldn't have to face embarrassment or risk looking "dumb" or inexperienced. I believe this played a major role in stunting my personal growth.So, despite being an adult, I still feel like a retarded teenager who doesn't know what to do with himself or his life.From an early age, I've relied on all sorts of escapism to cope with how unsatisfying my life was (and still is), but those things aren't cutting it anymore. Only now am I realizing that hopping on the hedonic treadmill wasn't really a wise decision.
>>35076317So it's pussy you want? Or a house?
>>35076228You don’t have to get over it if you can get around it.
>>35076400I think about this alotIf you can make it work then do it
>>35076317Ur an only child so if you care about family and shit it's all up to you to continue ur family if there's shit worth continuing. Ur youth will be gone rly fast so you have to seize quick
>>35076317I'm like you.None of the conventional stuff works if you're like this.It's basically like you've been stabbed and you're bleeding out but the wound is somewhere on your back and you can't quite see that it's horrific and you're bleeding out.
