I am conventionally attractive, and have always struggled with women and I’m 29I thought it was mostly about looks, but I think me being boring and way behind career wise might be itWhy is it always assumed lookd matter most and can I change at 29? Fwiw I’ve had 5 dates and nothing came of it
kharizma, confidence. simply put.
>>35081661>I thought it was mostly about looksThat's what happens when you listen to the wrong people online...even when your own lived experience is screaming at you that they are wrong.Looks are a big part of it, but not all of it. Not anywhere close. A good looking boring guy might get some initial attention, but he won't be keeping these women for long. That's a very different skillset. So yeah, personality is a big part of it.I was the same way when I was younger. I always had the looks, but I was also boring, uptight, no confidence, and was afraid to let loose and be myself. I had no "aura" as the kids say now. And I figured out something was wrong when I saw guys I was way better looking than struggling way less. Once I learned to relax, have a personality, and "just be confident bro", that combined with my looks left everyone in the dust.Career- yeah it will also matter, but more when you're older or trying to date older women (which you shouldn't be at 29). No one has their shit together in their 20s anyway, and any younger women who like you for your career like you for the wrong reasons (your money), not something you should be encouraging. By all means improve your career and get your life together, but do it for yourself. Not for women.
>>35081661Check out Alexander Grace.Women hate you.Also check out Robert Greene.
>>35081661>Why is it always assumed lookd matter mostIt's a cope, that's why.Almost every man that identifies with a "looksmaxxing" community, or has gotten caught up in blackpill/redpill/MRA stuff, it at the very least socially maladjusted if not neurodivergent. THAT's the actual problem, and sadly there's no bouncing back from it, you can't just change your personality the same way you can change your looks. You can't get surgery to correct a bad upbringing or bullying that fucks you up, or go to the gym to fix your brain structure. If you're not a normie you're fucked with women and there's nothing you can do, but no one likes hearing that there's nothing they can do. So they assume>oh it must be my looks I'm not tall enough/not jacked enough/my maxilla are too recessed and I have negative canthal tiltall while ignoring the fact that every day there are short guys, ugly guys, fat guys, all kinds of men, who manage to hook up and score with dime pieces. I'm 6'3" and one of my brothers is 5'9" but his body count is in the triple digits while mine's only seven, because I'm an anxious aspie and he's an extroverted, well-adjusted neurotypical.
>>35081661Women will take in a guy with no job if he's fun to be around and fucks good. You're not going for boring women in your league and think you can bag someone fun and you won't
>>35087769very high iq reply
>>35087976So how do I build fun and masculinity? You guys told me to just hold my head diwn and grind in college back in the 2010s.
>>35091094Just live your life in proximity to women and if you're really doing what you're supposed to be doing women will come along. At your age the biggest problem is proximity to women. You're not in college and surrounded by the opposite sex anymore, most of the good women your age are locked down and you've almost aged out of being able to get younger women without needing to finance them (that's what all those 30 year old guys who brag about banging zoomers do, they basically become sugar daddies and cope by pretending like it's not a step removed from hiring a hooker). I assume you met these women you dated on the apps? Also are you Indian? You're pretty whiny and sound a bit entitled, it gives off Bharati bug energy. If you are Indian just consider it over, and if you're not then act less Indian.Semi-related note, that girl is much more closely looksmatched to that guy that you'd think. Get rid of the makeup, the form-fitting goth clothing, and the one-leg-more-forward fat girl pose, and she's just a fat schlubby tattooed whore. Dude might be like a 2 but naked and plain the chick is a soft 4, maybe a bit lower.
