Relationships have always been very difficult for me, ill be honest im pretty mentally unwell with a fuck ton of childhood trauma which might be the reason for all of itI get extremely attached way too quickly, and when I say attached I trully mean it, whenever i bring it up with guys on dates they either laugh or think its cute but its a serious issue I've had in every relationship I've been in, and every breakup has been because of this, I crave and need attention from my significant other, when im in a relationship I need to be around them EVERY day, they need to reply to my texts within an hour or I get panicked, even at work. I get unbelievably jealous whenever they'd hang out with their friends and I wasn't included or did anything, any activity that doesn't involve mei don't know why my brain does this it just does, when I dont receive attention every chance possible I get mad, depressed and manicUsually id manage it by smoking weed every day to distract myself from those feelings but that is not sustainable in any wayhow do I stop this? how can I just "live by myself'' when in a relationship? and why do men lie and say they WANT a someone that clingy and attached when they VERY much dont in my experience? I've falled for the bait and dated a guy who specificaly told me hes into that, that relationship lasted 3 weeks because I "couldn't give him space" .
get checked for BPD or NPD, you may just be a monster
>>35081883a mature person has no desire for someone clingy that wears their problem on their shirt sleeves.you have a ton of growing up to do. you shouldn't even enter a relationship until you can have a normal life to yourself.expecting for the relationship to fix your insecurities is the wrong idea. it will only invite in problems to the relationship and by proxy attract problematic people.i've met with friends that had insecure girlfriends and the girlfriend managed to ruin virtually every hangout due their lack of self-confidence.jealousy is a lack of trust in your partner and a symbolic reminder to talk to them in good faith if something is bothering you in the relationship. But if you don't trust them to remain faithful, you don't have a relationship.You're likely both dating the wrong people but also have a lot of self-work to do.
>>35081883How many days of your life have you soent i complete solitude?You should try it.Force yourself to be uncomfortable.You are very literally acting like a baby. Only babies need this much attention.If you cannot let your man live his life outside of the home, that just means that you are too scared to live your own life.Face your fears to overcome them. Embrace the pain of solitude so that your time together is that much more meaningful and memorable.Sigh... Women get to cycle through dozens of relationships while men like me get nothing.
>>35081883So, men experience similar things all the time. And what men are taught is that actions and emotions are two different things. You can feel emotions but acting on them is what gets you in trouble. So the key is to create a separation between the two.It can be unbearable, but that's what you signed up for. Relationships are pretty much a drug addiction.
>>35082369I guess im more scared I'll get abandoned, or that they'd leave me, I cant ever get that thought out of my head, and the fact that it always happens makes those feelings stronger and stronger(forgot to mention, english isnt my first language so if I say some things wrong I apologise lol)
>>35081883Get yourself a decent therapist. Someone who does Dialectical Behavioural Therapy.
>>35082369men like you DESERVE none
