The girl I like rejected me months ago, I took it like a man but I still can't get over her completely. When does the sting go away?
>>35083835whenever you stop being a little a bitch
>>35083835When you get off your ass and find the next girl.
>>35084073I thought about that, but I don't wanna go through this again anytime soon.
>>35083835You won't ever forget her but it won't really have any feeling behind it. You care so much because you feel like it's the only girl in the world because you have a severe lack of women interested in you. Literally get a new one and you'll realize she wasn't worth it.Fixate on the bad things about her.
it never really does, but within the years youre gonna think about it less and less, eventually it will be so far into time that the feeling of hurt will be small - albeit still there
The sting goes away when you stop reminding yourself constantly that you were stung.The thing is that when you receive advice like this, you may equate it to basically making it seem like your mental anguish is diminished/lessened/not important. It is important, it's probably the most important thing right now. I've linked it before, but please watch this:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0GQSJrpVhMYour brain makes connections with feelings of other people to fulfill something that you really desire. Now I don't have the exact details about this, maybe you're still friends with this person or maybe you stopped communicating. What you need to do is think about what sorts of attributes you liked about this person or what being with them promised you and take out all of the instances of them and find someone who can do those things, too.
>>35088848>You care so much because you feel like it's the only girl in the world because you have a severe lack of women interested in you.I think this is it. Most girls aren't that special, they are just filling a void.
>>35084078i remember being in a slump once after a breakup where i just couldn't find any women attractive after that and thus couldn't bother to hookup. what worked for me was channeling my pain into completing and starting projects in my life that i otherwise wouldn't have. in the process, my starting returning back to normal, and once i found another girl i just stopped caring completely. youre going through some rough shit dude but relax, you'll make it
thsi is different from people to people. try looking into limerance e.g. also get out there and look for other possible love interests. it will make it much easier, when you get the excitement from someone that could be interesting and interested.
>>35084073>>35088848>>35089784>>35091830I didn't know Chad Thundercock was on this board, the way y'all talk about finding a new woman as if it was as easy as going to the store for milk.
>>35083835It never will. Bonds are like hooks that yank you for the rest of your life. Make more good bonds that yank you in a good way and you wont feel the bad ones unless you hyperfocus on them like you do now.
>>35083835I’ve been through the same thing, and being rejected is undoubtedly something that weighs on you for quite a while. You’ll go through a phase where you can’t stop dwelling on it, especially if you have a disorder like OCD, but I strongly recommend that you remove every trace of her from your life. If you still have her added on any social media platform or instant messaging service, remove her from your contact list. Next, force yourself to stop snooping on what she posts online and don’t do any online searches related to her. The less you actively seek out information about her, the less it will affect your mental state—specifically, your rumination on the subject. Now, try to build stronger connections with people who are willing to listen to you and offer support, or simply get more involved in your community or have more balanced conversations with your friends. Sometimes, social interaction helps your memories of someone fade away. Finally, try to get out and socialize, and look for ways to meet other girls (preferably in your area; don't get involved with e-girls on Discord) so that eventually you can connect with one of them and leave behind all the reminiscence, the overthinking, and the respect you once felt for her. You’ll realize that she wasn’t the flawless cherub you thought she was, and it will become increasingly clear to you that there’s a whole world out there that you have yet to explore. There are many women who are smarter, more attractive, and more extroverted than her, and limiting yourself to the idea that you have no other opportunities in the dating world because of an unrequited love will only make your life worse in the long run. Just be patient and don’t give up.
>>35092524not opi dont think anyone says it's easy, but you actively have to do something to change that. i think there is plenty of people who just go through life until they meet someone and they click and there is others who actively go out and look for someone to date. whatever works for someone. i am the former and when i do find someone i am interested in i fall pretty hard for them usually. i have come to accept that i am just like this and it isnt always easy. i generally want to get to know people before i am romantically interested in them.
>>35092681you're a good seed, anon
