How do you accept and learn to live with without heartache the fact that you will never be anyone's first choice of friend, and that even when you have a group of friends you can tell you're mostly just being tolerated and if you were gone your presence would not really be missed by anyone? I wish I wasn't so sensitive so I could just be indifferent instead of being lonely and feeling subpar and inferior to everyone else. Sometimes I wish I was a sociopath because then it wouldn't hurt me
>>35087110I don't "accept" anything. Instead i seethe impotently. I will kill myself before age 22.
>>35087222I remember thinking like you. I'm almost 26
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Make friends with yourself. The more you know yourself, the more you won't care who misunderstands you. Most people don't even understand themselves, so why does it matter if they choose you? It says nothing about your worth as a person if someone can't offer you anything.
For a long time, I just learned to live in spite of that. I treat everyone with a manner of higher priority than a lot of other things and for those that do not reciprocate or even recognize, I just simply stop talking to. The difference between me and a lot of other people is that I have ideas that from time to time I initiate and follow through on, and when a lot of that is genuinely cool shit, people want to be around me.Objectively the correct answer is >>35088880 and once you understand yourself, you can recognize the patterns that you fall into when it comes to seeking external validation.
>>35087110Time. That’s how. It’s a cycle. If you went through heart ache then it was either a karmic trap or a karmic debt you owed. If you managed to survive it and get out of it then be glad and put it behind you and leave it there. My ex was literally a walking storm. I met her at a time in her life where she was walking down a dark path. So just me knowing her and dealing with her at that time damaged me as a person and brought me down. If you meet someone who’s obviously going through something in life then stay away from them. Or they’re just gonna pull you into their storm. Work on you, and learn from your mistakes. Make sure you’re moving forwards, not backwards.
>>35087222>I will kill myself before age 22yeah, it doesn't get better>t. 23 in two months
>>35087110Your first mistake was thinking sociopaths don't feel emotion, they just process it differently.
>>35087110I personally left Those people are subhuman trash, better alone than in bad company
>>35087110>How do you accept and learn to live with without heartache the fact that you will never be anyone's first choice of friend, and that even when you have a group of friends you can tell you're mostly just being tolerated and if you were gone your presence would not really be missed by anyone? I stopped hanging out with people for this exact reason, and now I shitpost on 4chan out of blind misanthropic hatred.
>>35087110Any friendship after 18 is built on money and leverage. Aint no friends out here, sober up and stoic up.
>>35091140Unless you're friends with someone online hundreds or thousands of miles away.
>>35087110Be loving. Be happy to be with him. Let him know. That is the sexiest thing any woman can do.
>>35087110As a kid i loved being alone and just do what i wanted to do. During puberty i wanted to have a lot of friends and be social but euh I dont really fit in. I try to be nice,polite and yk dont do stuff i wouldnt like done to me so i had good people around me. As i grew older and experienced some really worse sides of humanity. I realised i was unwanted by my own parents,siblings so I became alone which is fine. I dont mind it when people dont talk to me so i dont feel bad about not talking with them either. I struggle a lot with maintaing friendships but ye still gonna try. When you do activies you enjoy and stuff you work towards life is bearable and then sometimes you meet people and have good convos
>>35087237I still think like it at 29.Motorcycle helps me with those thoughts because I can justify it as just waiting on the day now.
