What do you do with normie friends who don't share any of your interests, don't drink, and don't like going out, as in doing random stuff like bowling or exploring abandoned places. Especially if it's someone who doesn't really seem to have interests apart from work, talking about their OCD about germs, and taking walks. Yes I have no other friends and no I'm not any better I assume. I'm more nerdy and also more open to the idea of going out together.
>>35087202Make new friends. Go out alone sometimes.
More context. Friend just wants to basically hang out at either of our places and do nothing but talk. Even that isn't usually boring to me but it's just talking about life and "routine" basically. If I'm hanging out at my sister's place for example we do mostly just talk there, but it's about interests, which is I prefer 100% of the time.>>35087209I do go out and do things alone all the time. But idk how to make new friends, people don't like me. I've noticed that during my life me going up to someone to talk never resulted in them liking me or starting a friendship. The only friendships I've had happened strictly because the friend approached me. Knowing this it's hard not to be passive now, when I know me talking/approaching first has NEVER worked for some reason.
>>35087215>I've noticed that during my life me going up to someone to talk never resulted in them liking me or starting a friendshipnta but same. everyone has approached me and then became friends with me, so its really hard as an adult seeing how people (mostly) stop doing that. the most socially successful people have some form of almost gravitational pull which makes others "orbit" them, i have come to the conclusion that its because they have something other people want. ironically, thats friends for the most part, and the people who are able to enter their orbit also have friends, so its kind of a catch 22 for weirdos without friends. there may be some merit to getting really good at a skill or hobby, you need something to get your foot in the door, but honestly im not good with people so idk, also i've never liked the "friends" ive had, or people in general
>>35087215>Friend just wants to basically hang out at either of our places and do nothing but talk. Wait thats what I like doing. I mean usually we go to a bar to do this but its really just talking. Is that bad? Am I boring?
>>35087581I wasn't saying it's bad, but that I find it boring when the only allowed topics seem to be how life is going, and routines. Personally I prefer to talk about things me and the other person are into, interests or hobbies. I don't mind also talking about life stories and stuff like that, but it gets boring when the other person stops engaging when you try to talk about anything like music, books, video games, even cooking, and feels like you're only allowed to talk about small talk stuff like work.>>35087545We are the same then, I notice the same thing in people who have lots of friends. I'm good at a creative skill but it's something that doesn't offer much use to other people, not even easy entertainment value like playing an instrument for example. I also feel like everyone else has this "i already have enough friends" attitude, it's tough.
>>35087607you are probably just autistic, normies like drama and gossip, its their whole lives, its how they relate to one another. the reason why the people you approach brush you off is because you dont approach them with something *they* find interesting, information essentially. next time, identify someone who doesnt seem well liked, pick apart their behaviour and find something "weird," offer the normie group a favour (taking their shift, doing the tough part of the job, compliment, etc), then slide in the observation you made, try not to make it seem forced and make it as if they thought about it first, this will almost instantly gain their trust (or it could have the potential to backfire). this is just how they are, you try to start with hobbies or interests but no one cares about that crap, everyone exists on a low state of consciousness until proven otherwise
>>35087607Oh ok. I try to talk to my friends about anything and everything they're doing. Personal stuff can be the most meaningful, but its not always the most fun, so if it doesn't flow twoards that I wont force it.But anyways to answer your question, I've got like one normie friend that I don't have any interests in common with at all. like he likes Golf and sports and doesn't like music so we don't have any common interests. But when we hang out like we just get along really well, so we just talk and joke and drink we don't really do any activities together.
