My childhood friend/girlfriend died back in 2019, now I'm 27 and i thought i moved on. I dated around after her death but i still think heavily about her and i think it's ruining my relationships going ahead because i put her up as the gold standard. I don't make it obvious but in my head i always compare other girls to her and they aren't on the same level. I don't want this to continue but i still compare. is there a way to really "move on"?
Do you even want to move on?No one is going to replace her or be better than her, and you have to just accept that she was in your life but her time with you has come and gone.If you're not ready to let go, then don't force it.Be happy with the time you had with her.If you are ready to date again, you can't compare others to her because there's no replacing her. They have their own individual personalities, just like she did, and its not fair to them that you would compare them to her. Either accept them for themselves, or don't jump back into the dating pool again just yet.
>>35087767I'm a damn near copy/paste of your situation but older. You never actually "move on". You have to accept that she'll always be a part of you, but you don't have to feel guilty about wanting to pursue love again. Think about it, do you think this is what she would want? To basically hear that your ability to seek happiness basically died with her? I know mine wouldn't, and I'm pretty sure yours wouldn't either.
>>35087767Did you ever have any bereavement counselling?
