I have realized this over the last year and I don’t know what to do. He’s always been a good guy and a good Christian but over the last 2 years he’s becoming increasingly increasingly aggressive and violent with everyone. He’s only 23. This was the quietest most non aggressive person ever (despite being big and physically strong). He never even said a bad word and now he’s attacking everyone. Even his parents. He pushed me because he got mad that I said I was in pain. He then started crying and saying he’s suffering with depression and anxiety and doesn’t know what to do and hates being alive. I’m just scared. Yes we’re young and yes he has so much responsibility but I just don’t know what to do. I’m so scared. He was a man that made me love life but turns out he always had a super negative outlook. We have 2 babies.
>>35088036Femcels I can look past but bro you are not a christian woman with 2 babies. Some poor soul will fall for this 8.
>>35088040What?
I'm sorry your going through this. The best thing to do is encourage him to see his primary care doctor to set up a Psychiatric evaluation. The source of this can be a variety of things. Maybe he's been through stuff and is having trouble working through it on his own. Maybe being a father, especially a young one in this economy, can be an especially stressful experience, and maybe he doesn't know how to regulate his emotions the best. Or maybe he has something like Bipolar Disorder or BPD (which can cause mood swings, aggression, or suicidal thoughts). Maybe its all of the above. Regardless of the cause, meds and therapy can help immensely.
>>35088055Fake and gay.If you were Christian you'd be praying instead of posting online
>>35088036>a good Christian What does taht mean? Following a rulebook for Stone age desert tribals does not say anything about a person.>He never even said a bad wordUnironically a red flag. Normal people have their rough edges. Someone who doesn't have any isn't perfect, but merely hiding/bottling them up. Now that hes under pressure, it all comes flooding out, much worse in fact because he never learned to properly regulate his negative feelings.My guess is that this is likely the result of a severely religious upbringing that strictly forbade expressing any negative feeling whatsoever. The downside is that people who are raised liek this never learn to properly manage and regulate said negative feelings, which are unavoidable in life. It sounds as if he grew up sheltered and with strict parents, and is now having a hard time dealing with the challenges of real life. And also two kids when you are just abrely beyond puberty yourselves is quite a lot to take in. Most likely the fact that he realizes that his peers are out having the time of his life while he is changing diapers, has no time for anything and is tied to you with no escape is not easy to cope with.
He needs to see a psychiatrist and be evaluated. Sounds like he's either very depressed, maybe bipolar. Either way the violence and outbursts can't continue. I'm concerned that if you don't get help this will escalate.
>>35088036Sounds like your husband is going through some tough time and has depression. Why not try to get him some help?
>>35088036That's what happens when you're "Christian" first. Decades of only larping being a good person, but once you're accomplished with wife and kids, the mask comes off. The fact he never uttered a single curse word when angry should have been a clue he had poor anger management skills.
>>35088036just take your husband to church and ask Jesus to fix him
If he's saying he has depression and anxiety but is expecting you to fix him, he's just manipulating you. Making himself the victim to justify his behavior. You doing nothing/supporting him while he wrecks havoc on your home is enabling his behavior.>23 with 2 kids Likely very immature and/or he has been masking his true nature for the duration of your courtship/marriage. The stress of young children is real but he's choosing anger/violence as a tool to control, not leading the household with emotional regulation and emotional safetyMy advice, you cannot force him to get therapy/seek counsel with your church. He likely has turned to substances to cope and/or another woman - the guilt is manifesting in anger towards you.The hope that you can help him, change him, be a better wife, it's all false. You didn't make him this way. You can't fix him. It doesn't get better from here, best to just separate yourself and the kids for everyone's safety. It hurts because you still love him, you believe in your vows made before God. He is a grown man who is capable of growth and change. But only if he wants to, and if it's "his" idea. Although this is quite likely bait, larp, etc. If you are a real person you need to prioritize your own wellbeing and your childrens'.
>>35088036He’s most likely either your karma, or you’re trauma-bonded to him.
>>35089133Hey Reddit.
>>35088036Lots of hysterical reactions to this, but there's a good chance stress and responsibility is getting to him and he doesn't know how to blow off steam in a healthy way, or doesn't have the opportunity. Seconding the people saying seeing a psychiatrist. If you can, take a nice vacation away from the kids with just the two of you. Not right now, but once you're in a somewhat better place. In the meantime the best thing you can do is be supportive.
Sometimes people can just develop mental illness. I had a friend that was normal and then he randomly got schizophrenia and it fucked up his life.
>>35088036Tell him to man up and quit being a bitch that oughta do it.
>>35088036Literally sounds like roids/hormones. Check that mother fuckers back and shoulders for acne.
>>35088036this is a typical religious man and the life you should expect as a religious woman who got married as a teenager. what did you think was going to happen? this is what you all voted for. soon you won't even be able to divorce him lmao praise jesus or whatever
>>35089949>>35089949>>35089953He tells me he’s withdrawing from 3 months use of benzodiazepines
>>35088036He should kill himself I'm thinking. Sounds like a loser that can't contend with the insurmountable gap of language. Leave this loser bro. Anyone who can't control anger in particular is destined to abuse you. They are weak, babies, little guys throwing tantrums "aaaaah what do I do with my life help god help me " another loser bro. Another faggot.
>>35088036Honestly there is no way to help a guy like that. The only way is if he helps himself. Meditation is extremely strong but it's subtle and not everyone can do it. For me meditation is the panacea for all mental anguish, period. You would think lifting would help him.. idk angry people are weak. Weak as fuck and certainly not a man.
>>35088036I call that graph the Christian rape hierchy basically it tells u who can rape who workout punishment. Of course the male child has authority over the female child don't forget that either.
>>35090264Without punishment*
>>35090135That would do it but for some reason I don't think you're OP.
>>35088036larp thread
>>35088036make him see a shrink
