So my father is cheating on my mother but this is not his first time, around 2 years ago he started seeing this woman and even went on date with her but eventually got caught by my mother in my opinion she should have divorced him then and there but she was too afraid of our little happy family falling apart.fast forward to now i am 100% sure that he is doing it again his job does not require him to show up at the office everyday so on the days he is at home he sits in his bedroom all day and talks to a woman on the phone.He thinks I don't notice this stuff but i have known this for a long time.At this point of time i have no idea of what i should do since telling my mother would only lead to weeks of crying and screaming in the house and then they would eventually let it go.I will be moving out of the house next year for college and feel like the best thing i can do is to turn a blind eye to all of this.What do y'all think?
momma's probably up to something toounethical nonmonogamy is probably more common that ethical nonmonogamy
Pretty fucked up. IDK what to tell you anon, that sucks.
>>35089629She isn't. She has a proper 9 to 5 job and only has the weekends off and even then she just stays at home the whole time. Also I did consider this possibility but there have been multiple instances when she just handed me her phone to find something on it and opening her messenger apps and everything nothing seemed suspicious.
>>35089629>I will be moving out of the house next year for college and feel like the best thing i can do is to turn a blind eye to all of this.Depends, is your dad paying for college? If not then tell her once you leave, otherwise tell her once your bills are paid
>>35089672Tbh it's not really a big deal my mother is independent enough to pay for my college tuition by herself. Both my parents have pretty decent finances.
>>35089647Bro it's even more fucked up I only gave you the outline, there are some things I didn't even mention because I felt like they won't help in the decision.
Ask your dad for money
>>35089688Then just tell her whenever you feel comfortable then. Would you regret telling her later more than the pain of dealing with the fallout of telling her now?Could you live with yourself, hiding something like this, just because it is convenient for you?
>>35089707Why??
>>35089713if you ever find a situation where you don't know what to do, a good first heading is always "how can i profit from this?"
>>35089718Hahaha u want me to blackmail him. Nah desu I just need some peace and I want the best for my nother, doing that won't achieve any of what I want.
>>35089712Idk I feel like it won't lead anywhere even if I told my mother about it. Sounds kinda fucked up but I wish my mother doesn't get to know about it ever and things just go on as usual. My father is already 53,how many years can he even manage to do it. It's not like he can build a whole life with another woman in his 50s on the verge of retirement.
>>35089629My father also regularly cheated on my mom but it was okay with her, she didn't mind.
>>35089794Bro I'm kinda jealous my parents aren't chill like that,in my opinion they never got along I have been noticing this since I was a kid they used to fight all the time and never did they stop and think that they should not drag their fights in front of their kids.
>>35089777But that is your mom's decision isn't it? She should be the one to decide how she lives her life. Letting her live a lie just because you think she would be better off. That isn't fair to her, she would never ask you to make that choice, would she?If you were the one being cheated on, and this whole time your mother knew and didn't tell you because she thought it was the best for you, what would you think?
>>35089842Is she really living a lie she already knows that she cannot trust him fully since he cheated on her in the past. I don't want her to know because all that will happen is screaming and crying, they will fight for weeks and then just let it go just like the last time.
>>35089629all that matters is the financial situationif your mom can support herself alone then you should tell her and help her process everything, then help make her realize that she would be better off without a liar and backstabber in the housetell her your father already made the decision to make your family fall apart and it wasn't her fault, make her realize she and you are the family now and you'll be better off without him
>>35089871Do you seriously believe that she would be aware of this by now, or are you just comforting yourself by saying that? Do you truly know that when your father told her he would stop, she didn't trust that?And if she did know, there wouldn't be any harm in telling her since she would already be aware of it.I'm not here to judge you, if you feel so entitled then just ignore the cheating. At the end of the day it's your choice, just do whatever you won't end up regretting.
>>35089629Once your youngest sibling is 18 let your mom know. Let the youngest crash with you if they still live at home.
>>35089977I'm the youngest and I'm also moving out next year.
>>35089659Watch how fast your slut mom leaves your dad for her "work husband" when all this comes out.>opening her messenger apps and everything nothing seemed suspicious.Oh you naive child
>>35089629If you don't want to talk to her, then talk to him: tell him you'll tell your mother unless he stops.
>>35089629shit that doesnt matter and doesnt affect you and that you should pay no mind to
