I can rationally understand many of the reasons why my life sucks, and yet I've been unable to do anything about it because I don't know exactly why, how, or what the "best" way to start would be. Like many posters here, I have a long list of inadequacies that make me feel miserable on a day-to-day basis, and as time has gone by, my inaction/avoidance of those problems has only made them more overwhelming and harder to tackle head-on. Since I can't keep babbling about my life in a single post, I'll try to briefly give you some context about where I am in life right now. I'd like to know what you'd do if you were in my shoes.>23>Currently a NEET (got fired a few weeks ago)>KHHV. No social life.>Perfectionistic, procrastinator, anxious and depressed>Overweight>No passions, hobbies or long-term goals>Use escapism/avoidant behavior to cope with my shit life -> time passes -> feel guilty -> double down on escapism/avoidance>Rampant self-loathing>Too much of a pussy to kill myself
>>35090513The only advice like actual real advice is to download Sam harris waking up app. Learn to meditate. Practice breath meditation daily for like 15 minutes. If u can work your way up to like 30 minutes to an hour a day this is what will happen. You will be able to systematically take care of your problems one by one and you will be able to task switch effortlessly and there will be no massive mental battle to do anything the mind games, gone, the mental hell you live in, gone. U can enjoy slowly tweaking away at a problem and enjoy the act of trying to fix it enjoy the moments of actually doing stuff. And all of a sudden your problems are insanely easy to manage because you are cleaning your mind to put it in a layman's term. It's unbelievable. As someone who is tortured by my mind 24/7 where every second is a mental war to do anything meditation has saved my ass once again. It's like getting high you can't just think your way there, you must meditate to reach it. It's not hard and it's not deep. It's simply training your focus and the implications of that are just extremely deep in the sense of what it can do for you. Its the closest thing to what occult practitioners actually want.
>>35090598How long have you been doing this?
Sounded like me. Eventually found out I had undiagnosed ADHD. I'm medicated now its great, things are 4x easier, its insane. Search up the symptoms and see if you relate to them. Even if you don't have it, productivity tips and strats that are meant for people with ADHD is really useful for people who have trouble with motivation and procrastination. Also get a therapist, they can help you better than 4chan can
you need therapy
>>35090513Stop looking for the "best" way. Pick a way, any way, and start acting.
what would an ideal life would look like to you?
>>35091714I booked an appointment with a psychiatrist in a few days>>35092769Went to therapy for almost a year, but quit to get a job. It was helpful though.>>35092800Being jacked, with impeccable health, financially independent and with an active social life
>>35090513Start by deleting your wojak folder. Surrounding yourself with "ironic ugliness" is not healthy to the mind.
>>35090513You can't really be a perfectionist if you are overweight. You are just a self-hating loser. Being a perfectionist means actually taking action to fix your fucking problems.
>>35093165that's sad
