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Why the fuck can't I meet women my age(34)? I have a strong preference for dating women who are aged like 29-34. Is that too small of a window? I use dating websites and I never ever get messages back. I have been on dating sites for maybe 10 years and have had one date that went nowhere. What am I doing wrong? Just to see, I limited my age range to women who are aged 40-45. I got maybe 20 messages in the last two weeks. More messages than I have gotten in most years on these apps. What the actual fuck is going on? Why is it that I can get messages back from 40-45 year old women(mostly Mexican because my area has a lot)? Yet when I lower the age range, the shit turns into a ghost town?! Help! All I have ever wanted was to date a woman who is around my age, not obese and doesn't have kids. It seems like those three things will make a woman a 10/10 if she somehow falls into those categories. Which I don't agree with but it feels that way.

I told my friend I just want those three things and all he said was "Good luck."
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its over
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>>35090632
dating apps are 80% male 20% female. take into account that most female accounts on apps are bots/of advertisements/advertisement for someone's instagram/etc. and not "real".

you would have better chances if you went to your average male dominated hobby to find women. there are better places than apps, try literally anywhere.
>t. f never used dating apps and my 3 girl friends have also never used any dating app, never see any non-bot women talking about them only men
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>>35090632
go to bars or nightclubs
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>>35090653
Hmmm... I definitely would love to meet women in real life but I never seem to be able to do so. I have a few married friends but their friends who are women are already taken or have kids etc. I wonder... am I being too picky about not dating women with kids? I strongly prefer for the woman to not have kids because I know inevitable I will end up hating her because she has kids. It has nothing to really do with her having a "past" or whatever. Its more to do with how kids change the dating dynamic and I also don't know what role I am supposed to play towards her kids if I become her boyfriend or something. I understand with marriage if it got to that point but just regular relationship? That seems strange to me. Especially if the kids father is still alive.
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>>35090632
Your requirements are easy to meet in a big city, where do you currently live? Also, this woman will likely be very well educated, and you need to be ok being her intellectual equal or inferior.
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>>35090686
i think it's normal to prefer that, most women also don't like the idea of dating a guy with kids. you don't need to think about it so much imo, just accept it's a deal breaker to you personally (although i also think everyone has a personal 10/10 they'd break a few rules for lmao).
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>those three things will make a woman a 10/10
Your age range has been picked clean
There's always older, despite women who have made it through life without being attached
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>>35090632
Get off the apps idiot
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>>35091381
What do I do without the apps?
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>>35091399
What you did to meet women when you didn't meet them on apps
Are you really asking this at 34 years old?
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>>35090653
>>35090677
>>35091381
>>35091421
Have you faggots been in a cryo chamber since 2010 or something?
Women DO NOT WANT TO BE APPROACHED ANYMORE. And ironically, it's because of "the apps" and more generally The Motherfucking Phone.
The Motherfucking Phone allows attractive females to access more sexual options than their brains are able to process. Women open The Motherfucking Phone and there are more men than they could ever hope to suck and fuck in a lifetime, and they can pick the one they like best like ordering a pizza. Even better, they can discard those men at their leisure with a simple tap of the "block" button and not have to worry about repercussions. They fall back on using The Motherfucking Phone as their only method of sexual access, so when an average oofy doofy guy (like I'm sure OP is) approaches them, they want nothing to do with them. The Motherfucking Phone is already filled with them, why should they tolerate some scrub in real life?
The only exception is when you're in college and physically in proximity to a bunch of dumb young horny women, and even now zoomer guys are losing the battle to The Motherfucking Phone.
>>35090632
OP if you're only getting older fat Mexicans on the apps, you're chopped or presenting yourself badly. Either way fix your shit.
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>>35091448
You're dumb.
You only see THE PHONE and COLD CALLING.
The actual way.people get woken irl os through monkeybranching through acquaintances (friends of friends) and through proximity (running into her a lot because you work together, she tends bar where you're a regular, neighbor sometimes, etc.)
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>>35090632
>>35091448
For reference, my last actual girlfriend was 34 at the time and I met her on Hinge, I was 32. She was very attractive and perfectly sweet, high sex drive. I'd probably still be with her if she didn't ick me out reveal that she slept with a famous streamer that I hate.
Meanwhile every woman I encounter in my city IRL who's at least a 3/10 has a rock on their finger. Getting a girlfriend is like real estate, location location location. If you're not in an area with a surplus of single women, nothing you do is gonna help you.
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>>35091463

I meant COLD APPROACHING* a.k.a. the shit that doesn't work now
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>>35091463
>irl os through monkeybranching through acquaintances (friends of friends)
You're using the term "monkeybranching" in a totally wrong and ESL way, but I'm the dumb one. Ok.
>through proximity (running into her a lot because you work together, she tends bar where you're a regular, neighbor sometimes, etc.)
Right, because you're always going to be around attractive, available women. There's no such thing as men who go into male-dominated industries that keep them occupied 10-12 hours a day, definitely don't have any of those supporting all of civilization and your ability post your shithead takes.
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>>35091469
I used monkeybranching in an alternative way, meeting people through people

>the other shit
Kys gimp, do your dumb autistic job and stfu
Muh civilization, holy shit you're stupid.
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>>35091480
The insults of a brown ESL child mean less to me than dogshit on the bottom of my shoe.
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>>35091500
Nice copes for being the butt of the cosmic joke, autistic gimp
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>>35091502
I'll never be brown like you are though.
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>>35091500
See, your issue is that like many other white autistic men your brain is only capable of following right preexisting formulas, and when that fails you you have no idea what to do.
People use apps, so you have no better ideas than joining the herd.
They told you to do engineering so you do your bitchass engineering.
Civilization is what you were told is good, so you namedrop and support it despite it being a system currently working against you.

Autism is a curse, and you've got it bad gimp boy
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>>35091513
I'm white like you but my minset is very different so we may as well be different races.
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>>35091517
Yeah but I'm not chopped so I actually get pussy >>35091464
I'm also not brown and I was born in a first world English-speaking country.
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>>35091521
"Brahmin Aryan" is not white, Gurtej.
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>>35091522
You get a go on the carousel with the mentally ill communal toilets everyone else is riding on the same app, yeah
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>>35091527
Impressive that someone who's never used a toilet in their life knows what one is.
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>>35091525
Questioning conventions and riling up discontent isn't a pajeet trait at all, but your autistic limitations make you operate in the rigid category of "anon I dislike = pajeet"

Look around you at this board and at your fellow white zoomer males. You're a dime a dozen. It's easy to clock you and see your inner working because you are a very common and predictable type.
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>>35091536
Not being able to speak English and not knowing how to properly use common idioms IS a pajeet trait though. So is being obviously salty over obviously not being white.
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>>35090632
Why the fuck would you want to? Go fuck a 19 to 23 year old. Women at 34 are way over the wall mentally and physically
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>>35091536
Dude you're very obviously an Indian. Shut the hell up.
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>>35091545
You can call me a jeet all day long, what do I care. Since I'm a Slav, your blow completely misses me psychologically. Oh no, some humiliated conventional loser called me a different race than what I am.
Whereas what I pointed out about you hits right at your core. Your conventional thinking and compulsive rule-following are a true limitation, and you can see it fucking you up in real time, and it hurts. Doubly so when you realize that it's visible to others.
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>>35091567
Slavs are a loser race too. The word "slave" exists because of them.
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>>35091549
>Go fuck a 19 to 23 year old.
College-aged women these days want nothing to do with old men like OP unless there's an explicit sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship going on, or their so fat/ugly/weird they can't get guys their age.
I don't care how well you've maintained your looks, no man pushing middle age is competing on a looks basis with male college athletes.
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>>35091567
Coming from northern pakistan doesn't make you a Slav. Your skin is still brown like poop.
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>>35091589
>>35091575
This is really feeble dude
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>>35091602
We pluralize in English when we're addressing more than one person, Mahmout.
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>>35091608

Mostly what you do is fear niggers on your own streets, get humiliated by spiteful skanks on hinge, pay exorbitant taxes to jews, obey sadistic draconian antiwhite laws, and then go vent and COPE impotently.
That's what you actually do
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>>35091614
Sure, but I'm not caked in human feces 24/7 and crashing out about it in front of white strangers on the internet.
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>>35091622
I mean I support beating up on the jeets under all circumstances, but it becomes a sad cope when it's your ONLY cope
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>>35091581
That's untrue. Just say you're ugly with no "rizz" my guy
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>>35091659
>t. proud he's banging a fat cashier with a nose ring because she happens to be a high school senior
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>>35091638
You're a lot more upset at your poo-colored skin than I am, Usim.
Oh, I'm sorry, in your part of the world that would be "poo-coloured."
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>>35091673
I think you've just never gotten laid at all and can't fathom the true dynamics of intersexual relations
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>>35091678
>can't fathom the true dynamics of intersexual relations
LMAO no non-virgin talks like this, Poindexter. Go get a pocket pussy for your pocket protector, you'll need it.
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>>35091682
I'm pretty sure he's right about your virginity though
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>>35091691
Whatever you say, bossman. Keep making that biryani. (And yes, please, reverse search the image)
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I can't decide whether to make fun of the virgins in this thread or the Poojeets!!

(They're the same)
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>>35091702
Oh wow you got a NUDE PICTURE!?! From FEMALE GIRL?!?!
Incredible, I thought such things were fake news!
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>>35091716
Holy shit now this is just sad.
Are you ok dude? It's just bantz, don't cry a Ganges over it
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>>35091726
Shut up, Sukdeep Dikshit
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>>35091733
>>35091726

>ur brown!
>no ure brown!

Dumb faggots
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>>35091736
You're brown, aren't you?
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>>35091736
>iPhone spacing
I see we have another bitter TURD worlder in our midst, haha!
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>>35091744
Like 90% of this site inms phoneposting, this ain't 2010 you autistic stunted faget
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>>35091702
Please Anon teach me how to get a gf like this
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>>35092770
This was a Japanese chick a few years younger than me that I met at a holiday party for my industry, desu she saw I was influential in my circle, tall, and have high earning potential. She admitted she wanted me to be a customer for her business but fell for me personally.
HOWEVER, she was an obnoxious slob and a gold digger. Apparently she lived a semi-hikikkimori life style in good ol Nippon, so was used to asking parent for money and leaving shit around for them to clean up. And when she stayed with me, she'd ask me for money and litter my apartment with half eaten food and drink and shit. To top it off she demanded expensive dinners and dates all the time, to see her was like a $1k investment per week she was over.
I only saw her a few times and broke it off six months after I met her. Not worth it; despite her body she was a poor lay, not even cold fish but she'd just get on top to take hers, and once she was finished that was it whether or not I was close to having mine.
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>>35090632
Not to be mean but you've been doing the same thing with basically no changes for... 10 years?
You cannot be doing ANYTHING for that long without majorly re-examining your strategy.
First of all, bare minimum, delete your fucking accounts and start completely from scratch with new photos, bios etc.
Those algorithms think you are a massive loser and have deboosted you to the point where you are not being presented to anyone.
I don't know what specifically is wrong with you, it could very well be nothing, but you have to examine yourself and change things. Do not let things remain shit for a year, change them.
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>>35090632
Volunteering is the most viable option. Especially if it's something to do with conservation efforts. Women dig that shit and if it's a regular thing where you build rapport with the same people over time you're likely going to pull one frfr
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>>35091448
You're really desperate to never approach women aren't you. Every guy who successfully approaches a woman means you have to mobilize intense cope so you can deflect the responsibility and realize that your inceldom is your own fault. It must be nightmarish to witness guys rizz up women IRL from your position.
Perhaps cease coping, get over yourself and talk to women? Its not nearly as bad as it seems if you've never done it.
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>>35091702
>slut attire
>not even nude
>no face
>tripod behind
lmao virgo
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>>35093306
>not even nude
What's a blue board, faggot?
>tripod behind
Imagine a hot girl having equipment to help her take pictures for social media, oh well could never happen

Now tell me more about how sour those grapes are, fox.



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