Things looked fishy from her POV and she had a history of being cheated on, so I'll give her that.It's been 1 week and I've finally started giving myself some grace for other mistakes I'd made, as I know I always acted from a place of love.I'm blocked everywhere. Thinking of trying to call her - I know it would be a mistake, but it hurts so much to lose someone you love over a misunderstanding.What to do, bros?
>>35091696Leave her be. Take the L with grace.
>>35091696how could she possibly think that, and what are some of your other mistakes?
We need a lot more details, chief
>>35091696Why did you cheat on your gf?
>>35091705She found an earring in my nighttime drawer the last time she came to my place. She confessed that she had inspected my drawer before, but had never seen that earring. It must have belonged to my ex, or to a woman I saw only once.Other mistakes... Nothing too serious. The biggest one I can think of is telling her that a certain weekend I may only be able to see her on Sunday instead of Saturday + Sunday, because I needed some me-time to recover from work. She got upset because she was feeling ill and she expected me to be there for her. And after finding the earring, she thought the "me-time" had been an excuse to cheat on her.
Sounds like you weren't even dating long. Also the gay shit you said in your OP about "giving yourself grace" sounds like you're a narcissist and probably did cheat
>>35091731Kek
>>35091731Was the earring always in there or did you empty an old pair of pants or something?IDK man I feel like if you had a good excuse it wouldn't have ended like that.
>>35091966>>35091966I mean, it must have been there the whole time. I asked my cleaning lady if she had put it there and she said she hadn't. I've no clue about how my GF failed to see it before, if she had snooped through my drawer already.
>>35092067If your narrative is true, she didn't leave you because she thinks you cheated. She left because you did something that gave her "the ick" (cheating in and of itself doesn't do that unless she thinks you banged an old ugly fat bitch)
>>35091696>What to doWhat can you do? Nothing. So be it
>>35092080>(cheating in and of itself doesn't do that unless she thinks you banged an old ugly fat bitch)Or prostitutes for that matter. I'd say it's weird how they're more ok with a passionate, emotional affair with a more attractive woman than with an emotionless business transaction, but I know too much about how women work now.
>>35092165i think it's just harder to understand why someone would throw away a long term relationship for a one-night stand with an objective downgrade. that's basically communicating that being, say, married to the mother of your children is worth less to you than one night with an ugly crack addict. it's one thing to be less valuable than someone more attractive than you with an emotional connection to your partner, but it's kind of worse to be less valuable than an ugly stranger.
>>35092197You're fundamentally misunderstanding the value proposition on offer by both sexes here, as do women. Men can have sex without feelings, and reciprocate feelings via resources.Women cannot have sex without feelings, and reciprocate resources with sex. In a woman's mind if a man is having sex it means he has feelings and will give the resources away to the new women. When in reality it's rare for men to leave their wives for "the other woman." Meanwhile if a woman is having sex with another man it's almost guaranteed she'd leave because her feelings for the other guy are genuine, or at least she feels unattracted enough to her current man to offer herself sexually. So no, the long term relationship girl is not less valuable than a worse-looking one night stand, that's just a female perspective on things and if you're a guy and think this way that means you're feminized and your testicles are in some other woman's hands - if not your wife's then your mothers. Either way not between your legs, bitch boy.
>>35092383They're not our sisters or our friends. We do not like each other. All of their interests oppose ours.Since their biological function is becoming possible without them, the objective should be to eliminate all women.
>>35092197>>35092383I'll add prostitutes are especially egregious in this scenario because it is exactly the trade of resources for sex that women irrationally fear.
>>35092396>Since their biological function is becoming possible without them, the objective should be to eliminate all women.I wouldn't be mad at that, we can do better.
>>35092383i don't know what you think my argument was but that doesn't really make sense as a response. anyone who cheats on their partner knows for a fact that there's a substantial risk the relationship would end if caught. so it feels worse for someone to take that risk over something that most people wouldn't even settle for. the fact that you don't have feelings and wouldn't drop your wife for the woman makes it worse. because then you were willing to potentially destroy your relationship over something you're saying is meaningless and worthless. what does that make your relationship? less than worthless.
>>35092453It doesn't make sense to you because you think male and female cheating are equivalent. Women should forgive male cheating. Men cannot forgive female cheating. They are fundamentally different. I will die on this hill, but I won't because I could probably kill your weak bitch ass with my bare hands IRL.
>>35092462it's not about what "should" happen it's about reality. most people of either gender don't forgive cheating easily, meaning the risk assessment before you cheat involves the possibility of the relationship ending. you can say whatever you want about how you think women should respond, but all of that is a fantasy. people aren't haplessly cheating on their spouse thinking they're gonna be totally fine with it, only to be shocked by negative reactions. if they were, then why hide it?
>>35092473Women think morally incorrect things all the time, one could say they're programmed to do it. It doesn't matter what happens in "reality," they're in the wrong and ultimately get cosmically corrected every time. It happened to Arab and Persian women when they suddenly found themselves needing to dress in garbage bags to avoid beatings and having to be ok with their husbands taking three more wives.
>>35092453>>35092473I almost didn't notice, but it's also worth addressing>anyone who cheats on their partner knows for a fact that there's a substantial risk the relationship would end if caught.>most people of either gender don't forgive cheating easily, meaning the risk assessment before you cheat involves the possibility of the relationship ending. you can say whatever you want about how you think women should respondMy emasculated, small penis brother, if you can tell me with 100% certainty how a woman today is going to feel tomorrow, then we're both rich because clearly you know everything including the winning lottery numbers.Women are capricious and stupid, it's no where near a guarantee they'll break up with a partner having an affair. I literally know child molesters whose wives had stayed with them.
>>35092496Bodied that fag
>>35092486and what does that have to do with what i said? are you retarded? i explained the thought process you said you didn't understand and now you're sperging about the morality of it. i told you why it happens, i didn't say if it was right or wrong.
>>35092501Address my other argument first, angry inch
>>35092486>>35092496>why do people hate dogs?>well some of them might have had bad experiences or just don't like how unpredictable animals can be>you're a retarded faggot cuck who hates dogs, why the fuck do you think it's okay for anyone to hate animals? you clearly agree with all of those people because you were able to explain why they feel the way they feel. you're basically an animal abuser and probably a serial killerin a way, this is a way more female mindset than anything i said. completely retarded. also, everyone can tell you are samefagging.>>35092512i'm not addressing your arguments because i was never debating you. you are having a schizo meltdown because i answered your question and you think i agree with everyone who has the thought process i described. you literally can't comprehend the idea of abstract thinking or understanding an argument you disagree with, likely because your IQ is well under 80. if i tell you that murderers exist, does that make me a murderer?
>>35092523Your dog analogy might have some weight if it weren't for the existence of retarded pit mommies that will defend violent dogs, which is exactly analogous to how many women will stay with cheaters or abusers for illogical, feelings-driven reasons. It just so happens in the case of simple cheating those feelings coincidentally lead back to the correct conclusion of it not being a big deal. You've got nothing, which is a shame because I can tell you tried really hard.>also, everyone can tell you are samefaggingYou mean that I made several posts elaborating on my points including when I have more to say? Go ahead and quote my "samefagging," I'm not the only one ITT that sees you're the type of guy that sits in a chair and watches.
>>35092523>>35092542Speaking of needing to elaborate, at the risk of making too many double posts>you literally can't comprehend the idea of abstract thinking Doesn't exist in a woman's brain in the first place lol. You think that a relationship is rational, like two male business partners in a contract agreement. In reality it's like a human male trying to negotiate and deal with a monkey who can't understand him, will do what it wants, and will scream and fling shit if it gets mad even if the reason for being mad is totally illogical to the human.
>>35092542notice how you cannot tell the difference between an explanation of why SOME people hate dogs, vs a statement that ALL people hate dogs? not only can you not tell the difference between description and endorsement, you also cannot tell the difference between "some" and "all.">your explanation for why some people hate dogs is incorrect because there are other people who don't hate dogs >your statement that murderers exist is false because most people aren't murderers>your statement that cheating risks ending your relationship is false because some people stay with their cheating partners>i am clinically retarded and do not know the difference between the words "some, most, sometimes, any" and the word "all"
>>35092554>you literally can't comprehend the idea of abstract thinking>Doesn't exist in a woman's brain in the first place lol.and once again, what on earth does that have to do with what i said? you have woman derangement syndrome. you're so caught up in an opportunity to bitch and moan about women acting like women that you're literally acting like a drooling retard, unable to process more than three words at a time. i'm sure you'll respond to this post with more whining about how women should all be sister-wives in burqas rather than any actual reflection on how retarded you're acting.
>>35092558>>35092562Wow you're getting mad over nothing. You do realize there are no women here that will fuck you for simpling, right?The whole point of my posting >>35092554 is to point out that your assumption that every woman is a rational agent is garbage, which means no I shouldn't "know" that my cheating as a man will lead to a breakup because it's literally as random as a gacha. More random on second thought actually, gachas are probably rigged. You can't know, it's fundamentally unknowable because it's as unpredictable as a dice mid-roll. >you have woman derangement syndromeYou've got down syndrome bro, lol.
>>35092570again, proving you are too retarded to understand the difference between "some" vs "all," and are interpreting the word "risk" as equivalent to "100% chance." you are also once again taking my description of female behavior as a "defense of women." by that logic, you are the biggest simp faggot of all, since you have described women's behavior repeatedly in this thread. how would you feel if you skipped breakfast this morning? don't worry, i already know your answer.>but i did eat breakfast!
>>35092579>again, proving you are too retarded to understand the difference between "some" vs "all,"Are you too retarded to even understand basic English? I am claiming all, all an 100%, every single woman without exceptions is an irrational agent that you cannot ever know for certain will react to something. >you are also once again taking my description of female behavior as a "defense of women."I'm taking your "description of female behavior" as feminized fantasy, the same way I'm taking your obvious butthurt and rage as frustration for being called out as the two inched dick, pear-shaped beta male you are IRL.
if you want an actual response to your retarded argument:>a woman leaving you for cheating is as likely as a gacha roll23% of marriages with no history of infidelity end in divorce. 43% of marriages with infidelity that is confessed to and addressed in therapy still end in divorce within five years. 80% of marriages with infidelity that is hidden, minimized, or not processed in therapy end in divorce. and that's in marriages, specifically. there are many deterrents to divorce, from children to financial entanglement. i can't find any statistics on unmarried couples but the chances are likely even higher since there's less reason to stay. men and women cheat at nearly equal rates (20% of married men vs 13% of married women) so it's unlikely that data is being skewed by gender. that means that cheating can double or quadruple the likelihood of divorce, depending on how it's handled.to remind you of what my actual argument was, not whatever retarded schizobabble you offended yourself over:>cheating on your partner risks ending your relationship >taking the risk of ending your relationship to fuck an ugly crack whore would offend anyone who wants to be more valuable than an ugly crack whorei can't understand how this could be such an incomprehensible idea to you. it seems like your stance is just thinking women are basically chimpanzees and you're mad that i think they're capable of any kind of thought at all, and so i'm personally responsible for whether you think those thoughts are reasonable or not
>>35092648Too much of a bitch to even reply directly, huh? Clocked you as low T from the start, lol>blah blah blah statisticsRed has 47.4% chance. Black has 47.4% chance. 0 or 00 green has 5.2% chance. Wanna lay a bet, big shot?>you're mad that i think they're capable of any kind of thought at allThey're not, from personal and anecdotal experience>and so i'm personally responsible for whether you think those thoughts are reasonable or notYou're not, but you keep replying. Why, I don't know. Probably ego, maybe a misplaced sense that you are actually doing the "right thing" and will be rewarded with pussy for being a white knight (you won't, and never will).
>>35092672you are incapable of logical thought and motivated entirely by emotion, which makes it hilarious that you think women are the ones incapable of rational thought. no undering of cause and effect, just living life assuming everything is random chance. how does it feel to be less intelligent than the average dog
>>35092462not him but I'm 100% certain I could lift you over my head and say goo goo gaga in your face like you're a fucking baby. Being a piece of shit doesn't make you masculine, stringbean.
>>35092708WOAH I DIDN'T KNOW HAFTHOR FUCKING BJORNSEN USED 4CHANOh wait, you're just a big fat fuck, and I am too. Not that it matters to a load of .38 hollow point from a snubbie. Pic unrelated, just some .38 hollow point I have laying around for no reason, you can use it as a size reference to tell you I'm not lying about being almost as big as you probably are. Each cartridge is exactly .38" at the neck, in case you've never held a gun or seen a bullet before. Dunno why I get that feeling.
>>35092689I'm making the logical decision to stay single and not worry about fidelity, you're the one doing all the emotional screaming like a woman, even though you're just a clearly sex-starved man.
>>35091731Serves you right for being a man whore. But on a serious note do you really want to stay with someone who cant trust you?
>>35092776Blast that faggot simp right off the porch
>>35092804I guess I'm still thinking of the wasted potential. Though she confessed that she had always been looking for signs of cheating, earring or no earring, so you may have a point.
>>35092648You've got too much reason for this thread.Women are rational beings, but only for men that are also rational. Manchilden anons will only have dealings with their own level. Monkeys aren't lying that their women are also monkeys
>>35093106One day a woman is gonna take half your shit and leave you suicidal for no reason, and you'll never see it coming and it will be the funniest fucking thing ever.
>>35093106women are in fact not rational beings
