>have bad trust issues with previous experiences with women>finally in stable relationship>any slightly misworded message sends me spiraling>randomly spiral from random denial of physical touch>constantly overthinking every single thing in any conversationI really want this to work. I love my gf but I feel like my brain is actively working against me at every turn. I feel that the only cure to make my brain not shutdown in certain scenarios is going to come from therapy.What are your experiences in therapy? Will I get anything from trying therapy or is it really just a way to get meds?
You sound like you would benefit from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Come in with a list of concerns/goals and be firm about them.
>>35095090I went to therapy for depression for five years, and I can't say it was a rewarding experience in terms of personal growth. However, the problem was that I saw mental health specialists who didn’t perform their work professionally and didn’t adhere to acceptable ethical standards, so you should be careful about it if you decide to go to therapy for the first time. My advice is to look for clues that might lead you to a solution in your particular case, rather than endlessly attending weekly therapy sessions as the experience could prove useless and your problems won't necessarily be resolved overnight. Be that as it may, try to find the most suitable mental health professional so that your experience doesn’t turn into a waste of time and money, and walk away if any of them aren’t doing their job properly.
>>35095090Plenty, I'm learning stoicism was the answer instead of therapy.
>>35095509Yep, that is 'ideal' for stuff like this.>>35095090Do you have adhd/autism/ocd? Those can manifest as overanalysing/thinking and sensitivity to rejection (real or imagined, often all or mostly in your head and nothing is wrong)Behavioral therapy, maybe meds and just being aware can help with this.
>>35095090If your girl really loved you then you wouldn’t feel like this and she wouldn’t be denying you physical touch. Find someone else. A relationship goes both ways, you shouldn’t be kissing her ass and she shouldn’t have to kiss your ass. You should wanna be constantly touching each other. If a girl denies me physical touch, like ever, ima straight up leave, right then and there. My last ex would literally sleep on my chest like a baby. That’s why we worked so well, because we both craved physical touch. That’s who you gotta be with, someone who’s just like you, who wants the same things you want. If not then it’s pointless and you just wasting time and getting used.
>>35096089stop gaslighting him nigger, he said it got rubbed off on him from previous exp
>>35096067never was checked for any of that, should probably soon. >>35095679how can you identify a therapist that is doing a bad job? what was it like?
