Young guy here. I had a gf for a few months. When we were finally able to bang, we did it like two times per day for three weeks while her parents were traveling away from home. She said she liked it and initiated it a lot and was enthusiastic (though I she never said she climaxed). A month later she dumped me. When she was devaluing me (she has BOD) she said that she didn’t enjoy having sex with me. That hurt a lot. Now I am self-conscious about my sexual abilities. I don’t fuck like porn stars do. What should I do to improve? My friend’s older brother said I should spend a month in Thailand or the Philippines and use the women there as practice. I don’t want to disappoint future girlfriends.
>>952006126>BOD*BPD
Youll be fine. She wanted to strike at your insecurities, and nobody bangs like porn stars
>>952006126sauce on her?
Hmm, so the first thing to know is that lasting 5 minutes after penetration is normal, 10 minutes is usually the ceiling and woman usually don't enjoy it if you last longer than that. Pussies are sensitive and penetration is kind of rough.That said to be good you probably want to focus on other things: foreplay and oral sex are important and can last for much longer and the girls will usually enjoy spending time on that.Finally, I think above all you should learn to focus on the girl, they will tell you a lot about how they are feeling with their bodies and voice, if you are paying close attention to her it is easy to notice if she likes what you did: is she praying her body against you, does she make a nice sound when you lick her <insert body part>? EtcOh and before I forget a few very important don'ts:1. If she is orgasming don't change what you are doing, keep doing the exact same moves until she is done, changing at this moment usually makes them lose the orgasm and she will probably get slightly pissed at you.2. Don't start by touching her pussy or breasts, most women will find it aversive if you start that way, kiss and caress her and slowly move to the juicy parts =]3. Don't go directly to the clit with your hand or mouth, going around the clit is necessary until she is very aroused. Some women don't like direct stimulation of the clit even when aroused.4. Don't assume two girls will like the same things, it's ridiculous how different each woman is to pleasure. Just pay attention to the girl you are with and learn what she likes5. Last one: use your hands and body to caress her all around her body all the time, never focus on specific parts for too long, her bodies are sensitive and stimulating the whole body usually makes them pretty happy
Make it fun. Be enthusiastic, switch up positions, go down, talk dirty, whatever works for you guys. Once you get to where you know you can make her cum, try "stairstepping"; i.e. get her close, back off, get her close again, slow down or stop, etc. Have her aching for it by the time you plow (or lick) to the finish line.Also what the other anon said, don't let a bitchy comment from one chick cut down your confidence. It's good to be reflective, to honestly look at how you can improve, but think of it like this: would she have been fucking you multiple times a day for weeks if she wasn't enjoying it?Try your best, have fun, grow and explore. Best of luck on your future conquests anon.
>>952007048>>952007725Thanks. What if she is already blowing me on her own volition or wet? What if she is wet and trying to stick my cock in her pussy while we are in bed? Can/should I skip over the stuff you mentioned?
>>952006849>nobody bangs like porn starsI have an ex who did... We got noise complaints because she screamed so much. I miss her. She cheated on me and left me for her Chad highschool football Ex who hit her up on social media after we had dated 2 years.Never had another girl even half as enthusiastic in bed.
>>952006126You are fine. She was trying to hurt you. That is how girls work. Men fight with fists. Women fight with emotional manipulation.
>>952006126It could be that she's just being a bitch
>>952009794Its all by feel for the situation and the girl.
>>952006126>girl with BPD>believing anything she says
>>952006126Maybe its true she didn't enjoy it and thats OK. Not every girl is going to enjoy having sex with you and if you bang enough women you'll find the same, you won't enjoy having sex with all lf the women you date or bang. Its a totally normal thing.
>>952009794Sounds like she's kinda dominant and that could be a good reason she does not enjoy it. I'm way better in sex if im allowed to be dominant. Very seldom ive had good sex with a dominant woman. Try leading yourself and sucking her pussy if u want to and put your dick in her when you feel like it don't let her take charge. See if that works better.
Don't let her get in your head. If she was initiating it often and you were fucking several times a day, I guarantee you she liked it, she was just being an emotionally abusive asshole. Women on their way out love to try to cause some damage while slamming the door. Remember, being shamed by someone requires YOUR consent, they can't do it without that. You were probably fine. The key to fucking well is caring if you do. As mentioned above, there is no one special move that works for everyone. Enthusiasm and giving a shit are king, always. I know guys with giant dicks that think big dongs are the answer who no one fucks twice and I know guys with four inch dicks that girls keep coming back to over and over because they cared enough to actually do well in bed. Any partner worth their salt can tell you what they like, ask them, listen and deliver. Remember, a good partner wants to fuck you as much as you want to fuck them, if desire is only a one way street, well, they kind of suck at it. By the way, some girls are nearly impossible to get to orgasm, either because they're super fucked up, emotionally detached lunatics with unresolved issues that come out in the bedroom, OR because they beat the hell ouf their clits with giant vibrators that could be used for concrete demo work and now they can't feel anything. Neither is your fault. I've been with those girls and it sucks, it hurts the ego but the most common is girls who have a few moves they require or one specific one, to finish and they'll gladly share it. Then you have the girls who just orgasm all the time over nearly nothing, they're about 5-10% out there but they're awesome. Anyways, keep caring how you do, figure out what your next partner wants and remember that willingness and healthy enthusiasm are key. Oh, and on timing I'd say 5 minutes, too short, 10 minutes is adequate and 20-45 is a good amount of time bordering on exceptional depending on your personal size and how much she can handle.
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I'm >>952007048I'm taking care of my kid this morning so I'll be brief>>952009794She might be the one trying to imitate bad porn movies, don't worry if this happens sometimes but try to suggest doing things differently, if she doesn't accept anything different she might be the one that is in need of getting better at sexAlso about >>952016190I need to correct myself about timing after penetration: 5 minutes is still normal for men, so if that is you don't worry too much. But saying most women won't like more than 10min is me talking about my wife, the other anon is right.Also striving to last longer is not a bad thing, just don't focus too much on that.
>>952006126You can’t really “suck at sex” there is all this fake pretense around what is a super basic and animalistic activity Sex primarily a mental thing for women. So it’s about everything besides the sec you Ned to make her feel desired and wanted. They want to be “taken” they want to feel like your a beast on the edge that can’t resistIn particle terms that means giving her lots of attention being forward and grabby and when you are fucking take the lead. Don’t wait for her to ask or for her permission, don’t ask her how she wants it or if it’s “good for her” just take her like a man and fuck. If you want to choke her, choke her. If you want to slap her ass, slap it. If you want to change positions just flip her over. They love the feeling of not being in control On a side note be fit so you have stamina and they think you are hot as well as don’t jerk off so much so you have better erections etc.That’s basically it people think way too much about this stuff t. Former frat boy whose boinked 50+ women
>>952006126oldfag here who actually gets laid. Forget all of this advice. The best way to be good at sex is to communicate with your partner about sex and what they like - but do it in normal conversation. Not while having sex. A lot of women don't exactly know what they like or don't know how to explain it. You need to give them a low pressure environment to express it. Also never rush or make them feel rushed. That will kill it for them. As always this is a generality and not every woman, blah blah
