At what age did you first start exploring masturbation, and how long did it take you to figure out what actually worked for you? Did you figure it out on your own, or did you learn from peers?I remember starting out with awkward trial-and-error experimentation, doing things like rubbing, slapping, or focusing on the wrong areas before I was eventually taught by peers how to do it properly. In fact, I remember experiencing my first orgasm long before I was even physically able to produce body fluids. What were your early experiences like? Did you figure things out on your own or learn from peers, and do you think the learning process differs between males and females?
the womb. im a TRVE master debater
My 11 year old (male) cousin sucked my dick when I was 9. I returned the favour. Found his dads porn mags and replicated what we saw. Repeated it every time we were alone together for the next few years.
>>9556688073rd grade? I didn't have any cleanup, so pretty young. I figured it out on my own, then eventually with friends, Had a friend that always wanted to blow me, eventually let him. Then another. Wasn't into returning the favor, too into girls at the time. Got laid when I was almost 12, first gf, lasted almost 2 years. The learning process definitely differs between the sexes. Most girls don't physically want it till later. But they will do stuff for emotional reasons. The ones that are into it physically early in life were more likely than not abused, and they have very mixed up emotional responses. That was definitely my first gf. They are more sexually fluid--most say they're bi now, regardless of the fact that they rarely or never act on it. But they have more capacity to adapt over time. Guys just want to get off from pretty early on. They imprint early experiences and tend to repeat. Gay early on, gay for life. Same with bi. Same with developing types. Abused boys become abusers. It's not all set in stone, but it's hard to change. If you walk the path of a /b/ degenerate, you'll likely continue forever.
Was young for sure all i can recall is opening an ipad and checking safari for like stuff i was into but it was open to an og hub video (step mom and som make piece) it was misspelled for some reason and my body just reacted
I was masturbating as early as the 4th-5th grade and was definitely cumming by the 6th grade, but they were immature loads, pretty much totally clear and maybe three little ropes. At first I'd just rub my cock on my bed or hump a pillow or a stuffed animal I had (not a fucking furry, couldn't be any further from one). Started properly jerking after seeing my first porno mag and shooting thicker cum by the 7th grade. I've always been attracted to girls and wanted to see them naked as often as possible even before starting to get hard-ons. My parents would let me watch any R rated movie especially if I was with them and they didn't censor any violence or nudity on the screen. My father used to tell a story about how we were watching some 80s cop movie on HBO one time and there was a strip club scene. I turned up to him and said, "Dad, I really like watching girls take off their clothes." He was like, "Me too, anon. Me too." I was maybe in kindergarten at the time. Never got those boys who were all "Girls are icky! Gross! Girls aren't allowed here!" I would say to myself "What the hell are these fucking stupids talking about?? Girls are the best! They get naked and stuff!"
>>955668807For girls there's gap innate capacity for genital pleasure, the ways girls peer groups work next to males, taboos/shame and gender expectations, and the learned technique for reliably accessing it. The capacity is inborn; the technique is not. For girls, the gap between the two is often wider, and the cultural silence around female masturbation makes crossing that gap a longer, more solitary, and more confusing process.The raw physiological capacity for arousal and orgasm is present from early childhood in both sexes. What girls discover on their own is typically accidental and undirected. Like boys, girls begin most commonly as an accidental discovery. I know a tale of a girl who realized early primary school that "sitting on her leg and rubbing on it felt good," and she would do it whenever possible (in class, at home, in the car) She didn't think it was wrong, so she just did it. The primary issue is that clitoris is less immediately visible and accessible than the penis. What people call the clit is the tip of the iceberg, the actual a larger structure under the skin all the way to walls surrounding the entrance of the vagina. The lack of visibility means there is less random opportunity for accidental discovery, and less for parents to observe and name.On the other hand, boys often have a peer network that transmits technique, however crudely. Girls' learning is more often solitary and indirect. Learning the sexual nature of masturbation from peers and written sources is what led to true masturbation. Without that input, a girl can spend years using an ineffective method without knowing there is an alternative.Also, girls obey a cultural script that tells girls they should already be proficient in everything they attempt, and this bleeds into solitary sexual activity. This self-consciousness can make it harder to relax and discover what actually works.
>>955674505Many girls initially try vaginal penetration because that is what they have heard sex is. One girl, at around age 11, heard that women masturbate "by putting their fingers inside their vagina. So, she tried that, but it had felt weird and squidgy and a little bit gross to her at the time. So, she continued with the rubbing, and that was a lot more pleasant. Here you find anatomically mismatched to where most women's orgasms come from. Most women require clitoral stimulation, direct or indirect, to reach orgasm, not merely inserting things.A common early experience is confusion about what arousal actually feels like. One girl described feeling like she had to pee during her first attempt. The sensation of impending urination is a very common precursor to orgasm for many women, but without that knowledge, it is easily misread as a sign of failure. Some methods can cause pain or irritation. These include using excessive pressure, stimulating the same spot for too long, or rubbing dry skin without lubrication. This is a form of "wrong" that is about physical harm, not moral failing.Culture and gender expectation don't help. The cultural silence around female masturbation is thick. When girls do contemplate sharing it, it's often with a sense of guilt or anxiety, not unselfconscious pride that males display. Even when a conversation does happen, the reception can be very different from boys. Mothers' reactions can be judgmental and restrictive, constraining a girl's sexual subjectivity and her understanding of her own pleasure. I remember a girl recalled her mother being "very angry" upon discovering her masturbating, creating a lasting sense of repression. So, while a girl might feel a similar surge of excitement at a new discovery, the cultural script tells her it is a secret, private, and potentially shameful one; making a proud, public announcement to a parent much less likely.
>>9556688074-5 yomaybe before but I don't remember well what happened before that
In elementary. Used to rub and hump my mattress until "it felt good" no idea what I was doing. It just felt good. No nut obviously but a good feeling in my groin area. Can’t remember how I’ve actually learned to jerk off, but I couldn’t get enough. Pretty addicted to orgasms and porn since. Remember after my first boner, my father just told me it would stay like that forever now. I was like "forever?" My dumbass really thought I’ve to walk around with a boner 24/7 lmao
>>955674505>>955674759Thanks teach.My second wife told me she started masturbating around age 10. Her mom taught her about sex at an early age and she knew that touching yourself down there felt good, so she just started doing it one day while thinking about a boy she had a crush on. First wife said she was age 13 when she started and she used to straddle and hump the edge of her mattress until she came. Shared a tale how she found a book about sex in her parent's bedroom and learned about jilling off, and later discovered a bunch of porn her dad and stepmom hid in their closet. Said she started fucking her bedpost in her HS years. An ex-gf said she started when her best friend revealed how she uses the handle of a hairbrush and she passed the idea on to Ashley. Had a platonic friend who told how her older sister took her to Spencer's one weekend and bought her her first vibrator, but I have no idea if she was masturbating before the day of that sisterly present.
>>9556688073 to 4 years old. Granted i wasnt doing it the conventional way. I only did it because it felt good and i didnt start associating it with sex until the 3rd grade, and i still didnt quite know what sex was at the time.
>>955668807My first orgasm was from a wedgie. I hooked the back of my underwear on the bedpost and just dangled there. I though I ruptured a nut when I came. After this discovery, I would tie a rope around my balls and tie off the other end on a doorknob. Then I'd get on all fours and crawl away as far as could, it hurt a bit, but if you pushed through it, it felt so good. I didn't discover the conventional way of doing it, until I was 16.
