is this real?
>have an attractive face and be tallThere you go, OP. Now you don't have to watch it.
>>24418831Incel
>>24418835Notice how you called me an insult instead of correcting me. Curious.
>>24418831fpbp
>>24418804if you genuinely wanna get girls you just have to realise they're people too with different independent tastes and ideals. and you also have to be yourself while taking care of yourself.. shower and dont wear stained clothes or something.. drink water and brush your teeth. then find girls who seem like they'd have the same ideals and interests as you. if you want a more traditional partner, dont get mad when you go up to a goth girl and she doesnt like the box you try to put her in. if you want someone who is okay with you being flawed in specific ways, dont put down girls who are also flawed in similar ways. if you play video games all day and never go to the gym, dont expect to get a girl with a perfect defined glutes and a flat stomach. if you want a soft sensitive girl, you have to be willing to treat her softly and allow her to be sensitive. etc etc.
>>24419142You fool! I do all of that, and get zero girls! (I'm too afraid to talk to them unless I don't think of them as a romantic prospect)
>>24419142i am the girl sorry
>>24419182the best relationships come from friendships in my opinion. you cant date someone if you wouldnt be friends with them. and getting to know someone platonically is better in the long run than committing to someone just to find out you ultimately clash with each other! dont talk to people with specific intent of being romantic or platonic. just talk to people. get to know them at people, not goals. maybe you'll part ways, maybe you'll be friends, maybe you'll feel more like siblings, maybe you'll end up together. the act of seeing a girl and making it a goal or expectation to enter a relationship harms your chances. (especially because we can usually tell and it makes us uncomfortable. we know the difference between developing feelings vs being seen as a prize or achievement or something, we dont want to be some sort of end goal.)>>24419218oh!! so you're wanting to get girls as a girl or you're asking if the video is real in other peoples experience or? :p
>>24419264No no, like... If I'm attracted I'm gonna be thinking "what if we dated? Is that an option? Oh no, what if it is an option, and I screw it up?" I don't have to avoid seeing her as a prize, I get so nervous that I have to tell myself "No, it's not happening" in order to talk to a woman I have any interest in.
>>24419316aaah i see! in that case, what i've found helps with fears and anxieties like that is facing it head on. you see/meet a girl you find attractive, dont push the idea off completely. let yourself feel that discomfort. its a lot easier said than done of course but the thing with this is, one of two things happens. 1, things work out, you get together, cool! or 2, yeah you screw it up, or shes not interested, or something goes wrong. so what? people slip up like that all the time, its normal. its not the end of the world, and your brain will slowly realise that you're not actually in danger when you put yourself in that situation. yeah you might do something embarrassing or silly, your feelings might get hurt a few times, but thats just what it means to be human and trying to find love. most girls have gone through the exact same thing. ive embarrassed myself and screwed things up before. its okay. you'll find someone, you just gotta allow yourself to feel discomfort <3
>>24419375I'd really appreciate it if you didn't go giving the obvious answer that I already know but have been avoiding. I am quite comfortable with just waiting for a miracle and purposefully growing desensitized to the impending inevitability of an unfulfilling life, thank you very much!Which is to say, yeah, you're right, I know you're right, and I wish you weren't because the fact that you are means it's my fault, which I already knew and feel depressed when reminded of.
>>24418804>the female glazedo they do that
>>24419497beating yourself up does nothing either.. its okay to not be ready to take the next step, doing things at your own pace is best. but you'll slow that pace down by being mean to yourself. who cares whose fault it is? that wont change anything. hating yourself wont change anything. the only thing that will change anything is making the first step to putting yourself out there. but that doesnt have to be immediately.
>>24419673Well I've gotta admit that I'm the cause here, otherwise I won't do anything to fix it
>>24418804Kill urself my man
>>24419750pOE
>>24419264terrible advice btw, you're just leading this poor sods to be friendzoned. UHHH JUST GET TO KNOW HER FOR FIRST AND THEN REVEAL YOUR FEELINGS!! lolno. If anything that gives chicks the 'ick' because you're hiding your true intentions.
>>24419316you solve this by having an abundant dating life and realizing the whole idea of 'the one' doesn't exist. this is only a problem you have if you talk to one girl at a time or she is very pretty. Talk to a LOT of women and take them on dates even if they're not like exactly what you're looking for. Also be tall and handsome :)
>>24423494"The one" absolutely does exist, and I'm gonna marry her. The question is if I know myself well enough to know her when I see her (I don't, that's why I need to talk to lots of different women and figure it out rather than only looking for ones that fit my preconceived ideas of what she'll be)
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>>24419142wordswordswords groom be tall and good looking
>>24419142Usually in threads like this, you just get people shitposting about being 8 feet tall and having a dick that's bigger than your entire body.>you just have to realise they're people tooThis is exactly right. Women aren't a Rubik's cube that you have to solve. They want a bf just as much as we want a gf. The only difference is that they tend to be more picky, that's all. But they do want to have a man, and in my experience, quite often they'll settle for you if you just look after yourself.>eat healthy foods>regular exercise (you don't have to look like Arnold Scharwzenigger, just some cardio and light weight training is fine)>don't wear ripped/stained clothes>having a car (it can be a shitbox. women don't usually care what you drive, since they don't usually care about cars in general. they just like being transported around instead of having to walk)>a job (again, you don't have to be making a $500,000 salary. Like I said, women do want a man, and they will "settle" for you, trust me. As long as you're making a stable income, you'll tick this box for 90% of women)>last but maybe the most important: being relaxed, calm and confident around them. Women fucking love guys who are calm, collected and confident. It makes them feel safe and feel like they can just be themselves.
>>24419264>dont talk to people with specific intent of being romantic or platonic>just talk to people. get to know them at people, not goalsHoly fuck tsmt. Almost all of the chicks I've ever gotten with were because I knew I was a literal autist, so I automatically assumed I had no chances with them, so I just friendzoned them immediately since I figured they probably friendzoned me too. Then after a while they'd invite me over to their house to hang out and all of a sudden they'd start being suggestive (asking me if they look cuter in one dress or another, bending over in front of me and arching their back so their ass pokes out more, stuff like that). Due to quite literally being a sperg, the first couple of times I had no idea what was going on and missed out on some opportunities. But after a while I realised what cues to look for.>tl;dr if you friendzone girls, they tend to pick up on it and quite often it makes them want you.>the act of seeing a girl and making it a goal or expectation to enter a relationship harms your chances>especially because we can usually tellThis is also true. Only once have I ever succeeded in getting with a girl by making it obvious that I only wanted sex with her (I literally just straight up asked her if she wanted to have sex and she said yes. This was on the same day we first met each other too. But she was one of those big titty goth sluts who sleeps with lots of guys. Plus she was kinda fat. So I don't know if this counts as a true "rizz moment").>Anyway tl;dr just friendzone girls and after a while they'll figure out that they can't have you, which will make them want you.
