I have recently become a stay at home dad to several kids. My wife has enjoyed being able to focus on her high powered tech job and my kids are really liking doing all sorts of adventures with me. I am not sure if I can go back to working 40-50 hr weeks once the youngest kid is in kindergarten in 4 years: schools have really short days and tons of breaks/half days etc so it’d be really hard to manage all that stuff and do a good job at my work (and that struggle is why I’ve recently become a SAHD). So I’ve been thinking about how to spend my time productively. Here’s an idea: I (plus contractors) build a large (>=5000 sqft) really nice house over the next several years. Before my youngest goes to kindergarten I can do some low intensity learning on tons of skills which I will eventually use on the house, as well as do the things with really long lead times (buying the property, architectural plans, permits etc). After kindergarten starts, I can probably spend like avg 4 hrs/day working on the house around 180 days/yr. And I could do that for years bc we already have a nice house we live in. I think the first things I would build on the property would be a small house (mother in law / ADU kind of thing) and pole barn so I could have cozy places to work and my family could hang out on the property while the big house is under construction. In my area labor is extremely expensive so things like kitchen remodels can be 100k. I think a lot of that is labor and markups, and in a big house (plus other buildings like the mother in law etc) I could learn those skills and apply them to a few kitchens. Likewise nice bathrooms are really expensive but I’ll need a bunch of them on the property so the investment in learning how to do them (mostly) myself would pay off. I could also do the learning by fixing up my existing house (3000 sqft), which might also have a good ROI when we eventually sell and move into the big new house.
>All this effort to remain a stay at home dad instead of just hiring a PI to catch your wife cheating and collecting sweet, sweet, sweet alimony.
Your wife is not attracted to you and sees you as less of a man. Get a better job and stop posting your daydreams on the internet. If your youngest hasn’t started kinder they are too young to be away from their mother like that. You and your high powered wife are traumatizing your kids. Why isn’t she breastfeeding them? The WHO recommends breastfeeding up to 3 years old.
i had a narcissistic career mom and a stay at home effeminate dad and i turned out pretty fucked upreevaluate your situation
>>3008750Great I have a plan.First you need an all in one wood shaping system so find a mill/lathe combo that hits the medium stuff well.The you need a melting furnace lated for steel. And casting sand.Now a planer and lumber mill (little chainsaw one will do fine).At least a $500 3d printer.One metal tool set and one wood tool set probably get you $200 per set on the cheap.Sounds like it's not much more than a grand to manufacture every part of your own house for new build or repair.Oh and a 12x12" lexan vac forming machine for molds in self hardening clay.Still, by the time you buy and get to know all this, none of your family will talk to you and you'll start judging them as a bunch of disabled retards.
if you have a couple of million dollars just lying around and can find the land, go for it.
>>3008808After school programs exist for a reason. If you want to go back to work when they're in school, just go back to work.I had a stay at home dad as a kid and it was very nice. He had a woodshop for cabinet making so we got to practice on all the tools. We'd make little end tables and kid book shelves and stuff and sell it on the street with a lemonade stand once a month, on craigslist when that became a thing. We also went on lots of camping trips, hiking in the mountains, going train watching, spending days out in the city. You can raise a kid OK as a stay at home dad but don't try to half ass being a full time dad and having a career, pick one. If you don't trust local programs to raise your kids don't let them. If you do trust them, focus on your career and earn your kids a stable college fund or first down payment to set them up for a stable adult life.
