everyone below this point is going to make it

>>77240224
I like these threads, despite my utter incompetence to implement any kind of positive long-term changes in my life at all. But I ought to keep trying, since giving up is the first step towards a slow (metaphorical and literal) death

>>77240226
love u

>>77240224
true

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>>77240224

The more I optimize the worse I feel. I cut with most things that I thought they would nuke my attention span and motivation (weed, social medias, pornography, youtube etc) hoping I can find a way to study Cybersecurity certs atleast for 2 hours a day after work. Fact is that I am doing even less than before and my mind is constantly racing and my attention span is non existent even with no other stimulations other than a book. I live in a country where ADHD isn't a thing so I can't even be sure I have it. I was thinking on hopping on some nootropics like modafinil or other stuff I've been reading online because I feel so bad being a failure and I want to change for good

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>>77240224
where do I find communities of more people like me on the internet?

Everywhere I look it's either dead or full of losers. I feel like there is no place for me on the internet. /SIG/ threads are not enough for me.

I just want to talk to people who are not obese, are not obsessed with porn and don't treat talking to women like some unachievable task.

>>77240413
this

I've read
>how to win friends and influence people
>art of war
>12 rules by peterson
>48 laws of power
>atomic habits
>the art of not giving a fuck
>the art of the deal
>meditations of auruelius(stoic)
>4 hour work week
>the secret
>rich dad poor dad and the sequel

And yet my life still sucks. I tried doing that weird thing that auruelius says and started thinking about the worst things that could possibly happen and it ended up just making me sad and ruined my day instead of making it easier because those things weren't going to happen. *sigh*

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>>77240226
WAGMI

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>>77240224
>>77240226
thanks frens


I am in a place in life were most other people would have gotten fat and letting many things go.
Thanks to sig and years of dedication, the intrinsic motivation/dedication is so strong that I can keep going as usual.

Mentally wayyy beyond a normal limit which would have fucked up many other people but I can still thrive.
Let's push through this shit and keep going!

IF I CAN MAKE IT YOU CAN MAKE IT!

Cycled 37km, doubling my previous longest distance, yesterday.

Got my first ever pull-ups as a 3x3 this week.

Finally threw out all my L clothes and replaced them with M. On course to be 185lbs by my beach holiday in June (started at 235 last year)

Enquired about taking a degree (I'm 41) in the Classics at university.

Going for a Bench PR tomorrow lads, wish me luck.

>>77240413
The /sig/ discord used to be like this. A ton of different channels based on topics/hobbies etc. Met a few people on there that I still talk to. Mod just became a retard and banned half the users and then deleted the server. New server is almost completely dead.

Today I saw a skinny high schooler bench 295 for 3 reps. I feel envious, but more importantly I want to surpass him. What's the best benching routine? I'd ideally like to bench 2-3 times a week

>>77240919

You make things better by doing things, by taking action. Some of those books may help, but books can only help you understand your experiences. If you aren't out there living your life, none of the books are going to help you.
Go on an adventure.

>>77241439
>Go on an adventure.
lmao I can't believe someone posted something so retarded

Mewing is impossible. You're supposed to create suction on the roof of your mouth, in the back? And hold it all day and night? I already have an decent jawline and I never mewed in my entire life, and my tongue naturally rests simply where it is. Why do people claim that mewing is supposed to be normal? You're tongue is supposed to be normally touching your entire roof?
>>77240919
Try reading an actual novel. You're just reading shallow self-help books written by people with no life experience or wisdom. Aurelius is an exception but that philosophy is too remote from modern life to have a lot of applicability. Try reading Tolstoy instead.

>>77240226
Everyone above this comment will never get fit

>>77241710
knower

I just spent 400 on amazon. I need to learn how to save money.....
30M with 5k on bank....

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>>77241731
Shit

>>77241731
I spent 300 on a phone I didn't need (my iphone is 2 years old). I have 3k in bank and no income
I will be returning today though for a total net loss of like $40

>>77241740
Hope wish you the best bro

>>77241731

I have a huge shopping addiction too. Hundreds of thousands blown on shit with nothing to show for. It's not worth it bros, focus on relationships and fulfillment and purpose.

I'm in sort of a crisis and I have no resources or support to help me get out of it. I am thinking about taking my tent and go innawoods for three days with no food and only water, no phone and taking mushrooms

>>77241826
You can just do that at home. Not a good idea to trip when you are down on your luck and in a bad place in life, you will have bad experience usually.

>>77240919
Most self help books aren't very good relative to the broad expanse of real literature. Meditations is genuinely good but based off what you're saying I feel like you didn't really apply it properly. Rummaging about worst case scenarios that won't happen and that aren't in your control is the opposite of what stoicism is

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>>77240224
I'm a pretty well-adjusted and social guy in my late 20s who's done my share of dating. Serious dating, casual dating, beat girls, hot girls, everything in between.

I've started seeing this new girl recently and I'm unusually smitten and self conscious around her. She's genuinely so fucking hot and cool and I feel like I'm losing my mind. We've been seeing each other for like two months and have fucked several times and I'm still filled with anxiety that I'm going to fuck it up or that she's going to "see through me,"

Anyone have any reading material to center myself or something along those lines?

>>77243921

Honestly you're already doomed since your frame is weaker than hers. If you suspect she's genuinely into you then love her back unconditionally if she's worth it. Otherwise you have to reframe it as she's lucky to have you and there's no need for all that anxiety and effort in hiding who you really are.

How do you keep the will to improve going after the mania ends? Everything feels so meaningless and grey once I come down, and I can't make a single argument for not just flaking on everything and drinking in front of the computer.

>>77240224
What if I’m one of those red goats?
Is it over for me?

>look like shit in all my pictures
>hate all my progress pics for that reason
>decide to anglefraud and light fraud for fun
>shut off all front facing lights, turn on one to the side that hits the muscles and makes them look more defined, find most favorable angle that makes the arms and chest look wide and start flexing
>snap pic
>instantly change from NGMI trash to greek god (not really but the difference was shockingly significant)
sometimes it really is that easy.

>>77243946
we're all the goats. no one is perfect. we all have moments of weakness, don't let it get you down.

>>77244020
(You)’re the blue goat

New 10k PR (54:01) and new low BW (85.4kg), and a big steak and egg salad for lunch.

>>77244060
thanks bro, you are too you just gotta believe it

>>77241826
Don’t take the shrooms. Every time I did in that state I’ve gone into an unreal depression that lasted months. Hell I don’t even know if its worn off yet. Maybe just go in the woods for a few hours and turn over rocks with a stick or something.

a woman rejected me because she still thinks of another guy who doesn't even live in the sane country or even was in a relationship with. guess all I have to do is move on. man it hurts.

>>77245529
>>77240224
Fucking text didn't go through, fuck this captcha.
Basically, while I'm getting more fit, I feel no ambition, curiosity, discipline, or whatever for life. Scrolling and edging for hours every day, barely speaking to family and friends, my wagie job has made me more misanthropic and antisocial to the point where I get laughed at for doing my job and being quiet by coworkers. I want to quit soon, but this job market is terrible so I'm stuck for the time being.

>>77240322
just drink your 2 cups of coffee per day and let that guide you. don't do meds

My job fuckin broke me. I don't want a better life, I don't want to do anything with my life anymore.

>>77245716
Literally same this morning.

>>77245716
>>77245990
The classic people used to say that self-improvement is for men who are already work regular work, either by merit or birth.

It's amazing how their worldview was closer to truth than what we have today, isn't it?

>>77246000
>who are already work regular work
who are already above regular work

It's been over a decade since I stepped foot in a gym and about 5 years before that was the last time I seriously worked out. I'm in my late 30s, I'm obese, I have scrawny girly arms and I've found out I have really bad insulin resistance. The lack of muscle coupled with the excess body fat and total absence of exercise is likely the root cause. I tried losing fat countless times and always failed to make real progress. Even one time when I lost around 90 lbs (316 to 223) I still looked horrible because I never built any muscle. When I look around at the posts from people who not only lost the weight but also kept it off and most importantly look amazing, the key is always muscle mass. You never see a successful guy from from mega lard ass to skinny as a rail.
That's why I decided instead of chasing weight loss, it's time to tackle this problem head on and do it right. I'm trying to build muscle and strength now. But I'm not sure if what I'm doing is going to work. Here's my workouts for the week.
>day 1: 3 sets of bicep curls with 20 lb dumbbells
>day 3: 3 sets of overhead press with 45 lb dumbbell
>day 5: 3 sets of squats with combined total of 80 lbs between two dumbbells
All sets go until failure. Always at the 24 hour mark following a workout, I get significant DOMS that takes about 5 or 6 days to clear that's why I'm only doing each muscle group once per week.
Is this triggering hypertrophy or am I wasting my time? I'm only on week 2 so no signs of improvement yet.

>>77243942
well you can make the argument that its better not to

>>77240224
Glad to see /sig is back, it’s been a while

>>77241586
You might be the retard here anon.

>>77246459
Please, just go have an adventure. Don't forget to Eat, Laugh and Love.

>>77246069
L M F A O
M
F
A
O

I'm gonna make it, brahs.

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WAGMI

I am tired of living a safe life in the west (italy). I want to do dangerous shit but shit is all too safe. I am currently volunteering as a firefighter but nothing ever happens so we just set up stages for local town festivals and other bullshit, I started doing boxe but it's all about light sparring and people saying "uhh sorry bro sorry" each time they hit you a bit harder. I'm thinking about wandering innawoods at night but there aren't even dangerous animals anymore here, the most dangerous ones are hogs that literally run away from you like 99% of the time. I feel so fucking bored and repressed. Speleology looks cool but the closest caves are like 200-300km away from my house

>>77248426
France and Ukraine are always recruiting foreign volunteers.

>>77248426
buy a boat and sail to the other side of the world

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I'm just so tired today man, idk if I can hit the gym...

When does exercise start to "energize" me instead of sap all my energy until the next day?
People talk about it all the time but I've never experienced it

Guys, how do I fix my life ?

>28 years old
>addicted to tranny porn
>lowkey alcoholic
>Did a CS course at the worst time, currently unemployed, haven't coded in weeks
>doomscroll on instagram regularly
>5/10, acne face, get no pussy whatsoever
>stutter
>all my friends are moving on with their lives but I'm still stuck in my childhood town


It feels like everytime I try to do something with my life, I fail and regress. Please help me

>>77248426

You're on the right track.Stick with the boxing and firefighting for now, because they are pathways to more interesting life, and are valuable skillets to have. If you want suggestions as more dangerous, interesting, adventurous things to do, heres a few.
Climb the highest mountain in your country.
Paddle the longest river in your country.
Learn to sail, get a boat and sail somewhere. If you cant get your own boat, ask around marinas and yacht clubs for anyone who wants a crew.
Join the most active branch of your military. If your military rarely deploys, join a foreign one that does.
Get your passport, pick a continent, and travel across it. When you run out of money, find a way to get some.
Fly to North America, find work as a smoke jumper or Alaskan crab fisherman.

If you are a fit, unattached young man you can do anything.

Finally warm out and no snow. Gonna do some sprints and shit today. Gotta go do athletic shit in the sun.

>>77248784

You already know what you need to do, you just have to take action and do it. Stop looking at gay porn, stop getting drunk all day, get fit, Stop stsring at screens all day, and move out of your mommies house.
Go find a job, preferably something where you do physical work outdoors with other people. That will likely help unfaggot you. After you work for awhile, start looking for better jobs.

>>77248426
You should compete in boxing if you’re really serious about it.

Life kind of sucks and all of my goals seem outright impossible to do but I've got nothing better to do so I do it.
Life still sucks but I feel like it sucks a tiny amount less, even if I keep falling back to my vices and shortcomings.
>>77240983
>Got my first ever pull-ups as a 3x3 this week.
Based, well done. Hope you get to muscle-ups soon.

I think I prefer the Renaissance man method over self improvement.

1. Sculpt the body
2. Sharpen the mind
3. Create beautiful art

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJo0PyD0V2w

Serious question but at what age should a 39 yr old virgin realistically have children?

>>77240413
>>77240904
>Where do I go online to avoid interacting with people lesser than me

Dunno anon, most successful people never dwell on these topics because they can pick and choose whatever they fancy be it online or offline. People and communities alike invite them in because they are perceived as people of great value.

So why you both have a difficulty with that despite being so based? How very strange indeed.

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Looking for some advice. I'm about 180cm, 75kg,very lean. Hardstuck mid 70's. Eating 3.5k/4k calories pretty routinely and struggling to keep my weight up. Weight crawls up slowly and as soon as I miss a day or two it crashes back down. Newfag btw, only started working out seriously about a year now. Taking creatine too. Is my maintenance just retardedly high? Wtf am I missing here?

>>77240226
>>77241710
Rats, foiled again

>>77246069
If you get DOMS then why train to failure?
According to studies more than two reps weekly per muscle group already do that. I think more total reps would benefit your health more for muscle growth than what you're doing.

Though I don't believe your problem lies in what you described, but instead in consistency. You said it yourself in your post anon.

This new plan of yours also sounds like a desperate attempt, can you keep it up for at least a year?
I am certain you are going to make it anon but perhaps you should self reflect on the reasons why you didn't succeed yet some more.

Also try Keto.

Just did a great field/calisthenics workout in the sun. This will be the routine for the summer. Feel great. Time for some reading.

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roll

>>77240226
go I hope so, but my life is so fucked I don't think I can continue

>>77240226
Based.

>>77250039
ROLL

>>77250039
The die, a rogue piece of misshapen plastic, slips from anon's sweat-slickened fingers with the treacherous grace of a falling guillotine. Time slows, stretching into a syrupy eternity as the cube tumbles through the thick, tavern-air, catching the greasy lamplight on each of its pitted faces. Anon can almost hear the fates themselves cackling as it bounces off the scarred oak table, ricochets off the half-empty tankard of mead, and then pirouettes like a malcoordinated ballerina on its corner before finally, finally, collapsing onto its face with a dull, disappointing clatter.

>>77250039
Rolli

>>77250039
they see me rollin

>>77250039
I keep looking at this image, and thinking of ways it can be improved, but I really can't see how. Possibly a second tier challenge, but that is it.

>>77250039
roll

Didn't the SIG general threads and their archives vanish from the face of the earth in late 2021 to early 2022?
I am surprised to even be seeing this thread after spending almost three years searching for it like a madman.

>>77251542
Surprised as well to see it back.

>>77250039
why would i roll when i know im going to do push ups and go for a walk soon anyway

>>77250039
Rollerino

>>77251644
he posted it again!

>>77251644
>your looks will drastically start declining in your late 20s
Very ironic saying this in /fit/, of all places

>>77251542
Does anyone remember the "milkmaxxing" guide? It was a guide to increase the chest size of a woman through a combination of (raw?) milk and some other herbs. I cannot remember if that guide was ever contained within the SIG files since I am looking right now and unable to find that specific chart.

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>>77251644
very gay mindset
you should probably considers kysing yourself

>>77240919
did you do any of the things described in the books?

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Hahaha! Some blackpill doomer retard had his post deleted. I'm 36, NEET since 2009, 10th grade dropout and virgin living in my mom's basement. But I'm here, whitepilled and optimistic about tommorow.

>>77249550
Anyone?

>>77250039
Acquired Plague by Camus. Ended up reading 15 pages instead of 10. Rollerino for tomorrow

>>77250039
roll

>>77248393
>just turned 30
>have house, car, job, no debt
>no wife/gf
>little sister just got engaged
This cut extremely fucking deep. Is it over for me?

>>77252288
What's a good hobby? I'm assuming painting warhammer figs isn't a good one.

>>77250039
rolleo

>>77252301
why wouldn't that be a good hobby?

>>77252292
>Is it over for me?
Not really. You're better off than a lot of guys in that age range. Do you have a purpose you're working towards?

>>77248675
when it becomes something you want to do and are excited to do instead of forcing yourself and doing it because "you have to"

>>77252667
I just need a relationship. That’s it. But it’s proving impossible, I’m guessing the underlying issue is I don’t go out to events or stuff; I go to work, to the gym, and home. I also have “boring” social skills. I wish it was something straightforward I could fix

>>77240322
My routine is such that I take care of hygiene, mobility, and then do a breathing exercise in the morning and then I study with the Pomodoro technique and the one rule I have is that from waking up until I finish studying I'm not touching my phone, I'm not opening a browser unless its one of the morning tabs that guide me through the exercises, I don't look at the news, texts, no distractions are allowed. The biggest mistake is to allow any outside stimulus to occupy your mind. The first few times you just power through. If you find your mind racing even though you weren't distracted that's just your mind telling you you'd rather be doing something else. It took me like 2 weeks and then I didn't even crave any of the timesinks anymore. Don't try to cut out everything, just make sure you study first. I allow myself entertainment once all my to-dos are ticked. What helps is keeping an activity log where you actually log how much time you spend on each activity and whatever you do inbetween. Even if you don't write down when you failed there will still be a gap between your timestamps so you know how much time you wasted.

>>77240919
Sounds like you're a retard. Not even being mean, you are probably just stupid.

>>77240919
Same bro but honestly I've realized that reading this slop is useless. The most successful people in life will never read this shit, they just do, they act and that's it. They don't think. Retardmaxxing as the youngsters say

>>77253135
Totally. There is also something about simply understanding the environment someone is in, and making the best of the opportunities available. Sometimes people expect to create far too much of their world, when they should be simply taking the best available step.

>>77240919

Answer this honestly; do you ever go outside, do stuff and talk to people? Do you seek out new experiences and challenges? Do you take risks and learn how to deal with success and failure?

If you aren't going out and living life, none of those books will help you. The idea of a shut in reading shit like 21 laws of power is absurd.

>>77248784
Code something today, even just for 5 min.

No porn. It’s only challenging around the third day, then it gets a lot easier.

How alcoholic? Detoxing from alcohol can be dangerous, so watch that, otherwise AA works, period, full stop, it works.

>>77253314
Doompilling will not help anything.
>But you know the truth!
Okay. Now what? Wallow in self pity until you die? In that case just off yourself early and save yourself the trouble.

>>77249851
If you are eating 4K calories regularly (doubt) and you aren’t gaining a ton of weight you are either working out way too much, or you got a health problem.

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>>77240224
Positive stuff I've done recently:
>Deactivated instagram
>Spent money towards exercise equipment, weights and gear for going /out/
>Partying less, spending more time with friends who do /out/ type activities
>Have a new job and place to live lined up
>Looking into developing new skills to help me be more employable in the future (coding, getting more proficient in Excel)

Some things I need to work on are:
>University work
>Maintaining a social life and creative career without instagram
>Organisation and time managing
>Further improve diet

Feeling good but wary boys. Things are looking up but I need to be careful I don't crash soon

>>77240322
Damn bro is modafinil nootropics? idk much about them but just assumed it was a stimulant idk. My trans mate buys them from a Pakistani / Indian supplement shop tho

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>>77240413
>>77240904
Make one.
Start one.

You can't expect for things to done for you, so start a group, start a network, be a leader.
Make a place for likeminded individuals to hang out in.
Do what you wish someone else had done before you.

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>>77253333
ch-ch-checked

My biggest challenge is maintaining normal relationships with people, even just family. I have never posted in my family chat group. I never initiate small talk with any family members. My whatsapp with my sister only consists of birthday wishes. I haven't called any family members in many years. What I regret the most is that there are some people that always think of me, send me cards or random care packages and I've never even said thank you unless I saw them in person, which doesn't happen often. I don't know why it's so difficult. I constantly think of doing something like calling, sending a card, etc. but I never do it. When I do call people, they think I want something from them and I'm being sly, so then I think to myself that I'd rather not call at all and never ask for help. I don't feel lonely and I don't miss them or being in touch with them. I just feel bad about myself for not putting in a little effort and showing some gratitude. I don't really initiate conversations or randomly call friends either, but at least they know when they call me I'm always there for them.

New 5K PR at 23:20.

Ex finally collected her final possessions and now I never have a reason to see her except via our kids.

>>77249405

I don't know if you're going to read this, anon - but I really needed those kind words. Thank you.

I have had to pull my pants up now several times today.
Have I made it?

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>>77240904
>>77240413
>>77253569
/sig/ archive, all the "how to create a fren movement"

https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/ezQCgDoa

I believe in you my friends

>>77254061
You should be kind to people, anonymous

>>77254090
different anon but:

are the people saying "You should be kind to people" the same who said not long ago "he deservers to get declined any kind of medical help and he can die in the street in front of the hospital for being unvaxxed" people?

yeah no, these people can fuck off
these >people showed their true face

>>77254082
This is an extremely based collection of intel

>>77254134
they're not, but cry anyways

>>77254162
lol
how does it feel falling for the same propaganda people hailed hitler and stalin for?

good job bro, I hope you got at least some fries with your jab

im posting here trying to cast a wider net for tips and things to try. ive never given up but i have accepted that my life might just be permanently miserable.

i have averaged 4 hours of sleep a night since 2021, though maybe i've recently brought it up to 5hr/night. one or several times a week, i will wake 90 minutes to 3 hours after sleep onset and not be able to fall back asleep. i will be emanating heat, sometimes sweaty, and alert. other nights it happens after 6-7, rarely i can get 8 hours sleep and 9+ days have been rare blessings. virtually nothing has budged this needle. not fixing sleep hygiene (sleep onset is ezpz), not a wide swathe of dietary changes, not medications like sedatives or antianxiety or supplements like magnesium, not adjustments to environment, not priming for sleep with exercise earlier in the day or warm showers or what have you.
my least terrible protocol so far targets gut motility and blood sugar stability going into late evening: if i have a modest dinner 5 hours before bed and iberogast+ginger before and after, take a walk after dinner, it reduces the likelihood of a terrible <=3hr night's sleep by maybe 50% from 3-4x to 1-2x/wk. ill still usually wake up but by getting on top of the covers with maximal bare skin i can go back to sleep after 30-60 minutes and avoid disaster.
i've been rolling back stimulant use from monsters and synephrine and yohimbine and shit to just a modest amount of coffee and now the exhaustion is often crushingly bad and other physical effects like migraines and dizziness and my eyes sometimes fighting to stay focused are becoming more frequent. my recovery from any sort of strenuous exercise is non existent.

>>77254274
Hey bud I feel you, also had sleep issues most of my life until recently.

It can be frustrating to go through tons of meds but I wouldn't write it off entirely. After a decade of on-and-off sedatives the thing that finally worked was a blood pressure med and not a sleep med, even though I've never had any blood pressure issues.

The reason I bring it up is you mentioned what sounds like (past) heavy stimulant use. The medications that worked for me were alpha-2 adrenergic receptor agonists, which are literally the exact opposite of how yohimbine works (an alpha-2 adrenergic receptor ANTagonist).

My hunch is that those might have messed up your adrenaline/cortisol systems which can take a long time to recover from. I had some times where my prescriptions got messed up and I went through withdrawals, which were almost exactly what you described with waking early, overheating, sweats, and alertness/panic.

If it's something like weirdly-timed adrenaline/cortisol spike after a short amount of sleep, it may be worth looking into extended-release alpha-2 adrenergic agonists to work throughout the night and suppress that.

It might not be the fix for your issues but I hope it might help. I just encourage you to keep trying different things (e.g. the new non-sedative dual orexin antagonist sleep meds, timed cooling mattress/AC to crank up after a few hours) and never give up.

It can take a really long time to figure these things out so keep at it. Hope you find what you need soon.

>>77251959
stay true anon

what happens if i don't sleep enough when i exercise? do my muscles not regrow correctly?

>>77250039
Rollo Tomasi

>>77254442
clonidine was actually something i was going to broach with the doctor.

I'm 29yo dude soon 30 to be exact. I found this song by accident and loved, then loved it even more when I read about lore of it.
My GF after 2 years left me, i'm on first year of university as i dug from some mental hole finally and pushed my life forward.
I feel down and bad because i'm now alone but right now i'm even more ashamed of my existence than i ever could.
How the fuck i can even dare to call myself a man, while i'm stressed whit some break up and bitch exams?
A dude on a fucking wheelchair rode 40000km just to fucking prove a point and to spread awarness of his injury for next generations, and I'm suppose to not pass exams because of lack of motivation and discipline? The fuck I am at this point?
Not to mention i cry my eyes out as i write it, while having all legs, arms, great genetics (well not like i'm handsome but healthy as fuck) and this dude after injury proves that i'm just a bitch.
I have to be better.
That dude is Rick Hansen and we all 0 excuses to not make it

>two years ago
>turned 30
>skinnyfat turbomanlet (but apparently handsome face)
>not happy living in the US. not miserable, just crappy job, wanderlust, ennui
>decide on a whim to move abroad
>spend the next year getting a teaching license, apply for schools in SEA
>end up moving to Vietnam
>start lifting and taking muay thai classes. get /fit/
>start studying Vietnamese and later Mandarin, 2 hours a day
>job is awesome. chill coworkers. great pay. like 10 weeks of vacation to travel (probably more actually)
>come in late, leave early, dick around in class if I'm feeling lazy

>swimming in pussy and punching way above my weight class. learning the language is apparently a cheat code
>settled down with a Singaporean qt, dating for 3 years. still getting hit on pretty much 24/7
>got a massive raise and moved into a leadership position
>more money than I can reasonably spend. gorgeous apartment, order/eat out every single night, buy whatever me and my gf want without any consideration for the price
>life is good

I do miss my family though :(

was a coomer for 10 years (virgin). I stopped fapping last year and stopped all porn. Since then, I literally don't care about women at all. I don't think of them, I don't think of sex, in public, I don't even notice them. I did see big gains with my workouts tho.

Is it normal that I have 0 sex drive at all after quitting porn and masturbating? I thought it would have the opposite effect. But i have 0 care for women at all. It's not exactly a bad thing I suppose. This is making my life less stressful.

>>77240413
>I just want to talk to people who are not obese, are not obsessed with porn and don't treat talking to women like some unachievable task.
Gonna be honest, this exists in real life but not online. I'm an oldfag (used to come here circa 2005 onward), grew up, came back during covid to check this place out, and post every few months when I'm bored. The difference between people who are chronically online and those who are living in the real world is a giant gulf. I have a few groups I hang out with, and they are all exactly as you mention here. Online, I have never seen anything close to what you describe, for the specific reason that chronically online people will eventually take over those spaces no matter what. When you are are a reasonably well-adjusted person, you spend less time online and more time IRL; your views are not extreme. Chronically online people post way, way more, and have extremist views they refuse to budge. They eventually find their way into online communities and become the de facto voice of a place by sheer posting volume and inflammatory views. It's sort of like HOAs; no matter how they start off, only the retired shitty busy-bodies worm their way onto the board and make everyone else's life hell.
I guess what I'm saying is to try and find real life meetups if you want to talk to well adjusted people. There really are a lot of groups out there.

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ok fags, you seem to be making some effort to get these threads up again, so me and my old balls are here to give some advice to the hip and fresh youngsters of 4 chan.
Listen.
You live in a world with pretty girls.
But pretty girls don't live in a world with you.
mind your own shit, train, study, unironically disregard bitches.
bitches are leeches.
build your own shit and they will come to get their part.

>>77253990
Maybe, I hope you didn't forget your belt.

>>77255079
pretty privilege

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>>77240224
How to deal with pent up frustration and anger after break up?
Working out isn't helping, it just make me more aggressive.

>>77256049
gotchu pal
become aware that you are letting her make you mad.
this should make you mad against her but it will help you work on it because you shouldn't want her manipulating you without even trying becase she's choking on another dick rn and you are just losing hard.

>>77254274
anti blue light glasses
not those fake ones, the completely red ones
no video games at night, no thinking at all, just consume chill content, let your brain relax

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>>77255229

I'm an old fart as well, and I agree that this is what a lot of young dudes need. They are isolated and unsocialized weirdos.

NEETS of SIG, try the following.

1) pick a bar, pub, café, whatever that you like. That is now your local. Pop in whenever you feel like having a drink. Chat with the staff and other regulars.

2) Join a club, class, team, group of any sort. Doesn’t matter if its a dart team, judo club, Spanish class, book club. Anything where you regularly interact with others. Show up consistently, talk to people and join in on any meet ups.

You don't need to become some drugs and surgery abomination, nor do ypu have to master some grifters course on strategic rizzmaxxing. You just need to get out of your room and talk to people.

>>77240413

Unfortunately it does not exist. Inevitably these communities ALWAYS become petty online status games for terminally online losers. Sig discord is a good example.

>>77256250
Thanks, boomer

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>Having serious issues with my discipline right now.
Barely progressing in my training. Girlfriend is hopelessly depressed and it's drained all of my energy managing her. I'm unhappy as well and I can barely will myself to eat theas much we I should these days. No amount of rest helps.

I want to rise to the adversity. I have read stoicism which has helped in the past, but not now. Any suggestions, already breaking up with my girlfriend, her energy parasitism has gone on too long.

>>77256575
sounds like a breakup incoming

>>77256693
Yeah it absolutely is.

>>77256700
you know what to do, sounds like it'd get rid of 80% of your problems

ultimately you need to save yourself first before you can save others

>>77256554

You're welcome, sport.

>>77256947
Good morning saar

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>married last month
>just moved into a new place
>family is in a nice routine financially/health wise
>on track to officially hit 1m NW this year @ 32yo after years of investing/budget tracking
>no more birth control, hoping to have a baby next year
>just hit 3pl8 bench
>been hiking more for vitamin d and mental gains

Life good. Sometimes these threads focus too much on hyper-optimization. But 20% of the effort gives 80% of a great life. Just lift/budget/read and have a career.

Beautiful sunny day today. Gonna go train and then read after. Some course work later on. Think I will try and have a screen-minimal day.

my current diet is so simple
1 glass of orange juice
1 glass of milk
1 piece of salmon
1 piece of chicken
2 eggs
1 cheese stick
a rice ball
2 protein bars
around 100g of protein per day

what could go wrong
(manlet 55kg)

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Probably had the one of the most embarrassing week of my life. 27 khv and finally took a girl out to date. Everything went well with a walk on the beach and shit. We sit on a cafe and talk like 3-4 hours. Then she asks for a drive in the car. We go somewhere quiet in the forest and she pushes me into making out. We go on the backseat and I started sucking her tits and fingering her. Just as in she goes for my dick a fucking forest ranger comes out of nowhere and starts fucking yelling. I try to cover her up with my jacket and talk with the guy to stop yelling and to fuck off. I start driving and drop her off at her house while we still keep talking and shit.

The fucking adrenaline ran out when I dropped her off and process everything and how embarrassing it was for her. Texted her when I get back home and she responds after like 3 hours when I was sleeping. Woke up and texted her again at like 9am and she responds at 2pm. I try to keep a light conversation going and been like 2 hours. Normally she responds instantly. I think she was using me to have some hot sex since I'm pretty fit but she kept hinting at how insecure I was through the date. She saw the true retarded child me that has attachment issues. I'm so fucking embarrassed at myself. Not that we got caught because I acted like a fucking child since I have literally 0 girl experience. I just fucking hate it all. I hate my parents for raising such a failure, hate myself for being such a retarded faggot.

Poor girl had to suffer through me for some sex but she just realized there is no point in dealing with a fucking imbecile who is still 12 but 27. It's so over.

She leaned over her for a kiss when I dropped her off and I just hugged her like a retard. I'm so fucking bad my god.

At least I kissed a girl so its not so bad anymore.

>>77257537
at least youre on the right track, fuck that foid she will find the abusive "confident" guy she seeks

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>>77257537
I don't see the problem you held conversation for 4 hours and sucking on tits?
I'm your age and haven't seen the sun in weeks cause my sleep is fucked

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u can lift more than the f35

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Anyone try Hinge? Been considering trying it again but struggle with the prompts and could use some good examples of replies. My potential interactions with girls are severely limited although I would like to remedy that with new hobbies if you guys have any recommendations (I'm not looking for new hobbies for girls, for myself but if there's chicks that's just a plus)

>>77252292
>is it over for me
>have house, car, no debt
come on now, anon.

>>77258581
You have to pay for these apps to actually get matches, which I'm too jewish to do

I think the majority of you all are better off than you're giving yourself credit for. Just keep making good decisions, they all add up. Success is an emergent property of a high ratio of good decisions to bad decisions.

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I've finally accepted that the only source of my happiness is myself. But it kinda frightens me that I have no friends nor a girlfriend. And life without some to share those experiences sounds like a shit life. I don't know that to do, should I ACK myself? If you where in my place, what would you do?

>>77259753
>what would you do?
just improve yourself. Been there and done that.
I used to have friends, but no one gives a fuck about you if you are broke and worthless outside of your parents.
Once you start going somewhere, people will come naturally.

>>77259753
I bonded with a fellow autist at work over /o/ shit. He loves planes, I love trains. Just do what you enjoy and talk to other people doing the same thing because guess what, you already have that thing in common.

>>77258581
The easy secret is treat those as entertainment apps. Treat any interaction you get with what makes you laugh. Don't care what they think is funny or interesting. If you use it and say boring shit, youre not going to get any dates and you're also going to be bored and/or very miserable very fast.

>>77259313
Also this anon is correct. Girls use these apps at a fraction of men and paying puts you at the top of their stacks.

>>77257537
Your insecurity is whats hurting you, she most likely didn't read all that. Texting is also really really gay. Just ask her out again if thats what you want to do, if she says no at this point, no amount of texting would fix it.

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I gotta take this shit to the next level dawgs.
I hate that I push myself and reach a new level and then get complacent and lazy.

You make big strides but you know you need to go further, change behaviour, lift more, reduce the bullshit.

I have gotten interest in self improvement some 2 years ago and didn't do shit. It's just my life is such a mess that I don't have energy or drive to do anything. Years of porn addiction, working factory gigs in rotating shifts, alcohol abuse and sedentary lifestyle. My sleep schedule is fucked, I'm taking SSRIs and I'm scheduled for alcohol detox and rehab. 33 years old khhv. Each evening I make grand plans, tomorrow surely I will do my best and finally turn my life around, then I wake up the next day, drink coffee, smoke cigarettes, then get high or drunk. Currently I don't work but that's alright because I am getting medibux and I want to use time to quit addictions and find a job without shift rotation.

I feel somewhat optimistic about quitting shit and getting out of depression but as far as getting fit goes I just feel like I missed the starting gun and it's pretty much ogre

>>77256250
Based boomer

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>>77240224
The niggers ITT who come to /SIG/ just to complain that it's not the same /SIG/ or having the gall to act like they are better than other /SIG/ anons and say that this is why they don't fit here, really really make me seethe.
Thousand deaths upon any nigger who wishes to elevate himself on the struggle of his kinsman, thousand curbstomps. Couldn't think of a bigger snake loser than a person like that.

Yes, I am fully aware that by complaining about them I become one of them but still. Fuck people like that.

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Last night I ate 10 Knoppers
I feel disgusting

Nothing more pathetic than seeing these middle aged absolute troglodytes try to "self improve", your chances at making your shitty incel life less miserable was at 18-19, taking a shower or reading 2 pages of a book you dont give a fuck about changes fuckall about your life

>>77261184
fuck this guy

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>>77262488
>reading 2 pages of a book you dont give a fuck about changes fuckall about your life
wrong, reading has made my stupid chungus life much more enjoyable. Do you read?

>Once when I visited a farmer’s house, he served me a vegetable dish with miso bean-paste sauce cooked in clamshells—a style called kaiyaki in this part of the country—and fish. While he drank saké over his meal, he said to me in thick dialect, “You might wonder what could be interesting about living in a hovel like this and eating slop like this. Well, I tell you, it’s interesting just to be alive.”

Excerpt From
Something Like an Autobiography
Akira Kurosawa
This material may be protected by copyright.

Please recommend a twice/three times a week benching program. I want to grow stronger

I desperately need to self-improve every aspect of my life but I honestly just don't see a point. I've already reached my mid 30s and have always been a complete failure. I've failed socially, I've failed in working life, I've failed at having any accomplishments as an adult, I'm behind people 10, even up to 15 years younger than me. I'm in suicidal despair about the state of my life but I can't muster up the courage to do anything about it. I don't have friends to improve for, a girlfriend/wife to improve for, a career I want to improve to, my only family are my parents and they don't really give a shit about me as indicated by how they let me rot my whole life away. I obviously need someone to hold my hand when it comes to self-improvement but of course no one would ever want to do such a thing. I don't see a point when I know that my future is going to be completely lonely and pathetic anyway.

I really don't know what there is to do anymore. I'm just so ashamed, humiliated, and defeated. Come to 4chan, whine about my life, keep doing nothing. Suicide is too easy of an ending for me, I need to suffer to death.

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>>77262789
Difficult to say without knowing you personally but there are options. You could get a life coach, join some kind of community like a running club or martial arts gym or chess or whatever, volunteer somewhere. If that's too much you might have to be honest about what you can actually do. Perhaps hiring an online coach. Or maybe just doing 10 push ups.

Once the ball is rolling it does become easier, but yeah, it's also very hard sometimes when you don't have anyone or anything to work for. I know because I'm in a similar position and sometimes it's just difficult to summon the will and win over the negative thoughts. Nevertheless, you have to do it. Fail less over time, that's all you can do.

>>77248393
>2016
He'd be 64 by now if he hasn't cut his life short. but i hope he made it somehow somewhere

I'm 177cm, 76kg, and i lift manuals, squat, shoulderpress at least twice per week, and do kickboxing once per week
But the problem is, i just can't seem to gain any more weight, and thus, can't increase my liftlevel.
I mostly eat meat, with some veggies (not enough), and bread. But even if i try to eat bigger meals, i don't really gain weight.

Do i actually have to start consuming a bunch of fabricated sugar bomb snacks filled with crap, or is there something i'm not realizing here?

>>77250039
rolling

>>77250039
rollan

Hey guys, I remember there was a site that collected everything about /sig/, but I can't find it anymore. I searched on waybackmacchine, but I can't find anything. Any ideas?

>>77240224
Hey guys, I remember there was a site that collected everything about /sig/, but I can't find it anymore. I searched on waybackmacchine, but I can't find anything. Any ideas?

>>77250039
roll

>>77263929
>>77263932
>https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/L7RDBDBC
like the link from OP?

>>77240224
Shit I've done:
>Weight is still going down faster than anticipated. Should hit my lean goal weight by the end of July before my out of state trip.
>Consistently investing close to $1000 into my roth ira, will continue until I'm allowed to contribute to my employer's 401k
>Excelling at the new job, networking well within it
>Just got a tutor for a few weeks, will keep working on my spanish indefinitely until I'm conversational
>Lift 3 times a week, do dedicated cardio (basketball, jump rope, or incline treadmill walks) 4 times a week
>Learning to draw
>10 minute meditations daily
>Finally in a good spot with women, have a few fwbs that I really enjoy but am chill otherwise. Only going out of my way to commit when I really believe a woman is an undeniable plus to my life

Life's going good, everyone should continue to be encouraged to find their life's purposes and potential success

>>77250039
roll

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Does anyone have any experience with those pullup bars that don't require being fastened to the wall, instead just hooking into a door frame? I'm looking for recommendations on a model and I want to know if they leave lasting damage on the frame that I'll be liable for if I want to move out (renting)

How to fix my mind?
I'm going through a really bad divorce, and I have no one.
The stress is getting to me.
I beat the crap out of a hobo because he tried to wash my windshield.
How to keep myself together and not lose it?

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>>77264291
>>77240224
sigAnon here, maintainer of the archive
it is nice to see that that this archive really helps people
sorry for the long outstanding update though, I still have a complete stressed life and shouldn't even lurk here

but there is new stuff waiting, one day I may

>>77263628
One of the easiest ways to lose weight is to stop drinking calories and one of the easiest ways to gain weight is to drink calories. If you're already eating big meals then you should just be eating more, but a simpler approach is to just buy high fat milk and drink two protein shakes a day. Half a liter and two scoops in the morning and the same in the evening.

Not long ago, I did a really good job. I did it for cheap and was pissed off that they were asking so much of me when initially they asked for so little and that's what I charged for. But whatever, my work ethic doesn't allow me to half ass work just cause I'm not being paid fairly. My pride as a professional is worth more than that.
I actually updated the budget and sent the proposal to the client and they accepted it so I'm working on it further, but that's not the important part. The important part is that I immediately added it to my portfolio even when it was just half finished cause I knew it was so good. Since then I've had 3 interviews in the last two weeks, more than I had an entire year previous to that. I'm now advanced in one process and I'm pretty sure I'm going to get hired, and might even have to choose between two fairly attractive jobs. That seemed like a dream not long ago, and I'm sure that it is because of that recent job. One of my potential employers even said that he was really interested in it.

Moral of the story is always do your best. If I had half assed my job or quit it halfway through because the pay was poor and they were tricking me into doing extra work it would've been valid, but I knew that even if I did for free it would've been worth it for the experience. And I really outdid myself, but I had to prove myself.

I know it's a LinkedIn ass post but it's a real one. For reference I did the plans and 3d buolding of a helicopter hangar for the police. For an independent architect with little experience that's a game changer. Did it while working a part time job, too. It was hard as fuck but we have to prove we're above the expectation whenever we can.

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>>77264339
No problem! Prioritize your life, the archive is already good

>>77264378
I'm proud of brother muk

>>77262789
So u worship people got it. Suffering to death is surplus enjoyment. U enjoy It. It's like scrolling the steam library endlessly instead of engaging with a game.

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anyone else above 30 who occasionally gets depressed over the fact that they didn't lift seriously in their 20's?

>>77264327
I had one a long time ago. Make sure it's not chinesium conduit (can actually hold your weight) and has pads large enough to provide sufficient grip so it doesn't slip or put too much pressure on the drywall.
>what brand
Fuck if I know it's been a long time.
>damage
Apartments use the cheapest MDF trim available, if you damage the top of a door frame go down to the hardware store, buy a couple feet, cut it length and replace it. Less than 50 bucks to do the whole job and 40 or so of that is tools you can take with you.

>>77240224
I'm a high income WFH shut-in. I need to get out and meet people. I looked up events on meetup but nothings happening soon. I checked some fb groups but didnt find much, discoverability is hard, maybe there are grouos but im not seeing them. I'm considering moving to a city for a month just cause there's more going on

>>77265007
congratulations on being high income work from home

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I think I might be spiritually gay now.
The only thing I care about is my progress nowadays.

>>77264291
I don't remember it was a website but I think it contains the same content, thanks

>>77250039
Rollerino

>>77250039
roll

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Week of lying in bed and no lifts cos I'm sick, issues with gf have me feeling mentally fucked so I eat like shit. Fell back into drinking and smoking last night which I've quit for months. Need to get back to my normal self brahs.

>>77240224
what a gay ass safe space for you sigint niggers. of course you draw the blue goat as king, zionist NSA faggot.
none of you even cared to live real lives.
cheat, lie, spy and steroids is all you worship

>>77264306
>muh purpose
brainwashed by boomers, you will never make it.
break your back for massa, goy, your mind already has been

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>>77265706

forsen

>>77262692
Anon, while the quote you gave us is full of wisdom, I'd rather that you partook in the even more secret ancient Japanese ninjistsu wisdom which is

Not taking the bait
Not replying to bait
Not engaging with baiters
Or notto takuu dur baitryu as the japanese say

>>77268279
This is the hardest bit of wisdom for people to swallow, especially online, especially here. Just ignore the haters. You can even hide their posts if it's that aggravating. Little harder to do IRL but let's be honest, 90% of the people you meet these days you'll never interact with more than once.

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>>77240226
Thanks

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>>77248784
>28 years old
Cant change that
>addicted to tranny porn
Go read vanilla hentai my man
>lowkey alcoholic
Learn to control your drinking, I'm at that point of drinking only at bars and barely keeping booze at home
>
>Did a CS course at the worst time, currently unemployed, haven't coded in weeks
Just keep trying to build the skills but look for something to at least put food on the table
>doomscroll on instagram regularly
Get the fuck out of social media, thats a liability
>5/10, acne face, get no pussy whatsoever
I'm a virgin at 28, women are awful anyway and my tastes in women are really out there I like either androgynous tomboys, brick houses like pic related, or regular tomboys or girls with long straight black hair, regardless, develop a face care routine, I wash my face with sinkwater in the morning, then use cerave or somr other acne cleanser, also hit the gym more
>stutter
Talk to more people
>all my friends are moving on with their lives but I'm still stuck in my childhood town
Make the most of it and get to know more people in the town, make connections, no matter how small

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>>77264571
No, I'm above 40 and occasionally get depressed over the fact that they didn't lift seriously in my 20s. So I lift more. And more cardio and more work on mobility. Why is flexibility so fucking complicated; might have to actually join a yoga class or something.

>>77250039
rollaannn

>>77254576
I think they'll grow but just at a slower pace

>>77268980
Stroke my cock at a medium pace

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How to train for maximum capability? I'm immensely confused by all the different kinds of workouts that you can do for different goals. I don't care about being big, looking aesthetic, having X% bodyfat or whatever. What I want is to run fast, jump high, punch hard, lift heavy, be agile.
Is calisthenics a good start? I think it's the closest to what I want but I'm not sure.

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I will persist and save the quoll.

I was meant to be finished with my certification like a week ago and hunting for work by now, but i ended up bedrotting as I got hit with some weird escalating infection out of a cold and was coughing up and snorting out disgusting gunk, and towards the end even my eye was leaking some gooey off white discharge. I finally caved and got checked out and they put me on antibiotics.

Now that I'm closing in on getting better, it's time to seize the day by finishing my cert, finding work, and also rapidly settling into a fitness routine in the new city im in so I can get jacked once and for all!

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>>77270165

I had a friend's 30th party (great fun) and found out I'm going to be an Uncle. Very happy for them but it makes me realise just how little I have going for me in my life.

No 30th birthday party for me because I'm a dunce and didn't give enough notice. A month is needed to get people together now.
I want to be a dad, but no gf & no dates for 5+ years. Online dating results in ghosting or talking stages that go nowhere. Pickings are slim, most people have baggage. Low libido too so performance anxiety rears its head if things are going well.

I want to change. I need to change. But all I see is the massive mountain in front of me, and all I do is hesitate over taking the first step.

Any advice on what I should do to get the ball rolling?

>>77264332
Do regular (3+ hours a week) sessions of exercise.
If you can afford it therapy. If not, vent here.

Avoid alcohol and other drugs, in your state of mind they'll make you go off the rails

>>77270233
I turned 40 last fall and have been watching my neice grow up from a little bundle that fit in my hands to starting talking and learning how to use utensils. I have another one coming in a month. I'm in much the same boat as far as desires but I'm going to have to accept it's probably never going to happen for me. I had an engagement fall apart 3 years ago and dealing with the fallout and heartache has taken years. You're nowhere near done at 30 man.

In the meantime being the cool uncle is amazing. I'm lucky enough to live half an hour from my brother so I get to see my neice every week. Hopefully you're equally close to your family. If I cannot have children of my own, being a good uncle to those two girls will be enough.

You're still cooking bro, you're gonna make it.

>specific advice
Just fucking do something. Anything that interests you, go do it. Try something new. For example: A local monthly dinner club started up a couple months ago in my area and I spent an evening chatting with complete strangers, all of whom were women, half of whom were single and had a great time. Didn't feel any connections but hey, next meetup is this week. I'd never done anything like that before.

I'm thinking of cutting out oatmeal from my breakfast to start eating greek yogurt with more protein. What are your thoughts on this switch?

>>77270089
If you want to
>run fast, jump high, punch hard, lift heavy, be agile.
then you have to
>run, jump, punch, lift, do agile things.

>>77271101
You make being an uncle sound great, I'm looking forward to it myself. I'm sure your niece and her parents love having you around

It's a shame about your engagement but better it fell apart before the wedding and get taken to the cleaners. Every cloud has a silver lining I suppose. Enjoy the dinner club, and who knows, you might meet a lovely woman who wants the same as you through it

Thank you for the advice. I've definitely been doing the same routine and changing it up won't hurt. Variety is the spice of life after all.

I know comparison leads to unhappiness and I need to stop. But it's so easy to do and I feel far behind everyone else I know. It's daft because I know they've worked for it, but they make something I find so difficult look easy. I need to lock in and get on with something.

WAGMI bro

Will nofap make me stop thinking about women? I don't want to think about women and how I won't get one anymore. I want to focus on my hobbies.

>>77271101
>tfw I’m also a similar will never have children loser, but I don’t even have any siblings to talk to or to be a cool uncle for

>>77273404
I hear once you get donit for long enough you can but ive never gotten that far. I think my pr is 2 weeks

Trying to improve my health & lose a bit of belly fat while encouraging my wife who also needs to lose some weight but has issues due to her pcos. I switched to shaving with DE safety razors a few weeks ago and im beginning to really enjoy the routine of it, even though i still cut the shit out of my face on account of having a shitty starter razor. I also decided to stop using wrist wraps for my bench so my wrist joints can grow to stabilize themselves unassisted. Ofc i lowered the weight so that i wouldn't fuck up my wrist by doing my normal weight so rn im just doing 1pl8.

>>77270092
Very cool! I've never seen/heard of quolls before, where do they normally live? You need to get big to protect him

>>77250039
Roll

went to the gym for the first time today. I fucking hated it. too many people around.
>tranny at the gym
>had to wait for equipment use and stand there like an idiot for 10mins at a time
>took 3hours to do my workout list
>couldnt even use one of the machines cause the gym booked a class in that room
is that what everyone has to deal with at gyms?

>>77274057
>go at different times of day when less crowded
>opt for alternative exercises to hit the same muscles if your desired machine/stuff is already taken
This is all that comes to mind, but also yeah, it's why some people ultimately go for a home gym.

I've come to repent my sins.

I've been overweight most of my life. Twice I've gotten fit, but eventually I fall off the rails of my routine due to stress and scheduling, I overeat my problems, and now I'm fat as fuck. I'm getting back into 5x5 SL and my body is sore, I'm drinking protein, but I know what I gotta do to not hate myself. I'm sorry for my fat sins.

>>77250039
Rolling for it.

Wife's been away for the weekend and I spent all of saturday just edging desu lads. Had a fucking rotten cold as well so haven't been to the gym in like 2 weeks. Need to pack it in - Going to read through some of the noporn stuff in the mega

Started a written to-do list daily which has really helped me clear some work and DIY I was putting off for a while though so that's good.

>>77256575
After you breakup with her, you might not need much adjustment.

She might really be the only problem.

>>77250039
rollin

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>>77261209
I know that feel, fren
The secret is to not buy them

>>77265624
relapses are part of the healing process, they come at the highs and the lows, the goal is to try to remember why you wanted to stop in the first place
>t. day 22 cuck

>>77262692
blessed
I keep meaning to get through my Kurosawa backlog but then it's a nice idea to think I can dekinai w/o subs in the future

>>77265624
>which I've quit for months
Therefore, if we look at the last 90 days (or so), you only used them once compared to using them a bunch (maybe even daily!) before trying to quit, right? Your average compared to back when you used regularly is down dramatically.

Don't just look at it in terms of a streak, and so long as you don't allow it to seep back in, you'll be just fine :)

>>77257537
Similar here. 27 yo khhv, I finally got a date when I was around 24 and fucked if up by being socially awkward. She even said I had sass and acted gay.

>>77274614
>it's why some people ultimately go for a home gym.
tell me about it, i just got back from the gym, some faggot was using machines next to me
>notice he just goes from machine to machine doesnt wipe them down after he uses them
>hes dripping in sweat
>want to say something but i dont wanna start shit at the gym
>have to wipe down the machines before AND after i use them so i dont get an infection from this faggot
maybe home gym is the way, this shit sucks.

So /sig/ is just /r9k/ now? Pathetic

I just popped in to this slow thread on this slow board to say:
Keep going king! You know who you are
You got this!

>>77279116
Thanx

bus

>>77240226
positive anons like you hold the world on the shoulders. dont ever stop.

>>77256352
who even thought discord was a good idea lmao? theyve had that reputation since it was launched a decade ago.

>>77278371
Those are the feels bar threads
This is for improooovers

I have decided to make changes to myself and lose weight. I started this in phases. Phase 1 is over and I met my 20lbs weight loss goal. Phase 2 was delayed because my love of 5 years had left me and I was distracted. I was a fatass by choice, partially because indulgence was (still is) part of my love language, hers too. I still love making fat decisions but have cut back on many if them. I am talking "a liter of milkshake before bed" type fat decisions, we can all agree I'm physically better without.
All that said, after my workout (cardio on the elliptical) I was thinking of going out with my friend for some noodles. I always would get a very excessive order of tonkatsu ramen, extra noodles, and a milk tea. I would like to not order the milk tea today but I am contemplating getting the same noodle order. Frankly it's a cutback but doesn't sound like a massive cutback. I think I am torn on this decision and would like some honest critique to ground myself here, please.

>>77281553
Cut the extra, push yourself to feel satisfied with enjoying just the bowl. Drink water or protein shake. I know how you feel.

>>77240224
WAGMI film recommendations?

light-hearted or dramatic, just films that inspire you to do shit

>>77257537
NEVER text a girl directly after a date. It comes off needy.

That being said, from the first paragraph, it doesn't even sound like that bad of a date, man. There must've been something right when you talk for 3-4 hours and she still wants to go for a drive. Congrats on being a hv instead of a khv, at least.

can i still grow if im about to be 22? i was anorexic from the time i was 15-20

>>77241243
which mod? sometimes i miss trolling coog and i definitely miss Boo (zap)

>>77253580
You're emotionally stunted.

>>77282206
weight and muscle? yeah definitely

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>>77282315
what about height

>>77282353
probably not bro, you could see a doctor they might say differently but it's unlikely

>>77279116
Thanks for the words of confidence, fren

Self-improvement is the process of becoming better in any respect, whether physical, intellectual, or moral. It can be attained by all who earnestly desire to attain it, and are willing to pay the price at which alone any desirable object can be purchased-exertion and self-denial. The price must be paid in labour and abstinence; and the greater the improvement sought, the greater must be the labour and abstinence expended in order to acquire it. Self-improvement cannot be attained without thought and reading, any more than learning can be acquired without study. He who desires to become a better man must first become a thinker, and must read good books. In order to think, he must first learn to observe; and, in order to observe, he must train his eyes to take note of things around him. Let him walk abroad into the fields, and observe the trees and the flowers, the birds and the insects, and endeavour to discover something new concerning them. Let him visit the sea-shore in like manner, and learn something of the wonders that are to be found there. In the evenings let him study a little natural history, or some other branch of useful knowledge, and he will find himself acquiring the habit of observation, and, consequently, of thought.

By and by he may venture to take a step further, and may read easy and pleasant books on subjects of natural history, or popular science. Thus, let him proceed, gradually increasing the length and difficulty of his studies, until he has acquired a taste for knowledge, and has learned to delight in reading. Then let him exchange easy books for hard ones; let him study mathematics and classical literature, and labour to become acquainted with the great standard authors of England. From them let him pass on to foreign languages, and, if possible, travel. After that, let him return and settle in life, and use the information he has acquired in such a manner as to promote his own advancement and that of his fellows. Finally, let him endeavour to become a good and a useful man.

>>77250039
Roll

>>77282179
Any given Sunday

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Career wise, I'm spinning my wheels. I have a degree, but fucked around in office jobs not being consistent or working hard enough, on top of being a sperg. I just finished a maintenance training program and just started working in facilities, but I've never been too handy so I'm slow on tasks and come across as incompetent. I don't want to give up already, but am considering going back to corporate to maximize earning potential. Any tips to get past this AI job market hell? 30 years old btw

cant wait to go lift weights and play tennis tomorrow
i might even talk to the big tittied 19 year old they hired at my job too

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>>77270089
You can optimize a routine for:
Strength (muscle fibers)
Aesthetics (muscle cell size)
Endurance (slow twitch?)
Speed (fast twitch?)

and then combine them, like powerlifting is speed+strength.

Has anyone done like those hot yoga type gyms?
Just started going to hotworx, which is a similar thing (also with bikes/rowing machines). It seems to be nice because I'm mainly going there for cardio/flexibility training.

But there's a ton of pseudo science bullshit they pedal which puts me off, but on the other hand sitting in a 130 degree sauna doing planks does shoot my heartrate way up, so I imagine it can't be hurting my cardio gains either.

Just curious if anyone else had some experience with them. Overall I like it because I sweat a ton and at worst I'm getting to sit in a nice hot sauna for an hour while I stretch and do some basic workouts. But I wouldn't be surprised if it's all bullshit and I get skin cancer too.

>>77250039
lloR

>>77240919
Every single book you listed is toxic waste for your brain. Just fookin hit the gym and do the things you know you should be doing.

>>77240224
Very specific dating question. Not many women in my area. Currently unable to move due to work and study for about the next two years. Should I try to get a long distance relationship (as in only practical to see each other every two weeks of once a month or so) of should I just wait?

>>77287721
If there's an opportunity and the girl is worth it, go for it.
But I wouldn't be making the effort just to start something. Long distance relationships suck. If you like the girl and plan on it becoming something different in the near future, it's possible to power through it. But it's just not worth it for someone you're not absolutely sure of.

Embarassing but my poop smears easily due to consuming high-protein diet as I lack fiber. Should I buy metamucil or fiber psyllium husk? Anyone have experience with this.

>>77288235
Have you been eating oatmeal?

>>77288250
No.

Is 20k steps a day too much

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>>77288289

Yeah, its super bad for bipeds to engage in bipedal movement.

>>77281263
I will reach my full potential :)