What are the psychological, physical and social consequences of growing up as a Fat Kid?Do you think growing up fat has a negative impact in your adult life even if you manage to lose weight & get fit?
>>77361572You are effectively developmentally delayed because you miss out on most formative experiences unless you live in a place where everyone is fat. Lose the weight but be ready to realize just how fake the average person is.
>>77361572>social consequencesI didn’t make a lot of friends growing up and the ones I did have were usually in a group of people where I was the comedic relief and punching bag. I can’t read cues, so idk if people nowadays actually want to get to know me or if they’re just wanting to feel good about themselves.>Physical consequencesI can’t run properly. At least, I don’t know if I am running properly. I spent most of my summers inside sitting for 8+ hours a day. I played school sports here and there so that at least helped me a little, but I was far below anyone else athletically.>Psychological consequencesToo many to list.I managed to lose a bunch of weight my senior year of high school and a lot of things started to turn around. People started to talk to me more and I got a lot of kudos from people who normally picked on me a lot. Naturally 2020 happened and I gained it all back and magically those social connections vanished.
I have two female in-laws with MS in their early 30s because they grew up fat in a fat household and obviously never developed better eating habits once they grew up and moved out
>>77361660>femalehello incel
Oh boy, it's this thread again.
>>77361572i grew up the opposite, as a very skinny kid. its funny that us very skinny guys are never talked about in this same vein as the fat guys. being smaller than all the other kids, looking younger than all the other kids, no one talking you seriously with anything. it was just as bad as being a fat kid.
>>77361737Boo fuckin hoo
>>77361576>be ready to realize just how fake the average person is.Too true>>77361585Retarded take. You have to kill your formerself.
>>77361572its just one of the many manifestations of the systematic sabotage enacted upon me.
>>77361737Tell me about it, anon. I was a fat kid but I want to hear your perspective.
>>77361737Being fat is waaaay waaay worse than being skinny
>>77361769>>77361771i said my perspective. when youre a skinny guy growing up youre puny, youre a runt. no one takes you seriously. people laugh at you. girls are disgusted by you. you get bullied because youre too small to do anything about it and theres no physical threat. if you get angry about anything people just laugh and treat it as a joke.
>What are the Social & Moral consequences of growing up as the "Fat Kid"?Low self esteem that can last a lifetimeInceldom in a lot of casesChronic diseasesBullyingIn 90% of cases a fat kid will still be a fat adult It fucking sucks. This applies also to the ugly kid/extremely shy kid.
>>77361801>It fucking sucks. This applies also to the ugly kid/extremely shy kid.And yet once again, the Skinny Kid gets ignored, despite many of your bullet points applying to us too
>>77361572I used to be obese and it ruined me people were so cruel to me and I didn’t know why cause I came from an obese family. I’m a 22 year old virgin who never had young love as a result with limited friends. I feel so ugly to people cause I still see a fat guy from a 3rd person view. I also definitely have a negative relationship with food now and only eat bland basic healthy food (which I don’t mind as much) Pic related please keep your kids healthy and make them do sports it’s good for them.
>>77361572i lost my entire childhood and 20s to being "the fat guy" because i was too self conscious to go outside, and im upset it has taken me to nearly hitting 30 to do anything about it
>>77361811atleast your finally awake
>>77361572>Do you think growing up fat has a negative impact in your adult life even if you manage to lose weight & get fit?Yes. I mean, if you grow up in a fat family with zero healthy habits or even any motivation to be healthy, those habits become your habits before you even know what the fuck habits really are and how they're formed. By the time I was 15 I was an obese alcoholic chain smoking stoner and my parents weren't just ignorant of it, they were complicit with it. For fuck sake, my Dad would pay me in smokes & weed for my chores. My childhood homes were devoid of any values, any integrity, any self-respect. It was over a decade before I even began to realize how fucked I was brought up. Another decade before I could finally get sober and make progress with my weight. I've had to teach myself everything about being a good person with proper self-sustaining habits and I'm no where near my goals.>>77361804>keep your kids healthy and make them do sports it’s good for them.This and even if you're not religious, find a values system and teach it to your kids. Don't just think it's gonna happen and sure as shit don't trust public schools or anyone else to do it for you.
>>77361826Being born in a fat family is a curse
>>77361804So hot
>>77361804hello anon, former 320lbs 6,0 here now 210lbs at 25. last year I met a nice girl, lost my virginity for everything and am currently fwb with a floozy while consistently going on dates. sometimes you have to swallow all of that negativity and your past experiences and then shit them out. it's fine, you're fine, just put your head down and push forward with your life, you only get one go around after all.
Gonna sound like a fatty apologist but I dont care.I feel fattys post 1990 got far more abuse relative to fatties previous.Not saying it was okay to bully people for skin color or ethnicity or homosexuality but that was common prior to then and at least the abuse and aggression got spread around.Then when those became capital offenses the desire to bully didnt go away it all just got shifted onto fatties.Again not saying they should be a protected class or some gay shit like that but they are truly the last group left where it is socially acceptable to be just vile and cruel towards.
That's how you end up a KHV at early 30's
>>77361879I think it's because society is becoming more & more superficial, despite the average person, ironically, being more unhealthy now than they were 10-20 years ago kek
>>77361572As >>77361576 said, your social development is screwed. Thanks to reta I am now only chubby and still losing weight but obviously I'll never be socially normal.>>77361585Nah, my past versions had it difficult enough. It's not you who is at fault it is this world and humanity's fault.
>>77361572>PhysicalDiminished T production even AFTER losing the weight, exercising and fixing diet.Fat kid calves are not really a thing once you lose weight and neither are former fat kid legs. >PsychologicalFat kid hunger. Even though you know you ate enough and aren’t starving in the fucking slightest, body still wants some type of treat. The food noise SUCKS as you have the food noise of a fat person.>SocialYou’ll also miss a critical period of romantic relationship acquisition (high school or college). So you’ll get desperation and very behind when you lose the weight and are dateable. I didn’t have my first kiss until LAW SCHOOL. When you do lose the weight, you’ll notice your jokes magically land better with girls. It’s very annoying and can be blackpilling. BUT the flip side can be that girls like a guy who went through the struggle and came out on top. It shows resilience and that you care about your health. Independent of this, if you combine being autistic and fat, like in my case,>the situation is FUCKEDAs now you’re double delayed. Not hearing a girl say I love you to you until your late 20’s literally rots your brain.
>>77361879Lmao that's not true at all.
>>77361910Great argument.
>>77361905>Fat kid calves are not really a thing once you lose weight and neither are former fat kid legs.They come back easily with some leg exericsed and protein.
>>77361744>>77361576If you are super fat you are not entitled to people liking you
>>77361787So it is actually quite similar in some ways. Fat people often feel very invisible because after a certain point the weight becomes something you don't talk about anymore. Did you experience something like that? Or were people generally more antagonistic towards you? Normal people are cruel as long as they can get away with it. Are you bigger now? Do people respect you more now?
>>77361930You miss the point retard, it's not about the treatment you don't receive while fat, it's the attention you get once you lose weight. It reveals that everyone, even your closest loved ones, are superficial to the extent that mere change of appearance will change everyone's attitude toward you. And it's not all positive.
>>77361787This. As a skinny guy you also feel like a dork and a loser. You don't get made fun of as much maybe but also don't really get noticed either. Also usually there is some brutal reason why you're skinny. With a fat guy, they just have the wrong diet. With a skinny guy it's parental neglect, depression, poverty, or whatever that causes you to either have no access to normal meals, or no desire for them.
>>77361576>be ready to realize just how fake the average person is.Very true.>t. lost weight suddenly girls started being nice to me. No one cared about me before.
>>77361737This kinda>>77361769Nta but I was real skinny growing up. Freshman year of hs I was 135lb at 6'1", and had been bone thin my whole life. You're not seen as gross like a fat guy is but you're seen as weak. People will belittle you and you will the the butt of jokes, men don't see you as a threat and women don't see you as a protector. All in all its probably a lot better than being fat, but whew did it do weird stuff to my brain.
>>77361737I think you are valid by struggling with being a skinny kid but I also think being fat is worse. As a skinny kid you are just "weak" or "not athletic", as a fat kid you are just completely subhuman and seen as stupid to other people (even if as a kid you don't have much choice in your eating habits). People straight up avoid you.Not saying you don't have the right to complain, you 100% do, just talking in the context of this thread.That said I never lived in your shoes so who knows.
touch grass fats
>>77361930You're not entitled to it at any size dumbass
>>77361871I’m a Christian and I’d want my first time to be with a girl who’s also a virgin. Am I just doomed with this standard? I don’t really wanna do hookups cause they’re gross to me, but I might have to force myself if these standards are too high just to get some experience. Being fat really did make me bitter of women they were so fucking mean to me.
>>77361572You grew up as the fat kid because you chose to. The only thing it is an indicator of is your own moral, intellectual and ethical failings. Put the fork down you fat cunt.
>>77361572I was overweight but not 'the' fat kid. I would like to thank my young self for realizing that soda was stupid to drink but I still kind of ate too much food overall
>>77362250>they were so fucking mean to meWhat'd they say to you?
Sigh
>>77361915Do you think people didn't relentlessly make fun of fatties when the overweight/obese population didn't even surpass 15%?
>>77361737such cope. fat fucks have to deal with loose skin, even being mildly overweight during puberty can cause permanent gyno. then when it comes to improving, the need to cut first then bulk then cut again etc. meanwhile all skinny fucks have to do is eat more starting from a perfect base with perfect insulin insensitivity no gyno no loose skin. maybe the only downside is the thin wrists
>>77362031Do you fat niggas really expect people to treat you well? You're basically walking around with an uncovered, leaking, bubo and expecting people to treat you nice. No, nigga, get out of the streets and treat your FUCKING flesh disease first, you fucking retard
>>77361903Oh, society made you stuff your face with reckless abandon, huh? You had no part in it?
>>77361879>they are truly the last group left where it is socially acceptable to be just vile and cruel towards.Nah, that one goes to pedos
Remember the whole "my pain is constant and sharp" quite?
Former fat kid here losing the weightFor me it’s the fucking hunger. It’s unrelenting. Took me half a year to go down from 200lbs because it was taking all my willpower just to maintain that weight. (186 now)And I didn’t even eat junk food or anything, just too much of healthy/normal food growing up. Not to mention the fact that bring fat through puberty means I have millions more fat cells than regular people, all of them are screaming out to be filled and one small slip will probably make me worse.And the permanent testosterone deficiency sucks too. But at least Enclomiphene helps somewhat
>>77362250Virgin, slim, nice face. Pick two and only two. Like I get you don’t want to do the hookup thing and I agree it’s kinda gross. But who gives a shit if a girl slept with a guy she really cared for. It’s a perfectly natural thing to do. If you’re really young maybe there’s the smallest sliver of a chance still. But the girls that save themselves for marriage get married, what’s left is damaged goods in one way or another.
>>77362404I have permanent gyno from being a fat fuck during puberty. It sucks, but it's not too bad if I'm low enough bodyfat. I thought about getting surgery but it costs a lot and I've always had other things in life to worry about financially.>>77362442Redpill me on enclomiphene.
>>77362444I don’t really care about a girls looks. Also I’m 22 and wouldn’t be opposed to dating 18 year olds. Is it still too late?
>>77362458>>77362442>>77362404Does lipo surgery have long term negative effects?>>77362458I've been on enclomiphene for over a decade. It helps for sure but who the hell knows what it's doing to me long term. I'd rather have testosterone so I keep taking it, but maybe it fucks up your endocrine system.
>>77362458I have it too, and I wasn’t even that fat as a kid. I started lifting a few months ago specifically to try to fraud it. Still there but I’m hoping it gets better as I build muscle then do another cut. Just jealous of normies that can put on a white shirt without worrying about their tits poking out
>>77362458Enclomiphene is the better isomer of Clomid. It blocks estrogen receptors to trick your body into producing more testosterone. I take 12.5mg daily with a day off a week. Taking too much can cause permanent eye floaters, because, surprise, estrogen plays a role in the body. Some people pay a ton to get it prescribed but you can find it at certain research chemical vendors cough kimera
>>77361585This is just another wacky statement that means absolutely nothing. "Durr if u hate ur child self u will never b happy" u know what that is, that is a retroactive self inflicted fake wound to justify u being a retarded faggot. How to be happy: do what you actually want to actually do. But no you fucking people will never actually do something. Instead of doing something I'm gonna stop jerking off if I save enough seman (something) good will happen !!!!!!! Lol fuckign cucks
>>77362463>I don’t really care about a girls looks.Well that increases your chances.>Also I’m 22 and wouldn’t be opposed to dating 18 year olds. Is it still too late?Not too bad I guess, just go to church social events or whatever, the kind of places where you meet that type of girl, socialize with similarly minded people in general. If you have an active social life and baseline social skills you will meet women. Life is short and things in life are very rarely perfect, if ever, if you wait around for the perfect thing odds are you'll end up with nothing. Most often good enough is good enough.
Honestly that sounds hard, but growing up the trans kid is the real challenge
>>77362254>You grew up as the fat kid because you chose toYeah it's not like it's your parents fault at all of whatever Faggot
>>77362472>Taking too much can cause permanent eye floatersThe greatest it's been recorded in clinical studies is 1.5%. I've been taking 25mg a day for months without any breaks.
>>77362254How is it a choice when you're raised in a family that has no concept of health or fitness or any values at all really? How is it a choice when you're obese by the time you reach middle school? How can you be such a massive fucking faggot? Seriously? There are homos gargling kike cum right now that are straighter than you.
>>77362615You grew up fat I’m guessing
>>77361979No fucking shit, sherlock. Do fatties really live under the delusion that they’re treated the same as attractive people?
>>77362502oh shut up
>>77362254This nigga didn't grow in a fat household
>>77361804>I’m a 22 year old virgin who never had young loveYOU ARE YOUNG YOU RETARDED FUCKING NIGGER
>>77362583>not my faultTypical fatty behaviour. Fatties and addicts are basically the same: Unable to accept and make peace with their own negative emotions.
>>77362670He refers to that sweet, innocent and somewhat taboo love where you have sex in a school bathroom during recess with your teenage sweetheart because you are so in love (and horny) that you can't contain yourselves and the only thing in the world is the present moment. It's your first time and you've never felt anything like it (and never will).22 is young but it's not the same thing, because it's not as novel as it was when you were still basically a kid.
>>77362670people used to be getting married and having their second kid at 22yo with 10 years in the work force>>77362702yeah it's not the same22 is full time worker drone age and girls of that age have already had multiple long term partners already, not including hook ups, they expect more than some inexperienced loser. virgin at 22 is pretty behind the curve but still not that weird. it can be salvaged but time is of the essence, 23-24 is grim territory, 25+ is the point of no return. the path to wizard-dom awaits thee who reach this age without a relationship.
>>77362473So true brotha
>>77361585Any person posting on twitter and ending their sentence with 'lol' probably isn't saying anything true or insightful
>>77361572Being fat doesn't mean shit, being a whiny little faggot bitch about it does. Reading people write shit like 'waaaah I didn't have my first kiss before the age of 17 my lyfe will always suck' is just so cringe and pathetic. That's a personality problem not a physical one.
>>77361576>You are effectively developmentally delayedHaha, that's crazy. Couldn't be me, haha.
>>77361804It took me until my late 30s to get serious and begin the turn around. You're doing good. That fat kid in your head? Dump him in a ditch and never look back.
>>77361811Some people go their whole lives without realizing potential or chasing what they want. Don't worry about yesterday. Be excited and work for tomorrow.
>>77361710hello faggot
>>77361572I only struggle with girls as a former fatty, and that is because of some traumatic stuffs that my teen brain can't handle at the time.I remember having a crush on this girl in high school, and my female friend accidentally leaked that I have a thing for her. Afterward, my crush would look at me with disgust and even changed school later on.Looking back, it was such a harsh reaction. It's not like I was a smelly fatty either because I had a lot of female friends at the time too.
>>77362250You may have to lower your standard, but you don't have to hook up randomly
>>77362431Yes and I hope you die.
>>77361572So, I should preface my experience that as a child I was fat by late 90's-00's standards. Technically based on my BMI, I was on the upper end of normal teetering towards overweight. I didn't become fully fledged fat fuck until I was able to drink.>PsychologicalI hated looking at myself in the mirror. I wore I'll fitting clothing to mask my weight. I went out of my way to become human wallpaper. In my mind, there was no way to "fix" my appearance because I was fat. Ultimately, this led to me massively gaining weight in adulthood (as it felt pointless) before stepping back and losing it.>PhysicalGym class was my personal Hell. I wasn't fast, I was uncoordinated, and I hated any situation where I needed to be put in a group for team sports. In middle school, we had a few weeks where we had to swim laps - I would do anything possible to get out of not taking my shirt off.>SocialIn early elementary school, I had no friends. As you can expect, I was teased for being the fat kid. I full immersed myself into "nerdy" hobbies which only added to my isolation. By late elementary and middle school, I had a small group of various misfits and we were all "friends". By then, the bullying had stopped and I was essentially invisible.>AdulthoodObviously, this all impacted my relationship with food, experience and my peers. Once I started working (retail), I would drink with my coworkers in order to fit in. Constnat restaurants + underage drinking took me from teetering into overweight into full fat. At 21, I moved into an office job - it was the most depressing job I've ever worked. Now I could legally drink (which made me be able to be social), and we were constantly "rewarded" at work with pizza/Starbucks/ice cream. This was also when I turned to food to cope - shitty day at work? Eat somrthing to "feel better". By the time I left that job, I was fully obese. It was hard to change, because I essentially conditioned myself like a dog to work for treats.
>>77363969That's rough
>>77361572Oh boi, here we go.Obese until past my 20s in Italy.Once fat forever fat. Parent spoiled me food wise (not a picky eater) but also shamed me when fat. Point is, when you are fat since childhood, it's not you can lose weight: you grow up being mentally fat. I was obese, I was stupid, I deserved it. That was what I was. I could not imagine myself something else. Being undiagnosed autistic didn't helped too.-as oher said, skipped most formative experiences in life. Weight+autism+reclusivness+abusive parents and the mix is served.-bullying until 18. Especially in smaller town where everyone is in the same group. Past that people like you being fat so they can feel superior Conseguences in adult life: -low self esteem. While i managed to lose weight alone in my 20', took forever to like myself. Gym helped a lot in that.-super easy to gain weight and become food dependent again. Just recently i got 20 kg back and it's insanely hard to return to schedule-Low trust in people. You know when someone flirt or even when a coworker sow respect they just are checking your superficial apparences
i was the fat funny kid but dated the hottest girl in high school, had a big friend group and was a legend because nobody could drink as much as i didgot into fights constantly and nobody could defeat me because i was mass monsternow finished my phd and married a blonde girl from allgäu who's a head taller than me she looks better than any model I've ever seen and she motivated me to lose weightunder my fat there was a very handsome manI'm not lean, funny, highly respectable job and have a supermodel tier gf with massive tits, wide hips and super tiny waist who's also a head taller than me and loves me more than anyonewe also have 2 sons already. one is 3 months old the other almost 4 years old
>>77364735I'm now* leannot not lol
It's over. As many hot bitches as I fuck now, it will never feel like it's enough
>>77361572I have the opposite of whatever this is, because I reached the point where there's no fitness goals left for me to attain/desire.
>>77362639>fatties are neglected>kids that are neglected don't know anything about the worldit's really not that hard to grasp, anonand by know nothing of the world I do mean NOTHING, many gen-x n boomers said "you're smart, you'll figure it out"just ask 'em their parents will have simultaneously abandoned them and yet controlling enough (because you're a legal liability) to not allow independent growth. I feel like I'm just starting to really integrate how the world reeeally works into myself now at 27.it's over (for most people)
>>77361737This was my life exactly, I was very skinny until I was like 20 and my whole life completely changed but I’m still mentally scarred from those days so I can’t approach things in my life differently
>>77361572Fat girls are supposed to be out there being practice girls. Bitch wasn't doing her job.
>>77362250>I’m a Christian and I’d want my first time to be with a girl who’s also a virgin. You do realize that the Bible says you can just go rape a bitch and maker her your wife after you give her father 50 silver coins.
>>77361572I went the funny charismatic route when I was fatter in high school. I didn't finish my glow up until college so I didn't take full advantage but I always felt being the fat kid growing up would've been worse if I was a girl. Being a funny fatty is an archetype as old as time which probably helped me face less issues.This is all dependent on the fact that I didn't miss out the important stuff though. I know being big didn't help but the girls interested in me or willing to give me a chance capped out at like a 7 out of 10 (by my hs standards). Outside of that, I was still able to date, lose my virginity, and make friendships that I keep in contact with via ig. My only regret is the fact that I didn't lose fat and get my diet under control sooner. I wasn't fit until sophomore year of college. At least I was still able to have a lot of fun and hookups from that point on.My only real consequence is the disappointment I feel with my family being so big and allowing a kid to live like a grazing cow. I just accept that everyone's living for the first time and I have the power to work on learning from and being better than them
/fit/ will never believe it but ive always been at least chubby if not fat and still have managed to bag baddies. im not saying its been sleeper easy for me or that I couldn't do even better if I was ripped, im just saying it hasn't been that badstill no reason to stay fat tho, everything is better when you're in shape. and yes im not a manlet and ive also lifted so its not like ive been a total freak
>be fat>get bullied and ignored>be skinny>get ignored and bulliedSo life is shit from the onset no matter what huh
>>77361905>Not hearing a girl say I love you to you until your late 20’s literally rots your brain.>until your late 20’sHaha, true.
>>77365529It's not that weird to see fat guy with baddies as long as they are socially attractive.The only people with problems are the fat nerds, but even if they lose weight, they will still have problems asking girls out despite the girls showing attraction.
>>77361576Not really. Location matters. In the rural Midwest fat guys and roid trannys are sought-after more than thinner or leaner guys that are actually healthy and in-shape. If you're a thin guy you'll do better on the coasts (Florida, New York, California).Just like style. If you're in the Midwest, women want the blue-collar wife-beater look (covered in tattoos, beard, ride a motorcycle, sportsball gear, etc). If you're on the coasts they'd rather see you 8n a suit at night, or on the beach in an open Hawaiian shirt, clean shaven to show off your jawline and driving a Mercedes convertible.
>>77361576>>77363119Delayed.. yeah, haha. Just delayed. Any minute now.
>>77362399Not remotely what I said retard.
>>77361576>you are fake if you have more respect people living healthy life style and being more athletic
>>77361737being skinny is worse than being fat as a man>fat guys are often funny, confident and jovial >pretty much all women want a guy physically bigger than them, muscular is obviously the ideal but being fat still counts Here's a good example>asmongold is skinny and is basically an incel>boogie is obese and has a zoomer gf 20 years his junior
>>77367098you can bounce to normal weight and not have ton of disgusting loose skin
>>77367105telling a chronically skinny guy to "just bounce to a normal weight" is like telling a heroin addict to "just stop doing heroin, bro"
>>77367108I was skinny guy myself
>>77367098>boogie is obese and has a zoomer gf 20 years his juniorholy shit she so walled that she looks almost his age, I wonder if they are planning joint funerals in the 2030s or something?
>>77361879Fatties got fatter, simple as
>>77367098Yeah, if you’re a skinny guy you better hope to be attractive and sociable. I was neither, growing up emaciated, and I’ve ended up as a complete and utter loser in my life. Also skinny guys can’t play sports growing up because they are useless against bigger stronger guys (I had to give up sports at around 14 because I got left in the dust)It’s sad how everyone says how bad it is to be a fat boy, which it is, but people just completely ignore skinny guys and the difficulties we went through as well.
>>77367098>>77367219>>77367019
>>77367098He can't keep getting away with it.
>>77367085(You) are fake because you are pretendinf it is about anything other than aesthetics. Every other retarded reasoning like health or confidence is applied post-hoc.
>>77367527curious why fat people are not considered aesthetic
>>77361572I had the opposite effect, girls liked me when I was fat and now they ignore me when I’m fit
