It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is openPrevious thread >>77391448
>>77434224a hot woman WILL fart in my face this weekWe're all going to make it, bros
>>77434224Started to get back into running again, alongside lifting. I definitely need new shoes as every time I got for a run I come back with a bit of pain on my lower back, left side. After I got back into working out, I have been feeling better, so all is looking up. Tomorrow I go to the dentist for a cleaning and it is the birthday of someone truly special to me. Sadly, I won't be able to see them and celebrate with them, but I will buy a little treat and then try to meet them over the weekend.
>>77434224>fifth date with fwb>arcades, very fun, I’m a little quiet since life is taking one shit on me after another >invites to her place but warns she’s on her period >I’m ok to just chill and cuddle>do a hit of some weed she had>oh fuck I’m in a K-hole>what the fuck is this laced with>unable to speak or choose a YouTube video to watch >rub her hair and her leg>constantly thinking of what if she doesn’t like it>she says it’s cozy>gets close>cuddle more>then she falls on the coach>cover her with a blanket, tuck her in, wait for her to fall asleep>go home>might’ve told her cat that he was in charge while leaving This is not what fwbs do. Fuck. Never do drugs you haven’t procured yourself or haven’t tried before lads.
>>77434310Did LSD with a crush once. Ended up shitting on a kitchen chair and breaking a few ribs. I'm still a virgin.
>>77434318Wtf was your sitter doing?
>>77434224Skipped week 4 of zero to 5k, crushed w5d1, I'll do day to the. May skip on to w6. I never thought I'd be able to enjoy running.
Is there anything more motivating than watching your crush get BLACKED by a BBC?
Went to a tech interview, mogger everyone there into oblivion, said coding was gay and knowing linux command line by heart was for nerds when google and documentation exists. They will hire me, I believe it.
>>77434334>said coding was gay and knowing linux command line by heart was for nerds when google and documentation existsbased, i will try this next time i get an interview
Crazy hike planned this weekend in mountains. Should i take public transport now? Recently when i had to take train ladies have been sitting next to me or across me when you had many free spots?? Am i looking too much into it??? I was reading my book and listening to music with my headphones so i didnt interact. Idk do you guys talk with woman your age on train when youre alone with her? How should i break the ice or should i even do it
How much money can a guy make sticking stuff up his butt (not showing face)? I can fit large objects up my anus and I could do with some money.
>>774344145 euros if you put monster can up your ass. Im not joking i pay
>>77434415Width is easy, length is a small problem.
>>77434421Earn your money whore
>>77434429How about a redbull can? It's small and easy :3I can't handle the Big Beautiful Can... yet.
>>77434414>he’d rather shove things up his ass than earn a medical license Quit being lazy.
>>77434322running sucks until you get settled in
didn't study for cert, dryer fixer got here before i could do it, then ordered a part and we have to wait until tomorrow now. did figure out my all-in salary so now I have a quick number to reference for an hourly rate. got set up on Claude. found a couple networking events for september. got second round of an interview tomorrow at a non-jeet company. jacked it once but then we finally had sex for the first time in like a month. decided in those types of scenarios i will do a once a month jackin but that's it. another wasted weekend because we had plans and then she decided to change everything at the last minute and not tell me so i basically just ended up working on my app and gaming. excited for this interview but trying to keep expectations grounded. vacation this weekend into the next weekend which probably means no sex. goals this week - ace interview, prepare for vacation beach runs, get crackin on my new game/maybe revisit the old one for fun to see what Fable can do. develop marketing plan for app. continue to lean out.
>>77434224I am about 8 month late compared to when it was planned but here we are.Better slow and steady than nothing at all.I've updated the /sig/ archive, sorted some stuff, added some topics.Nothing big and spectacular. More like "more of the same".Same as always:- check the change notes- search by different key wordssince I know the archive by heart I know where I can find what, by which word and what is even includedfor you.... well good luck going through every singel folder and fileif done slowly, really giving each topic and picture a thought, then you are busy for quite some time.self-improvement is a marathon, not a sprintin the end, we are talking about yearsyou will change, over and over againa long long lasting change, an improvemnt that will stick, takes timeFor any questions, feedback or whatever, hit me up in any /MIS/ thread or via mail: sigAnon2@proton.meI believe in you my fellow friend, you're gonna make it.sigAnon files 08.2026Main folder:https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGAfor_my_anonshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/L7RDBDBCMotivational picshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/DmokwDhJsig topicshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/7nQyyRaSother fileshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/CnRA1T5S
>>77434226Good luck bro! WAGMI
last two months have been crazy boys
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>>77434436Already miss running on rest days fr
>>77434610:,)
>>77434572Crazy good or crazy bad? My shit's been insane, everyone is going bad crazy, including myself.
Today's lifts>DB bench 4x7 @95s and 100s>DB rows 4x8>pushdowns 4x15>face pulls 4x15Took last week off, therefore not a lot of juice today, had to lower the weight on rows from my usual 125 which I'm not thrilled aboutSomehow I lost 5 pounds in the last 10 days despite no gym and getting fast food like 3 timesDid notice a girl sneaking a glance even though I spergfroze and pretended not to see her when she smiled at me a few months ago
>>77434668NTA but i'm also doing crazy bad, you're not alone
>>77434224After being hospitalized and a difficult 5 week recovery I finally went back to the gym this morning. My goal for this week is to go every day Mon-FriAnother goal is to go to the beach at least three days after work. I didn't get to go to the beach at all in July.
>>77434239Welcome back to fitness! Mental health is associated with exercise, so keep moving at your own pace. Your loved one will understand that you’re busy and appreciate your gift! :)
>>77434712Fucking July is crazy for everyone it seems
Gonna do a 48hr fast since I finally hit 3pl8 bench. Yippie!
>>77434310As long as she keeps you in the picture, you shouldn’t worry too much. The past is in the past
>>77434322Congrats on your progress! Keep moving even faster than you imagined
>>77434949I guess you're right, anon, thanks.
>>77434413If you’re getting approached by strangers, particularly women, it shows that you look trustworthy and friendly. Don’t hit on them, but you should feel proud that they think you’re decent. The same thing happened to me when women started asking me for directions
>>77434486Good luck on your interview! Cite both your work and your projects as proof that you can succeed in this role
wagmii will be on hrt by the end of this year
>>77434506Thanks for the post, we appreciate your effort
Over a month has passed since I started lifting for real. It's a lot of fun. I've really changed up my life since my long term girlfriend left me.I'm gaining strength at a pretty good pace and I'm having lots of fun. Seeing the numbers go up every time I go to the gym is addictive as fuck, and I hope it lasts for a while.
This year has been a bit crazy for me. 2025 was the absolute worst year for me ever. I ended up with 0 friends, no motivation and losing all of my gains. I sat inside all day, slept most of the days and was fired from my job. At the end of 2025, I was suicidal but too pussy to do it, so I knew I had to change.-I made a bunch of 4chan filters, they 100% filter too much, but I get all the important shit (like this thread :) ).-I told myself to never (a few exceptions of course) say no. This has forced me into uncomfortable situations with people, but I think this is the most important thing I have ever done.-I started running again, I use Strava and connect with some friends and family so it feels like I am being judged if I skip too much.-I deleted my social media. It's all just people putting on a performance to look good.-I only read news from sites that exclusively post only good news.I have let out alot of negativity, lost weight, gotten a new job (still unsure about it). I'm still bad at socialising and my city is "old". People my age move to other cities, so I have plans of doing the same and joining a club.WAGMI my friends
I think I have strength dysmorphia? I don't feel particularly strong but two people have complimented my lifts this week
I am the aspiring womanizer from the last few threads.I have been more social overall in the last week or so. I even picked up going to church as a cheap tactic for low stakes social interaction where my presence is inherently wanted on some level, or at least people put on their best superficial mask there, which I want to pick up too.How long does it take to wash off autism and isolation induced awkwardness and schizoidisms? I'm not even nervous in most situations, just high inhib. I need to learn to shuck and jive like a negro better.I also have no ethical standards when it comes to femoids, I will happily exploit them and lie to them and steal from them once I figure out the mechanism that gets them interested. Its just a matter of practice, I'm certain. It doesn't make sense to me why I'd be treated better by them in the past when I was fatter and uglier and neurotic vs now when my skin is clear and I'm lean and I'm coolheaded, unless they sort of autofilter for oofydoofyism preference in modern males.I quit gooning and porn and so my tension around them irl has gone up. I fear I might get a bit too bold if my impulses grow too strong.
>>77434224New week, same goals. You know what they are. >wife's butthole: any%>treadmill into abs>big lifting, little eatingIt's going to be a short week. Hitting the road Thursday to go to a wedding all weekend. Kids and my parents will be there, so I don't even get to take advantageof that wedding-horny mode wife always gets. Oh well. We all saw I tried and failed to lick her ass last week. Still doing my best but making no real progress on anything. No giving up etc.WAGMI
>>774342242 weeks ago I broke a 4 year dry spell. That following week I was super confident and clear headed, focused, generally in a good mood. Small things didn’t bother me like they would prior.I have determined I need regular sex to function optimally. I’ve gone most of my life sexless, touch starved, and alone. The argument can be made it was always by choice due to things like being fat or too much of a pussy. I know that when I’m lean I can pull. So that is my goal. Get lean again, stay lean.On a side note I have that girl a break up talk. We weren’t really together but we dated in the past very on and off. I didn’t see a future with her, and it crushes me and breaks my heart but it had to end there. I did check in on her during the week and she ghosted me, got a hold of her and she seemed pissed and annoyed to hear from me. Could be because I told her it had to end could be other stuff but it doesn’t matter. I hope she finds the man of her dreams even though she thinks that’s me. I feel bad. I cried about it. But I don’t want to be with her. I was embarrassed to be seen with her in public. I feel horrible for it. She seemed to accept me at my lowest and I let her go. I just didn’t see a future with her and all the issues made it non viable.
>>77434572They have been for me as well but I want to believe I’m reforming myself
>>774342244 days in after taking a break and undoing some of my progress (8kg+) already 2.1kg down and no longer bloated. All meals for the month are prepped, sleep is improving and I have my goals set for the next 4 months. Annoyed with myself for letting it slip, but motivated to press on.
>>77434692There’s no shame in taking time off! Get back in gear and try again, your gains will return soon
Haven't been to the gym since June so I'm gonna start back tomorrow. Also bit the bullet and joined a writing competition. Don't expect to win but I'll gain some good feed back. Also, sadly lost out on a house in a bid so I may be stuck being a rentoid for a year
>>77434795Good job! Remind yourself that it doesn't matter where you are now, but how far you'll go over your journey. Stay consistent and don't get discouraged WAGMI
I almost made it through an entire day without jerking off.
>>77434873You're crazy strong! Got any tips on going from 2pl8 to 3pl8?
>>77434224I have to start going heavier on my bench press soon. Squats are good, pull ups are good, cardio is getting better. Trying to get to 220 from 210, eating alot of food.
>>77435678dial down training, stay consistent, and believe in yourself. I probably would of hit it way sooner doing 275 * 6 for so long if I had just said I could
I WILL BENCH MORE I WILL FIND CONFIDENCE IN MYSELF I WILL MAKE IT I had a good gym session last week. Despite struggling with a cold, I was able to bench 245 for 3 reps. I failed the 4th rep but I’m proud of my progress. I’m aiming for 5 by the end of the month. Now I’m confident that this week will be even better in terms of gains I’m starting to think about my next career month. I’ve been in my current role for 1.5 years and don’t want to stay in it for the rest of my life. I want a role that allows me to utilize the knowledge I’ve gained from the CFA program. I’m anxious about this change. I need to believe in myself. I have the power to reach a new peak. I will stay 2 years in this role but I will acquire a better role. We are always looking for new paths in life. Don’t feel afraid to trek down one that looks even more challenging, we have the power to succeed. WAGMI
>>77434413Just smile at them, if they reciprocate in a way that doesn’t say “please don’t axe murder me” then you strike up a conversation.How to make conversation: make an observation about them “I like your earrings”, “you look like you’re going for a hike too”, “how’s it going?”Conversation will either naturally continue or die off from there.
>>77435703Thanks for the advice. What do you mean by dialing down training? Is benching twice a week too much?
Need to figure out whether to divorce my wife, push for an open relationship more, or stick with it.Won’t go into the backstory, but what I really want is to keep my family together and also date other people.In a way choosing between personal happiness and family happiness.My wife only wants to stay together if I actually want her, and her as a person, not just her role as a mom. And I’m not sure about that yet.Anyway, I’m not too stressed, it’ll redo one way or another.—In other news multiple people have told me I inspired them to get fit. That makes me happy.
>>77434224This is my second week of getting back to the gym.I failed on my 4th set of ohp, but I'm still gonna make it.
>>77434224I fell off the bandwagon and my goal of reaching 15% BF. Gained it back. I've been tracking my stats, and have slightly more muscle at the same weight now. I may have gained weight, but I have gained the experience to keep at it, and gained some muscle to help combat the fat. IT'S NOT A RACE BUT A MARATHON!
I'm unable to sleep and I need to work tomorrow.I woke up early, too. Should be dead tired by now. I just think I'm kind of upset with myself. I see my wife only during weekends now due to work and I spend them high and drunk pretty much throughout. Two weekends ago we fucked and I can't remember it at all, I just recall the fact. We also saw the last chapter of a series and I have no idea how it ended. It was just some slop I'm sure it was nothing extraordinairy but still I have zero recollection.I also have a ton of work left that I've been slacking on that I want out of since it's not worth the extra cash for that workload and all the anxiety with sudden deadlines and shit, but I need to keep a good professional relationship with the person who gave that assignment to me. Still, if I worked on it instead of getting hammered I'd be done with it by now. And in better shape too.But I like to get away with it. It's cyclical. I feel down, get it together, then entertain the idea of getting away with it and end up doing it. I do so much crazy shit it's nothing short of a miracle I still have a wife, a job and a six pack.But the worst part of being an addict is that I can't stop thinking I want to kill myself. Because I can't stand being sober, because I am ashamed of the things I do and because I'm so afraid that I'm going to fuck everything up that I'd rather die before it inevitably happens.And then I get so bored. It's so drastic. Life is so boring an easy when you're sober. I'd definitely rather get away with it than go stone cold sober AA pilled. Just wish I could into moderation.Also I'm tired of reading so much bullshit about the jews and israel and all that on the internet. Seems like there's nothing to talk about anymore. Such an unproductive conversation topic. I feel like sleeping now again after typing all this shit. Wagmi lads, lets all keep going to the gym no matter what.
>>77435816I'm in the exact same situation, although I haven't voiced it to my wife explicitly. If we were childless, I'd leave her without a hint of hesitation, but having a young kid makes it rough. She's a good mother, but she's not sexually attractive to me anymore, hasn't been for years. She's not even fat or ugly, I'm just bored of her. It's tough, either I stay unhappy or my kid does.
>>77435816As long as you're realizing that open marriage goes both ways, good luck to you.It rarely works out from a closed to open, but if you start a relationship already stating that, it usually goes well. Always make sure to prioritize, relationship anarchy never works for women. Make sure to explain that you can be infatuated with someone and spend more time with them, but your wife is your wife and in any life situation family takes priority.Goes well for me, second relationship is getting more stable now. If it doesn't work out, I'll also be fine, might go for just one night stands instead.
Brehs,I'm 37 and I have had increasingly worse shingles since Friday.Last week my left arm was feeling tingly and ticklish in random spots. Then around on Thursday a tiny red spot appeared at the crease of my elbow. It grew and spots started appearing on my forearm and palm. I went to a clinic and it was misdiagnosed as somethine bacterial and they gave me some useless cream. It spreads very fast and on Sunday I had to see another doctor who diagnosed it properly. My left arm, palm and fingers are covered in blisters and they just keep inflating. It feels like my arm is on a grill. It's the most pain I have ever been in and even the oldest blisters aren't recovering yet.
>>77436322Pfizer or Moderna?
>>77435231Good luck on your goals but don’t ruin yourself permanently just for something insignificant in the long run
>>77435816>>77436116Fucking depressing, I’m also in the same situation, except I’m the wife he’s bored of and I’ve brought up an open relationship to be shot down, but pretty sure he’s cheating anyway. Not much else to do but save and leave, even with young kiddos. Can’t salvage what isn’t there. I wish patriarchy didn’t sell the nuclear family. Never met a loving one. Humans were sex segregated, caring for each other in multi generational communes for thousands of years. Time to go back (to monke). Make friends with other men and focus on yourselves for awhile (encourage her with female friends as well), maybe time away can make you interested in each other again, conversely, it will highlight your lack of need for each other and to go your own way. Kids can tell when parents don’t love each other. It takes a toll on their mental health. Don’t stay for the sake of it.
>>77435769Twice a week is fine I do twice (reg and close) + a additional (Incline, db, incline db) and have noticed it has helped a lot. Just be consistent and have a program. I didn't do anything too crazy
>>77435816>I wanted you when you were the best I could do>I can do better nowMany such cases. The actual solution is for her to upgrade herself too.>>77436466Why is he bored of you?
>>77436513>Why is he bored of you?He’s told me I “changed” after birth, but I was the same person, just sleep deprived because he didn’t help much. Not a fan of my weight gain, but I lost all my first pregnancy weight and he wasn’t interested then either. I didn’t care as much after the second for that reason. Not a massive change though. 15lbs, but I went from petite/flat wish narrow hips to an average woman’s build. Unfortunately I gave put on another 10 out of depression and now I’m here to change that. Cites my politics, I openly hate Jews and minority behavior (we live in the middle of it, and he complains about it too, but refuses to make the connection), but this also came after because I no longer had a reason to refrain from coming off as offensive. He shuts down when I’m passionate over things like undisclosed 3D printed meat and flock cameras, because polite discussion isn’t possible with him. He just goes silent when I try to make ANY conversation with him. He became disinterested in me pretty much the moment I told him I was pregnant (we were trying, he wanted children more than me. It took a year). Wasn’t really excited about me anymore after that.
>>77436559Sounds like you need to go and get railed by someone.
>>77435323Congrats on your strength! That’s the reason I still lift as well - the process is addictive. Appreciate those noob gains, soon it’ll be even harder to improve
I’m usually motivated and find it easy to fast, but for some reason, want to mindlessly binge on crap this time, my whole reason for starting another fast in the first place. I’m not even hungry. What should I do to keep myself focused?
>>77435344Your dubs indicate that you’re on the right path. Nice job not saying no and running more often. You’ll find your crew, just keep trying WAGMI
>>77436435Agreed, this is me trying to get back on hrt after a "break" which I hatedI'm lifting now too which is nice
>>77436559So he married a humble sticc, but then you got fat and opinionated and you've used baby as an excuse.>undisclosed 3d printed meatAnd you're stupid, too.
>>77434949Phew, she texted again, I'm still in. Thank fuck.
>>77436466>>77436116>>77435816All the attractive women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to
>>77436884I just know you’re an Indian because the Campbells CEO controversy is publicly known. CIA is allowing “antisemitism” and “conspiracy theories” into the mainstream via the For You page on all major social media outlets. Something really bad is about to happen.
>>77436906Oh look, demoralization shitskin showed up again.
>>77436961There's zero chance Campbell's was talking about real 3d printed meat, it's expensive and a waste of money. He was probably referring to textured onions protein which is cheap and many companies add it to increase the protein content on the label.
>>77435348Don’t listen to /fit/ too much, this place has unreasonable strength standards. If people are mirin’, it’s a sign you’re growing stronger. Congrats!
>>77436961Hey, lady, just so you know, you don't have to believe all the conspiracy theories if you want to be a racist piece of shit. The former is not a prerequisite for the latter.Fuck, I hope he gets the kids in the divorce.
>>77436734ReadingIts what I always do on a fast. Helps keep the mind pre-occupied with shit while the hunger signals get blocked out.Try a good fiction book that gets you sucked in
>>77437216Nice bait. Being a half Levantine, half Italian mutt who believes in raping kids isn’t a race, but you know who is, the (Semetic) Arabs they’re killing in the east. Try harder shill.
>>77436906>single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty.yeah pick like three at most.
>>77435361Good luck! You'll get that butthole as long as you keep chasing it
77437289Go back to pol tranny
How do I stop getting hard every time me and my girl cuddle. We're pretty new to each other and I don't want her to think I'm a gooner freak.
>>77438340OH FUCK YOU, cincerely, 99% of /fit/Just enjoy it while it lasts, anon, you'll miss those erections soon.
>>77436734>What should I do to keep myself focused?It's probably triggered by something (going into the house at a certain time, sitting in the same chair all the time at the same time, etc). Habits you do every day, and it's triggering your hunger. Easiest way is to break the habit cycle by doing something completely different. Go sit somewhere you never sat before, and do something like >>77437258reading. Or pick up something random (something that involves creating, not passive watching), and again, move yourself physically to a place you normally don't go, whether that's outside or just another room you never use. You're basically trying to remove the familiarity of where you are/were/what you were doing when you were binging before.
>>77438340It's unavoidable. You won't be seen as a gooner from having a boner. You WILL be seen as a gooner based on your actions. As long as your actions are mature, there isn't shit you can do about it, and be honest if it comes up/is obvious. No problem being open and playful about it if you are dating.>>77438357I kinda get what you are saying, when I was young I would bust with just barely a touch sometimes, but you shouldn't be having erection problems until you are like 70 lol. I can say that being obese/inactive made my erections suck, but getting fit again made them rage back harder than before.
>>77438340Decent chance she likes it. I had the same worry a million years ago with my first GF, turns out she was a turbo-nympho and loved it.
>>77435396Congrats on realizing what you need! Now that you have a goal, the process will give you direction and an outline of what you need to become
>>77438506Everyone likes it. Imagine if any time you cuddled your woman she told you how wet it made her. It’s the same thing, except you don’t even have to say it.I miss having young man’s test levels
Been so busy I forgot to be horny, so now I am on a 6 day nofap streak.
>>77435512Mistakes happen. What matters is you’re addressing them now. You have plenty of goals and preparation, you’re gonna make it
>>77434506>updateHOLY BASED
>>77435552There’s no time like the present to try again. Good luck in your competition! Even if you don’t win, you’ll learn and improve. Besides, getting to express yourself is pretty cool
>>77436322>bacterialRIP, it’s necrotising fasciitis
>>77436902Or maybe not. Oh well.
>>77439129True and I appreciate it, anon. Spent over a decade keeping my writing to myself or being a part of some group collaboration that fell apart. It'll feel great to have something actually out there.
>>77435615There’ll always be another day to try again. Good luck
If I JUST had just a long and sometimes violent blowjob and came on her mouth, did I actually have sex?
>>77435695Good luck on your bench press! You’ll be hitting 2pl8 soon
>fwb has a birthday>and a vacation>leaves on Saturday for a week>suggest we meet up>even bought a small token gift>promises to text when she's available >never doesOh well, I guess I'm not giving it to her then. Wasn't sure gifts were a thing to do with fwbs anyway.
>>77434334I did this at a McDonalds interview once
>>77440856I mean, this is where I'm headed most likely too.
>>77435816Stay with her for the sake of your kids
>>77440859Still better than the job I was laid off from. The company hired one of them Ubisoft rapist execs from that 2020 scandal and the second I started asking questions they laid both me and my boss off.At least Ronald McDonald hasn't raped anyone.
>>77435348Same here. I don't have body dysmorphia and im not vain so I dont ever look at myself that much, but ive had a lot of people telling me i look big lately. Feels like I finally made it. Sobriety fuckin rules.
>>77435834Trust in the process. As long as you continue lifting, you’ll reach your goals. You’ll get the 4th set in due time
>>77435816>what I really want is to keep my family together and also date other peopleYou know you can't have both. You're either a piece of shit who destroys his children for a piece of strange pussy or you're not.
>>77435839Exactly. The race is far from being over. Apply what you've learned from this chapter, you're already in a better position than previously. WAGMI
>>77441464Open relationships work, but I’ve almost never seen them work any way other than from the beginning of the relationship.
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>>77435816I'll just tell you right now, leaving out the morality of your decisions, you have already done serious irreparable harm to your marriage and family by broaching this subject. If you stay with your wife and family, this fight will be something that is always there. It may heal with time but the scar will be present. If you DO decide to go through with an open marriage, you should know now that your family is effectively over. You will learn almost immediately that however fit or rich you are compared to your wife, the world will embrace and accept her ten times faster. Not only will she always have wildly more options in dating and sex, but she will receive the support of family, friends, and community. Even if at this point *she* initiates the divorce. On a personal level, what has been communicated to her is not "We are two sexual beings who should achieve maximum sexual self-actualization!" Instead you have communicated, "The foundation of this family is not enough for me, and I want you to remain as a mother and servant in this family while I get some pussy and work a job." You will not spend time with your kids. Even if you get 50/50 custody, that means you will not see your kids 50% of the time. Yes you will be at ball games and important moments, and that counts, but it is not the same as being there at the end of the day. A lifetime of love and family is built in small daily moments, the dumb jokes, the dinners, the act of living together. Know that additionally, whether you are a single or dual income household, your children's financial situation will get much tougher. Parents will now be paying more for housing, 2 sets of utility bills, stretching resources even further. Finally, you will discover that as a now divorced father juggling work, custody battles, trade off and scheduling with the kids, and probably spending more on bills, your fuckability is gonna drop way down.Try to fix your marriage, or get divorced.
>>77442279Anon, chances are he'll bang some 3/10 slut then freak out when his wife starts dating.
>>77442362Reading the actual stories of "I regret opening up my marriage", 95% chance he can't get a single person to hook up with him, while his wife gets fucked left and right and realized there are way better, more charming, positive, good looking people out there who are way better at sex. She'll be fucking glowing with her new lease on life while he's desperately swiping on tinder, trying to get at least one person to respond. The amount of stories I read saying "well I thought I'd be banging women but I can't even get a single one to respond to me while she has 3 dates this week" is insane.
>>77442279>>77442362>>77442505The moral of the story is - just cheat on her. Do not try to discuss anything, do not try to get her to change, do not suggest open relationship. Just cheat. Even the fattest and ugliest woman can get pumped and dumped at will in modern society. Cheating on her is the only way to save your dignity and your children's happiness. If she didn't want to get cheated on, she should have kept herself sexually desirable for you. Besides, if she wasn't a virgin when you met her, then she doesn't deserve to be treated as a human being anyway. Cheating on her is the morally and ethically right thing to do.
>>77435973You’re an incredible person for accomplishing all those feats! Be proud of how much you have going for you. Don’t kill yourself, you have way too much going for you. Honestly it sounds like you need a break or a drastic change in your life. Let’s keep pushing forward. WAGMI
>>77442505Maybe don't draw life experiences from things you read on the internet? Finding a woman, many women even, is piss easy if you're /fit/ and not a jeet.>>77442547Oh look, another woman-hating incel arrived
>>77442735you're out of your fucking mind if you think opening a marriage won't fuck over the male way more than the female esp the avg boomer married 4channer. I also don't encourage cheating.If you've lost all attraction to your wife, you need to get offline and stop masturbating until she starts at least looking fuckable.
>>77442745>I also don't encourage cheating>tells the guy to cheatYeah, anon, you're retarded and bitter. Granted, so is the guy, but still.
Today's lifts>Pause squats 3x5>RDLs 4x7>lunges 3x15>leg raises 3x15Felt compelled to do a second lower body this week for some reasonAccording to the gym scale I've officially lost 30 pounds since mid AprilGonna chill with cutting for a little bit, starting to see buffalo tendie subs in my sleepWAGMI
>>77442765i'm not the same guy who said to cheat shitskin. or you just have no ability to read
>>77443042Then why the fuck are you replying, jeet?
>>77436486Thanks for the tips. I might add closegrip benching to my routine
Apparently I was getting mired by one of my sisters friends at dinner last night :)I’m much too old to do anything with it, and I think it’d make things weird with my sister and her friend, but whatever I’m doing is working and I still got it baby
“Let's suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream that you wanted to dream. And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time. Or any length of time you wanted to have. And you would, naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes. You would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say "Well, that was pretty great." But now let's have a surprise. Let's have a dream which isn't under control. Where something is gonna happen to me that I don't know what it's going to be. And you would dig that and come out of that and say "Wow, that was a close shave, wasn't it?" And then you would get more and more adventurous, and you would make further and further out gambles as to what you would dream. And finally, you would dream ... where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today.”
>>77438610Congrats! Stay strong
It's funny as fuck these threads are half NEETs scared of their own shadow crying that they can't stop masturbating and half are the "I WANT TO CHEAT ON MY WIFE SOOOOO BAD" guys
>>77440469Oral sex is still sex. Celebrate your win
>>77442735>Oh look, another woman-hating incel arrivedUnlike you, I'm a husband and a father. You're a reproductive failure who will never have children. I restate my advice: just cheat on her. It's the only way to save your kids' happiness. Don't listen to the bitter losers like the one quoted above and cheat. It's the morally right thing to do - your kids come first, you come close second and your wife a distant third. Women must simply accept a man cheating on them is part and parcel of modern relationships. They made their bed, now they get to lay in it.
>>77444077>husband and father>tells people to cheatThis is sabotage btw. This is a lying, woman-hating brownoid kike incel trying to sabotage the guy's marriage due to his hatred of women.
>>77443601Yeah, no idea if this is just the nature of these threads, but I thought I'd come in to see some cool motivated people and their stories. Instead it's this weird shit lol.I'll add my life: I'm old (came here circa 2005 as a teen), went from NEET to fit to fucking around in college to now having an amazing life. 20s were shit and I got fat, now mid 30s and I'm finally getting fit again, which led to here. I homebrew beer which is now at odds with my fitness, so I'm ramping that down to just a few beers during the weekend.It's surprisingly not too hard to get back into lifting again. I notice I take about 2x as long to recover, but it's not really a big deal.>>77434224>What are your goals for this week?Picked up sewing as a new hobby, it's actually goddamn awesome. Wife and I are tailoring all of our clothes on her grandma's old-ass handmedown singer. I looked it up, made in 1940s. Pretty cool, and it still works like a charm.I've been dropping weight and it sucks to get new clothes, so being able to tailor my old shit every few months is a nice change. We also cosplay, and both of us gained like 25lbs over the past few years, so we are targeting a January con to hit our target weight, it's a great motivator.For cardio, it's been a game changer to get a stationary bike. We take turns on it while watching anime/movies most evening, it's been great. Since cooking is my second favorite hobby next to gardening, I've been able to control both of our meals, so shit is awesome.Life's good, we are on track, just wanted to share something here that's not a pile of shit lol.
>>77440841Sorry bro but use this experience as motivation to actually get a gf who cares about you
>>77444634Well see that's where fwb and gf are different. No obligations. You're not owed shit until you've agreed on it. Apparently that's how dating is in 2026.As long as there's sex when she gets back, I guess.
>>77443031Congrats on losing 30 pounds in such a short period, you're killing it! WAGMI
>>77434224As an adult, 16 years ago I lost a lot of weight and got fit. However, I am middle aged now, and with some injuries and the necessities of adult life, I don't have lots of free time to focus on exercising and I work more on long term health rather than becoming huge. So since Christmas 2025 I've been walking and putting in the steps every day, watching what I eat, still hitting the gym but not obsessively. I've lost 20 lbs since Christmas, and with 2 more lbs off I will be at a normal BMI for the first time since middle school. So the goal is to maintain my 10K steps, gym 4 times this week.On the professional level, my mentee will be with me at work tomorrow. I'm trying to give guidance on finding him a job. I've given much better effort than I ever received from my own mentor, but some of the difficulty is that he is geographically limited in where he's applying. So we are also working on improving some of his technical skills, again training that I never received. Finally, I will be starting league volleyball again.
>>77446307That's great anon. What sort of mentor program are you part of, is that like a volunteer thing? Sounds like something I could use.
>>77435816It's a serious, grave sin. If you have anything left of a concioussness, you really should listen to it and try to not detroy your familily for a fleeting sensation of lust.
>>77444634Eh, she finally woke up and texted back after she arrived at her vacation destination. Never addressed not replying but sent a picture of a drawing she did while ghosting. Pretty good one too, she's talented.Fuck, fwb type relationships are weird. Oh well, she's too hot not to pursue.
>>77443243Congrats on your mire'!
I have to go to a birthday later for my cousin I hate going over thereI think he (cousin) is a fucking stupid spoiled rich brat and seeing him get thousands of dollars worth of gifts just chaps my assEspecially since my birthday was last week and I didnt get jack shit for it, not even a party let alone presents let alone expensive presents
>>77446706Will there be girls?Are you big enough to mog?
>>77446706Sour grapes are a bad look on anyone anon.Let go of your bitterness and try to have some fun. If you think you deserve more, then seek more, don't poison your soul with unproductive envy. Especially directed at your own family.
>>77446706Unless you're seven, you're not supposed to care about shit like that. Grow up.Jesus Christ.
>>77446733>make a single anonymous post>OMG WHY DO YOU CARE SO MUCH GROW UP JESUS CHRIST
>>77446761Defensive much?
>>77446764>instant responseNo need to get so defensiveCalm down Why do you care so muchJesus christ
>>77446769>keeps throwing a tantrumI truly hope you're a child. Because if you're an adult I have nothing but pity for you or people in your life.
I AM SICK OF LEARNED HELPLESSNESS. I WILL FIGHT AGAIN, BUT THIS TIME I WILL WIN!
>>77446792>so assblasted he waited 10 minutes to avoid responding instantly againIf the evidence for me throwing a tantrum is that I said the same thing to you as you did to me, then what were you doing itt besides throwing a tantrum?
I’ve been working a lot and haven’t gone out much, so I’ve saved up a decent amount of money and feel physically great. I’ve had a few beers here and there, but not much else. And even then, I was usually back home early enough to stick to my sleep schedule. I’m also making great progress on a few personal projects. My back is almost completely back to normal after a herniated disc, I even did barbell rows today, which had been completely off-limits for years. The only downside is that I haven’t been seeing my friends much lately, but that’s exactly what makes it so easy for me to focus on work instead of getting drunk.
This weeks goals.Continue SS:Deadlift 90kgOHP 35kgSquat 65kgHit my dietary intake spot on daily. Continue my now month long steady pace forwards/upwards. Weak as shit but happy with the consistency.
>>77446939>The only downside is that I haven’t been seeing my friends much lately,Be mindful that you don't alienate yourself from them. There is a risk that you slowly lock yourself away in your own productive safe space to avoid dealing with the real world.
>>77446948True, but actually they were the ones who started ghosting me, and I just went along with it. I try sporadically, but I haven't been able to get ahold of 2 of my buddies in weeks.
>>77446930nta but holy fuck are you a bitch
>>77443310Post the actual version :)
>>77446706>>77446930do you know why every proper man does not celebrate his birthday?because we only celebrate stuff we truly accomplishes by ourself, stuff we worked for and not got given.celebrating the own birthday is for children and women
>>77434506thank you /sig/anon
>>77444579Sewing is a pretty good hobby, it'll save you money and help with your cosplay hobby. Good luck with your weight loss, it's important that you've found something to motivate you!
Another week to try again :) WAGMI
>It's another being on the verge of a burnout but still holding on for dear life episodefucking hell
>>77448835Don't do what I did. Definitely don't start shit at work and get fired. Turns out being unemployed does NOT grant you peace and quiet at all.
>>77446865LEARN TO BATTLE FATE AND YOUR STRUGGLES WILL LEAD TO TRIUMPH
>>77448835Stay strong! Work is difficult but it’s better than the alternative. Calm down and breathe
>>77434224i stopped vaping and my ED went away. I still rip cigs but it's much less nicotine. I was vaping so much that I couldn't get hard without actual porn. now I can crank it from pictures or memory and multiple times a day. moving soon and am excited/nervous about it. moving to a more high traffic & walkable area in my city. some aspects will be huge improvements and some will be not ideal. running after every lift day and sometimes on off days. now time to go back to drinking less to get lean again. nic was nice for suppressing appetite, I can't lie but I'd rather be hungry than be a dicklet
>>77446944Good luck with your goals! Dont feel discouraged, everyone starts someone. What matters is how strong you’ll grow to be
I have money problems but I really don't want to get a job again. Just thinking about it makes my gut swirl in agony. Should I be an adult and just swallow the cortisol?
>>77448890It doesn't? It did for me. The looming truckload of shit of the future is closing in but men if these haven't been some chill 2 months after getting laid of
>>77449081what are the other options? no one wants to work, but it is really a natural part of life.
aaaah chest monday. god bless you all bros
>>77449097I have a steady source of income for the next year and a half. It's rather enough for my livelihood but not for the other shit (debts, helping my family, traveling and luxury etc). I could just stop giving a shit about all that and just wait till the train hits me when the time comes. Or just kill myself then
Today's lifts>DB bench 3x5,3,6 @ 110s>DB row 3x9 @ 125>Pushdowns 4x15>Face pulls 4x20Bretty gud dayDB Bench was weird, my goal was 3x5. I could have easily gotten 6 or more on the first set but stopped so I didn't hit the wall too early. But midway through the second set my right hand randomly started floating up toward my ear so had to dump them. Then got a solid 6 after waiting five minutes. Once I can get an official 3x5 I'll give the 115s a shot3x9 failure-free rows is a PR on my left arm I'm pretty sure, left hand grip was really good today, doing DB instead of barbell bench had been compromising it a littleI ate two and a half bowls of picrel before the gym today plus two bananas, maybe that's the keyThank you for reading
It's really hard to get out of the incel mindset when everyone in your life is still butt fucking retarded. Watching these self videos where it's not some Andrew Tate clone calling all women demons or some fat dyke calling all men demons was an eye opener, but not in the "Eureka!" Type of way, more of "I've literally been saying this shit and doing this shit for years only to fail hard each time and everyone in my life calling me gay and going out of their way to punish me because I wanted a healthy and supportive life".I wish it was more motivational given that I've been proven right, but after spending years getting shit on and seeing everyone do the opposite to much bigger success is still disheartening, specially now since all of this new information can only really be tested and applied to people which I have none still. I'm just in this in between of two worlds, neither of which I have ever understood or got good at in the slightest. I guess there is some hope and it is fun too see my old friends fall apart and get worse at least.
>>77435816>My wife only wants to stay together if I actually want her, and her as a person, not just her role as a mom. And I’m not sure about that yet.What does that even mean? Are you saying you never saw your wife as a person?
>>77434224New week, same goals:>wife's butthole: any%>treadmill until abs>big lifting, little eatingWeekend was good, saw lots of family. Exactly zero progress on any goal in any aspect of life, but no real backslide either.Was reminded that the while butthole talk is fun, but the real goal is actually to make my wife attracted to or insecure about my physique enough that she puts any effort whatsoever into maintaining my interest. That very obviously equates to buttstuff, but also a drive to actively perform for me in general. She makes a great starfish but, ya know, I've seen that one already.Anyway. Back on the path again this week. For real though.WAGMI eventually.
>>77449085I mean, I'm glad to be out of the shitshow before the tax men come calling for them.And I'll definitely find something before the severance runs out. But it doesn't feel chill with the timer ticking, you know?
>>77449010Congrats on quitting vaping! There’ll be obstacles as you continue, but you’re on the right path. Eventually you’ll be able to fully quit nicotine. Good luck
>>77434486interview went okay - i dont think its a great fit for either of us. kind of a disappointment. started building a new game, it's teaching me a lot about game design and i'm having fun with it. using the rest of my tokens to fix up a buddy's project. at the beach for the week ad actually got to sleep in which was an odd feeling. probably no sexo while we're here. i'll get a beach run in tomorrow. to dos - chill and vibe code. get the marketing plan together and start rolling that out. figure out how to incorporate ads into my main app.
>>77449081Swallow your pride. The economy is shit and cost of living is high. Having a gap on your resume will harm you in the future
>>77449433Based, but gamedev is so fucked these days. Fuck me, it's hell, I never should've gone into it. Would be sitting in a bank, wanking over Linux logs or some API somewhere, but noooooo, I wanted to make gaaaaaames.At this point I don't even play anything.
>>77449100Bench so hard women envy your chest! God bless you as well :)
was fishing poling really badly on RDLs and ended up tweaking my lower back. I can still do lifts but I think I'll skip RDL for a week or two...
Do woman sit close to guy in train when other seats are empty? Why i dont interact when reading book. I got made so mucj fun of as kid
HR from the job I was let go off of wrote, asking to change the invoice date for the severance from last month to 14th and to send it to her personally and not through the normal channel.Sounds super sus, feels like they want to fuck me.It must be paid by 22nd, I don't know if changing the invoicing date would let them waltz around that somehow or something? Fucking HR. Always scamming.
I WILL BENCH 245 FOR 4 REPS I WILL SEND OUT ALL CLIENT DATA I WILL BECOME MORE OPTIMISTICI WILL MAKE IT EVENTUALLY Ive broken out of my lifting slump and had some little victories. Yet I still failed my 4th rep last week. I wish I could list out all my excuses, but I’ll choose to have results instead. I’ll continue training and growing stronger this week. I still want to believe that I will bench 245 for 5 by the end of the month I’ve been thinking a lot about my future. I finished the CFA program and I’m still thrilled. Yet I’m trying to find happiness in my ordinary life. I’m starting to articulate what I want to accomplish moving forward. I’ve spent so much time putting myself down, now I want to gain confidence in myself. I’ve already crossed the mountain, I have the power to succeed. Our greatest limitation is our mental barriers. Trust in the process and keep working hard. WAGMI
>>77449819For you and for erveryone else:THE JOB OF HR IS TO PROTECT THE COMPANY FROM THE EMPLOYEE, NOT THE EMPLOYEE FROMT HE COMPANY.Never ever trust and fully believe any HR person.
>>77449825Yeah, the way they fucked me over was the jewiest thing ever. And the most incompetent too.All the lying bullshit like "can you quickly jump on a call to address your concerns" and shit and then lies, lies, lies.
>>77449112Congrats, you did pretty well. I’ll pick up that cereal sometime
>>77449145Don’t get discouraged. You have a clear goal, you’ll achieve it eventually. Your path to the butthole will provide you with meaning. WAGMI
>>77449819>let go ofThey fired you, boy. Any request they make of you has dollar signs attached to it or you tell them to fuck off and die.Realistically, your reply should cc every higher up HR has and just be the question, why?
>>77447316I've actually never heard it phrased this way but it makes a lot of sense. The tomboys I know also hate celebrating their birthdays.
>>77449819You don’t work for them anymore, you don’t owe them shit
>>77449737I'm sorry about your injury, but you'll recover soon. I'm the same as you, I'm also avoiding RDLs lately because of back pain. Instead I'm doing other glute exercises
>>77449775They see you as trust worthy. Try making eye contact with them. If they stare back, then they might be interested
I want to let go of my past and begin a positive new life
Stay strong anons! :) The best is yet to come
>>77449145I'm the anon from the last thread who told you to just do it. Anon I feel like I know you at this point. I've followed your journey through these threads, encouraging you at every turn, and I have to say after all of this.... your wife sounds like an absolute twat
>>77434318jesus fucking christ dude don't take this the wrong way but i just kek'd loud as absolute fuck
>>77440011It's alright either way, anon.You were going to make it either way.
>>77440980>He doesn't know
>>77434414Imagine my absolute shock seeing this post on /fit/
>>77434322I made myself run for 10 minutes earlier today. I just felt shitty and wanted to make myself do something. I got a good sweat and it made me realize I need run more for cardio.I think I also enjoy running anon. The endorphins were the best I have felt without weed for a while.Anyways I need to stop blogging.
>>77434572Same for me and it was barely over anything.I'm just weirdly fragile.I need to toughen up, anons. I will make it. I will toughen myself up.
>>77435615damn you're caught in a nofap groundhog day
>>77449819I agree with the other anons, you have no obligation to do anything out of the ordinary.
>>77434224I fucked up bros. Due to my wisdom teeth moving my other theeth, I now have a wrong bite that is fucking up my ences/gums (don't know if thats the word), and now I fear losing my teeht. I didn't notice for a long time due to me being depressed, but at least this year the dentist told me. I'm afraid the damage is irreversible and I end up losing my teeth, and I don't have an appointment scheduled until October. Anyone else has something similar happedn to them?
>>77450909Unless it's truly bad, they'll move back when there's space.If you're really in a rush, there are stomatological emergency rooms, you know. Last wisdom tooth I had pulled was done in one, it was by a tired doctor and a student. It was extremely painful because it required surgical extraction and I spent the next couple of days spitting blood into an empty KFC bucket hiding in my dorm room. Still worth it.
>massive protein shits again
>>77451031Problem is they told me the gums aren't growing back. I know there are things I can do (and am doing) to prevent it from getting worse, and that in October I'll get more info, I guess if it were urgent they wouldn't have given me that late a schedule, but still I can't help but worry over it, even knowing it's mostly in my head. I also don't regret getting out my wisdom teeth, have another one that they didn't recommend getting out tho
>>77450132God I want a tomboy gf
>>77451058Go to the emergency then. Usually dental schools have them. Are you in the burgerland or somewhere with actual healthcare?
>>77434224Damn why did no one tell me how easy Hinge is? All I heard was doom and gloom, but it's great if you just want something casual. I got 200+ matches and a lot more likes that I can't see.Ended up banging a 55 year old artist last week and she's messaged me about organising another session, plus got a couple of early 20-somethings wanting to come round. Lots of mid women with huge bazongas. There's even a couple I could see myself having a relationship with in the 28-40yr old range. I'm 37.After a year of being absolutely mentally destroyed by a horrendous breakup with the woman I thought was going to be the mother to my children and addiction to pain pills, this dumb shit is just what I needed.
>>77451151Dating really is easy as long as you're not looking for something more meaningful and stable. All you need is a decent body, not to be a seething incel, dress and smell nicely and have somewhere to go to.Which is fucking hard when you're living with a gf...fwb has a place, but I think she lost interest, barely any communication after the fifth date where nothing happened but cuddles because of her monthlies.
>>77447234Cope
Today's lifts>Pause squats 3x5 @ 235,245*255>RDLs 3x6 @ 225,245,265>Leg raises 3x15>Lunges 4x15Full on ripped my boxer shorts on the squats, that was delightfulShould have started doing lunges sooner, perfect cheap after-squats leg work that feels productive without ruining me like bulgarians doAlso horny as fuck the last couple days especially at work, fought off the urge to beat off in the bathroom, might get a hooer tonight to deal with it since it's my day off
>>77451170Yeah it would appear so. I don't have any topless pictures or gay shit like that, but I do have a picture that has got a few comments about broad shoulders from matches. The MILF I banged was rubbing her hands all over my pecs and glutes when I was banging her.I've had a couple of girls back to my place but I really need to sort it out. It's pure single boomer - e.g. I just leave my clothes on the drying rack because why the fuck would I put them in drawers when I can just take them from the rack when I need them. Same with plates and other kitchen stuff - why put it in the cupboard when I'm going to use it soon? I also have unfinished furniture that I got distracted putting together halfway through, and loads of books all over every surface and on a lot fo the floor in the living room because I'm a bookfag who gets bored of putting together bookshelves lol.I'm gonna buy some plants and a rug and some pillows/throws for the sofa and nice bedding. Maybe a projector so I can watch movies.This accidentally turned into a blog post but please forgive me, I'm old.
stone or mud.
>>77451151>>77451170That’s honestly a whitepill, thanks for sharing :) I’ll start committing to searching
>>77450463>absolute twat I can't disagree with that. The amount of "no" I hear over small requests is seriously maddening. Getting juicy is my last ditch here, but deep down I know it won't change anything.When I said for better or for worse, I didn't know that the worse part would include apathy.
>>77451091It's not an emergency
Mobility is improving, posture is improving, back feels healthier than ever. Honestly making some serious progress, finally. Right shoulder did a massive crack when I was doing OHP today and suddenly it feels like it's in the right position again. Oh yeah, I could still rep 1pl8 and I hadn't lifted at all in at least 15 months. Did deadlifts and bb rows to celebrate, which I haven't done in like 2.5 years (had a bulged l4/l5) and they felt good. I'm not back to normal but I feel like I might be, soon. It's very exciting.
>>77451445Bruv, your gums are falling off.
i got a good job interview thursday but im nervous af
>>77451503Take five deep breaths and then lie your ass off, mate.
>>77451235That’s why you gotta switch to boxerbriefs or straight briefs after enough squat progression
I need more money and by more I more I mean a few hundred k
>>77434226any luck
>>77451151>>77451240What if you're incredibly autistic, though? Is being jacked enough?
I have been using more weed than usual lately, but also eating cleaner and working out more.Last night I did some intense cardio and got high as fuck. Woke up dehydrated and felt like a zombie. Was a bit panicked my brain wouldn't come back online for the 9AM meetings. Ended up doing fine, 9:30 meeting was also smooth.Now it's 11 AM and I am fully ready to workout.I am sometimes waking up in a 'crashed' state from the weed but still the better diet and more workout out as me recovering and ready to go before noon.Maybe I need to cut back on the weed - actually I definitely do to be honest, but at least I am pushing hard enough to see progress in spite of it.
>>77451792You’re not autistic, at most undersocialised
I hit 3pl8 on the hip thrust machine today!!!!>w<
Can you find happiness alone?
>>77451481You’ll be back in no time. For the time being, keep grinding! Learn to love this excitement, it’ll only get better :)
>>77438340>>77438506If a woman likes you enough to cuddle with you, I think she would be more offended if you didn't get hard than she would be if you did.
>>77434226lending you my energy anon
>>77434506/sig/ anon is there anything regarding sleep on there?i tried half assedly searching through each folder but couldn't find anything?am i retarded or is there nothing sleep related on there?
>>77451503Good luck! Remember to smile and give specific examples. They wouldn't interview you if they didn't believe you're capable
>lose job>was passively applying for the last TWO YEARS with no results>get an offer from a former colleague>interview goes great>get an actual offer>It's only +$500 to what I was making>recruiters wake up>schedule a bunch of new interviews for after when I'm supposed to start a full-time office job>for positions paying doubleFUCK. Do I take this one(offer expires Friday), try to negotiate up or wait a week to do the new interviews that I might blow? Fuck me. At least the new job only has one month notice period, so I can nope out at will pretty much and all corpo jobs are always willing to wait for two months minimum.
>>77453249Take the job, negotiate up, and do the new interviews too. Be damn sure of the next one, though. I don't know what a one month notice period means to you, but in the real world 2 weeks is standard, and you can always say fuck it and bail any time you want. But right nown you're unemployed looking at more rounds of interviews.Remember, this is business. They wouldn't hesitate to shove you under a speeding fire truck.
>>77453249Plus, just be honest with that former colleague on your way out. You may feel bad after they did you a favor, but 2*$ is 2*$. They'll understand. Everyone will.
>>77434224I'm stuck at a dead-end job and I don't even know where to begin with to improve my skill set, IT fucking sucks.I unintentionally gained a couple kilos and my knees have been feeling funny for the past 2 months. I should start deadlifting again.
>>77453345Get your resume in shape and just start firing the "easy apply" shotgun on LinkedIn during bathroom breaks. I did that, landed a few interviews over the course of 6 months, finally got a job that was an easy 30% raise and went from everyday in person to wfh.Improve your skill set on someone else's dime at the next job.
>>77453328>>77453340Was honest, she talked to the COO, I can start a week later. Thank fuck since I have a doctor's visit for a whole day next Thursday. Will try to go up by maybe $100-ish, that'd really help and that was inbetween their offer and my ask.Really, you guys get two weeks? We usually get two months if you're an employee(law) and anywhere between one and two months for contractors(depending on what you've negotiated). If I hadn't negotiated two months severance at the last shitshow of a job, I'd be boiling my shoes for soup right now.
>>77453397In the US there's no "you get 2 weeks" when it comes to quitting a job. 2 weeks notice is a courtesy that's just kind of ingrained in the culture. You can walk put anytime you want. The higher up you go the more likely there is to be incentives like severance etc, but I'm 6 digits and there's nothing keeping me from quitting at any moment.The flip side of that is in most states you're "at-will" which means they can fire you on the spot, too. Again, you can get stuff in your contract abou that at high levels. Also, if you get fired then you get unemployment from the state.I guess my advice was predicated on all of that. Sounds like leveling with people worked out for you, though. It usually does, and any time it doesn't you find out quick what kind of people you're dealing with so it's good either way.
I woke up demoralized today. Hit up /gif for motivation and of all things, there's a probably fictional blog post in the anal thread by a guy claiming his wife came around to the idea of it, and that's got me going again.Stay strong, bros. If you're feeling like giving up, maybe just kind of don't and see what happens.
>>77451798So you’re making progress in one area of your life and struggling in another. Your progress will accelerate once you reduce/eliminate weed. Good luck
>>77451439Damn anon. Remind us again how old you are and how many kids you have. Are things really worth staying in it still?
>>77451944Congrats (｡◕‿‿◕｡)
This week I decided I would not meal prep at all and eat only delivery (very bad) so that I could go to the beach every single day after work instead of shopping and cooking. So far Mon-Tue-Wed I've made it to the beach, today I even left the office 1 hour early to get a bit more sun in. It feels like I'm on vacation even though I'm still working and I'm leaving for vacations this weekend.My goal would be to meet a beach cutie but I think even if someone hit on me I wouldn't figure it out.
>>77452204folder: \self_improvement_topics\sig_stories_and_related_pics_infographics053_guide_to_god-tier_sleep.jpg and 016_guide_to_sleep.png (oh, both are the same file)020_importance_of_sleep_1.png021_importance_of_sleep_2.pngfolder: \fit_body_mind_health\Fit Information Repository WITHOUT ebooks\Infopics\GeneralSleeping Positions.jpgalso I am sure in various other /sig/ screencaps there might be also sleep mentionedFollow the 10-3-2-1-0 rule for optimal sleep10 hours before bed: No more caffeine3 hours before bed: No more food or alcohol2 hours before bed: No more work1 hour before bed: No more screen time0: The number of times you hit the snooze button in the morningSleep in 90 minute increments. 8 hours of sleep is a meme.Humans have sleep cycles that last 90 minutes each.If you wake up at the beginning/end of a cycle, you wake up refreshed.The opposite happens if you wake in the middle; you're groggy and slow.7 and a half hours is fine. 6 hours is also fine if you feel like you don't need as much sleep; depends on you.Sleep qualitysame sleep pattern every daywhich means go to bed and wake up at the same time everyday
>>77451957I think happiness is something that’s highly subjective and requires internal fulfillment. You can’t be happy alone but you can derive happiness from actions taken while alone. Don’t isolate yourself but pursue your goals by yourself
Past couple of days, a dude said 'you're strong as fuck bro' as I went to get water and a women gave me a thumbs up and said nice job after a lift, feels kind of nice
>>7745375345, and 2 kids. I can't emphasize enough how much of a partner this woman is in all other aspects of our lives, and honestly it's not like I'm perfect.But the sex. Fucking hell.Anyway. She's taking Friday off. One kid is at camp, encouraging the other to gtfo out the house that morning. If I get that sex-window, I'm doing goddam something to wife's ass. Not sure what, just something.
>>77454342Have you bluntly told her that sex is very important to you and that you aren't having it?Dropping a hint does not serve the purpose as a "talk" - a blunt conversation where you don't allow her to minimize it at all.She should be clear that the marriage is in a "problem state" if you are not having regular sex.
>>77454368I'll do you one better. Forgetting even the whole anal thing, she's apologized repeatedly to me about her lack of libido, and she pretty much puts out any time I make a reasonable ask.The flip side of that is she's always too tired and probably hasn't initiated in 5 years. She makes absolutely no effort during either; even doggie wears her out. And there's about 40 little, easy asks I've made over the years that she's ignored: put this on just long enough for me to take it off of you, shave the cooch once a decade, oral finish, etc etc.Well, now I'm just bitching. You get the idea. She's aware of the problem, but she sure isn't making any effort about it. And if you ask her, she comes back with how she's always tired (but not too tired for things she wants to do) and always willing to accommodate (so long as it doesn't take any effort).The older I get, the more I understand the boomer wife jokes. Time to buy a corvette and some jorts.
>>77454417>she comes back with how she's always tiredAre you letting her reply with that and end the argument?You have a job here too, anon. There is a chance that she doesn't even realize how fucked up it is to be in that position as a man.I recommend you get more blunt with this. In the middle of sex you tell her to do something minor - change positions, ride for just a couple of minutes, etc.If she refuses, just be clear that there is no point in you having bad sex. Literally just put your pants back on and leave the bedroom.I recommend going a step further, you tell her at that point, when her emotions are already swirling, "We're going to have a very important talk about our relationship after dinner tonight."That feeling of "Oh shit, is something about to happen?" is what will kick her ass in gear.By the way, feel free to ignore this advice, because I am just a random guy on 4chan, but in general I recommend you escalate the issue into a few "big" moments rather than repeatedly trying in tiny ways. She will repeatedly ignore tiny shit because it seems tiny, even though it is silently building a mountain out of tiny pebbles.
>>77453480Stay strong as well! We don’t know what’ll happen next, so be positive and keep moving forward!
>>77435349so funny thinking about a sweaty creep rolling up into a church and staring at all the women, what the fuck are you doing with your life lmao
>>77435361youre going to ruin your marriage with this idiotic quest and you will regret it. It's going to become public knowledge in the court proceedings - your neighbors, coworkers and friends, future partners are going to know you as the fecaloid that you are
>>77436906>good looking young white womenYoung women are retarded and you have nothing in common with them, good looking ones can only ever get more haggard whereas a fatty can improve over time
>>77454166There’s nothing with taking a temporary vacation. We need to appreciate the little parts of living. Enjoy the sun and wind
People have begun to lose their hopes and forget their dreams.Nobody cares about anything anymore.Nobody wants to get together anymore.Nobody does anything without getting paid anymore.Nobody wants to do anything anymore.https://youtu.be/kVaolNKt2zwhttps://youtu.be/1d925iMSuLY
>>77454215Thanks for the tips, sigAnon
>>77454417Has she seen a doctor about get hormone levels? Low thyroid can affect hormone levels which will absolutely affect energy, libido, etcIs this how your sex life always was, or did you used to be hot n heavy?
>>77454293So your hard work is visible. Appreciate this feeling, you’ve worked hard to obtain it
>>77453377I know this is a stupid questionHow do you decide which 'skill set' to improve at? I feel so overwhelmed
>>77455058nta, but since you are working in IT, you have to improve by making projects which increased all of them.Look up popular portfolio online or github repositories for type of projects you need to do
>>77455058Whatever the job entails. If the job isn't building your skills, move on....I say, while currently coasting at a place where they've got me using a CMS that makes WordPress look like a good idea. Fuck, I gotta move on.
>>77454853It's menopause. And no, it used to be pretty fantastic. Not super adventurous, but lots of it, and plenty of interest from her. She was a dang horndog. Kids slowed that down some, work, life, etc. And now suddenly we're old.
>>77455065>>77455078Thank you so much anon
>>77455082Get her on some testosterone
>>77455058>look up your job position or one level higher on linkedin>look at what they need, skills or certifications or whatnot>learn that>ideally get your job to pay for the certs>also ask yourself if your job will exist in two years or it will be made redundant via AI or something(like my QA)>if latter, look up exactly HOW and learn that part of AI
>>77454594>>77454600>>77454604I'm glad you're suffering. :)
Today's lifts>DB bench 3x6,4,6 @ 110s>DB row 3x10,10,8 @ 125s>Pushdowns 4x20>Face pulls 4x20Once again shanked my second set, this time on the set up, kicked the dbs up and the right one went way outside somehow, idk how I managed 4 considered how much juice I wasted just getting that db back into placeFuck it, averages out to a 3x5 so I'll give the 115s a shot Monday. Might be a top sets only type of day, been pushing it hard the last couple weeks
>>77455519You still lifted well. Dont get discouraged, you’ll lift better next time :)
need to ask for a raise but I dont feel like it. sucks to be me
>>77456221Ask, save the emails locally. Last time I did they pushed me from employee to contractor and then fucked me on the raise, told me I’d get the difference but only raised by a third. And when they fired me (no notice period for contractors), they deleted the email account immediately. Should’ve saved it and sent to the tax man, they’d be in a world of pain.
>>77456221You need to push your feelings aside and ask for that raise. You can’t let fear prevent you from living
>>77456399last time I asked I got a 25% raise on top of having to work one day less per week. my boss was fine with all that but one day later his bitch wife got wind of it and the atmosphere got so toxic I ended up screaming at both of them to leave me the fuck alone or else I leave this very second since I dont really rely on work for survival. its one of the reasons why I dont really want to ask. I dont need the money and I fear the bitch might end up being annoying again.
>>77456516I’d state confidently that the boss gave you that offer and it’s final. If not, I’d begin looking for a job that suits your needs
>>77453397Welp, the offer runs out today and they still haven't replied to my counter-offer asking for a little bit more money, so that closes that. Thank fuck I have real IT interviews next week for substantially more money. No offers yet, but I'll get there hopefully.
I fucking hate this heat its hard to maintain a diet with the appetite loss
>>77434224I quit nicotine 5 days ago.I quit drinking yesterday.Today will be my first diet day, doing great so far.Tomorrow I will walk a mile.One year from now I will be happy
>>77458106Good timeline! You may struggle over the next year, but you’ll be stronger in the future. WAGMI
>wife's butthole status report: fingeredFeeling strong the last couple of days. Solid workouts like I haven't had in a while. Tempted to just maintain and push some weights around for a bit. Obviously not getting abs before summer's out anyway. Maybe get my strength back up, start running and biking again to get my cardio back up, focus less on shredding and more on getting actually fit for a season or two.This is the cycle that happens to me anyway, maybe I should think about programming it on purpose. I cut for a while, lose strength, burn out, cry about it, start lifting well again and get excited about that, get fat, start to freak out about getting fat and start cutting... If it's programmed properly maybe I can skip the crying and the getting fat phases.Going to have myself a nice weekend. I advise you all do the same. WAGMI
>>77457950Stay strong! The fall will arrive soon and you can truly commit to your goals. I can relate, the heat screws up my sleep and lifting
>>77458106you got this anon
>>77458106>falling for the happiness memeIt’s fulfillment you’re supposed to be reaching for. Happiness is temporary.
>>77458935I’ve learned that truth the hard way. Happiness doesn’t last, so appreciate the temporary feeling
>>77458380Congrats on your little victory. Accept that cycle and learn to learn the process. There's no reason to cry about natural aspects of your cycle. WAGMI
>>77459903i think that's a good thing. makes you appreciate happiness much better that way
confidence took a hit today. >new girl started at work 2 months ago>been steadily chatting her up, slow and steady, don't want to fuck things up because I've never really talked to women before>things seem good, she seems to be biting, gave me her number and everything>she runs an animal rescue so we talk about that a lot, I love cats and dogs, she clearly does too>2 weekends ago we were short staffed so texted my friend to come help us out (he used to work there before, boss said its ok)>she meets her, they kind of hit it off, he's making jokes and comments pretty far reaching for a first encounter like joking about what sex toys she uses and stuff, starts talking about her all the time to me the following week>last weekend he finds out about the animal thing>he hates animals, very vocal about it, finds out she has like 20 dogs so he says he's not into her anymore>today he worked again but she didn't>different coworker comes up to us and tells my friend "oh yeah (girl) was talking about you a lot this week, she thinks you're really funny and cute">now he's talking about her again>I told him I was kind of trying to make something happen with her, but he's talking about wanting to do the same as a "last hurrah" since he's getting married at the end of the month before he's "tied down" and suchHe's always been way better with women than me, and I guess realistically I didn't have a shot to begin with, but it still hurts to watch it unfold in real time. Oh well, I'm not at a point where I should be seeking external validation or affection anyways. I have a long way to go before I make it. I persevere. Now at least I know I can write her off because now I know if anything did happen she'd be thinking about my friend the whole time.
>>77460079You need the seasons to appreciate each one
>>77460236>but he's talking about wanting to do the same as a "last hurrah" since he's getting married at the end of the month before he's "tied down" and suchnormies really are scum, tell his fiance if he cucks you
>>77460236Answer just one question for me so I can know. Is he better looking than you? Does he mog you? I don't have an agenda to spin, I merely want to know the facts. In what ways are you different?
>>77460242Based vindictive anon
>>77460242I've known him for 13 years so I'd feel bad about it but honestly right now I think I would. But I've never met his fiance either and I suspect he's keeping it that way on purpose because I have a lot of dirt on him and he has way more to lose than me.>>77460257I face mog him but he's 2 inches taller and he's really thin and confident because he used to be a man whore so he knows how to play the game. The girl is like ~6 inches shorter than me, I can see the top of her head when she walks by. I've got a lot of weight to lose hence my final statement. I know I don't have the right to be upset about it because I don't deserve anything nice, I haven't earned it. I won't earn it until I'm not fat anymore. update also since my prior post. He sent me a message asking if the "three of us" can go out for drinks (he doesn't have her number). I called him on it and said>you don't have her number so you're trying to use me as a way in to get her drunk so you can fuck her aren't you? and he said yes to "help him get out of his funk" even though he's getting fucking married. But also if she already likes him, and he knows it.. no alcohol needed, if he's in he's in. Kind of a weird thing to just put in my lap like that. She also told me a few weeks ago that she's sober, she "had her fun" with booze so that wouldn't even work anyways.
>>77460236>>77460269>he's talking about wanting to do the same as a "last hurrah" since he's getting married at the end of the month before he's "tied down" and such>and he said yes to "help him get out of his funk" even though he's getting fucking marriedWhat the fuck is wrong with these people.
>>77460236>>77460269I’m sorry your crush got snatched, but it wasn’t meant to be. But your mentality is correct, you’ll persevere. Keep working hard on your goals and don’t get discouraged
I have finally accepted I cannot outlift my autism, the relationship I always wanted doesn't exist in reality, and the only hobby I truly enjoyed my entire life has suddenly become something I don't enjoy in the slightest. I've passed my physical peak, I don't enjoy anything in life like I used to, I see no hope for my future, and am simply playing a game of pretend until my mother dies.I am bitching on here because I don't want to tell anyone that'd genuinely care, as there is nothing they can do.
>>77460269Tell her he's getting married. Then do the three-way date. Let things unfold. This will function as a test of her worth as much as it will give him opportunity. If she's worth your time, she'll brush him off.
>>77460395Don’t give up. You should learn to compromise life and accept what you can and can’t improve. Your autism probably can improve if you really try to put yourself out there and form new relationships
>guy at restaurant complimented my gains It’s a little victory but I’m happy :)
>>77460236He's not your friend, dipshit. He knows you're in pain in the darkness about this, he just wants to get his dick wet.He is betraying you and his wife-to-be.Stop being friends with shitty people, there is nothing in it for you.
i realized i am completely burnt out on weed.i waited until later in the day and after my workout to smoke a joint.i feel literally nothing. my brain is burnt out from using this shit too much.time to pull back, i guess.
>>77460671Good job identifying the problem! Weed is a terrible drug and its legalization has been negative on society. Research AA since the recovery process also deals with weed. It’ll take a while but you can definitely cut weed out of your life
WAGMI
>>77460236What the fuck is that. Are you just sitting there while he does that? Why are you comparing yourself to some guy, what are you, a cuck chair enthusiast? Ask her out properly, moron.
>>77451170>>77451151 #>Dating really is easy as long as you're not looking for something more meaningful and stable
>>77460236Me again. Friend worked with me today again, girl not there again. But one of the ladies at the front came back to ask him how old he was and if he had a girlfriend. She followed it up by saying "I'm not asking for myself, you're old enough to be my son, but one of the ladies was asking a few days ago" so I knew what was coming and I butted in with an overexaggerated "GIRLFRIEND??? He's about to be MARRIED!" So yeah. She's not into me but at least he won't be able to hook up with her, at least not without both of them being pieces of shit because the lady asking the questions is a blabbermouth so I know my would-be crush is going to get the whole story. I was over it this morning but then when it came up again it made me salty all over again, but now I think its been put to rest. Of course it could also very well work out for him anyways since married guys attract girls like a magnet since they've been vetted. I just need to look the other way and block it out. Time to lift some weights.
>>77434506thanks frenYou are the man
