I started working for a family company a year ago and everyone in the family is fat, in fact some of the unrelated upper management are as well.I knew that was a red flag but the money was good, and they were all laid back, so i stayed, however, problems were immediately apparent.They were too laid back.To put it simply, the business is run badly, neglected even, i brought this up with the family, and they won't hear it. like, the business is struggling badly, i am owed money, another guy is owed almost an entire month's paycheque. they are in debt and everything is a disorganised mess, both in the physical aspects and the processes/workflow (practically non-existent btw). this fat family think it is either unfixable and/or refuse to accept what i am telling them, and even get offended if i bring up issues even if i come with solutions ... fat in body, fat in nature. But bros, i had a horrific realisation. the futile and stressful nature of working for these fat fucks is making my depression worse. and I was thinking of metaphors for what it's like, and i thought >"every day tasks feel heavier, like even the slightest little thing feels like a massive lift, like i'm carrying around a heavy weight all the time ... like a fat person ... i am mentally fat. THESE FAT FUCKS HAVE MADE ME MENTALLY FAT WITH THIS STUPID FUCKING FAT LIFESTYLE WHERE THEY NEGLECT EVEN THEIR BUSINESS.I don't know how i can convey the significance of this realisation, i had a visceral physical reaction, i am quitting asap and never working for a fat person again.Please brothers, please believe me, hear this message: You have to warn everyone, even spending time around a fat person will infect you with fat mindset.I hope it saves at least some of you from my fate. Godspeed.
You're still working for them and they owe you money? I'd be repossessing their belongings and finding another job
>>77479395yeah no i'm white, so ...
>I am owed moneyLawyer up.
>>77479444You're not white you're just a bitchnigga
>>77479446it's the white thing to do.
>>77479383If someone is getting you down, you are ignoring the second of the four agreements. You are giving your personal power away to these people and suffering needlessly.Fortify yourself with firmer boundaries and shift your perspective towards a focus on solutions. And yes, fat people usually have some psychological component behind their weight issue, but that's on them. You don't have to carry their burdens.
>>77479460Yes. OP is probably white based off his willingness to be passive (white people tend to shrug off adversity instead of chimping out and immediately committing mass theft) but any work lawyer would request maybe $500 for drafting a letter of intent to sue and then that will be that.
>>77479383>>77479478You are enough.
>>77479478>the four agreementswhat is that?>You are giving your personal power away to these people and suffering needlessly.correct. that is contributing to my misery.>Fortify yourself with firmer boundaries and shift your perspective towards a focus on solutions.already on it, i have been applying for other jobs. but i need the money.>You don't have to carry their burdens.no you don't understand, it's contagious.like, you can't be around them without it affecting you somehow.
>>77479492no, i'm not, that's why i have to work out. but it's not like a bottomless pit for me, i am more content with my physique by the day. but these fat fucks have drained any an all happiness with their fucking fat attitude and dragged me down into it too. as i said, leaving that job ASAP.
>>77479514You can work out and still be enough anon. You got this dude.
>>77479506>>77479506>what is that?The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. The second agreement is "Do not take anything personally".>pic rel>no you don't understand, it's contagious.like, you can't be around them without it affecting you somehow.Refer back to the Second Agreement.If you find their gravitational pull is too great for your boundaries and you are pulled into their sphere of misery, take that leap of faith and get out of there. You got this.
>>77479541that's fucking stupid, like fat fucks fucking up your future possibilities and throwing your life into uncertainty and holding back your plans with their retarded fat business practices, i should just "not take it personally" ? fuck that, if i wasn't unhappy about it i'd be wallowing in grease like them!!! i'd be stuck in thier stupid fat office chairs, the very fact that it is making me unhappy, is motivating me to leave. it's got nothing to do with "taking it personally".Fuck that stupid cucked philosophy;Anons, feel things, you are allowed to feel and your sorrow or anger or anxiety, it is telling you something, it is not because you took something personally, it is coming from somewhere, figure out where- because it may be within, or external.
>>77479536i never understood this, but i suppose some people do feel insecure about meeting other people's standards, standards are crazy now, i never gave a fuck, i live by my own standards, like i don't do things to be good enough for other people, i do them to be good enough for me, for a standard i am setting.
>>77479552Calm your farm. Way to miss the point too.
>>77479559>Way to miss the point too.>>77479478>If someone is getting you down, you are ignoring the second of the four agreements.i am suffering needlessly because i thought i could rely on them for an income, and i can't, and my work life is needlessly difficult because of them and their fat attitude.I need an income to survive. this is not an opinion and i am in no way immune to their neglect, because i rely on them for my income.Also, i've never seen such an entry level philosophical take.
>>77479559oh and btw, post physique.
>>77479541Anon I like your mindset, 99% of people you meet ain't worth your time so you pretty much have to avoid everyone for your own sake and it's getting worse every year. I found some good partners that we can get shit done with. >>77479506Here's my two cents about family business: it simply cannot work, you can help them from time to time, but commiting to them full term is never the play, they will leave you unpaid and betray you in the end. Of course I'm projecting because I was doing filming gigs for my uncle 9 years ago and he owes me like 1200 euros. Somehow this got memory holed and I forgave him because when I was starting in the business he gave me lots of opportunities which even my parents even denied because they couldn't trust, nowadays tho I'll work for him once a month and he pays on time now, but always do your thing and have family time for relaxing only. Btw my whole family is fat and yesterday it was my sisters birthday and I gave her some money as present and I skipped the restaurant, never be around fat fucks
>>77479590>family business: it simply cannot worki have also realised that, looking back on it, every family business i worked for, was shit.>my whole family is fat and yesterday it was my sisters birthday and I gave her some money as present and I skipped the restaurant, never be around fat fucksyou get it anon, godspeed.
>>77479599>have also realised that, looking back on it, every family business i worked for, was shit.When I worked full time for my uncle I wqs severely depressed and got fat as fuck, I was getting bullied for it. It took me 2 years to make a comeback and stay lean, fatties will drag you down and you will die a miserable death, get out before it's too late. Btw I still love my parents and forgave them but I simply live on my own terms now. Godspeed anon I hope you take the leap and retardmaxx your way out
>>77479615>fatties will drag you down and you will die a miserable death, get out before it's too latethis, this is the whole thing i made the thread for, but it;s worse than getting fat, they infect you mentally, through thier very way of life.>I hope you take the leap and retardmaxx your way outi'm fucking gigabraining this shit, i'm hustling on the side to make this crap worth while. but it doesn't change the effect it's having on me. leaping out ASAP, applying for jobs as you read this.
>>77479383>sanest US lifter
>>77479383It's a lesson people have to learn the hard way, do not hire anyone fat, do not do business with anyone fat. Fat people do not work.My parents hired this fat bitch to be a property manager and she moved in a single mother with three kids who stopped paying rent and did thousands of dollars in damage. It took like a year to go through the eviction process and she basically did nothing.
>>77479383the FAT spirit.
>>77479541I just listened to the audiobook for this. Good stuff, it blocks unnecessary drama and works well as a system.
>>77479383I can relate to this. I know this morbidly obese old man (in his 70s) who sometimes I visit. He was a family friend since I was a child, and now a friend of mine too. Am basically like a son to him and I go to visit him occasionally and stay a couple of days to help him with whatever (groceries, moving stuff, etc.) because he can barely move.In these days I stay with him; all my good habits go out the window, and it takes me many days to get back on track.I also get sleepy and lethargic from eating the same foods as him. Of course he's a fatass and eats sugary crap and pastries all the time.The thing is, one time he lost like 30kg in a month or two simply because he ran out of pastries and carb-heavy sugary shit and couldn't drive to the store to buy more.As soon as I passed by and did his grocery shopping and bought all that crap for him, he recovered all that weight in no time.He knows that if he ditched all that shit and ate normally (his normal meals are actually healthy), he could lose most of the excess weight, but he simply doesn't want to.He's literally going to be crippled and unable to walk and die soon because he doesn't want to stop eating snacks.This is why I agree with you that fatness is mental and contagious.He simply doesn't want to do the one thing that he knows could save his life and has worked before. He'd rather die than not eat snacks.
>>77479541This line of thinking is just about as cucked and beta as stoicism and buddhism.Being passive and non-assumptious is only noble if you're a third worlder, surrounded by danger and uncertainty. In a civilized society, all those philosophies will do is put you on the path towards being a loser and taken advantage of.
