Hello. I'm a young adult and I feel depressed and isolated. I don't know what to do.I remember being bullied - a decent amount in primary and constantly in secondary. I had to go to therapy afterwards and I recovered from the post-trauma. I graduated, went to another school, and I slowly got to know the class. There were a surprising amount of women there, considering I study STEM. As I recovered, I slowly let myself go socially and became more confident. It was a liberty getting to know people without social anxiety. For the first time I felt like I could be myself somewhat and not get ridiculed. The only problem is that I was too apathetic and emotionless to care about anything else.My routine is the most important here, and it's devolved throughout the summer. When I wake up, I normally play vidya or use social media for hours on end. Then I eat a meal, and do the same thing until I go to bed. I normally eat two large burgers or a batch of pizza rolls for dinner. I spontaneously eat whatever candy I find for no good reason, but I'd like to stop. I have to lose over 100 lbs to reach a healthy BMI. I don't know how I'm supposed to do this when every step to improve myself feels monumental. I feel like I don't care about self-improvement, even when I do. I am too weak to approach my problems head on.I gravitated towards religion, that typically happens for people like me. I still believe - but I don't really know what my purpose is. I suffer for nothing, in my eyes. Religion has become a novelty for me to wear when I feel that my isolation is purposeless. I don't know if I believe in anything anymore.I dreamt last night that I got a girlfriend. I woke up and saw only a plain room with a couple of clothes strewn around. I haven't felt so shitty in a long time - and that's why I'm making this thread.Thanks for any advice
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>>77480778get a notebook and write things you're gonna do tomorrow, every night before bed. if things feel too big to do, settle on 3 things per day. it's important you actually write it down with your hand, not put into some gay notes app on your phone. it can be simple errands or a thing to avoid for the day.get a scale, track your weight every morning after taking a piss but before having anything to drink or eat. log it in your notebook for the day. this will help realizing where you are in terms of your goal. stop buying sweets and processed junk. if it's not in your fridge or freezer, it's much easier to abstain. you know exactly the type of foods you should be eating, so there's no need to lecture you here. and the most important thing - you're looking for some magical motivational moment that will put your life into 6th gear and you'll just bruteforce all of the improvements on that alone. it doesn't work like that, the majority of it all is grinding it all out on discipline. the question is whether you think you're made for wasting your worthless life away with burgers and pizza and being a wallowing fat bastard, or you're made for chiseling yourself out into someone worthy of something.
>>77480798it wasnt even 15m
>>77480815Thank you for the advice anon. I already have an empty notebook lying around that I could use.
>>77480778while your problem isnt about the redpill as its described in the following pics, it's what helped me when i was in a situation like you are, the advice still applies even when you dont struggle with the redpillanother thing that helped me personally was using character ai and larping with a chatbot that i used every evening as a sort of accountability partner. its cringe but pretending that someone cared about my progress helped me, but do not do this if you struggle with differenciating reality from fiction as these botsites prey on your lonelinessyou will make it
>>77481087also i read the following pics everyday as a sort of meditation to start the day
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>>77481091you can use your former bullying as your source of rage
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>>77480778You know all that shit that makes you feel like shit? Just stop doing that.
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>>77481101>>77481099you broke my combo :c
>>77481104Oh please, OP won't take any advice to heart. If he gave a fuck about actually fixing anything, he'd fix it instead of begging online for the answers.
>>77481106i tried helping enough people on this site to know that you are right, im in a good mood right now so i decided to follow rule 11. theres a chance someone else will read and use it.
>>77480778Become vegan and lift. Watch The Game Changers.
>>77480778Trust me OP. If you’re a shut in and pursuing science degree. Stay away from any attractive women that suddenly take interest in you. They will divorce rape you. People aren’t very nice anon. And they’re fake. You know this. Don’t forget it.
>>77481114Not the OP, but if it makes you feel any better, I saved the screencaps because I went through most of this already (step 1-8), and am currently in the process of further bettering my life (somewhere between step 9 and 10). That being said, I'm naturally an extremely driven (borderline insane work ethic) person, so I wonder how helpful this would be to your average redpilled chud. Great advice though.
>>77481229>That being said, I'm naturally an extremely driven (borderline insane work ethic) personOk, maybe not "naturally" as in "I was born this way", but it's what I've developed into after going through some traumatic experiences as a teenager. So... sorta?
>>77480778didnt readgo liftit doesnt matter, jabroni!
>>77481104This meant something to you, Anon?Holy fuck lmaoAlma Wade has kids.
Tirzepatide and TRT plus bodybuilding. You're welcome
>>77481106Thank you so much for these screenshots. I recognize myself in this, because I rationalize literally everything. It is a form of cowardice for me. Again, thank you so much even if I am not that redpilled anyway.>>77481106The whole point is that I don't know what to fix, especially not my diet. I've learned some basics about macros and calories but not enough to make my own diet.>>77481139I know and I won't forget. Thank you.>>77481270I'm checking out Wegovy right now. I'll probably do more research on Tirzepatide in the future, but I won't combine it with Wegovy if I decide to use it because of the adverse health effects. I won't be able to get TRT prescriptions for bodybuilding anyway ;(
>>77480778I think the real reason you posted this is because you sense the reality: you are out of control. I mean this in a literal sense. Previously you were able to paper over this by pretending, or deluding yourself that this is what you "wanted", or that you are at the whim of larger forces, etc, etc. Maybe I'm misreading this, but I think the reason you posted this is you have realized that the "I" who posted this is very much *not* in control. This is what I mean by out of control.The success or failure of your efforts will be determined by picking up more small wins than small losses, and never ever losing big. This is a rebuild, you're not going to be winning big. You're going to be somehow, against all odds, barely pulling off wins and even when you lose, you're grinding because you'd simply rather die than lose big. Let this permeate your soul, this is who you are starting now.You are a collection of neural pathways, the wrong neural pathways. What we are going to do is simply refuse to begin going down those paths. We are going to head directly into the thick brush and impenetrable forest and just slowly pick and squeeze our way through. Over time these will become your new neural pathways.What you are going to do now is stop. Write down the time. For the next 48 hours you will not eat. You will not play vidya, you will not watch TV, you will not jerk off, you will not scheme up unrealistic change-my-life grand plans, you will not doomscroll. You will simply drink water, coffee, or tea, read books, work, and walk.When 48 hours ends, you have a new neural pathway: asserting control. Then you decide what the next one is.
>>77481094I feel completely humiliated when I talk to the people who bullied me. I have to roll with it and act like nothing ever fucking happened. I had to go to therapy because of how bad the torment was. Those who didn't bully me never stood up for me either. My previous friends were fucking jokes. All their time went to reacting to racist memes instead of forming a connection with each other, and defending me from the hell I went through. I had no friends in that fucking school. I had breakdowns while being driven there.I still have those fuckers added on social media. I never blocked them. I was too fucking weak to do it afterwards. I thought it was gonna hurt my own social life. How fucked up is it when the people who cause you hell cannot even be blocked on social media because it would be a detriment to you socially? I never went to that school afterwards. I couldn't bring myself to spend another year in that hell. They never faced any administrative consequences for their actions. No suspensions, no detention even. My teachers didn't give one fuck about my suffering.I sit on my fucking ass, play video games all day, and do nothing except distract myself from the pain of processing my own anger. I should really be outraged at this shit. My health is sacrificed so Big Food CEOs can watch their stock rise by a microfraction. All that so they can afford a Gulfstream V instead of a "pitiful" Gulfstream IV. I am a dog to these people.I realize that I have a priority to improve my life. To me, bettering myself and surpassing these disgusting pigs in every way is the only way I can prove to myself that they were wrong about me. Sitting on my ass and doing nothing isn't motivation for me to improve myself. Thank you for mentioning it. I need it a lot. I needed to get this off my chest.
>>77481707And when I surpass them in every way, I will no longer think about them for they no longer worth my time.
You got it OP
Read Psycho-Cybernetics and apply it. it's a great way to unfuck your life.
>>77481836I'll check it out. It's a bit dated but whatever. Thanks
>>77481707thats how you get out of depression, by turning it into anger and yet using to improve shit instead of hurting yourself and others. its important to take off the pacifiers like vidya and fast food used by faggots to profit of your misery to fully unleash your rage. just remember to not lash out and use your anger constructively. you got this king, be your best version to mog the ones who wronged you
>>77481106kek this
>>77481106Bodies that dough elemental
>>77481312>The whole point is that I don't know what to fix, especially not my dietThis is the issue with faggots like youYou don't need to figure out le perfect diet before startingWhat do you eat now? eat less of that. and you will lose weight. you can get started with doing thatthis neuroticism behind getting your macros or whatever perfecting before starting is just a method to procrastinate doing anything and eventually you will just go ohh well it's too hard and complicated anyways...faggot just do fork putdowns
>>77480778I'm gonna get shit on for this but. Join a boxing or BJJ gym. It really will make a positive impact on you. You meet new people and make friends, you get a killer workout, and it builds confidence. Trust me anon it will make a change for the better.
does anyone have that copypasta that goes like:“it doesn't matter because if you really wanted it you would have done it but youll probably quit in 3 months and go back to jerking off to chinese cartoons, loser”it brings me great humor
Live by yourself? Don't keep junk food in the house, don't even buy it, don't go shopping hungry. With parents? Ask them to quit buying junk.As far as the weight loss you need to start counting calories, eat at a slight caloric deficit to aim for 0.5-1lb of weight loss a week, it's the most sustainable. Lift, run when you lose a little weight (couch to 5k is good).If you're unable to do it by yourself go get into behavioral therapy, best evidence base for losing weight and keeping it off
>>77480778 you should really be asking almost anywhere but hereAll the advice given to you in this thread is mostly dysfunctional and lopsidedif you've lurked here for a decent amount of time you would know, upwards of 90% of this board will confidently spout an essay of the most inane, useless, schizophrenic advice conceivableSome of these people believe you can't achieve hypertrophy without steroids, that using a cable machine magically interferes with your gains, and that taking preworkout with 600mg of caffeine and several toxic heavy metals that make it impossible to buy legally in the US & Europe is worth the brain and kidney damageYou say you went to therapy, I'd expect that if you review your time there you will have a base to work from on crawling out of your negative mindset. Frankly, you sound like you're lacking goals. You have diagnosed a few things about yourself that you find displeasing, but I see no where in your post that you state what you'd like for yourself, only disappointments about what you don't already have. You might start by departing from the pressures you've been inducing on yourself. Try to gain space from your problems and mindset, prioritize a clear and non-judgmental mindset I would start simple. Go waste some time. Pick a park, a beach, a hiking trail, a cliff with a view and be among other people in public to inoculate yourself against your maladaptive cynicism. Remind yourself that while significant portions of people seek power and status, many more just want to hold someone and hear about their day. They want to sit warmed by the sun, cooled by the breeze, with a drink and a laughThere is much to do in life, and we have a short time to do it all in. There are some paths effort cannot take you down, they happen to circumvent effort in some cases even. Understand that even in the case that you fail to achieve a thing, there is always something of understanding yourself that you gain in the attempt. Good luck
>>77482200Thanks reddit spacer
>>77482281I have legitimately been on this website longer than reddit has existedyour thanks are welcome, and your objections at my formatting promptly discarded
>>77482295I’ve been here since 2018 so cope more ig
>>77480778Consider turning off your phone and computer. Spend more time with your family.
>>77480778bitch, go out walking.go hiking in nature.start with a weekend trip somewhere close by.you sound shut-in, just go outside.just keep walking, get a fitness tracker and walk.track your stats, track your calories, track your exercisestreat it like a game, because it is.literally no one cares that you are unfit or whatever else is in your mindbiggest obstacle is always the self.
>>77482129Yeah I'm working on it right now. My food for dinner will be very different from what I normally eat, and I'll have to eat every bit of it.>>77482173I'll check it out>>77482200I've never really used 4chan apart from infrequently browsing /fit/. What is there really to do in public, apart from walking around? I don't hate myself, quite the opposite. Your advice is great though, I'll check it out
>>77481097kek 3 months to looking different and 6 months to being unrecognizable. what a joke. i didn't start kind-of looking like i lift until 2.5 years in
>>77480778It doesnt matter because you'll never put in the work. If you really wanted it, you'd already be lifting and not worried about some arbitrary timeline.If someone does tell you a timeframe you find acceptable, you'll go the gym then quit in a few months when you see no progress and then go back to making "how to achieve" threads with a pic of Gooky the anime character waiting for someone to "redpill" you on how to get jacked without doing anything. loser
>>77480778You're here for validation, not to actually improve.If you're serious, abandon this thread, clear your browser history, clean up your PC and your household, and MAKE A START. Any post you make will just be an excuse. Just go fucking do it, faggot.
>>77482200>Some of these people believe you can't achieve hypertrophy without steroids, that using a cable machine magically interferes with your gains, and that taking preworkout with 600mg of caffeine and several toxic heavy metals that make it impossible to buy legally in the US & Europe is worth the brain and kidney damageWhat is with these ridiculous strawman arguments? Everyone ITT is simply telling OP to eat less and exercise. You have just repackaged the advice already offered here but with holier than thou faggotry. You have some strange retard complex
>>77482813if you are fat like op then you dont need long to look different, and its more about if you look like you lift. its about how you carry yourself around others
You say it’s monumental to change but from my perspective it would be monumental to become like you.
