The only way to do it is swear off masturbation and start lifting weights, and I know people are going to shit on this one, but also start reading the book of Mark in the bible.
You will feel so sexually repressed and have all this testosterone and energy that all you'll want to do is fuck your wife because it's all that's available to you.

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>>30812021
You get a divorce.

Actually no. I’d actually start up an affair. Best of both worlds really.

>>30812021
Married sex is great, you just have to be willing to treat your wife like a whore

>>30812021
idk, don't goon to extreme fetish porn and have non-lame married sex?

>>30812021
A real woman can't compete with switching scenes every 30 seconds so we have to stop watching porn. Also if you're married you have to keep your wife in the gym. Women over 25 or so get fat as fuck really fast if they don't work out.
>>30812239
This is important too. Whenever I quit watching porn and jerking off for a while I treat my wife like my slut and she loves it and will do whatever I tell her to do. Unfortunately I fall back into porn after a few weeks.

>>30812021
Idk, I do both and fuck my wife like the slampig she is. I think over all I just really love the form and beauty of a woman. She eats my cock like a pig to which is pretty fucking hot.
>>30812239
This guy gets it. I love my wife and treat her well but in the bed I go hard on her.

>>30812318
Don't give up anon. Try to fuck your wife as much as possible to help fight your urge for porn. 2 rounds, 2 times a day is a good start.

as a married man who has high insatiable 4chan coomer levels of being a coomer, you just deal with it or make your wife into your toy.
They probably wont be perfect but they are perfect to you so whatever. Attach an emotional connection to it and have fun i guess?

>>30812021
>How do you go back to lame married sex after porn addiction?

Stop being a cuck and go all 'free use' on your wife...

Slip it into her ass,... cum in her mouth after face-fucking her.

She'll either be into it, or not... and if not, then start fucking hookers.

You 'could' divorce your wife, but you'll be wallet-raped for the rest of your life. So it's "Cheaper to Keep" her, and have your extra circular activity on the side.

>>30812021
I've found that having sex with another girl in front of my wife does wonders for me. It always reminds my girl that she can be slutty with me and reminds myself that I'm the proverbial sexual tyrannasaurus.
It helps that my girl has voyeuristic and exhibitionist tendencies.
Long term sex can get stale. You just need to find a way that works for you guys to spice it up a bit. Maybe you guys are more the type to do some roleplaying in bed, maybe you can go to a local makeout point and fuck in the backseat or your car. Maybe you're freaks like us and go fuck in the public room at a swingers club. Whatever spices up the same old "on the bed, doggystyle/missionary" grind.
You just have to stop chasing the fantasy that porn provides. It's the same type of trap social media sets out. If you let yourself believe what you see completely, it will seem like everyone else has it better than you.
Those dudes in porn get to fuck a lot of girls, yes, but there is no connection, and most times the girls really don't like the dude they're about to fuck. They show up, get prepped, fuck while the camera is on and ignore the dudes the rest of the time, then leave and never think about them again. It's NOT how it looks from our perspective. There are things in your marriage that you would miss if you switched lives with those dudes. The grass isn't greener on any side, but you need to find the side with the grass that you like best.

>>30812021
>How do you go back to lame married sex after porn addiction?
Stop fucking your wife, get on Prep and start fucking tranny whores on the reg. That's what I did, at least, cos ain't no wife worth giving up my porn addiction so the only sensible answer was to increase the kink level of the sex I was having and like I tried to get the wife to let me punch her (in under clothes areas I'm not a monster) and piss in her holes but she said no so really everything that's happened since is on her.

>>30812021
girls watch too much porn too its hard to find a girl who doesnt want to depthroat ans be choked and want cum in her face

>>30812021
Just work out, experiment about in the bed and try out some things together

Hell, you could go for mature masterbation for all I care, just fuck around, experiment with different tactics, tools or such and see what happens

>>30812021
real sex is hotter than any porn video

>>30812033
Personally, I haad sex and tried all sorts of stuff to keep it interesting, and stopping masturbation didnt work. Was already working 10 hrs daily in construction but added heavy weights onto it. I got really fucking strong and pretty big and was proud of it, but I actually felt more depressed by the day. Doctor said everything except vitamin A and Iron are slightly low, T went from 583 to around 650-670 when I was waaay into it.

I don't have ANY sex drive anymore and I dont get it, now really depressed. I feel better when I'm on two ssri's but I reeeaally dont want to do that for t he rest of my life. just saying your magic novel from god isn't the magic bullet you think it is. if it helps someone, then good for them.

>>30812021
Find your wife's kinks and have fun with them. If you feel the need for porn, try and treat it like an appetizer and only edge and save your release for her. Don't be afraid to use sex as a place to work out your frustrations. Most women like it a little rough, you just have might have to get them worked up enough or ease them in to it first. Dirty talk is also really fun. Making her tell you that her pussy belongs to you is always hot.

The problem is that you have trained yourself to get aroused and cum one specific way, the solution is to realize there is a whole untapped source of sexual delight for you to explore.

>>30812021
watch her get fk by a different dick.
you see how she does things she won't with you. make noises and sounds she won't with you. there ya go. I know you do differently with another woman.

What the other anons said about giving up masturbation and porn but also I've learned it's very important you're attracted to your significant other, no matter how shallow you may feel about it.

>>30812021

No need to go back. You can have your addiction and still fuck your wife the little whore she is. You have porn and you have someone to fuck, it's just plain stupid to not enjoy them both. Sex in all of it's forms is bliss.

>>30812318
"Keep your wife in the gym"

A child who has never seen a vagina IRL wrote this.

hire a hooker a d fuck them ti death

>>30812021
If you became addicted to porn because your relationship was not in the best state, it will be hard. But if you have a healthy relationship, sex with someone you care for and who in turn cares for you is different than just gooning

>>30812613
Have you ever tried psychedelics? Either psilocybin, DMT or LSD can help re-wire your brain

>>30812021
Almost all the stuff below is even worse. You do your best, man up. Sometimes you win, sometimes not. After some time off you will learn to appreciate your woman and love her rather than just use her. There are no guaranties. You will have to adjust yourself. Maybe you are not that much of a lover too.

>>30812719
You're wife is a fat pig and you're coping

>>30812318
>switching scenes every 30 seconds
Not everyone's a brain damaged zoomer who can't watch a video unless subway surfer's playing at the bottom of the screen

>>30812021
The correct answer is the following:

Stop masturbating and cut out any situations where porn or half naked women will be around you. Like 4chan. You don't want to chance running across this stuff.
You need to essentially reset your brain back to finding normal looking women attractive enough to get an erection and have the sex drive. This reset is hard, thats why people are mentioning exercising, a different habit that will help keep you distracted. For reals though just stop it and let your body reset, be patient.

Next, you need to be open with your wife and just tell her what you find sexy and see if she is willing to do those things for you. Don't drag this out, just talk and be honest. Figure out what are truly the most important things you need from her.

>>30812021
that's so hot you have more.?

>>30812021
Do a hard reset. No NUT November. No sex, no porn, nothing. It works.

>>30813027
>just talk and be honest.
I really hope nobody here takes this stupid advice and tells any woman about the weird porno fetishes they have festering inside them. it will irreparably ruin your relationship.

>>30812613
>Was already working 10 hrs daily in construction but added heavy weights onto it.

Well no wonder you had no energy lol.

>>30812021
Dunno, I'm never going to marry. But desu I don't really want to have sex anymore, porn and jerking off works for me. I don't even get jealous of girls who wont fuck me anymore. Its kind of liberating.

I don't even have a porn addiction. I just married a dunbass catholic tradwife. We never have sex. I just look at porn once or twice a week. Basically just roommates with a kid. I don't reccomend these christcucks

>>30812021
Stop watching porn for a month and reset your brain.

>>30813135
Damn. I thought i had it bad with sex once a month and two bjs a year.

>>30812613
>your magic novel from god

ahh I see the problem, you're just a faggot in the closet. Admit it and come out already. You'll feel better.

>>30813135
>dunbass

you have to be 18 or older to post here

>>30812021
idk
even when I fapped once a day I could still do it with my wife
i probably don't fap to shit too far from vanilla porn? or maybe hentai doesn't rot as much your brain? maybe i'm too horny so it doesn't matter?

>>30813165
That's pretty bad. BJ's totally nonexistent for me. We have sex once or twice a year. Once the kids are a bit older I'm going to just move into the spare bedroom. Stay away from retarded religious women.

>>30813208
It's very frustrating. We have sex once a month, usually about 2-3 days after her period ends. She's out of control horny for about 24 hours and then doesn't think about sex again for a month. I get a bj on my birthday and another one on father's day (already hard thinking about tomorrow) and I get a handjob on Christmas.

>>30813227
Once a month is bad, but at least it doesn't fit the clinical description of "sexless marriage." These things are more common than you think. I don't know what I'm getting for fathers day tomorrow. Usually nothing. The only time my wife will even think about sex is if she's drinking wine.

>>30812619
>>30812619

>Find your wife's kinks

How do you do this if your wife always shies away from revealing any of her sexual desires when a potential brought up during a general sex discussion?

Most every time I try to find something physically it usually involves me trying different types of role-play/positions/outfits/locations, but everything just leads to the same results. I could rail her for a good while really hard and wear myself out almost to a heart attack, or I could do boring missionary, but it seems like she should care less about what we did or how we did it. Like just a reaction to doing sex differently would be nice.

When I talk to her about it (she'll talk just about anything about sex or exploring my desires) she never wants to talk about her own desires...or legit doesn't know what it is assuming one exists). Seems content with regularly scheduled (or not scheduled at all) "same 'ole same 'ole" sex. Unless I am physically harming her or using verbal degradation she really doesn't like.

Maybe I'm delusional thinking I could trigger an unknown kink (IF my wife even wants to discover a kink of her own), or she legit believes she never has had or ever will have a kink.

>>30813298
>>30813227
Yeah its rough. Im very attracted to my wife. She constantly turns me on without realizing it. But unless she is horny, it's like sex doesn't exist. I've tried giving her wine and edibles but nothing changed. It could always be worse, right?

>>30812021
If your married sex is lame, then your wife is 100% wrong person for you.

I know this from my own experience. If you follow these stupid tips, like you fucking her without caring about her, then she's just a fleslight for you. Clearly you're not autistic and narcissistic like those few guys because you think your marriage sex is shit.

Your only way to change things is to divorce her. I know you have million excuses why you can't do that, but either you accept that you're stuck in very boring relationship, or you will leave her and try to find a woman who is into having sex with you.

If she isn't willing to have sex with you the way you like it, then you're only pleasuring her and that's wrong. If she isn't pleasuring you the way you like it, then no amount of hanging out together or making meals together or watching telly won't make you pleased to yourself! She will switch into reminder who will remind you for the rest of your life how you gave your life away and you just settled for her!

I was about to make that mistake when I finally realized my wife won't please me. And I didn't had long list what she should had done. 1. was her to suggest sex. She never did that. She broke promises again and again, and finally when she blamed me, my love died and never recovered. Also, opposite of love isn't hate, it's ignorance. When she blamed me for the thousand times, even I had fixed absolutely everything she had listed over the years, I just realized she's gone. I didn't felt anything to her.

I know it's not easy, but you can't fix lame sex if she isn't into fixing it!

Your problem isn't porn and lack of porn won't fix your problems. These morons who say you need to drop porn do not have any experience of relationships. Your wife will suck the life out of you if you let it continue.

I know you won't listen to me, but after ten years, rememer this!

>>30812984
At least he has a wife. You never had one and never will have.

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Lame sex is definitely a personal short coming, either on one party or both parties faults.

Getting married eliminates the chase, and most of the time the need for explicitly given consent. It literally gives you extra time for crazy sex and y'all can do anything together so get to it.

>>30813208
Think about this. Are you going to give your child an example of loveless house?

You do have a permission to be happy and feel love. Do not bullshit yourself nor your child that "children need parents". Of course they need. But they also need HAPPY parents! If your wife doesn't love you and if she doesn't answer to your love, then you both will teach your child that example that she/he can too live in a household with a housemate and pretend that it's "love".

Do not ruin your child!

I know because my parents were exactly like you two. I NEVER saw them even kiss, hug or hold hands. I never heard them saying how they love each other.

I end up in shitty marriage because they had gave me example of shitty marriage! I went through therapy because my only examples of happy parents were from my friends parents and I felt like I was totally lost. I had met my wife then and although she said she loves me, and I said it too, she NEVER showed it to me. She didn't wanted to have sex. Turns out, her parents were exactly as shit as mine. Quite soon we had sex only 6 times a year, but it was always because I suggested it and because she knew that without it our relationship would be over. You know what happened then?

When I would had wanted to have more in it, like foreplay etc, she didn't wanted it because once she got orgasm, sex was basically over because she couldn't concentrate on me anymore. Eventually she tried to dodge sex and when I complained, she began giving me lists of what's wrong in me. I fixed every single thing in her list, but she just raised the bar, again and again.

Finally I realized what she's doing and I lost my love for her. It just disappeared, because I realized, the thing I had felt towards her wasn't love. It was "convenience" and "status" and I had attached to her. But it wasn't love. I know it because after her I found love!

If you continue with your shitty "relationship" your kid will learn it too! Show him/her what real love is!

>>30813404
I know what you're saying. You're not wrong at all. It's not the best environment to raise a child in, but it is a better environment than divorce. I don't fight with my wife, we are warm with each other, there's just no love or romance. My wife and I were both raised in single parent homes and I can tell you it is the worst way to be raised. Our situation is not ideal, but it's the best we can do for our son.

>>30813319
>it seems like she should care less about what we did or how we did it

There's your reason. Leave her already! If she would like sex, she would invent new things before you!

She would THINK about it before you would even say anything!

She isn't thinking about it, because she isn't interested of it. And I'm sorry, but that won't change.

It doesn't matter if she says she masturbates. The thing is, if she isn't coming to you, asking would you like to try some new things or would you like to have sex, then she isn't think about you as sexual object at all.

Do this test and give yourself 2 months time limit.

Do not say anything about sex. Do not hug her, do not kiss her, do not suggest sex. Treat her just like she would be your roommate.

If she doesn't come to you within two months, then quit it and find a better woman.

But if she comes to you, then pay a really carefully attention how she comes to you. If she asks you why YOU haven't suggested sex, or why you have kept distance etc. then it means that she hasn't thought about having sex with you. Instead she's been worried that you have something going on. That is not suggestion to sex! That's just her being worried you're going to leave her! That's her own selfisness!

If she comes to you within those two months, suggesting sex, then you have hope. But I know from my own experience, it won't happen. Not the way you're talking about your relationship. I already know your relationship is already dead. You just haven't accepted and admitted it yet.

>>30812021
this isn't /adv/

>>30813426
You said you both were raised by single parent and you think that it's best for your kid to be raised in loveless home.

No it isn't. Read your message. You just admitted to me that you have just gave up on yourself. You're "sure" already that you won't find love and so you just settle to this loveless situation where you're also lost hope! You can't know that.

Believe me. I know how that feels! I know because I too was hopeless. I too was about to settle down to a situation that physically worked, like I was living in a base... But that's not heahtly family to live like that where you have lost hope to yourself and you're also lost love!

You are giving an excuse that your household is warm! It isn't! It is everything else but it isn't warm! As long as your household is loveless, there is no warmth.

Compare it to this. You may have friends. You may be friendly to other people and other people may be friendly to you, but friendly people may not be your friends! Your wife isn't your wife. Legally she may have that status, but relationship wise it doesn't mean anything.

You're just scared and feeling weak, and that's normal, because she have betrayed you and you feel you are alone. But you are betraying your child because now that you know the fact, you're willingly teaching him really bad habits!

Please don't do that to him. Try to find love and show your child there's hope as long as you're willing to try and get up even after you've fall down. You have to be a parent and you have to be an example to your child and that is the most difficult work in life, but you have to do it!

Settling down and giving up isn't the best what you can do for your son!

Keep in touch with your friends and to your family, and try to find love. Try new hobbies and take your son with you. Meet new people and try to find that love.