Do I have to become trans if I like girls but dislike heteronormative performativeness?After being a cynical incel chud I've realised I've just been repressing my flaming envy of girls and need for meaningful human connections.
If you dislike performativeness you don't need to do literally anything. You could transition while telling literally nobody or not, it's up to you.
>>43686124I mean cishetmasc performativenessAnd whether women can see one as human without said performativeness or it's one way to transbianism?I'm certainly overthinking this issue
you can just be a flamboyant man, you know that, right?
>>43685934cismoid, where's your trip?
>>43686198Yes. You are overthinking it.
>>43686301>>43686218I'm just confused, how to stop being a sperg in public and be someone girls would wanna be friends with.
>>43686429you dont need to stop being a sperg, its more desirable than not and changing yourself for love never works
>>43686644Guess I'll still be a sperg inevitably anyway, but I've accepted I don't have to be severely restricted by heteronormative presentation. I don't have to repress it all in some girly alter ego, I can be lively and expressive as I am.But after being an ascoial chud, accomplishing such shift even gradually isn't as simple.
>>43686706yeah, you can just do what you want.the world is run by a cabal of pedophiles and youre gonna die one day, if anything you should overcompensate for all the last time with extreme outfits and looks for when you were a chud
>>43686747True, all these recent ugly wars really did contribute to disillusionment.One last thing, despite being more accepting of myself, that.. , as I've said,. repression induced girly alter/sub ego now feel more pronounced, instead of merging into something balanced. How to deal with it?
>>43686429practice. simple as
>>43686828i'm not sure what you mean, if being girly is more prominent than not then just be more girly, it's not like youre being forced into those are your desires and thoughts
>>43686864I mean.. "being girly" sorta yearns for external validation through acceptance, meaning a necessity for social relationships with girls implying acceptance of such gender nonconformity on my side (I don't mean all these to extreme extent), like the relationships I've always felt I'm missing out on Damn my overthinking ass
>>43687005then just become friends with girls cis and trans online and present girly online until your ready to be a girl offlinebut i can promise you that being validated for being a girl is really a lot more passive than you lead yourself to believe
>>43687030I don't really mean a girl as some fixation on being a girl, it's more about seeing girls treating each other differently, having more emotional relationships, and feeling of being fundamentally excluded from this. Reduced to cishet performance and numb self repression.So being a girl here is fundamentally about longing for complete human experience via feminity
>>43687166sure girls have more of the human experience on average but non bigoted people in general also have it, so whys femininity important?
>>43687246Cuz of the association with desired social experience. For clarification I'm from Eastern Europe so gender dynamics likely vary from what you people have
>>43687295I understand, i'm from eastern europe too, but i just said that not bigoted people regardless of their gender have access to the full human experience, it sounds like you want the full human experience along with being a girl
>>43687341I mean, our understanding of reality is informed not by hyper rational an analytical observation, but often on patterns we just see and absorb on flawed interpretations both by us and society at large.So associating that with being a girl can't just be deconstructed by the fact of some libtard nbs existing or whatever else. The impact of repression is already there. Idk what point am I proving really :/
