male, gay, 22i've recently started talking with my ex again after our relationship ended and having no contact for half a year. he's giving me another chance after i fucked things up (i had exchanged nudes with a friend). he had said i shouldn't waste his time if my reason for talking to him again wasn't to start the relationship again. ofc i would love to start again but i was at his apartment cleaning up after he had left to the gym. when cleaning i saw his other phone and curiosity got the better of me. i saw that he recently set his tinder account to private. we started talking again back in april, with this event have happened a week ago. later that week I went out clubbing with my friend (1) and i invited another friend (2) of mine with us. friend 1 recently ended things with her bf and she wanted to get hammered and so i joined. she found a guy and had her own thing going on when friend 2 grabs me and starts making out with me the whole night. the drive back, he kept cuddling and giving me pecks on the lips but i kept thinking how wrong it felt even though i not in a committed relationship with my ex. at the same time, this is the most affection i've gotten in months. a part of me feels bad for what happened (my ex has no idea) but seeing he only recently set his tinder to private rubbed me the wrong way. i didn't do it out of revenge but am i in the wrong for feeling the way i do? or am i just thinking about it too much. (sorry for the wall of text)
>>43725905its not wrong to feel how you feel but you guys gotta sit down and talk about the relationship to try to get this to work expectations, boundaries, all that stuffalso stop seeking physical/emotional affection from your friends in general, it will only complicate your future relationship(s) further
Idk what you want us to say, if you feel like shit then that's on you, talk to your ex about it or something if it's bothering you that much, also yeah you are a piece of shit for cheating on him so the fact he's even giving you the chance to make up should be a miracle in itselfpersonally I already hate you on principle so you doing that with friend 2 and then saying he only recently set his tinder to private rubbed ME off the way, you can't expect loyalty from these whores who justify everything in their head mando you even care or love him because your ex deserves so much better than you =/
>>43725905so let me get this straight you cheated on your ex which is why he broke up with you and then made out with another guy after he explicitly said for you to not waste his time after getting in contact againyou're a piece of shit OP and your ex deserves better, tell him what you did or you're an evil person
>>43726160i still love him. saying goodnight and good morning to each other every day is the highlight of my day. im not asking for sympathy ofc, my actions alone justifies the hatred. i like to think i have grown since our break up and if it means anything ive havent talked to friend 2 since that event. when friend two was making out with me, it solidified that i had wished it was my ex instead of friend 2
>>43726156i never do. this was the one time i invited a friend out so i wouldn’t be third wheeling and that happened. after that night, the urge to go clubbing with another male friend is very very low
>>43726202Didn't you say this happened back in april, how the fuck did you grow in just a month? Because from what I can see there's a lot of self justification for your actions, I would tell your ex what you did, he deserves that much at least since to me you lack a conscious
>>43726282sorry, i meant since the day the relationship ended last year
>>43726202>>43726289nta but if you were willing to make out with someone else just last month/week you haven't changed and will probably end up cheating againlet him go anon it's for the best
>>43726317i don’t really want to but if i left i would only be hurting him again. i already hurt him before and to do it again
>>43726399it'll hurt him more to stay and cheat again. you should at least be honest and tell him what you did if you want the relationship to work
>>43726418 should i bring up the tinder message or just tell him what i did
>>43726438just tell him what you did, otherwise it'll come off as deflecting
>>43726497noted. thank you anon, i’m seeing him soon friday so hopefully i’ll get to the chance to talk
>>43725905>cheats>somehow gets another chance>secretly goes through his private stuff>cheats again Go to therapy before you ruin another relationship.
>>43725905>going back to your exi have very little self worth and would still never go back to my ex
