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How and where do I meet afab chasers as a trans woman?
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>>43773528
I wish it was just impossible!
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>>43773528
how old are you
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can you retards stop remaking this thread every single day. youre not going to find them. not because they dont exist, but because they dont want you, specifically, or they would have already found you.
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>>43773528
They don't exist
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>>43773587
I don’t have dating apps and I don’t leave my room except to go to work retard of course they aren’t going to find me.
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>>43773609
which makes you incredibly low-value. they do not want you.
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>>43773650
Whatever u don’t know me
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>>43773528
>>43773609
get on Her, get on bluesky, get on tinder, make an effort to pass, they will materialize with time
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>>43773734
effort to pass is optional, ive seen cisfs and specially other afabs go for the most socially inept hons who were barely putting in any effort to look good, much less to actually pass. theyfabs wont even get close to u if u mog them bc they wont be able to rely on their higher social value to manipulate you
just get out there and shoot your shot.
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>>43773528
They don't exist lilbro
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>>43775701
they exist so hard in my lap and make me sore they're so fucking needy
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>>43773528
Just go to a LGBT venue
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>>43775736
wowowow.....
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>>43773528
unfortunately just not on 4chan. other people have posted Her and bsky, twitter is still somewhat okay but it's miserable in general, discord has a few communities, otherwise it'll be irl in normal LGBT venues, which is scary for the socially anxious and/or inept.

I met my ex through okc but I don't know how good that is anymore. ultimately it boils down to luck, effort and how wide you can cast the net so to speak. there are a low amount of chasers as i've come to find out, but plenty of cisf girls that will happily be in a c4t relationship.

>>43775736
based
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Me!me!me!me!
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>>43773528
haha eve is so funny, it so cool that in 2024 she convinced both her gf and me to do full-service prostituion and we both fucking hated it but really had no other places to stay beside with her she's a great person i swear and totally hasnt raped people. great person all around love her to bits.
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Is "chaser" as a bad thing when cis boy and a good thing when cis girl?

what the heck :c
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>>43773528
Mtf here. Get off the internet and go on lesbian dating apps and lesbian bars.

Try to put in effort to pass and have good fashion sense and good hygiene. If you can do that they will find you

I fingeredbanged a cis lesbian last week in a bar and now we are gonna go on a date next monday :>
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>>43773528
IM HEREEEEEEEEE IM RIGHT HEEEEEEEEEEREEEEE YOO HOO HELLOOOOO
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>>43776625
congrats! would you say you pass? did you go by yourself?
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>>43776482
What the fuck are you talking about
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>>43776625
Similar experience. I'm on the regular dating apps like Hinge and almost exclusively date cis women or men on there.

I know I pass and that helps, but it's not really been an issue for a lot of people. I tend to go for bi/pan women just to be sure I am avoiding any gold stars who didn't look at my profile and realize what I am
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>>43775867
>irl in normal LGBT venues, which is scary for the socially anxious and/or inept.
I'm doomed
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>>43777034
I mean that's the solution. Cis women aren't generally here. You have to go outside and make friends.

Take care of yourself and make yourself hot then go to bars or join clubs and talk to people.

Or, apps
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>>43773528
Not real and if they are you'll get HAL'd over some stupid shit and not be welcome anywhere anymore.
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>>43773528
i wish i knew, op
>>43777068
nta (irrelevant because i LOOOOVE tripfagging) but NOOOO FUUUUCK NOOOOOO DONT DO THIS TO MEEEEEEE
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>>43777114
I've been on dates with three cis women over the past two months and I am just sorta even barely on the apps.
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>>43777127
thats terrible. maybe i just still feel bad about my last hookup lol
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We're in the places you'd usually expect to find gay/bi women, but at a glance could be hard to distinguish from "pro-trans" TERF-sympathetic queer women who (at best) are preoccupied with trans guys and theyfabs while kinda forgetting trans women exist. You might have better luck with cis women than theyfabs desu, because the latter is often counterintuitively invested in the notion of womanhood and victimization as divine birthright.
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>>43777034
I mean, for what it's worth I'm also scared of those kind of spaces anon, mostly on account of the anxiety. There are still online spaces to meet cisf girls into this sort of thing but you will have to put some effort in to search for it and keep it up. I'm only here because of my mental illness, if you want somebody normal you'll have to go to normal spaces for it, be it irl or dating apps/social media
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>>43776707
I went with friends, going to a bar alone sounds scary

>>43777019
I dont even know if I pass that well, I just look moderately attractive and im fit and i try to look as presentable as possible. that goes a long way no matter what ur identity is
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>>43777275
that's kind of the thing, I already know I'm not going to vibe with normal people...
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>>43777275
Your mental illnesses will get better and you will be more likely to date a cis woman if you spend less time here and online in general.

Just say fuck it and try.
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>>43777294
>>43777275
ok but how do you even start with this? just walk into a bar, sit down and order a drink? and then what? I just awkwardly sit there and end up going home after I finish a couple
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>>43777533
chat up women as my very irish dad would say
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>>43777538
I just don't have that in me, like, how? what do I do or say? I've seen how people handle being cold approached, especially women in bars, and it's usually with revulsion or trying to laugh someone off without offending them
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>>43777548
someone told me once (watch this appeal to anonymous authority IRISH SPRING GREEN GREEN) find someone cute give them a genuine compliment try to steer that towards natural conversation and ask if you can get their number at some point
the example they used was if there was a cute girl reading a book at a park say like "hi i saw you were reading i think thats pretty awesome whats that book about?" then be like oh yeah yeah yeah nice nice ive been reading xyz or like oh ill give it a shot sounds nice if you arent reading anything lol it comes with experience then just talk for a little and they saud its pretty effective to be like "ok nice talking to you i have somewhere to be can i get your number though?"
weird explanation. it comes with practice i suppose. i only have like .400 batting average anyway
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>>43777548
Offer to buy them a drink, introduce yourself, and ask them questions about themselves. Women love talking Bout themselves.

When the opportunity arises bring up some sort of commonality between you.

Simple as
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>>43776594
>Is "chaser" as a bad thing when cis boy and a good thing when cis girl?

Yes. Trans women simply dislike cis men. AFAB and other trans women lare fine.
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>>43777294
Oh, no, I am a cis woman, just mentally ill and I like both cis and trans women.

>>43777280
>>43777533
Then your best bet is online spaces and dating apps and praying you meet somebody who matches your freak. It happened to me, I matched her freak and it was perfect. (Until it wasn't, but that's not important)

Just keep trying. it's all about persistence, you don't have to go out to bars, i know I couldn't, it just helps if you can. Other posters offered solid advice on the hows of it I think, but ultimately i get it's still rlly hard
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>>43777614
I love cis men. They're simple, like dogs. Treat them as such. One you love

Pet them, play with them, praise them, feed them, cuddle with them.

They will fall for you hard
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>>43777614
I really like receiving affection from cis men though...
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>>43776993
MTL trans sex trafficking ring 2024.
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>>43777658
>I really like receiving affection from cis men though...

Meta-attraction. You lack the self confidence to admit that you want a womans love. You don't want to be one of those creepy rapehons. You want to be a good girl with a man. It is all fake.
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>>43777585
>>43777586
noted, thank you, in case I ever work up the nerve to try

>>43777625
so then I guess that kind of leaves apps, or like specific interest boards like this one? taimi looked like a shit show and I could try her but I'm a freak he/him mtf thing
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>>43777711
Okay weirdo keep fantasizing over my sexuality
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>>43777717
>so then I guess that kind of leaves apps, or like specific interest boards like this one? taimi looked like a shit show and I could try her but I'm a freak he/him mtf thing

I had luck on okcupid like I said, but that was a while ago now, and things've gotten worse since then I think, I also think I straight up just lucked out with somebody who I matched up sexually and personality wise with really well, ultimately, you just have to put yourself out there in as many ways as you can muster, and sometimes all of it was pointless because you meet the right person somewhere else completely by chance, but you still put in the hours anyway because you just never know. I also recognize it's easier for me as a cisf but I'm still pretty picky about who I end up in terms of personality and compatibility
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>>43777768
>>43777717
I'm about to sleep but if you need any further help or want me to go into things more than I can here, my discord is .bunny.paws.
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>>43777768
>>43777816
you're nice, thanks, and I think I can relate to the struggle a bit
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>>43773528
go to alternative music concerts/performance art installations and bring weed
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>>43777678
Fuck I’m 2 years late



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