I'm a gay hikikomori guy who wants to start conversations with other guys, but never knew how. All my life I've been socially inept with the male gender, despite being a guy. I've been really isolated and lonely, and would like to make male friends, well, any kind of person, I'm very isolated due to agoraphobia and social anxiety. Even, posting anonymously or doing these sort of thing feels very challenging for me. I'm not a very complex person, I spend most of my days just drawing, doing house chores and indulging myself in others interests.
>>43778517What's the difference with neet?
>>43778517What porn do you enjoy anon? I used to be a loser neet to and now I'm still a loser but not a neet anymore
>>43778517I can relate. I cant talk to either gender properly, but im much worse at talking to other men. I just cant reciprocate all the frat dudebro mannerisms and speech that every other male does. Really nice art btw. I wish I could draw that well.
>>43778517Same lol. There were no openly gay people in my school and I didnt go to college or put myself out there since I dont live in a big city so its weird that Im this old with no experience and full of anxiety.
>>43778690You need to click on the numbers to the right of the persons (Anonymous) name to reply to that post. The UI of this site can be confusing like that, unfortunately.
>>43778618I have to study from home
>>43778633I don't know if I should answer that here. I think, someday I will be a loser who isn't a neet anymore someday.
>>43778689I'm very sorry to hear that, I hope things go for the better for you :(I live in a big city, but I'm quite lonely regardless because I haven't found people with interest in common and I have a big fear of freaking them out, I don't think I'll attend to college any time soon, and I don't have much experience despite my age, I understand perfectly well what you're going through. Also, I'm the person from the main post but I haven't use this that much at all, so I'm a bit inexpert in how to post or reply lol
>>43778669I understand, desu..its really hard for me to adapt myself to those mannerisms because I'm quite fragile and shy. I don't know if you relate to that also. The drawing isn't made by me, it's made by sailshipsoldier, I think :-)
On one hand, I've realized that if I wanted to find someone to date with any real shared interests who was genuinely attracted to guys, I would most likely have to find a gay guy like you.On the other, I'm really only attracted to femininity. So it's pretty rare that a twink is hot to me, and I also know that even if they are now, they will almost never still be attractive to me by the time they're 30. And I'm also not really looking to pinkpill someone who doesn't already wanna do that. Anyways I've met a few people like you. I think for the most part you're just self sabotaging. Most guys do not give a fuck. If they're attracted to you at all they'll probably find your social incompetence endearing even. Most of my gay friends are also shut ins with weird interests who don't do the "frat dudebro mannerisms".
Are you able to talk with people via chat (non-anonymously)? Via VC? If no, then start there.
>>43779159I'm..kind of a ftm who's leaving testosterone, not because I want to be a female, but the idea of becoming an old men with morbid apparience disturbs me a lot. So, I wouldn't, mind talking to anybody who's, into that sort of thing, I guess. You're right I'm a little self sabotaging, I find a lot of comfort being isolated because it's really scary to go out, but, that's why, I'd like to make friends, starting with online friends since it's what's more comfortable, I think. Also, thank you so much for the advice, uhm, I varely talk to males, so it's nice, hearing some reassurance that, there are people out there who could like me
>>43779226>FTM dropping TWell I personally dated someone who came out as FTM in the middle of the relationship. It fell apart for other reasons, but when they wanted to try again, T had done it's thing, they'd not taken good care of themselves, and I'd lost interest. I would say 'no-T FTM' would land in my wheelhouse, but given how you worded things I have a feeling I wouldn't be your type. And just as importantly, I also get the impression you're probably halfway across the globe from me.
>>43779281Yeah, I understand. Well, I mainly am looking for friends not really dating anyone at the moment, so if you're looking for a friend I'm up to it. :-) I'm mainly trying to meet new people and try new things out given all the time I've been isolated both socially and online
>>43779306Guess that depends. What kinda interests do you have? You said in the OP that you mostly just draw, do stuff around the house, and indulge in others interests, but from personal experience, even when people say they just engage in everyone else's interests, there's still a pretty obvious line they draw after the fact on what they show any interest in. And even if you don't have that line, a one sided convo tends to fissile pretty quick.
>>43778517Kinda relatable. Would definitely be interested in talking and seeing if we get along.
>>43779438Sure, where would you like to talk?
>>43779419I'm a person with somewhat embarrassing likings, but I'm mainly into cartoons and other kind of things that might feel a little bit childish, I have a very open mind when it comes to sharing different interest or morals with others too. Uh, I'm kind of bad at introducing myself because the question makes me a little nervous, but, that's roughly what it is. I'm more specific in private
>>43779670Wherever works for you really, pretty sure I have most things.
>>43779696Good amount of people into those types of things around here so I'm mostly used to it. My discord is chorisamfivolia if you wanna try chatting.
>>43779729Would you want to add me on discord? If that's okay, can I have ur user? I'm a little paranoid about sharing mine's here
>>43779907Same desu but I'll add you on a throwaway account first, then give you my actual user on there if that's okay with you. User is hexedlichen_
>>43778517>>43778669If you guys like anime and/or video games we can be friends, I'm a guy.
>>43782464could I have your discord, as, I previously mentioned before, I'm a little paranoid to give mine
>>43778788mods mods mods
>>43783050sureit's sugumaborusu
>>43778517Where are you from?I'm from France
>>43778517You sound a lot like me anon. Hope you find someone nice. Also that's a very cute drawing :3
>>43778517Do you want to be online friends?
>>43778517are you still monitoring the thread? because I'd like to be your friend
>>43788282Sure what's your discord
>>43790136gastropurr
>>43779159>Most of my gay friends are also shut ins with weird interests who don't do the "frat dudebro mannerisms".why are most of your gay friends bottoms?
>>43779178talking via vc is a horrible idea you never know if you're going to say something that is embarrassing
>>43778751what do you study?
>>43778669I've found that people say it's the hardest to talk to the gender they are attracted to the most
>>43793084Sometimes I have the doubt I might be bisexual but these sort of thing reminds me I'm not
